FabSwingers.com forum: I respond to winks

By *oungJayy OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

This is mainly for any dominant woman living in the North east area, "i don't mind if you just send a wink my way"

Does anyone else care if someone winks at them? I know some view it as lazy or rude, but i don't, thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind getting winked at, always take it as a compliment

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I don't mind getting winked at and I always look. But if the profile is a bit blank with no pics I don't respond. I do otherwise though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never send a message in the first instance as we tend to be a tad shy and inactive not proactive so just delete winks and friends requests and put this in our profile which of course 99.9% don’t read but we do reply to all messages.

That’s just our approach to fab and it works for us.

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By *ipmannMan
over a year ago

Cahir

Carol is a very beautiful lady. Your pictures are amazing.

Wink.

Lol

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By *ouple0884Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Try my best to say thanks, but only if they are still online when I notice.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

I don't mind being winked at all. I just wish more women would lol.

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

We don't bother to respond to winks anymore, 9 times out of 10 its guys that haven't read our profile and aren't what we are looking for. Much prefer a decent message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to a wink and a message, it's only polite to show your appreciation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink a lot and like to get winks. If I wink back then I hope they will then message,

Women and couples get so many messages in a day it’s easier to let them message first so we can start a dialogue. I have face pics on my friends photos, and always send the with my messages!

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

I always reply to a decent message even if it's a "no thank you". It's only polite to if they have taken the time to write it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carol is a very beautiful lady. Your pictures are amazing.

Wink.

Lol

That’s just sexist as ugly men count too!!!!

Hurt in France!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t find a wink either lazy or rude but I’d much rather they told me something about themselves or about what they enjoyed or were looking for!

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By *ipmannMan
over a year ago

Cahir

"Carol is a very beautiful lady. Your pictures are amazing.

Wink.

Lol

That’s just sexist as ugly men count too!!!!

Ah sorry dont mean to offend.

Hurt in France!!

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By *ong Kong PhooeyMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

I love a good wink...wish more would !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is mainly for any dominant woman living in the North east area, "i don't mind if you just send a wink my way"

Does anyone else care if someone winks at them? I know some view it as lazy or rude, but i don't, thoughts? "

I see it like this. The wink function is there to use, so use it in any way you see fit. If people have a problem with simply being winked at, then it's exactly that - their problem, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better a wink than an unsolicited friend request.

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By *ucksguy2000Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

Wink is good, if I like who had winked then I’ll wonk back and see what happens

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By *966world2000Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

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By *966world2000Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

I don't mind wink as it serves as an ice breaker for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think winks are a good way to show interest. I send winks and accept winks. If I like what I see from a profile that winks then I message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's OK. Why not? Gets a bit

people going on about it being rude.... They didn't read our profile blah blah... Its just an acknowledgement someone likes the look of you not a marriage proposal.... I'm pro winks

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I only wink to get the green light to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sink and like getting them, as someone said earlier it's a function on here so why not use it.

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

I take a wink as a compliment but I dont respond to them with a message. I feel that if the guy sending me the wink wanted to start a conversation then he would send me a message.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I take a wink as a compliment but I dont respond to them with a message. I feel that if the guy sending me the wink wanted to start a conversation then he would send me a message. "

I understand your point, but would you actually see and read the message or woupd it get lost in the ocean of other messages?

Personally is be happy to get winks. I seem to get plenty of profile views, but never anything off the back of that and it's a touch demoralising

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I'm happy to receive winks, nice to know someone took the time to look at my profile so come wink me lol

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

"I take a wink as a compliment but I dont respond to them with a message. I feel that if the guy sending me the wink wanted to start a conversation then he would send me a message.

I understand your point, but would you actually see and read the message or woupd it get lost in the ocean of other messages?

Personally is be happy to get winks. I seem to get plenty of profile views, but never anything off the back of that and it's a touch demoralising "

Yes I would see and read the message. I always check out a profile before I reply. If I can see from the profile that I wouldn't meet him or if I can tell from the first message then I send a generic thanks but no thanks message explaining that they're not what I'm looking for. I'm not sure how a wink would be any different. Dont get me wrong, a wink is a nice compliment but it doesnt necessarily mean because a guy has winked at me that I'm going to send him a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like getting winks as it is an polite way to initially say hi. But when I check the profile it has invariably been deleted

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

A wink will at least get us to look at your profile picture

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Love a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may wink any time

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

If it's just a silhouette avatar & cock pics then no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always like to respond to winks

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

It’s a facility of the site so why do some find it rude and lazy ? Jesus some people on here should chill a bit more and get off their egotistical horse... I find them a compliment.. and use em...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luv a wink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are always happy to receive winks, we send them too. We see them as a way of testing the waters. It’s still exciting if a profile returns a wink we’ve sent.

Why some people on here are so snobbish about them is a mystery. Each to their own....

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

Winkings not really an enthusiastic way of expressing interest.

On the flip side, sending a wink & not getting a reply saved you the effort of writing a detailed msg

Also, there are likely 100 plus single men for every woman/couple on here so winking may not be your best play, especially if you're a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oohhh, I want to wink at you LD125

"Winkings not really an enthusiastic way of expressing interest.

On the flip side, sending a wink & not getting a reply saved you the effort of writing a detailed msg

Also, there are likely 100 plus single men for every woman/couple on here so winking may not be your best play, especially if you're a man."

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By *D125Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

"Oohhh, I want to wink at you LD125

Oh, you do? Well, I'm charmed ;~)

Though, save yourself the effort :~p

Winkings not really an enthusiastic way of expressing interest.

On the flip side, sending a wink & not getting a reply saved you the effort of writing a detailed msg

Also, there are likely 100 plus single men for every woman/couple on here so winking may not be your best play, especially if you're a man."

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By *rown_Bread78Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm quite flattered by winks

I'll always have a look at their profile

I'll often wink back or send a message if i have any interest/curiousity

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Definitely a compliment x

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By *iesel74Man
over a year ago

carryduff

Would gladly accept a wink anytime

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

Not sure how i feel about getting winks..... maybe I will return to this if ever I get any and then I can let you know!

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Wish people would use it more often. It takes a lot of the stress and uncertainty out of the early part of the interaction, less of the annoyance you get if you write a nice opener that gets ignored etc etc.

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By *ungRee4Man
over a year ago

passing through

Personally I hate it if someone winks, then you follow it up and they ignore you completely.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I take a wink as a compliment but I dont respond to them with a message. I feel that if the guy sending me the wink wanted to start a conversation then he would send me a message. "

If I wink at you and you wink back, I send you a message. If not, I don't bother wasting your time. It's a bit like real life, I tend to only open a conversation with someone once I've made eye contact with them and ascertained if they're open to being spoken to. Just seems politer to me than just going in all guns blazing, so to speak...

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks, don't see why people dismiss them so quickly, nice ice breaker same as if you smile at someone in a bar.

Read no reply is most frustrating situation. I'd like there to be an option where it says reply or delete and you have to pick one. Even if your waiting to chat to partner later, I'd rather people just say that in a response, I'd completely understand. And if they don't like you, you just press delete, same as pressing back button, no extra click required. I get some people get hundreds of messages but a delete button prompt would keep your inbox tidy and also decrease likelihood of sender contacting again to some degree. This is my opinion anyway.

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By *anhung22Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

100% with you on that after all a wink is a form of complements

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By *anhung22Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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