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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people like to receive a polite or a rude message as a first message off someone.i always try and be as polite as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to be polite, and avoid the usage of one-liners. Also, I like to include a photograph of one's face.

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By *ime4actionMan
over a year ago

Funchal

Suppose every body is different. I write polite but wonder if that makes me appear boring. Couples and ladies, which us best?

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We much prefer polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However polite or thoughtful a message is, my hackles are up. I'm almost always short (even if not rude) and deliberately use shit grammar.

Sometimes I might feel bad for a moment if I've been too harsh for a particular person, but there is literally nothing to stop someone being civil or friendly over text and then turn into a sexual assaulter/murderer/psychopath/sociopath/cannibal/blah blah blah down the line

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I prefer polite. If someone just says "wanna fuck" they are instantly deleted.

I had a particularly offensive one this week calling me a slag and saying they wanted to sniff off my tits and would give me £100 for it that was their opening message to me and they had only been on the site for 10 mins!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer polite. If someone just says "wanna fuck" they are instantly deleted.

I had a particularly offensive one this week calling me a slag and saying they wanted to sniff off my tits and would give me £100 for it that was their opening message to me and they had only been on the site for 10 mins! "

WOW.

I didn't clock this thread was about receiving messages. Makes surprisingly few odds to me

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Really don’t mind....vanilla or flirty/sexy/filthy just be yourself! If it’s boring or offensive though, unlikely to reply

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

A crude message is an instant delete with me,i don't know you from 1 message so it wouldn't get me going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a tough one but I’d suggest just be yourself when sending messages so if you are a polite person send a polite message. And if you are a flithly dirt bag then send a dirty message because we are all different and as such different things float our boats.

Personally if we get a I want to suck your tits message then I reply and delete so my wife doesn’t even read it.

Stay frosty and best of luck on here.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk to people like you would in a pub or any other social situation. Swinging and shagging are different. If people don’t think you are respectful they will look elsewhere.

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By *oris and doris wolvesCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

From our experience about 80% are one line, grammatical messes.

10% rude.

10% polite and attention grabbing.

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By *anxmann55Man
over a year ago

Douglas Isle of man.......

Always polite messages ....

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"From our experience about 80% are one line, grammatical messes.

10% rude.

10% polite and attention grabbing."

And even with a polite well constructed message it's still quite a rarity to get a response...even a no thanks..

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By *omantionMan
over a year ago

Castleford

I laways try be polite comment on there pics tell them.bit about my self and read profile first has it can say a lot about a person I try be bit cheeky not two cheeky. But if honest dont get many replays bk x

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

What do you mean by rude? Do you mean rude as in sexual, or rude as in just plain rude? Either way, I don’t want to receive messages like that. If someone’s outright rude (such as calling me a “piece of gash” like one I received) they’re likely to get blocked. If it’s sexual I’ll probably only delete it. But I won’t reply in either case.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Neither if they haven't read my profile.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"talk to people like you would in a pub or any other social situation. Swinging and shagging are different. If people don’t think you are respectful they will look elsewhere. "

I agree with this

Anything that appears threatening or just vile results in a block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A short, polite message that shows they have read my profile.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Polite but not OTT sickly nice ones

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I find sometimes even after a nice message woman randomly block me ...?

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland


"Polite but not OTT sickly nice ones"
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Love your life goals in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite is nice and better than "great tits" which i receive alot.

Don't mind flirty either as long as its not crude

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I suspect very few ladies on here would appreciate a rude (sexual) message as an opener. This that do will probably say so in their profile.

There's no magic solution to getting a response. Contacting those who might actually be interested and sending a message that shows you have actually read the profile, increases you chance of a response.

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By *tan thrill seekerMan
over a year ago

wigan

Hjones is probably right.

I tend to send well constructed, grammatically accurate messages. Always make some reference to something from the profile, at least when possible. Attach 3 or 4 pictures. Offer to send more pictures as I don’t tend to edit the profile much. Still only get an occasional reply. I do appreciate most ladies on this site get inundated, however it doesn’t stop it being a little frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t matter how nice a message is, if there’s no attraction, a reply is unlikely to come. No reply is a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice if someone sent me a message

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By *tag and HellcatCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

For me .. i like a polite message .. no dick pics ... something that catches my attention .. a dry sense of humor or witticism ...

But everyones different .. i think you can get a hint from peoples profiles as to what they'd respond best to

Vixen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see a polite nice light hearted message

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Just had a message it was the first one from him and all it said was "u do anal?"

No hello or greeting of any description

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I had one today telling me that they wanted to spit in my face

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By *ilverminxWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Always polite. We might just be here for sex but I’m not gonna have sex with someone rude and disrespectful....

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve never met anyone that responds to a rude message. I’ve seen ladies inboxes. Some are horrendous.

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