FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone help?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all. Can anyone help me. I'm not looking just wanting to chat and have some banta. To be truthful, this social isolation is nothing new because of my situation living away from family and friends also because of ex. I'm just wanna chat and hopefully after all of this meet up. I send messages but very rarely get a reply, or a one word answer. Based in Northern Ireland but originally a Londoner. Apologies for the whinge but its hard going. Regards to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all. Can anyone help me. I'm not looking just wanting to chat and have some banta. To be truthful, this social isolation is nothing new because of my situation living away from family and friends also because of ex. I'm just wanna chat and hopefully after all of this meet up. I send messages but very rarely get a reply, or a one word answer. Based in Northern Ireland but originally a Londoner. Apologies for the whinge but its hard going. Regards to you all"

First of all you say you just want to chat, then later you say you want to chat and hopefully meet up after.

Two completely different things aren't they??

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

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What you are saying here totally contradicts what is on your profile OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just wanted some advice what to do, not to have people have a dig at me. Yes I wanna chat and hopefully when normal life resumes then meet for a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just wanted some advice what to do, not to have people have a dig at me. Yes I wanna chat and hopefully when normal life resumes then meet for a social. "

According to you it was for chat and "banta"??

Guess that wasn't quite the truth then....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm just asking for advice, im not great at this but if ya wanna a go for it. Dig away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just asking for advice, im not great at this but if ya wanna a go for it. Dig away. "

No digging going on.

It is what you said.

Why not simply just say what you mean, and mean what you say?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right, advice for profile, advice on conversation, advice on anything else that you feel is necessary!!

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

If you just want to chat online then there’s plenty of easier ways of doing it than through fab. If you want to meet (after the obligatory lockdown chat) then the advice is the same as everyone else who is looking to meet. There are plenty of threads dedicated to how to receive replies to your initial message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with the lockdown thing, it's not easy is it?

Specially if you're away from home. Not offering to meet obv but if you're feeling it I'm happy to hear from you if you need a chat.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Hi, sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with the lockdown thing, it's not easy is it?

Specially if you're away from home. Not offering to meet obv but if you're feeling it I'm happy to hear from you if you need a chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal. "

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

If a lady posted such a request many of the responses would be starkly different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a lady posted such a request many of the responses would be starkly different "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey mate, im a londoner myself, how you doing?

Good move letting others know how you are and I can assure you there are a lot of people on here that will look out for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to those who are actually giving me a positive response and understand me. Thanks again much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !"

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What I'm trying to say is I would like banta and yes meet eventually. I just hate the fact you can end being a penpal. People knowing full well they will never want to meet and are just doing this kill time. I'm done now.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

But equally, it only takes a few seconds to update a profile. A lot of people will read a profile before they even open a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you to those who are actually giving me a positive response and understand me. Thanks again much appreciated. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right, this is what I'm asking advice, what or how should I best word my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

But equally, it only takes a few seconds to update a profile. A lot of people will read a profile before they even open a message.

That is true yes, a fair point.

Are you still open to party invites?

Do you see what I mean?

Times are difficult for lots of people right now and in all honesty I'd rather reach out and be proved wrong than have a go over profile content.

Perhaps I'm too soft who knows.

Anyway look after yourselves xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

But equally, it only takes a few seconds to update a profile. A lot of people will read a profile before they even open a message.

That is true yes, a fair point.

Are you still open to party invites?

Do you see what I mean?

Times are difficult for lots of people right now and in all honesty I'd rather reach out and be proved wrong than have a go over profile content.

Perhaps I'm too soft who knows.

Anyway look after yourselves xxx"

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

But equally, it only takes a few seconds to update a profile. A lot of people will read a profile before they even open a message.

That is true yes, a fair point.

Are you still open to party invites?

Do you see what I mean?

Times are difficult for lots of people right now and in all honesty I'd rather reach out and be proved wrong than have a go over profile content.

Perhaps I'm too soft who knows.

Anyway look after yourselves xxx"

I think you've misunderstood me. Or maybe I could have worded my response to the OP differently, he asked for advice & explained what he was currently looking for in his post, I tried to explain that his profile contradicts that &, as many people read profiles before deciding whether to open a message, it might be worth explaining what he is currently looking for on there.

& touché, you're absolutely correct, our profile hasn't been changed since long before lockdown, but equally we aren't posting asking for advice or wondering why we aren't getting replies to messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No digging from here. In your post you say you just want chat & banta. In your profile you say you don't want a pen pal.

Thank you! !

We aren't the only ones! !

With respect, I'm sure many of our profiles will say stuff that is at odds with what we are doing now x

Why would that be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ugh, your having a titty tantrum. I can't be bothered with this anymore. Good luck you all, stay safe and well.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

"Ugh, your having a titty tantrum. I can't be bothered with this anymore. Good luck you all, stay safe and well. "

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