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"But surely such a filter relies (as does every other) on the accuracy of the persons profile. People will just put whatever they think will get them a meet, whether age, sexuality or marital status. Nice in theory. But probably impractical. A" Good point. But it might help more individuals to be honest about their status knowing they can interact with people just like them.. .. Just maybe? | |||
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"But surely such a filter relies (as does every other) on the accuracy of the persons profile. People will just put whatever they think will get them a meet, whether age, sexuality or marital status. Nice in theory. But probably impractical. A" Absolutely correct but surely there is no harm in having such a filter if it cuts out at least some of the unwanted messages? Like you say every filter can be gotten around so why have any at all? Because they do help that's why. People van choose to use it or Not, I'd use it. | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea" How come? If you don't want to meet married folk (not couples) why should it matter if it's a man or woman? Am I looking at this wrong? | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea" Why ? Is it okay for one gender and not the other ? | |||
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"Some great comments and some sceptical ones too. I totally get some people would just lie to get around it which is unfortunate but for people like me and there seems to be a few who are honest about our situation it would certainly help us avoid you guys who are against meeting us. Maybe with a wee bit of thought there is a way of it working in some form. " It would be great. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? " Swinging isn't just 'a couple swapping partners'. That's 'wife swapping'. Swinging has always involved singles. A | |||
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"Love the idea....but with all great ideas, it’ll only work if the person filling out the profile is honest...and herein lies the problem. Sad isn’t it? " That said, some lie about other things and the site still functions. So this would still help! I do think it’s a good idea. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? Swinging isn't just 'a couple swapping partners'. That's 'wife swapping'. Swinging has always involved singles. A" I guess I’m wrong, still though | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? " This is how I see it. Yes it may be a swinger site in name. But it allows couples, single males, single females, cds tvs etc.. To be on this site. If it was a genuine Swinger site, I'm pretty sure it would only allow couples and not much else. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? Swinging isn't just 'a couple swapping partners'. That's 'wife swapping'. Swinging has always involved singles. A" Good point. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? Swinging isn't just 'a couple swapping partners'. That's 'wife swapping'. Swinging has always involved singles. A I guess I’m wrong, still though " No stick at all from us we agree with everything that the OP said. But may we also add that while swinging does involve singles, cheating married people are not singles. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? " You don't have to be married to cheat, so even unmarried and cheating are allowed on this site. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? You don't have to be married to cheat, so even unmarried and cheating are allowed on this site." Absolutely. And everybody has a story why they're here. Judgement shouldn't be so harsh. But unfortunately... It is. | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? You don't have to be married to cheat, so even unmarried and cheating are allowed on this site. Absolutely. And everybody has a story why they're here. Judgement shouldn't be so harsh. But unfortunately... It is. " | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? You don't have to be married to cheat, so even unmarried and cheating are allowed on this site. Absolutely. And everybody has a story why they're here. Judgement shouldn't be so harsh. But unfortunately... It is. " Funny enough though, in the cold light of day most of the stories we have heard should not result in cheating. | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea Why ? Is it okay for one gender and not the other ?" Depends what you mean by ok. From our point of view we would meet married women but not men so, yes, it is different. | |||
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"Yeah, I mean I'm sure there are smokers that are lying, people telling fibs about their height etc. If people are lying on profiles (which they are) then there isn't anything you can do, but for those who would use the filter correctly it would be a god sent. It would need to have a few options as previously said though like: Will meet married couples Will meet married men (open) Will meet married men (discreet) Will meet married women (open) Will meet married women (discreet) Just to make sure there is enough variation. We will happy meet with married people where the other person in the relationship knows, just not if the other person doesn't know " | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T" Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? | |||
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"Good idea in principal but as pointed out this is a sex site not a dating site!!!! Lets just keep it fun!" This is a swinging site. To true swingers this is a lifestyle group. But obviously to people who cheat it is a sex site. Again, a massive difference. .. | |||
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"Yeah, I mean I'm sure there are smokers that are lying, people telling fibs about their height etc. If people are lying on profiles (which they are) then there isn't anything you can do, but for those who would use the filter correctly it would be a god sent. It would need to have a few options as previously said though like: Will meet married couples Will meet married men (open) Will meet married men (discreet) Will meet married women (open) Will meet married women (discreet) Just to make sure there is enough variation. We will happy meet with married people where the other person in the relationship knows, just not if the other person doesn't know " Some good suggestions there. Thanks guys. | |||
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"But surely such a filter relies (as does every other) on the accuracy of the persons profile. People will just put whatever they think will get them a meet, whether age, sexuality or marital status. Nice in theory. But probably impractical. A" If you use that thinking then all filters are pointless. However I feel the majority currently do use them correctly and so any additional filter would be used as such. There are always those who don't irrespective of any filter. Some say they are 6ft but small print should say in heels . | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? " Not at all!! She has consented, that's good enough for me! | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? Not at all!! She has consented, that's good enough for me! " You'd be surprised how many people make you feel like you have to look. Great profile BTW guys | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? Not at all!! She has consented, that's good enough for me! You'd be surprised how many people make you feel like you have to look. Great profile BTW guys " Huh that's rubbish, but thanks for the compliment | |||
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"I'm open and honest about my marital status and message lots of couples and single ladies to find out if they are willing to interact. 99% of the time they don't which is fine. My question is would it be beneficial to have an option on profiles similar to smokers to save me and the reader the bother of messaging/reading? Or even an option to state a person married without consent so I and others could be filtered out? " yes. I would love an option to easy spot the cheaters. Not many people would admit to being a cheater on their profile though. Mind you though OP you could just state on your profile you are married and cheating. | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? " Same situation here; my wife’s tastes have gone back towards BDSM, which she was into long before meeting me. I’m not interested in that in the slightest, so she has her Dom and I have here. I don’t encroach on her freedom nor am I required to validate it, other than between us in terms of ongoing consent, and vice versa. I’ve had people here suggest they wouldn’t consider meeting me unless she either OK’d the meet verbally to them or was the one actually arranging it! lol | |||
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"Good idea in principal but as pointed out this is a sex site not a dating site!!!! Lets just keep it fun! This is a swinging site. To true swingers this is a lifestyle group. But obviously to people who cheat it is a sex site. Again, a massive difference. .." Exactly!! Swinging is more than sex, it’s freedom, freedom doesn’t come from lies and cheating. We all make mistakes and noones perfect but cheating to me doesn’t belong in swinging. But yeh, the option to tick a box and say this would be useful for both sides | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. " We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. " Without getting in to the moral ambiguity of it as everyone will have there social acceptances and moral boundaries in different places I feel as though if your married then your automatically assumed to being unfaithful. | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. Without getting in to the moral ambiguity of it as everyone will have there social acceptances and moral boundaries in different places I feel as though if your married then your automatically assumed to being unfaithful. " Sadly, the majority ruin it for the majority so people lose trust in a person’s words. There will be some out there that won’t care though or believe it’s not unfaithful, you shouldn’t have to prove it but a quick call with the mrs might be an idea for your meets just to verify it | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. Without getting in to the moral ambiguity of it as everyone will have there social acceptances and moral boundaries in different places I feel as though if your married then your automatically assumed to being unfaithful. Sadly, the majority ruin it for the majority so people lose trust in a person’s words. There will be some out there that won’t care though or believe it’s not unfaithful, you shouldn’t have to prove it but a quick call with the mrs might be an idea for your meets just to verify it " Emma will actually go on socials with me if requested. | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. " That usually translates as single guy set up a couples profile so he can perve the pics on site and not be blocked by others filters. Ha. | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. That usually translates as single guy set up a couples profile so he can perve the pics on site and not be blocked by others filters. Ha. " Again a judgement based of little to no fact checking | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. That usually translates as single guy set up a couples profile so he can perve the pics on site and not be blocked by others filters. Ha. Again a judgement based of little to no fact checking" I can only go off what we experience. Most people who contact saying I'm. OK to play with her permission suddenly clam up when asked for a phone chat to them both. We never meant you OK. | |||
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"I think one potential way to approach this would be that rather than have a box to tick stating you’re married (which relies on just as much honesty as currently), it would work better if there was an option to state you’re actually willing to meet people being unfaithful?... that way those that are married/attached can look for people willing to meet them more easily? Let’s be honest here, a “I’m married” box already sort of exists.... it’s when they’re single but “can not accommodate”" That sounds good. Personally I send loads of messages and get knocked back for my marital status which is fine. Would just be so easy for those of us who are up front about it to see "won't meet attached" and avoid sending that message in the first place. I totally get though that it could be abused but so can all the filters. | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. That usually translates as single guy set up a couples profile so he can perve the pics on site and not be blocked by others filters. Ha. Again a judgement based of little to no fact checking I can only go off what we experience. Most people who contact saying I'm. OK to play with her permission suddenly clam up when asked for a phone chat to them both. We never meant you OK. " I'm happy to verify Ashley is ok to anyone who wants to meet him | |||
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"Personally we are not bothered as this is a swinging site and not a dating site so every one on here is basically looking for the same thing in theory but of course it doesn’t always work out that way. T Good point well made. I live with a partner. We love each other to bits, but our sex life is non existant. She has told me that if I want to go elsewhere for the physical side of things then I can, as long as I don't rub it in her face or gets causes problems for our home life. Am I expected to come to a meet with a signed waiver? Not at all!! She has consented, that's good enough for me! " A lot of couples including us would accept my wife making a quick phone call to your wife just confirm your ok to play. KJ x | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. Without getting in to the moral ambiguity of it as everyone will have there social acceptances and moral boundaries in different places I feel as though if your married then your automatically assumed to being unfaithful. Sadly, the majority ruin it for the majority so people lose trust in a person’s words. There will be some out there that won’t care though or believe it’s not unfaithful, you shouldn’t have to prove it but a quick call with the mrs might be an idea for your meets just to verify it Emma will actually go on socials with me if requested." you could also get her to add a video here maybe saying it’s ok, keep it friends only or private and send as you need so she’s not having to verify every meet.. Just an idea | |||
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"What about married with permission. Me and my wife both meet separately and have a couples profile. We also meet separately (And together though) it it’s all honest and within our boundaries of only at clubs.. we enjoy each other’s stories together too, I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and enjoy the freedom of our relationship, definitely the deepest relationship I’ve had and this plays a big part in that. Its the dishonesty that’s wrong. Abusing someone’s trust and making them believe they have a loyal partner when they don’t, the worst ones is when they slag their partner of to you to gain sympathy because they don’t put out like it’s an excuse. Not happy, change your relationship it’s not rocket science xx Like you guys sound like you find a way around it that’s mutual for both of you and honest. we all make mistakes but when people don’t learn from them, it’s just cold . This is just my view. Everyone is entitled to their own. Without getting in to the moral ambiguity of it as everyone will have there social acceptances and moral boundaries in different places I feel as though if your married then your automatically assumed to being unfaithful. Sadly, the majority ruin it for the majority so people lose trust in a person’s words. There will be some out there that won’t care though or believe it’s not unfaithful, you shouldn’t have to prove it but a quick call with the mrs might be an idea for your meets just to verify it Emma will actually go on socials with me if requested." Then you shouldn't have any issues if she's attend socials with you tbh the quick phone call wife to wife works for us x | |||
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"I don't care if the girl is married. Makes no difference to me nor if she is not married but has a man. Not bothered, just see it as a bang to me. Most girls in the night club scene got fellas, they don't care so i don't care. " Men dont care about women's partner's but women care about mens I get meets all the time Ashley doesnt get any | |||
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"Yes yes yes! I can't morally meet someone who is married but their partner doesn't know. I'd live an option to filter those people out." Me too, absolutely approve this idea! People will still lie of course, but there's not much to be done about that. | |||
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" you could also get her to add a video here maybe saying it’s ok, keep it friends only or private and send as you need so she’s not having to verify every meet.. Just an idea" That is a really good idea. We don't meet separately but would certainly accept that as showing a guy had his wife's consent. | |||
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"The ones cheating on partners are already being dishonest to them....why would they then be honest with complete strangers." that's what I don't get with the op. He opens with I'm open and honest-yet can't be that to the closest | |||
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"I'm open and honest about my marital status and message lots of couples and single ladies to find out if they are willing to interact. 99% of the time they don't which is fine. My question is would it be beneficial to have an option on profiles similar to smokers to save me and the reader the bother of messaging/reading? Or even an option to state a person married without consent so I and others could be filtered out? " Yes, would also help cheaters play with other cheaters which would suit their needs. | |||
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"On the whole it seems a good idea, but what about married members who meet singly with full knowledge and permission? " I hate to complicate matters, but' there's also the grey area of tacit, rather than explicit, permission, 'do what you want but don't let me find out'. | |||
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"The ones cheating on partners are already being dishonest to them....why would they then be honest with complete strangers. that's what I don't get with the op. He opens with I'm open and honest-yet can't be that to the closest" | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? " very very true, makes me sick there are married people on here cheating, if your not happy with your partner then end it | |||
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"Tbh, and I know I’ll probably get stick for this but why are married men women who are married and meeting other people behind their partners back even allowed on fab SWINGERS .... swinging by name is a couple swapping partners. There are hundreds of affair, cheating and just sex sites out there, so why are cheating people allowed on a swinging site? very very true, makes me sick there are married people on here cheating, if your not happy with your partner then end it " I cant speak for the cheaters. But as a married man who is open with my partner and is happy in my relationship, I can say that I am here as although I enjoy being a swinger me and my wife could never agree on couples to play with so it made it hard for us. | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea" ooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg | |||
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"I think one potential way to approach this would be that rather than have a box to tick stating you’re married (which relies on just as much honesty as currently), it would work better if there was an option to state you’re actually willing to meet people being unfaithful?... that way those that are married/attached can look for people willing to meet them more easily? Let’s be honest here, a “I’m married” box already sort of exists.... it’s when they’re single but “can not accommodate”" Not always, I had to move back home due to unforeseen circumstances and I don't think my parents would be impressed if I bought different men back for wold crazy sex!! | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg " Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! | |||
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"I have in my profile I won’t meet marrieds unless they are a couple. So if they read my very short profile, they would know. “Read your profile? Are you mad woman?” " Read your profile??? What a crazy suggestion! Isn't is easier just to send a crude message saying what they want to do to you? Lol | |||
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"On the whole it seems a good idea, but what about married members who meet singly with full knowledge and permission? It's already hard enough to get that point across without yet another filter to bang the door shut before you've had any opportunity to explain." ^^^ That.... | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! " they cheat for different reasons lol and you have a moral issue with men but not with women sorry your logic doesn't work they are either both morally wrong or not and i appreciate women are in demand and so therefore rule this site | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! they cheat for different reasons lol and you have a moral issue with men but not with women sorry your logic doesn't work they are either both morally wrong or not and i appreciate women are in demand and so therefore rule this site " I think my answwer shows quite clearly that it's not a moral reason at all but a practical one. Did you really not understand what I wrote? | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! they cheat for different reasons lol and you have a moral issue with men but not with women sorry your logic doesn't work they are either both morally wrong or not and i appreciate women are in demand and so therefore rule this site I think my answwer shows quite clearly that it's not a moral reason at all but a practical one. Did you really not understand what I wrote?" oh i understood it but having ethics that are split on the basis of gendre doesn't make sense to me it does to you obviously but not me | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! they cheat for different reasons lol and you have a moral issue with men but not with women sorry your logic doesn't work they are either both morally wrong or not and i appreciate women are in demand and so therefore rule this site I think my answwer shows quite clearly that it's not a moral reason at all but a practical one. Did you really not understand what I wrote?oh i understood it but having ethics that are split on the basis of gendre doesn't make sense to me it does to you obviously but not me " That shows you quite obviously didn't understand it. | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good ideaooooooo so you'd accept a female cheating omg Why omg? It's time people accepted that there are different rules for men and women. They are different and the way they deal with a cheating partner is different (generally). If people are going to cheat that is on them, we only care about having some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door at 3.00am accusing us of leading her poor, innocent little lamb astray! they cheat for different reasons lol and you have a moral issue with men but not with women sorry your logic doesn't work they are either both morally wrong or not and i appreciate women are in demand and so therefore rule this site I think my answwer shows quite clearly that it's not a moral reason at all but a practical one. Did you really not understand what I wrote?oh i understood it but having ethics that are split on the basis of gendre doesn't make sense to me it does to you obviously but not me That shows you quite obviously didn't understand it." lol hey it really doesn't matter in the great scheme of things you basically don't entertain guys who cheat but do women and it would seem that women who cheat are accepted for me that is wrong, i personally don't care if they cheat thats their business | |||
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"Cant see why guys not honest and up front if married then ladies can opt to meet or chat " | |||
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"Cant see why guys not honest and up front if married then ladies can opt to meet or chat " I am but it limits success and some people dont want to be judged. | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea How come? If you don't want to meet married folk (not couples) why should it matter if it's a man or woman? Am I looking at this wrong? " I think they were commenting on the very often fickle behaviour of a lot on here, they are the guardians of moral virtue when it comes to not meeting married guys, but the old red carpet is rolled out for the cheating wives and girlfriends. At the end of the day people rarely know enough about each other to really have a clue who has what status anyway, so why bother. Swinging in itself is morally and ethically wrong in the eyes of many religions and cultures and amounts to adultery, shared knowledge or not. You’re either doing it or your not, it’s up to I individuals to live with their own consciences and not for others to worry about their virtues or lack of them. Very complex issue I know but there’s some serious hypocrisy and narrow mindedness going on with some. | |||
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"On the whole it seems a good idea, but what about married members who meet singly with full knowledge and permission? It's already hard enough to get that point across without yet another filter to bang the door shut before you've had any opportunity to explain." Exactly, there’s a lot of folks can’t get their head around that, makes you wonder what sort of relationships they have sometimes. | |||
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"Totally agree with no judging I’m in a sexless relationship but enjoy sex and swinging ,no my partner has no idea so where would you suggest I go , remember if cpls are having sex with other cpls then technically your still cheating ............ just saying !! " No cheating is going against a commitment you have both decided on. Cheating a person out of a fair deal, they are honest and loyal to you and you just pretend to be- that’s cheating. Cheating isn’t about the sex, it’s about the lies and breaking someone’s trust... just saying Every couple has the right to pick and choose what they both want to commit to and what they don’t, what they agree on and what’s needs to be compromised. 2020 | |||
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"Whilst it's great idea, people would still lie about their status. Same as they do with age etc to get round filters " This | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea How come? If you don't want to meet married folk (not couples) why should it matter if it's a man or woman? Am I looking at this wrong? I think they were commenting on the very often fickle behaviour of a lot on here, they are the guardians of moral virtue when it comes to not meeting married guys, but the old red carpet is rolled out for the cheating wives and girlfriends. At the end of the day people rarely know enough about each other to really have a clue who has what status anyway, so why bother. Swinging in itself is morally and ethically wrong in the eyes of many religions and cultures and amounts to adultery, shared knowledge or not. You’re either doing it or your not, it’s up to I individuals to live with their own consciences and not for others to worry about their virtues or lack of them. Very complex issue I know but there’s some serious hypocrisy and narrow mindedness going on with some. " Couldn’t agree more I am married , Mrs meets socially some times She always knows We have verification on here but still get judged;( Why ? | |||
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"Great idea If married people only approached those they knew were interested in them it might cut down on the amount of "Why do so many people judge me for being a cheater" threads in the forums and I can (rather selfishly) go on burying my head in the sand about how easily people will cheat and think nothing of it. Because I'm not gonna lie seeing the amount of cheaters on here and their reasons for doing so has seriously made me doubt ever wanting a relationship - I don't think I could ever trust anyone now " hey it won't cut down on people's need to judge its a basic human right........ I'm better than you because | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea Why ? Is it okay for one gender and not the other ? Depends what you mean by ok. From our point of view we would meet married women but not men so, yes, it is different. " Why is it different for females? Cheating is cheating is it not? A "swinging" couple would say yes to a married woman cheating on her husband but not the other way round.... Hypocrisy at its finest | |||
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"Don't make me spank you Whistles!! " omg their are bonuses | |||
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"My wife and I have been separated for over 2 years. Other issues on her side of the family have meant we just haven't got round to divorcing yet. Would I put myself as married or single?" Single... If you're definitely not with her | |||
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"Good idea. I am married, and won’t hide the fact We are friends, which is where it’s probably gone wrong. I’m on here looking for something I don’t get at home As are many other married men and ladies. " Cool not to hide it but, are you hiding being on here from your wife ? | |||
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"People would still lie about their relationship status if it meant more success. I think it’s a bit naive to expect “honesty” or “transparency” from those lying to spouses. " As above, i don't like the idea of some poor partner totally unaware of the true state of their marriage... | |||
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"People would still lie about their relationship status if it meant more success. I think it’s a bit naive to expect “honesty” or “transparency” from those lying to spouses. As above, i don't like the idea of some poor partner totally unaware of the true state of their marriage..." That's an interesting perspective. In a good marriage how can one partner be unaware of the true state of it? I'm not being argumentative but it seems to me that if it's at the stage where one partner views the marriage completely differently to the other there are huge problems | |||
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"Good idea. I get fed up with getting abusive messages from "moralistic" swingers. " Yep I have had them to but lets put this site down to the most common denominator.... People are on here to find other people who want to fuck not long lasting relationships or love just sex.... | |||
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"As long as there are separate filters for male and female it would be a good idea Why ? Is it okay for one gender and not the other ? Depends what you mean by ok. From our point of view we would meet married women but not men so, yes, it is different. " Why? How is it different it is just being hypocritical | |||
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"Some people only want to meet married members. Sen a few profiles that prefer attached playmates. " Really ?? | |||
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"I think one potential way to approach this would be that rather than have a box to tick stating you’re married (which relies on just as much honesty as currently), it would work better if there was an option to state you’re actually willing to meet people being unfaithful?... that way those that are married/attached can look for people willing to meet them more easily? Let’s be honest here, a “I’m married” box already sort of exists.... it’s when they’re single but “can not accommodate”" End sentence is quite judgemental what about those who live with elderly parents or just have a bedsit with no privacy there could be lots of reasons.... | |||
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"My wife and I have been separated for over 2 years. Other issues on her side of the family have meant we just haven't got round to divorcing yet. Would I put myself as married or single?" That's a tricky one. Depends if you are still living together and whether you are both open about seeing other people. | |||
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"My wife and I have been separated for over 2 years. Other issues on her side of the family have meant we just haven't got round to divorcing yet. Would I put myself as married or single? That's a tricky one. Depends if you are still living together and whether you are both open about seeing other people. " My ex said because he wasn't in love with me therefore he wasn't cheating... Even though we were legally married and I had no idea he was fucking another woman and coming home to me... Excuses excuses. It takes a REAL man with decent morals to own up. So tell your wife what you're doing and have that information on your profile for prospective lovers. Accept the response you will recieve from people you message on FAB and your wife. Then at least you acted like a decent human being and was truthful to all parties involved. Only cowards need to lie. In my humble opinion about cheaters so no I won'condone it and speak on behalf of all the people that been deeply hurt by deceit, including my ex husband. | |||
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"Can anyone inform me what other sites to go on which are free to use and as good as this site." this is the best | |||
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"Can anyone inform me what other sites to go on which are free to use and as good as this site." forget the rest | |||
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