FabSwingers.com forum: I can’t understand what’s wrong with my profile

By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

What can you offer others? It’s all about what you want.... expand on your bio to more than just a tick list.

Pics are a little generic and nothing really stands out, try getting a little creative.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t scroll past the first few dick pics, as they put me off.

You can’t accommodate, Magee be wonder if you’re married.

Your age range tells me you’re not fussy.

Your bio tells me all the things you love, and is quite specific, those things won’t appeal to everyone, you need to our what you can offer and put some of your personality into it

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?"
I think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send messages, make status updates, by the sound of it your bio needs filling out and potentially some new pics, and starting threads work too.

Fab has a larger number of guys to gals so you will always have more views from blokes.

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ? I think so. "
really op?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

For me I want to see more seductive sensual naked photos. Too many dick pics which is probably why men are checking you out for the dick pics.Say more about your personality. Good luck.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ? I think so. "

And there's your answer.

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"For me I want to see more seductive sensual naked photos. Too many dick pics which is probably why men are checking you out for the dick pics.Say more about your personality. Good luck.

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thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the forums, it's a good place to get to know people. Almost everyone I talk to I've met through forums. I can't give advice on profile because mines not great but I'd say talk less about what you want and more about who you are. Get adventurous with ya pictures, it will help!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"For me I want to see more seductive sensual naked photos. Too many dick pics which is probably why men are checking you out for the dick pics.Say more about your personality. Good luck.

thank you "

You're welcome. My friend is a lesbian and she clearly states that on her profile and gets tons of male attention so you can't eliminate men checking you out. Just put up a filter saying they can't contact you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

Try turning off your filters?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Use the forums, it's a good place to get to know people. Almost everyone I talk to I've met through forums. I can't give advice on profile because mines not great but I'd say talk less about what you want and more about who you are. Get adventurous with ya pictures, it will help!

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ? I think so. "

You do have nice shorts, I like the turn ups.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Check your looking for section as it states you’re looking for MF, FF, Men & Women! If you’re not looking for men untick the looking for Men box?!

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

Try turning off your filters?"
let me have a look at that thank you x

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

Your pics lack imagination...think about what’s in the pic when taking it.

Think what another person is seeing and whether you’d find that attractive.

When you read your bio would that make you want to contact yourself?

Do you think you have done all you can to sell yourself?

FAB is a hard place to begin with but a bit of effort goes a long way.

Good luck

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

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yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self "

Not at all. All you need is a phone and yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self "

Use the timer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my pics are self taken! Its easy! You just need to be comfortable and show your sexy side!

Your profile needs work..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self "

It can't be that difficult.. i take all my pics of me.. you just lack imagination

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"All my pics are self taken! Its easy! You just need to be comfortable and show your sexy side!

Your profile needs work.."
are you offering to help xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Pictures not appealing: scruffy and untidy not sensual. For most this is fantasy, ok, not everyone is looking for the Milk Tray man but neat and tidy at least and unfortunately I don't get that.

Put some effort and imagination in. Remember, you're competing against thousands of tall, fit as fuck men who can accommodate...unfortunately, at the moment you just don't stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take all my own pics too, set the timer, prop it up and off you go

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self

It can't be that difficult.. i take all my pics of me.. you just lack imagination "
im going to give it a go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of men, very few women and couples I n comparison, they have a right to be selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon its the denim shorts putting people off.

Tight torn ones on a fit womans arse Yes, men in his 40s No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All my pics are self taken! Its easy! You just need to be comfortable and show your sexy side!

Your profile needs work..are you offering to help xx "

No lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Your pics lack imagination...think about what’s in the pic when taking it.

Think what another person is seeing and whether you’d find that attractive.

When you read your bio would that make you want to contact yourself?

Do you think you have done all you can to sell yourself?

FAB is a hard place to begin with but a bit of effort goes a long way.

Good luck

I duno, even you put all the effort in the world. Fab still a minefield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self

It can't be that difficult.. i take all my pics of me.. you just lack imagination im going to give it a go x "

Rest your phone on a suitable surface, set the timer, take your hands out of your pockets and smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to take pictures of myself..

So I'll just grab my crotch. I'm sure that will suffice.

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

"Your pics lack imagination...think about what’s in the pic when taking it.

Think what another person is seeing and whether you’d find that attractive.

When you read your bio would that make you want to contact yourself?

Do you think you have done all you can to sell yourself?

FAB is a hard place to begin with but a bit of effort goes a long way.

Good luck

I duno, even you put all the effort in the world. Fab still a minefield.

FAB’s what you make out it. Make the most of what you have and don’t worry if people don’t like, as someone else will.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Don't just think of your profile. What do you write when you try to initiate contact with somebody? Writing something bad will be a total flop and it's extremely common.

I suggest you post a first message of yours hear and we can give you feedback on that.

You probably won't though. Virtually nobody ever does. But that first message is important.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"All my pics are self taken! Its easy! You just need to be comfortable and show your sexy side!

Your profile needs work..are you offering to help xx "

Replace all of your pictures.

Write an interesting profile text.

Good luck

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Your pics are as tho you are about to sell your clothes on gumtree

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Your pics are as tho you are about to sell your clothes on gumtree"
I think you are jealous lol can’t afford nice clothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your pics are as tho you are about to sell your clothes on gumtree I think you are jealous lol can’t afford nice clothing "

And be wary of how you interact on the forum, it does get noticed

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Your pics are as tho you are about to sell your clothes on gumtree I think you are jealous lol can’t afford nice clothing

And be wary of how you interact on the forum, it does get noticed "
thank you i now but I’m not here to insult any one I expect the same respect back. Thank you for the advice

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By *nblemishedhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Gave up by the 3rd photo. Nothing to insight any intrest whatsoever I'm afraid.

Single guy's are ten a penny you need to stand out from the crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If women are attracted to you, they’ll message you

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Your pics are as tho you are about to sell your clothes on gumtree I think you are jealous lol can’t afford nice clothing

And be wary of how you interact on the forum, it does get noticed thank you i now but I’m not here to insult any one I expect the same respect back. Thank you for the advice "

It was an honest opinion... I wasn’t judging your wardrobe I was just saying it looks like you are advertising your clothes for sale if that makes sense... if you ask the question what is wrong with my profile” on an open forum then l you have to take criticism constructively.

By the way it doesn’t matter if you have expensive clothes or non expensive... it’s how you wear what you have and how you carry yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures lack imagination, all very similar. Text is poor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your pics lack imagination...think about what’s in the pic when taking it.

Think what another person is seeing and whether you’d find that attractive.

When you read your bio would that make you want to contact yourself?

Do you think you have done all you can to sell yourself?

FAB is a hard place to begin with but a bit of effort goes a long way.

Good luck

I duno, even you put all the effort in the world. Fab still a minefield.

FAB’s what you make out it. Make the most of what you have and don’t worry if people don’t like, as someone else will. "

I like your pics OP. Maybe slightly too many with your hand down your pants but the overall gallery is good I think.

Keep an eye on backgrounds for dirty laundry/ bad wallpaper/ etc.

I prefer to talk to people and see if we are compatible rather than basing everything on a profile. So I'm probably not the best person to give advice.

But in agreement with the comment above, be you. If people don't like it then don't worry about it.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Imagine you are a woman on here, you will probably be getting hundreds of messages a day from single men. The first thing you do is look at the profile. If you were a woman do you think your profile would be enough to make you stand out from the other 99 guys who have got a couple of lines of bland text and some repetitive photos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all a bit meh and this’ll do, if I was a woman I wouldnt look twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

A lot of are. Perhaps we need a training course in self marketing and competitive advantage how to stand out among the masses of guys on here. It ain't easy as I and others have discovered.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your profile tells me everything I need to know.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

A lot of are. Perhaps we need a training course in self marketing and competitive advantage how to stand out among the masses of guys on here. It ain't easy as I and others have discovered."

Yes it really is a numbers game but that’s why you need to do all you can to make your profile stand out from the hundreds of other guys. Without a decent shop window you’ve got no chance! Of course the forums can be a training course in self marketing for single guys, all you have to do is a quick forum search for profile advice and bingo

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Nothing at all about the profile stands out to be honest. It's bland & says very little about what you have to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

It’s, well, mediocre I’m afraid. Nothing exciting profile wise, and dull pictures. Try better pictures and an in-depth bio

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I gave you advice last time you asked, so now you have had plenty of response maybe take the advice given.

I’d agree with the recent responses, it’s a boring merge in the background effort.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Remove the t shirt as your chest is lovely but mostly covered.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

1 way of looking at it is to work out how well your profile lets others build an accurate picture of you. Could an artist recreate how you look in a picture? If they can't, unless they have to make things up, then you will have failed to give your target viewer the same thing. If they can't evaluate how interesting you would be physically, then reflect on how well they can do this for your personality. If they can't do that, it means that they will compare a partly invisible person of vague personality with the concrete needs that they have. Such a person misses the mark completely. And would do worse than the many others who do it better.

If they have an accurate, honest 3 dimensional impression of someone, they may or may not be interested. That is better than not having any interest just because of the person failing to give them the essential parts that could have created interest, surely?

Using empathetic understanding of others needs can be attractive in its own right. For some people it will be essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP! If I were you, I'd remove all the pics of you with your hands down your jeans, as they feel a little bit like you're quite a private, inhibited person - more secret masturbation voyeur vibe rather than a sensual, giving guy.

Try some playful shots - the pics you've taken don't look as if you're having fun; they're photos for the sake of it rather than pictures of a moment or experience that I'd want to be part of. Because you're not smiling on any of your pics or seeming invested in the moment, it would make me wonder if you'd be fun on a date.

And as others said, there are tonnes of guys on here. My bf is gorgeous, but he's had very few messages on here and finds the site slow and almost boring. I think you've got to work the site properly like others have suggested. Show your personality and write a bio that shows it. Make sure you write stuff to benefit the reader. What are your best qualities? Put something lighthearted in there that shows your personality.

At the end of the day, most women aren't interested in dick pics; we look past those to see whether your laundry basket is empty, whether you've got clean nails, why a man would claim to be single despite his wife's cosmetics or dressing gown in the background of their pics, and above all whether you look fun, safe, and clean enough to invest time in messaging. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

I see you haven't taken any of the advice offered.. I really don't know why you bothered asking

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Too average, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but pics and words are just dull

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Ant tips I get lots of Male attention but no women I’m looking for women I’m sensual person xx

OP, this is your fourth thread asking for advice regarding your profile.

If you haven't implemented the profile changes advised, then it's probably not your profile that's the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys offer you money on here, OP?

How much?

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By *ensualmassage1979 OP Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Guys offer you money on here, OP?

How much?"
yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but the word sensual always makes me think dull

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sorry but the word sensual always makes me think dull"

Why ?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

But Benny enjoys taking arty shots so please look at his photo album for inspiration

yes I know but very difficult to take pictures of your self

Not at all. All you need is a phone and yourself. "

Ooooft, where have you been hiding?

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By *ensual -lover69Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?"

can I ask what do you think of mine?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?

can I ask what do you think of mine?"

Poor etiquette. Start your own thread.

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?

can I ask what do you think of mine?"

Yes poor manners jumping on someone elses thread, but pretty every single bit of advice on this thread applies to you so maybe read this thread proper or any of the previous 1000s of similar threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but the word sensual always makes me think dull

Why ?"

Its the kind of word someone throws in when they cant actually think of anything else to say. Its nice and a little fluffy but lets be honest used on its own it doesnt say much more about the person

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Do you think that your profile shows that you are a sensual person ?

can I ask what do you think of mine?

Yes poor manners jumping on someone elses thread, but pretty every single bit of advice on this thread applies to you so maybe read this thread proper or any of the previous 1000s of similar threads. "

Agree

With this totally.

Read the advice given as you blend perfectly into the background currently, allowing your competitors (those who have put in effort) to shine.

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