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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please support me guys iam trying to get a message block to stop spamming.i see alot of women on here that just leave the site or dont get the chance to talk properly due to single guys spamming.it kills the site and makes it harder for geniune people.there shud be a msg block that only lets u messeage one person once then no more unless u get a reply.must be simple to do please get behind me if u think this is a good idea.thanks all

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone


"Please support me guys iam trying to get a message block to stop spamming.i see alot of women on here that just leave the site or dont get the chance to talk properly due to single guys spamming."

This is often talked about on the forum as "fact" but we see no strong evidence that single females leave the site because they get "too many" messages.

It's much harder now for many users to message new females because of changes over the past year.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes i no the site has the tools but my argument is the spamming and also men getting rude wene no replys.it shud be stoped with out users haveing to block due to this.there is geniune people out there that users are hoping to recieve msgs from so they wouldnt get that if that blocked everythink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a large number of new female members come on but you can tell it's a guys profile really.

Especially when they get a verification 5 minutes after joining and then you check whose verified them and the only person to verify the guy is that same new profile. Then the female disappears again.

Something needs to be done about multiple profiles being logged by the same person.

Maybe an IP check but know this can be tricky as some couples also have separate profiles or log in using different devices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have almost 600 unread messages, no-one has been rude about me not replying, yet (well several dubious messages demanding me to meet but nothing aggressive). I've hardly had any rude messages in over a year on here, if i get them i block.

Occasionally i have felt the need to whinge about pesterers , or people coming off my blocklist, but i've stayed because overall this site benefits me and i get meets with hardly any hassle.

I made a new account and there are tips to help you get less messages i noticed, think that's a great idea.

I think there are some arseholes on here yes, but this is more down to the fact that attitudes to promiscuous women can be poor in general. Luckily the many nice and respectful guys make you want to stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying men should spam women, i agree OP they shouldn't.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

It isn't the number of messages which is the problem more likely it's the content, which fab can do little about. The creepy, nasty and out right vulgar can be a bit off putting if you don't have a thick skin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never knew that bond how sad yes that defo should be dealt with but may be difficult to pull off. And with regards to the vulgar messages i dnt think they become vulgar untill they get no reply this is were i think the one message rule would be a good idea.i was speaking to one female on here she told me she had even replyed one guy saying thanks for your msgs but iam not interested but good luck in ya search.he then got rude after.i no that cant be stopd but if the one message rule was in place if women wasnt interested they then no not to reply then they cant be botherd by that guy any more.well was worth shouting about i feel guys. i knew i would be pissing in the wind but thanks for your feedback guys great stuff.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools "

But if they use the tools they can't post the 'Look at how many messages I'm getting' posts

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

from my point of view if we receive any spam or abusive message's we report the profile and ignore the person.

We have found that by blocking they just open a new account. We only have one on our block list after over two years, if you feed the fire by replying then you open the door to more.. As to people sending spam easy just delete , your idea of limiting one message without a reply could easily be looked into.. Connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew that bond how sad yes that defo should be dealt with but may be difficult to pull off. And with regards to the vulgar messages i dnt think they become vulgar untill they get no reply this is were i think the one message rule would be a good idea.i was speaking to one female on here she told me she had even replyed one guy saying thanks for your msgs but iam not interested but good luck in ya search.he then got rude after.i no that cant be stopd but if the one message rule was in place if women wasnt interested they then no not to reply then they cant be botherd by that guy any more.well was worth shouting about i feel guys. i knew i would be pissing in the wind but thanks for your feedback guys great stuff."

What happens if you delete in error? And you'd not mind a message again, especially if the name wasn't caught. We're all grown ups here and I'm sure some words on a screen aren't the sole reason for departing.

Chivalry isn't really required for emails. 4 Fs ..Filtered functions forgoe fucktards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea i just feel it makes it difficult for geniune users on here to have conversations with other users that have simply been spammed as the spammed users dnt get thru all the msgs and msg get missed or unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools

But if they use the tools they can't post the 'Look at how many messages I'm getting' posts

"

North west of england is a really busy area. Even with good filters on you can still get too many messages to cope with at times.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford


"Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools

But if they use the tools they can't post the 'Look at how many messages I'm getting' posts

North west of england is a really busy area. Even with good filters on you can still get too many messages to cope with at times. "

North West is busy because the women are foxy

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I never knew that bond how sad yes that defo should be dealt with but may be difficult to pull off. And with regards to the vulgar messages i dnt think they become vulgar untill they get no reply this is were i think the one message rule would be a good idea.i was speaking to one female on here she told me she had even replyed one guy saying thanks for your msgs but iam not interested but good luck in ya search.he then got rude after.i no that cant be stopd but if the one message rule was in place if women wasnt interested they then no not to reply then they cant be botherd by that guy any more.well was worth shouting about i feel guys. i knew i would be pissing in the wind but thanks for your feedback guys great stuff."

I have never had any abusive mail from a polite no thank you, 80% don't reply and the other 20% will say thanks for replying.

The only abusive mail I have had has come out of the blue in a 1st message, never had any contact with the man.

Same goes with the vulgar first messages, he may think that he is being erotic but crude and vulgar isn't erotic in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea i just feel it makes it difficult for geniune users on here to have conversations with other users that have simply been spammed as the spammed users dnt get thru all the msgs and msg get missed or unread."

You do know that people can block individual users to prevent further contact? It is so nice that you are concerned about women and unwanted messages but I am pretty sure that they can take care of themselves.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Sorry op but what makes you more genuine than anyone else? What other guys send to me has nothing to do with who I choose to respond to... I go with the message and profile.. Oh and a pic if they choose to send one

This nonsense about other guys spoiling the site for you is rubbish.., if anything it makes decent guys and messages stand out more .... In my opinion

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"...This nonsense about other guys spoiling the site for you is rubbish.., if anything it makes decent guys and messages stand out more .... In my opinion "

In my opinion too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...This nonsense about other guys spoiling the site for you is rubbish.., if anything it makes decent guys and messages stand out more .... In my opinion

In my opinion too "

I also concur

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

this sounds like the OP has had a lot of unanswered messages in the 2 months he has been on here.

and is looking for a reason,

He wants to cut down on the competition by getting other single guys stopped from messaging

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"this sounds like the OP has had a lot of unanswered messages in the 2 months he has been on here.

and is looking for a reason,

He wants to cut down on the competition by getting other single guys stopped from messaging "

I'm sure you're wrong. He's selflessly helping out the lesser men by preventing all the women leaving, which somehow he knows they're doing.

He also appears to be conducting exit interviews, which is particularly diligent of him given that he's not being paid for his efforts.

OP, you are a prince. Or at the very least, a knight.

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"this sounds like the OP has had a lot of unanswered messages in the 2 months he has been on here.

and is looking for a reason,

He wants to cut down on the competition by getting other single guys stopped from messaging

I'm sure you're wrong. He's selflessly helping out the lesser men by preventing all the women leaving, which somehow he knows they're doing.

He also appears to be conducting exit interviews, which is particularly diligent of him given that he's not being paid for his efforts.

OP, you are a prince. Or at the very least, a knight."

An excellent example of white knighting imho.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Yea i just feel it makes it difficult for geniune users on here to have conversations with other users that have simply been spammed as the spammed users dnt get thru all the msgs and msg get missed or unread."
. Genuine users are not bothered about these so called spammers . It makes no difference as they concentrate on having well written and interesting profiles and do not spend too much time worrying about what other members may or may not be doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make your own way, nobody else spoils it.

Also, surely all these idiots floating about should make you stand out more no?

Cut your own path fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea sorry guys i didnt mean to upset any one and this was purly aimed aimed at people that spam and get rude witch iam sure thats none of u on ere it just seemed like an issue on this site and it was good to get other peoples views on it and now i have a differnt prospective on it.but i would like to apolige to any one who has taken this offensivly.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If some is rude just delete ... block ignore ... simples

And as for not getting a reply to your SENT message ....

You must remember us ladies get loads of messages EVERYDAY .... majority have a job .... families ...and suprise suprise ... a life out side of fab

So OP ..

Please stop whining .... xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools

But if they use the tools they can't post the 'Look at how many messages I'm getting' posts

"

Ego's get hurt if they don't have lots of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harsh forum this one.backs out slowly to Scotland forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters, age, account type, verified etc

If someone wants to stop messages it is very easy to do so

Some decide to complain about it but do nothing

The site has the tools "

EXACTLY.....

They could message. Now that would be a novalty and might reverse the trend

In the two times I've been on here I've never had a single woman...either wink or message me first....only couples..TV and men of which I'm clearly not interested in if they read my profiles...I just learnt to block and use my tools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have almost 600 unread messages, no-one has been rude about me not replying, yet (well several dubious messages demanding me to meet but nothing aggressive). I've hardly had any rude messages in over a year on here, if i get them i block. "

I wait a day then block anyone who does bother to reply after reading their profile and taking time to messaged them. It's easy to see if they have read or deleted. It helps with my future filtering too. If they're getting too many messages then they need to use more filters....they're fishing nets are too big and they're missing lots of good ones. Note to females if you're getting too many messages...narrow down ur age groups for a couple days on rotation....so simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have almost 600 unread messages, no-one has been rude about me not replying, yet (well several dubious messages demanding me to meet but nothing aggressive). I've hardly had any rude messages in over a year on here, if i get them i block.

I wait a day then block anyone who does bother to reply after reading their profile and taking time to messaged them. It's easy to see if they have read or deleted. It helps with my future filtering too. If they're getting too many messages then they need to use more filters....they're fishing nets are too big and they're missing lots of good ones. Note to females if you're getting too many messages...narrow down ur age groups for a couple days on rotation....so simple"

I've been here a year i know what i'm doing and what affects my inbox.

Got a new profile then uploaded pics,i also got a few veris in a short amount of time, all that got me a lot of attention.

Tbh if you get verified guys tend to know you're sexually active on here...which a lot of people tend not to be (or their page looks that way). this is what gains most interest in your profile on here. People want sexual action, they go to the pages that have that. Really is that simple.

So there you have it. You want attention to your page then meet people and get verified. Others on here want meets with people who don't mess about.

Or be highly attractive and friendly to lonely people who message you, that also gets you attention.

You're welcome.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Pretty simple. When a message goes to a woman or couple they will see

1. Your profile pic

2. Your title

3. Your user name

4. Your first ten words

1 a cock shot = instant delete(id)

2 title is assuming you are going to have sex = id

3 offensive = id

4 see 2 & 3

Simple now you have fixed that you might get your mail read.

I do the above in 1 second.

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