FabSwingers.com forum: Site idea: Minimum first message length

By *ophieslut OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It could be helpful for many of us to have the option of setting a minimum length limit for the first message from others that we've not messaged before. It could encourage improvements in the quality of the messages sent/received and possibly the percentage of messages that get read/replied to.

Fab couple have a default minimum size or users could specify the minimum size, when clicking to activate this, as the optional feature that it would be. Anyone could thus choose to continue as now, if it didn't appeal. It might also be a site supporter only optional feature.

Why? It can be exasperating to get loads of messages saying 'Hi babe' and little, if anything else. Whilst such possibly silly attempts come from someone who'd never be a match, it would still be better to either deter such contact from someone who's not going to communicate more fully, or instead to influence any first contact to have more thought invested in that first message.

Obviously not a panacea, as long messages may be full of horrific content but on balance likely to act as a good filter option.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Our very first meet was with someone who wrote one sentence which made us laugh, we answered and the rest is history.

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By *ichyngaynaCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH SHIELDS

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By *ichyngaynaCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH SHIELDS

"Our very first meet was with someone who wrote one sentence which made us laugh, we answered and the rest is history. "

Can i have it see if it works please lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's to stop copy n pasting your own profile,just to get the required amount of words or sentences into the message.

No,bad idea in my opinion.

A much better idea is when you respond no or no thanks,you hit a button,it stops the other person from re messaging again for a set time period,be it an hour,a day a week,whatever

No need to block

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What to stop

Hi Babes, xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx?

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By *ophieslut OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"What to stop

Hi Babes, xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx xxx?"

They could do that but a minimum message length could also stimulate people to reconsider the dross that they were going to send.

A site prompt could state something like -

USERNAME is preventing you sending a really short message, as they prefer you to include more details

It's not that short first messages are bad, that every user would have to block them as it could be optional but that longer messages are probably going to be preferable and thus reduce some of the message ping pong or ignoring that occurs.

Perhaps a user who blocks really short messages could write their own help text that pops up to the writer. What would yours say?

Would you use this short first message length block?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we wouldn't use a short message block, some of our best meets have resulted from "Hi, how are you?".

I do understand that others prefer a longer message though

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By *ravelling wonderMan
over a year ago

bridlington

Ever thought that maybe they just are been polite to start with to see if you can be arsed replying ?and then put more info if they arnt wasting their time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I take a chance and message someone (which isn't often) it tends to be relatively short.

I know that the majority of women will look at my profile and make a judgement call before even opening the message.

I'm not afraid of putting effort in, but I'm realistic in knowing I'm unlikely to get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problems with shorter messages tbh sometimes a novella just doesn't cut the mustard equally

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I prefer hi or hey to watch me wank lol I have a small inkling on here from the few forum posts about it, that guys have a hard time in the message front. So though a first message really should have a bit of effort put it and personal to the profile, I get why some guys do just say hey or hi..I still usually check profile out..but if thst hey or hi has a cock pic attached to it, that's a different kettle of fish.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I would rather a short message I can ignore than a long piece of badly written erotica or description of what will be done to me. Ignoring is easy. Finding the eye bleach can be hard work!

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

I generally write longish messages... I like to know I made an effort before being deleted unread!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I generally write longish messages... I like to know I made an effort before being deleted unread!

I'd love a deleted mail box. I only come on here using my mobile. Many times I've deleted something I havnt wanted to. You get the option pop up quickly to undo that but I dont always realise. Can have the sent box automatically deleted after a week.

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By *ophieslut OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Minimum first message size could be set at the equivalent of, say, 20 average words, whichever picked on your settings. Those happy to have any length could keep it as currently.

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