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Marking read messages as unread

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By *andM3135 OP   Couple
over a year ago

cornwall

Can the site look at removing the function of marking read messages as unread. This feature let's people ghost others and makes it look like they have not read message when in fact they did, and marked it as unread again.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

It can be handy at times though. When you open a message to ready it quickly but haven't got the time to reply properly at that time.You can mark is as unread so it acts as a reminder.

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By *andM3135 OP   Couple
over a year ago

cornwall

I thought that's what the save message function was for. Or one of them.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Ladies use the unread function so they don't get the hassle of being accused of ignoring message from single guys

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By *randMrsTeaseCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We mark the message unread untill we know both of us have read it, then we will reply. It's a handy feature but can be frustrating for those that have sent the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont check your sent messages just delete the message after youve sent it then you wont know if its read or not.. if they reply then they read it

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I use this on my couples profile, that way I can read the message, mark as unread until I have spoken to hubby. Stops us getting stroppy messages about ignoring people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, this explains why all my messages are left unread! Phew, I can sleep easy now

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I use this on my couples profile, that way I can read the message, mark as unread until I have spoken to hubby. Stops us getting stroppy messages about ignoring people."

Same here, I'd hate if this feature was removed

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

a good way to ensure both of us have read it, sometimes at different times

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Generally they're messages I plan to come back to. Stops the "you read my message yes or no" crap.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

Handy for when you get an abusive message. Read it, mark unread and delete it, keeps them guessing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it would be better for fab to remove the read/unread flag from sent items?

If you were to send a letter via royal mail, you don't know if it has been read or just thrown on the fire. We don't keep ringing the recipient asking "have you read it yet?"

Don't be a slave to your sent items. If they reply, they read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it really useful so that we don't have to respond until we've both seen it...

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It won’t change any outcome however even if they did remove it.

If I couldn’t mark a message unread I’d still just ignore it until It dropped off my inbox if I wasn’t interested in replying.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes use when i dont have time to reply and want to chat when im free and easier to find in messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We mark the message unread untill we know both of us have read it, then we will reply. It's a handy feature but can be frustrating for those that have sent the message."

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By *ertnsarahCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"We mark the message unread untill we know both of us have read it, then we will reply. It's a handy feature but can be frustrating for those that have sent the message.

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Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Removing that feature will just increase the abuse people receive on here. We got abuse just days ago for not replying quick enough. We had not even read the message yet. Great feature and long may it stay

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By *andM3135 OP   Couple
over a year ago

cornwall

OK, well we stand corrected. Didn't realise so many couples use this feature.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Removing that feature will just increase the abuse people receive on here. We got abuse just days ago for not replying quick enough. We had not even read the message yet. Great feature and long may it stay"

Experienced the same. Read message and was actually interested in the meet, so waited till I'd spoken with Mrs N after work, the torrent of abuse we received in the meantime was totally uncalled for, blocked too. Always mark unread in said situation, no abuse since.

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By *andM3135 OP   Couple
over a year ago

cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Removing that feature will just increase the abuse people receive on here. We got abuse just days ago for not replying quick enough. We had not even read the message yet. Great feature and long may it stay

Experienced the same. Read message and was actually interested in the meet, so waited till I'd spoken with Mrs N after work, the torrent of abuse we received in the meantime was totally uncalled for, blocked too. Always mark unread in said situation, no abuse since. "

We had the exact same with a couple who became abusive because we didn't mail back quick enough. Turns out said couple were well known for this. Wished we knew earlier and saved the hassle

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"OK, well we stand corrected. Didn't realise so many couples use this feature. "

Not just couples. I use it as well. Guys get stroppy whether you read their messages or not but if you read it and don’t respond some of them send another message!

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple
over a year ago

Reading

Use this all the time for messages we both need to read or go back too.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate this feature with a passion

Its extremely rude, mever know if they have read it and ignored, read it and waiting for partners response or just ignorant.

Would rather they just delete then there's no guessing.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not a couple but I often use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe some people have got such an issue with what's on this thread, they feel the need to pm a barrage of abuse and then block you.. think the OP has hit a nerve with people on this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Removing that feature will just increase the abuse people receive on here. We got abuse just days ago for not replying quick enough. We had not even read the message yet. Great feature and long may it stay

Experienced the same. Read message and was actually interested in the meet, so waited till I'd spoken with Mrs N after work, the torrent of abuse we received in the meantime was totally uncalled for, blocked too. Always mark unread in said situation, no abuse since. "

But then that shows the person in a new light! I got abuse from a guy ages ago for something similar. He'd been all politeness itself prior to this, just showed me what a temper he had when considered himself slighted, a lucky escape for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it'd be better if the sent box feature was removed. It's the cause of so much apparent suffering and trauma. Just get rid.

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