FabSwingers.com forum: Is there something wrong with me or my profile?

By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

So, I kind of new to FAB, however, it seems really hard to trigger a reaction regardless of how good is the profile or how polite my messages are or if I wink once without bothering anymore... Guess the market for a chunky fella is really low lol.

Can anyone give any advice?

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, OP, and welcome to Fab.

Your profile, the very first sentence, tells me everything I need to know about you, unfortunately.

Also, you have been here 1 WEEK! At the time when the country is on lockdown. There aren't many people who are, at this time, willing to chat to people they don't already know. But anyway, good luck and maybe have a think about your attitude and expectations from the site? It's never been instashag.

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

Hi miss devil,

Thanks a lot for your input and advice. I'm really thankful for your kind words.

I have to be honest with your, I couldn't agree more that this is a weird time to meet people regardless of how you do it, I guess I just thought that it was going to be easier meet new people.

As for the profile, I had to think about it and I changed the title at least.

Would you change anything else or is it good?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

What do you mean by 'long term helper'? Doesn't sound very appealing to me. Plus you're so wrong about not giving a hoot about profiles!!

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

Hi rocket, thank you for pointing that out, I might need to reword that, maybe it came out a bit different than I wanted.

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

"What do you mean by 'long term helper'? Doesn't sound very appealing to me. Plus you're so wrong about not giving a hoot about profiles!!"

Please feel free to have another look.

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

Thanks for the advices above, does anyone else Want to have any input? I'm all ears heh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you mean by 'long term helper'?"

Could mean someone like his mum, but with sex involved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here about 10 days now. The first few days nothing. But as soon as I put a picture of my face up(actually I had downloaded it but I hadn't put for display) then I started speaking to girls and messages too. It's a really safe site. I don't think anyone here are judgemental in anyway.

Although I'm no stranger to internet dating but this is my first time on this site. Just take it as a new adventure, a walk in the park.

Internet dating is a totally different world to the real world. Girls have the upper hand here. But it's all fun.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't change it if it truly reflects who you are and what you are looking for. If you do, it's almost like false advertising. There's general advice on mine should you wish to use it. Good luck. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A week is a minute in Fab time. I'd lose the gruesome cock picture and write about yourself a bit more. Welcome to fab btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us guys we really have to market ourselves if we want female attention. What makes us standout is key. Not easy if you have no experience with marketing or PR. Trying to connect with like minded people for fun and mutual pleasure is difficult

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello Op,

Firstly, as has already been stated but it is important, you have joined the site at a time when people are not supposed to be meeting up. Beginning any form of conversation with a stranger is always going to be difficult at this time.

When you couple that with reality that most people won't engage with a faceless person, or a newbie, it will make it more of an uphill struggle for you. And that's without the site mathematics which places you in the largest demograph of single men. It's a horrible way to put it, but single men really are ten a penny around here.

This means that you really must work hard to stand out. Your profile is important, because the vast majority of people will look at your profile before deciding to reply or contact you, and if they don't like the look of it they will simply move on. It is your choice whether or not to publicise a face picture, and rightly so, all we can say is that as shallow as it seems you are probably ruling yourself out by a lot of people by not having one.

In the week you have been a member you appear to have made some use of the forum. That's good, as often people will click through to your profile if they read one of your posts. This is even more likely if you have an appealing profile pic. have you used the chatrooms too? If not, try it and maybe you might feel comfortable enough to show your face on cam thereby negating the need for a face pic on your profile.

It might all seem like too much hard work, or hassle, but you will get more out if you put more in and stand out from the crowd.

Good luck

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

Thank you all for the great input, I'll do my best to make some improvements.

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By *zorean OP Man
over a year ago

Witney

After taking in some advices I decided to change my profile and let people know a bit more about myself.

Thanks for all the support guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Escape why you can op lol

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Us guys we really have to market ourselves if we want female attention. What makes us standout is key. Not easy if you have no experience with marketing or PR. Trying to connect with like minded people for fun and mutual pleasure is difficult"
I think I have the CD/TV and 50+ Male market cornered. Seem to be my only profile views. Does the blue coloured towel have some special signifying meaning I'm not aware of?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"After taking in some advices I decided to change my profile and let people know a bit more about myself.

Thanks for all the support guys."

Thanks for letting us know how you are getting on OP. Nice to see someone post a thanks for advice. Wish you the best of luck on fab. Maybe get yourself to your regional cam room and make a few connections there, and to an organised social after lockdown. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us guys we really have to market ourselves if we want female attention. What makes us standout is key. Not easy if you have no experience with marketing or PR. Trying to connect with like minded people for fun and mutual pleasure is difficultI think I have the CD/TV and 50+ Male market cornered. Seem to be my only profile views. Does the blue coloured towel have some special signifying meaning I'm not aware of?

The towel code is part of the gay bath house scene. A blue one means the wearer is into mature men and transvestites... Everyone knows that bud.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

"Escape why you can op lol "

Whilst !!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Us guys we really have to market ourselves if we want female attention. What makes us standout is key. Not easy if you have no experience with marketing or PR. Trying to connect with like minded people for fun and mutual pleasure is difficultI think I have the CD/TV and 50+ Male market cornered. Seem to be my only profile views. Does the blue coloured towel have some special signifying meaning I'm not aware of?

The towel code is part of the gay bath house scene. A blue one means the wearer is into mature men and transvestites... Everyone knows that bud.

Really? I'm learning new things every day on here!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

ha ha ha...Everyone now checking their towel colours and ditching the blue ones....White seems quite versatile...

Good luck to you 'chunky fella' be patient and your bus will come along!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"be patient and your bus will come along! "

But try not to climb aboard during peak hours

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Us guys we really have to market ourselves if we want female attention. What makes us standout is key. Not easy if you have no experience with marketing or PR. Trying to connect with like minded people for fun and mutual pleasure is difficultI think I have the CD/TV and 50+ Male market cornered. Seem to be my only profile views. Does the blue coloured towel have some special signifying meaning I'm not aware of?

The towel code is part of the gay bath house scene. A blue one means the wearer is into mature men and transvestites... Everyone knows that bud.

"
Oh god. Not only that, but that particular shade of also has a dual meaning whereby it is understood that I am anti-women also!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

No face pic, so I'd never remember you.

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