FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked after sent a face picture

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens....

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe"

Frustrating I know

probably the reason why a lot of people ask for picture with first message, saves wasting each other’s time.

There is however the social aspect, there are people who are looking to make acquaintances with the possibility of things developing further.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

We are not to everyone’s liking .... most probably not attracted to you !!!

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Send a face pic with first message, saves time chatting to then discover there is no attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I agree with blocking for that reason, however if you say to someone ' your aren't for me' after they have sent a photo there is a good chance they will still try and continue the conversation.

It just saves that happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely send a face picture with your first message. It saves time for both parties and less awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you mate...how hard is it to simply say ‘sorry,not interested’

I get the deleted regularly lol

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

If it makes you feel better... There is a chance that they know you in real life. We hardly ever block anyone, but we do if we recognise anyone just to save any awkwardness.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Honestly you’d feel better, if you got an honest response.

So on a scale ‘ no thanks now I’ve seen you’ to ‘You’re physically repulsive to me’ which response would make you feel better, that the meet isn’t going to happen ?

Women on here do get abuse you know, when men turn them down. Ego bruised often means lashing out.

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yes I agree it’s not nice.

But from a single females perspective, In the past I’ve had messages where they’ve sent a face pic and I’ve replied “I’m really sorry but you’re not my type, happy hunting all the same” and I was sent back “no please I can be you type. What can I change?”

I was nice, I didn’t give an exact reason why he wasn’t my type but I didn’t want to be cruel and tell him I’m not attracted to him and he can’t change his face. So I blocked him. But only so I didn’t offend him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe"

Saying a No Thank You to some people, sometimes, their response is abusive. It's best to block, some, before that happens.

I'm not saying you would of responded that way OP x

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By *enusInFursCouple
over a year ago

Essex/Suffolk border

Also blocking removes the person you know you’re not interested in from your searches and updates. This helps when looking at profiles- no point seeing people you know you’ve no interest in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone..and I'm polite when I receive a no thanks all I say its happy grabbing and thank you for the reply...

Thank you everyone..play much and stay safe.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Fairly standard on here with all the picture hunters and fakes.

Don’t worry about it and move on.

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By *ilk and all things niceTV/TS
over a year ago

secret bunker

1. Must be a munter

2. Put your face on the profile and you won’t have the problem anymore because people who speak to you will have already seen your ugly mug

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By *ilk and all things niceTV/TS
over a year ago

secret bunker

O.s. Joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are what you are x

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

At the end of the day, at some point, you're going to have to show your face, and the reaction is more than likely going to be the same no matter what stage you send it.

Just send it at the start to keep things simple.

About blocking, I also do it. I wouldn't want to give a woman who ignored me the satisfaction of a second message. I have an ego to maintain. Ha!

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

You have to balance things up. If people don’t find you attractive or think you are their type, they may well hit the block button. Look at it this way. There will be plenty of ladies on here that you think will look like the back end of a bus. You would not say that out of politeness so you just cut the convo dead by the judicious use of that block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fairly standard on here with all the picture hunters and fakes.

Don’t worry about it and move on. "

I wouldn't say it has anything to do with picture hunters and fakes at all. Has it not occurred that people may not find the pictures attractive enough to want to have sex with him.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a person writes..

Good luck not for me or not Interested.. The person can end up with a tennis effect and sometimes abusive multiple messages to explain a simple no..

I know many are not like this it's easier just to block

If don't block I sometimes get 2nd or 3Rd messages from same person..

It's a fab world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I agree it’s not nice.

Spot on imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has happend to me once or twice. People are very shallow minded on here. Physical attraction appers to be all important never mind if you've got a great personality.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe"

It happens sometimes it because they know you once they've seen your face

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
over a year ago

Northerner

"Has happend to me once or twice. People are very shallow minded on here. Physical attraction appers to be all important never mind if you've got a great personality."

I appreciate intelligence and a connection on an intellectual level ... I also have to find them physically attractive. Not everyone has those two qualities together for me but could for someone else. Does that make me shallow?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Its abit harsh but ya kinda don't know what to say without offending and starting a slanging match. You clearly want to stop communication as it's pointless if there's no attraction. I used to let messages just slide... But after the person sent the same message 10 times over 3 months. Blocking is the only way forward, right? Some people just can't accept a no

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Has happend to me once or twice. People are very shallow minded on here. Physical attraction appers to be all important never mind if you've got a great personality.

Definitely not. Otherwise you just remain friends. I have many male friends who i clearly don't physically fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are not to everyone’s liking .... most probably not attracted to you !!!

So don’t just block at least acknowledge with a no thank you Yes I know you are undated but please yet out of courtesy?

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Has happend to me once or twice. People are very shallow minded on here. Physical attraction appers to be all important never mind if you've got a great personality."

It's also choice and personal preference x

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"We are not to everyone’s liking .... most probably not attracted to you !!!

So don’t just block at least acknowledge with a no thank you Yes I know you are undated but please yet out of courtesy? "

I always reply....unless it's a "do you wanna fuck" or "meet me now" then instant block x

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe"

Some people are just rude. I always try to reply and be nice. Don’t worry

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

To be honest, for us, looks aren't the most important feature.

How you scrub up is important, turn up in old Jean's and a tee shirt with a "funny" logo, no thanks.

Be healthy looking, not gym bunny but not maccies KFC addict either.

Just normal guy who can mix, not socially inept and understands why a bar of soap was invented.

Not looking for a new husband / wife, just someone who understands what swinging is about.

Think single guys can sometimes get a bad rap, we love em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has happend to me once or twice. People are very shallow minded on here. Physical attraction appers to be all important never mind if you've got a great personality."

If you are looking for a friend/relationship then personality matters.

If just meeting for sex then physical attraction more important.

When I first moved to this area (was a different profile) I had a social meet with a lovely lady from Malvern. At the end of which she told me I was "a great guy" but not her type (to be fair her profile made it clear her type was 6' tall and muscular so not even sure why we met....maybe she was at a loose end?)

However our paths crossed at a party a few months later and following a good chat, and a romp in one of the hot tubs things changed. We have now been great friends...with benefits for 9 years. Just a personal example...

Looks or personality?....depends on what kind of meets people are looking for.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

"Yes I agree it’s not nice.

I thought this would be the right answer.

I am in the group that like a polite No Thank You as I respect that. But then as another poster wrote it turns into I can change etc conversation which is a mutual waste of time.

I am happier when a profile says Delete means I am not interested or such like.

For the small group of non posting guys we have to put up with the only way a Lady can deal with the pests.

Happy fabbing all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you mate...how hard is it to simply say ‘sorry,not interested’

I get the deleted regularly lol"

Thing is, I've done that in a nice way and in space of 24hrs I was called a time wasting f**kwit, a c**t and told not to flatter myself as I'm ugly... This was 3 different guys so I'm sorry but no one's getting a sorry not my type from me anymore.

If it's an issue then possibly take it up with your peers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why people see blocking as a personal slight... If I am not interested in someone, it stops them showing up on searches etc... And them messaging again when they forget they have messaged before or just wanting to try their luck again

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe

Some people are just rude. I always try to reply and be nice. Don’t worry

But do you recieve abuse after being polite? I heard from many female members, including myself getting abuse from just being polite. I just don't reply anymore as its not nice opening your inbox to that negativity

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Happens a lot. I think it's rude. And once someone has said no I don't follow it up with a barrage of abuse. I accept it & move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand the shit people can get if rejected. For me I'm either blocked or just not responded to after I've sent my pic and I can see my mail has been read. As some people do t respond straight away for various reasons, I sometimes message them again and maybe make a home about it like saying "I guess I'm not your type then" or just ask if they still want to chat. It's not always obvious to take no response or someone going quiet asxa hint they are not interested. I'd prefer if people would just tell me so.e people in here say they do. I understand and respect that you shouldn't have to but it will prevent further unwanted messages. Unfortunately there'll always be rude people and those who take rejection in a bad way and are abusive. Just thought I'd share my experience anyway. So my advice would be to just move on and not dwell on it. I've never got a reply after showing my pic but theres nothing I can do about that. I understand it can be disheartening though.

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By *erry PervettoMan
over a year ago

London, Milton Keynes

"Send a face pic with first message, saves time chatting to then discover there is no attraction "

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Happens a lot. I think it's rude. And once someone has said no I don't follow it up with a barrage of abuse. I accept it & move on."

The thing is you may not follow up with a barrage of abuse but some men do. That's not acceptable! Alot of ladies instantly block to avoid this abuse. If you think that's rude then read the FAQ and maybe try to educate your fellow men. (And I say men cos they are the main group who I have received abuse off when I was a single fem)

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

"Happens a lot. I think it's rude. And once someone has said no I don't follow it up with a barrage of abuse. I accept it & move on.

I take responsibility for my actions. Everyone who gives abuse should take responsibility for theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is. Some are keener once I've sent a face pic, some don't reply.

It's just like the "real world", everyone isn't attracted to everyone!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

People will generally read a profile before deciding whether to message back OP. I would start looking for answers there.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Happens a lot. I think it's rude. And once someone has said no I don't follow it up with a barrage of abuse. I accept it & move on.

I take responsibility for my actions. Everyone who gives abuse should take responsibility for theirs."

Unfortunately not everyone thinks like that and there is no way of knowing how people will react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unfortunate, but people's tastes are so varied that ultimately one person is never going to suit everyone.

And as you say, often easier to just block than have to go through an argument when someone tries to argue their case that the other person should find them attractive

Often best just to accept it, move on, and find the person who does like the look of you!

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By *irebird567Woman
over a year ago

near by

I only block when given the need to, usually after a sorry not what I'm looking for thanks tho reply, and they persist to msg me back

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By *he free libertineMan
over a year ago

York

Plenty more fish in sea as they say if it, obvious that a lot of people judge a book by cover.

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By *he free libertineMan
over a year ago

York

Really? Why can’t they accept no for an answer. Quite simple aye ?
"Yes I agree it’s not nice.

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By *he free libertineMan
over a year ago

York

I don’t care if I get blocked or block someone it’s only fun not like we’re here for a relationship.

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By *igBanMan
over a year ago

kidlington

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe

Some people are just rude. I always try to reply and be nice. Don’t worry

In defense of some women they are quite pleasant and if not pushed they know how to pass on the message of thank you but not now.

You are a good example of that. Always polite and also involved in the forum.

Thank you

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By *hris CorkMan
over a year ago

Cork

"Yes I agree it’s not nice.

You should have sent change your face hahaha priceless

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

It’s not all about looks I get that but with so many single guys on here and messages it’s very hard to keep replying as some have said some guys will continue to badger! I have been with many a guy in clubs who tbh If they had sent me a face pic on here I prob wouldn’t have replied but I go on personality and like-ability too hence prob why we mainly meet at clubs, there is just lots of guys and faces and u don’t feel you are attracted to them then why carry on the conversations plus we can’t reply to every message it’s just not visible! I get it’s hard for single guys but just keep trying and I’m sure someone at some point will feel a connection!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People don't meet after 1 message and profile view. Just as in real life it's not usual to marry after 1 conversation. Progressively getting to know others allows all to close or continue with the process at any point. Blocks are the fab tool to stop the process as it's no longer appropriate for someone, for whatever reason.

If you have reasonable expectations, you would predict that most people that you start to interact with will not lead to physical meets and sex. Most people here will not be compatible with each other. Many people here have insufficient time to inform others that they won't continue dialogue. Hence the fab block button and the clear advice here that no reply means no interest.

If how the site reality is doesn't fit you, you are free to stay or go.

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Called Life. Just move on

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

Occasionally. Don’t take it personally. Too many men don’t take a polite no thanks well.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

If you message anyone with a view to meeting them then surely you have to send a face picture with your message. The worst that can happen is no reply but it will save you many more unnecessary messages before the delete button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes have experienced that. Rejection is hard just have to accept and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone have this problem??all is good the chat is going great but after I send my face picture all I get is a block button??

A no thanks would be fine..but ok just wondering how many people have this problem..??

keep safe"

If there's effort in the message I always respond.

I usually block to save having to go through the process again

I just block if they clearly haven't read my profile or the message just says hi or do you wanna fuck

Saira x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a face pic in the first message, if they want to chat the great. If I get no reply then I take that as a gentle no thanks. I can imgine getting shit loads of messages would be a task to reply to all.

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By *rafficvanMan
over a year ago

Middletown

"We are not to everyone’s liking .... most probably not attracted to you !!!

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omg can you send me a face piv

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By *rafficvanMan
over a year ago

Middletown

"Called Life. Just move on

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spot on there don't cry just move on

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

That’s why we say pic with first messages as no point endless chat if no attraction as people still seem to expect you’ll just play anyway cos you’ve got on chatting.

If you say no thanks not for us it becomes rude. One bloke reminded me how many veris we had & how come I wouldn’t meet him. (A lot of our veris are from big socials)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put it down to been to attractive the other party just gives up as they probably know they haven’t a chance

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