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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "
No op you’re not, just do better due dilligence.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Still open to abuse, life gets in the way and so on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd agree but that's not what this about all I'm seei_g couples and women talking time waster on my news feeds so I'm expressing my opinion on a way to fix for everyone to enjoy this place abit more. Try just reading what I put instead of assuming please

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

We did read it and gave our response.

There has been numerous posts on how fan should deal with time wasters however it normally means penalising one group of people in favour for another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought star ratings would be a good idea x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We did read it and gave our response.

There has been numerous posts on how fan should deal with time wasters however it normally means penalising one group of people in favour for another.

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That was an assumption on why I put the post up not a response on the idea I gave if it's a bad idea just say I wasn't asking why I wasn't meeting anyone.I personally don't moan on here cause it's pointless I'll get a meet when I get a meet and that's cool. My idea is based on two people agreeing to meet and confirming it on here via a link (like I said it's a rough draft) so then if they don't turn up you can come back on here an click no show (via a simular link) or what ever and if it becomes a pattern then fab can take action again said person only rather than a group. I personally think it's a cracking idea and that's all I wanted the opinion on lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always thought star ratings would be a good idea x"

Strongly agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many flaws I’m afraid OP, this dead horse has been flogged and flogged and flogged

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Why d'you think people would actually display a negative verification?

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By *orthing1Man
over a year ago

worthing

I go by verifications and how long they have been on site. Sometimes even check the verifiers in case it is another fake account verifying themselves. New or not verified are a risk and sadly often in my experience false, so a risk if you’re prepared to take. I realise if no one took the risk no one would get verified but unfortunately due to time wasters a problem we have to face. (What do they get out of it or do they just like being spoilers)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why d'you think people would actually display a negative verification?

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I mean so at least fab can be aware so they can take action it's some that would have to be tweaked a lot mines just a rough idea

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By *heRainManMan
over a year ago

Warrington & Glasgow


"I mean so at least fab can be aware so they can take action"
So exactly the same as reporting them for "Arranged meet, did not turn up"?

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "

For this to work you would need a third person to attend the meet. Someone from the admin team.

If you don’t have a witness to prove which party showed then there’s no proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Fab Admin are well aware - this is not a new issue - as long as there's been websites for meeting others, there's been reasons why meets don't go as planned.

You can already send a report to Admin about profile users who do not turn up to agreed meetings. Repeated 'no show' reports against a persistent offender will be flagged to Admin.

However, unless all communication about the planned meeting is done via the Fab inbox system, there's no way for anyone to confirm that an agreement to meet was made.

It's not Admin who need to take action, they only provide a platform for like-minded folks to connect.

Each member is responsible for their own interactions with other members - vet them more, chat longer and make sure that the intent to meet is genuine.


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I mean so at least fab can be aware so they can take action it's some that would have to be tweaked a lot mines just a rough idea"

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Too many flaws I’m afraid OP, this dead horse has been flogged and flogged and flogged"

Deader than Shergar!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I mean so at least fab can be aware so they can take actionSo exactly the same as reporting them for "Arranged meet, did not turn up"?"

Do admin bar people as a result?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here?

For this to work you would need a third person to attend the meet. Someone from the admin team.

If you don’t have a witness to prove which party showed then there’s no proof. "

Ye good point to be fare

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

There's a case for having a mutually shown meet agreement system available.

Fabber 1 and fabber 2 agree to meet before they do so each can volunteer to go through the process. This would need to be an option, rather than be a hard and fast rule for everyone.

This would mean each would agree to the meet and be subject to an investigation should the terms between the two parties be broken. The simple indicator is show and no show, no ID's need to displayed as in with veri's, just a count of either, the more shows the higher the number, likewise the same for no-shows. The more reliable the person the better the score.

If someone wants to do this, but the other isn't want to commit to this, then there is no formal agreement in place, but the one wanting this can then decide that their reluctance to do this, might mean they aren't committed to upholding the spirit of this site.

Have in place a three strikes rule maybe too. I know this isn't infallible, but any tools that help in sorting out this problem would be welcomed I believe.

Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a case for having a mutually shown meet agreement system available.

Fabber 1 and fabber 2 agree to meet before they do so each can volunteer to go through the process. This would need to be an option, rather than be a hard and fast rule for everyone.

This would mean each would agree to the meet and be subject to an investigation should the terms between the two parties be broken. The simple indicator is show and no show, no ID's need to displayed as in with veri's, just a count of either, the more shows the higher the number, likewise the same for no-shows. The more reliable the person the better the score.

If someone wants to do this, but the other isn't want to commit to this, then there is no formal agreement in place, but the one wanting this can then decide that their reluctance to do this, might mean they aren't committed to upholding the spirit of this site.

Have in place a three strikes rule maybe too. I know this isn't infallible, but any tools that help in sorting out this problem would be welcomed I believe.

Mr."

And who will do the investigation?

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"There's a case for having a mutually shown meet agreement system available.

Fabber 1 and fabber 2 agree to meet before they do so each can volunteer to go through the process. This would need to be an option, rather than be a hard and fast rule for everyone.

This would mean each would agree to the meet and be subject to an investigation should the terms between the two parties be broken. The simple indicator is show and no show, no ID's need to displayed as in with veri's, just a count of either, the more shows the higher the number, likewise the same for no-shows. The more reliable the person the better the score.

If someone wants to do this, but the other isn't want to commit to this, then there is no formal agreement in place, but the one wanting this can then decide that their reluctance to do this, might mean they aren't committed to upholding the spirit of this site.

Have in place a three strikes rule maybe too. I know this isn't infallible, but any tools that help in sorting out this problem would be welcomed I believe.

Mr.

And who will do the investigation?"
We've made it known that we are more than happy to pay a membership fee, (again to discourage time wasters, not fool proof we know) if this can fund people to be employed to do this that's fine by us.

In being free, the wasters come and go, but spoil it for those who really enjoy the spirit of the scene, by wasting peoples time and generally making it less appealing to stay, which is a shame.

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By *unones72Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

This is why we prefer to meet in clubs, we always post if we’re meeting and where we’re going and then come 200 messages saying can we meet, can you hold my hand from the car park blah blah! There’s prob 2-3 times someone actually met us there and come said hi and we’ve gone from there.

Couples can be as flaky too can’t just blame the single men/women! We always tell them if they haven’t got the balls to come meet us in a club then it’s unlikely they have the intesntion to meet, instead are just fanstasists wanting to get off on what you like doing ha!

Then there’s the old, “Sorry I can’t make it now, I’ve stood on a piece of Lego!”

I know clubs aren’t everyone’s thing for a variety of reasons, cost or just shy. We prefer it and can pick who we play with when we meet people at clubs! Never had a shit night to be honest!

Happy Swinging folks x

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"This is why we prefer to meet in clubs, we always post if we’re meeting and where we’re going and then come 200 messages saying can we meet, can you hold my hand from the car park blah blah! There’s prob 2-3 times someone actually met us there and come said hi and we’ve gone from there.

Couples can be as flaky too can’t just blame the single men/women! We always tell them if they haven’t got the balls to come meet us in a club then it’s unlikely they have the intesntion to meet, instead are just fanstasists wanting to get off on what you like doing ha!

Then there’s the old, “Sorry I can’t make it now, I’ve stood on a piece of Lego!”

I know clubs aren’t everyone’s thing for a variety of reasons, cost or just shy. We prefer it and can pick who we play with when we meet people at clubs! Never had a shit night to be honest!

Happy Swinging folks x"

THat is a great point, and yes you are rights about it not just being about the singles. With couples there only needs one to get cold feet, and that has happened to us. Like you say in clubs people are going to be there, it is tricky though not knowing about some that you meet there.

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By *unones72Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"This is why we prefer to meet in clubs, we always post if we’re meeting and where we’re going and then come 200 messages saying can we meet, can you hold my hand from the car park blah blah! There’s prob 2-3 times someone actually met us there and come said hi and we’ve gone from there.

Couples can be as flaky too can’t just blame the single men/women! We always tell them if they haven’t got the balls to come meet us in a club then it’s unlikely they have the intesntion to meet, instead are just fanstasists wanting to get off on what you like doing ha!

Then there’s the old, “Sorry I can’t make it now, I’ve stood on a piece of Lego!”

I know clubs aren’t everyone’s thing for a variety of reasons, cost or just shy. We prefer it and can pick who we play with when we meet people at clubs! Never had a shit night to be honest!

Happy Swinging folks x

THat is a great point, and yes you are rights about it not just being about the singles. With couples there only needs one to get cold feet, and that has happened to us. Like you say in clubs people are going to be there, it is tricky though not knowing about some that you meet there."

We avoid Couple only nights tbh, don’t get me wrong we’ve gone with other couples we know and had a belter but usually it’s like being sat in Spoons all chatting! We’re usually the first upstairs so one or two follow ha! I think we’re just good judge of characters never had a bad experience tbh! We pick and choose who joins us but we’re confident and polite enough to say no thanks if its not for us. We seldom chat with a view to meeting when in a club sometimes we like a good gab but we normally go playing and see who pops their head round the door! Goes from there ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is going to police it. Could it be the Fab anti repetitive timewasting service. The acronym could be FARTS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "

If they did that to people then they should be reported and hopefully admin would act accordingly. But who says they are timewasters?. Genuine people or just someone who's maybe been told no for whatever reason. How would admin determine that the people reporting said profile aren't doing it out of spite etc. Admin would need to read private messages,even though they probably do ha. Lot of work in my opinion. But i Lexi agree. Something needs to be done. This place is going downhill fast. But any real couples who would like to not have to worry about timewasters then pm us as we've got something all of you would like. Fact. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually like the idea. Ik its rough but can be cleverly implemented.

Just a way to visibly show to others who is a time waster but is done in such a way that cant be exploited by trolls

I get the concept of what you're saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on this site over a month and quickly learned it’s all smoke and mirrors lots of fake accounts and people who let you down last minute can be very frustrating as we are straight, but hey you can’t stick a gun to somebody’s head and force them to meet. Having a lot of fake profiles on here don’t help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloke A meets Lady B

They don't get on.

Bloke A leaves negative feedback.

Lady B speaks to all her friends who decide to leave lots of negative feedback on Bloke A.

Never underestimate the power of a White Knight and a Woman Scorned...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'd agree but that's not what this about all I'm seei_g couples and women talking time waster on my news feeds so I'm expressing my opinion on a way to fix for everyone to enjoy this place abit more. Try just reading what I put instead of assuming please"

Feedback fo the OP

"Arranged to meet what I initially thought was a lovely guy, however soon discovered through other fabbers that he's ghosted several people before not turning up for our meet. No word from him, now a hidden profile."

Do you see what I just did OP? See how easy this could be abused? ** Please note everyone, there was no arrangement to meet between myself and the OP, this is an example. **

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd agree but that's not what this about all I'm seei_g couples and women talking time waster on my news feeds so I'm expressing my opinion on a way to fix for everyone to enjoy this place abit more. Try just reading what I put instead of assuming please

Feedback fo the OP

"Arranged to meet what I initially thought was a lovely guy, however soon discovered through other fabbers that he's ghosted several people before not turning up for our meet. No word from him, now a hidden profile."

Do you see what I just did OP? See how easy this could be abused? ** Please note everyone, there was no arrangement to meet between myself and the OP, this is an example. **"

There's a flaw in many plans but tweaked perfectly by the powers that be can be excicuted well people have put some good examples of ways it can be done properly one thing I do reckon this should be a paid membership site that would cut time wasters dramatically I know I'd pay to stay on here mainly because I think the community on here is brilliant most people are decent good people.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Bloke A meets Lady B

They don't get on.

Bloke A leaves negative feedback.

Lady B speaks to all her friends who decide to leave lots of negative feedback on Bloke A.

Never underestimate the power of a White Knight and a Woman Scorned..."

Yup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common sense,works for us,never met a time waster yet.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"Common sense,works for us."

life sometimes gets in the way but a quick phone call sorts most problems out , so now you are going to say we are not giving out numbers we use our fab phone payg..which we find strange as when you meet at you going to stay dumb or chat ? ccj

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP? "

Who's rattled your cage? If you read the thread you'd know I haven't ask for help just getting opinions don't really know why your so touchy over it lol

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP?

Who's rattled your cage? If you read the thread you'd know I haven't ask for help just getting opinions don't really know why your so touchy over it lol "

That was the OPs opinion.

One most of the successful and sensible people share as it happens.

Too many people rushing to get their dicks wet and holes filled instead of building a bit of rapport and trust first. Due diligence and common sense. Simples.

That's my opinion.

I've never been troubled by time wasters and fakes.

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "
you will never stop the idiots/timewasters just report /block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a case for having a mutually shown meet agreement system available.

Fabber 1 and fabber 2 agree to meet before they do so each can volunteer to go through the process. This would need to be an option, rather than be a hard and fast rule for everyone.

This would mean each would agree to the meet and be subject to an investigation should the terms between the two parties be broken. The simple indicator is show and no show, no ID's need to displayed as in with veri's, just a count of either, the more shows the higher the number, likewise the same for no-shows. The more reliable the person the better the score.

If someone wants to do this, but the other isn't want to commit to this, then there is no formal agreement in place, but the one wanting this can then decide that their reluctance to do this, might mean they aren't committed to upholding the spirit of this site.

Have in place a three strikes rule maybe too. I know this isn't infallible, but any tools that help in sorting out this problem would be welcomed I believe.

Mr."

This sounds good

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

All systems are open to abuse and people will find ways to get round any checks which are put in place. We all have different opinions on what is considered a time waster for us it is somebody who fails to turn up but others say it is somebody who won't set a date to meet and so on.

All you can do is develop your own system based on your experiences and gut instinct that is what we do.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"All systems are open to abuse and people will find ways to get round any checks which are put in place. We all have different opinions on what is considered a time waster for us it is somebody who fails to turn up but others say it is somebody who won't set a date to meet and so on.

All you can do is develop your own system based on your experiences and gut instinct that is what we do."

This.

Gut instinct and common sense.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

It’s supply and demand.

If there’s a market for it, it will happen

When people stop falling for it, they will get bored and do something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this site works really well, the fact it's free and discreet will appeal to many, myself included.

I have only ever been resisted with the FAB sites, I have also found the level of timewasters (people who arrange to meet and don't turn up, or people who disappear off of the system after arranging something) to be greater than ever. I think there are a lot of people who perhaps just play with the idea of meeting up but can't bring themselves to do it, also there are many in constant search of that person who's just a bit "better" than the last one they spoke to, they then of course never meet anyone at all.

What's the solution? Fab do remove people from the site or give warnings etc, perhaps this helps to some degree, time and time again these users return with a new profile though and start the process again.

My best guess is the fact this is a free site will attract more timewasters. I think if you had to set up and pay a more substantial subscription fee, many of the timewasters wouldn't set up in the first place.

I'm not suggesting Fab do this of course, the site works well as it is, as a free site though, I think these timewaster issues will be more prevalent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make the site a pay site, at least £40 a month. Maybe reduce the cost for every verification until free ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who is really going to show a bad verification? No one!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Who is really going to show a bad verification? No one! "

Brighton Steve.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Make the site a pay site, at least £40 a month. Maybe reduce the cost for every verification until free ?"

Now ask how many people will leave if the monthly fee is £40.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Make the site a pay site, at least £40 a month. Maybe reduce the cost for every verification until free ?

Now ask how many people will leave if the monthly fee is £40."
maybe a one off fee of a similar amount will deter many, but not as a monthly fee, which will see lots of people who use this place as intended not stay.

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By *agluvrMan
over a year ago

Airdrie


"Still open to abuse, life gets in the way and so on.

"

There are times when life does get in the way. However, if two people arranged to meet and one didn’t show up and didn’t give any sort of explanation then you could reasonably assume that that person was a time waster. I’m sure we’ve all had meets that have been cancelled at the last minute as the result of something genuine coming up (pun intended) but to just not show up is very rude and disrespectful.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

we have had people who got cold feet..but still managed to meet a few days later after the butterflys.

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Well from my experience even multi verified can be time wasters... in one case just could not be bothered to cancel a meet and just did not turn up

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Still open to abuse, life gets in the way and so on.

There are times when life does get in the way. However, if two people arranged to meet and one didn’t show up and didn’t give any sort of explanation then you could reasonably assume that that person was a time waster. I’m sure we’ve all had meets that have been cancelled at the last minute as the result of something genuine coming up (pun intended) but to just not show up is very rude and disrespectful. "

I've never had a no show for a meet.

Not even had a cancellation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think I would leave fab if this was to come in to play, and if you look at my veris I am not a time waster. I meet!! The thing is, people should always have the right, even at the last minute to change their mind and not be pressurized into something they don't want to do, end of story. This should be communicated in good time, i.e before the person has been inconvenienced. But changing your mind does not mean you are a time waster. As a single girl account on here we get a lot of pressure ... don't ever feel you have to do something you don't want to, it's your life, your body, your fab account xxx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP?

Who's rattled your cage? If you read the thread you'd know I haven't ask for help just getting opinions don't really know why your so touchy over it lol "

I'm not. But you can't beat due diligence. Fab is just a platform to meet others. There is already a report function for no shows which works perfectly well. I think admin have enough to do as it is. Remember they are all volunteers.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP?

Who's rattled your cage? If you read the thread you'd know I haven't ask for help just getting opinions don't really know why your so touchy over it lol

I'm not. But you can't beat due diligence. Fab is just a platform to meet others. There is already a report function for no shows which works perfectly well. I think admin have enough to do as it is. Remember they are all volunteers. "

I still think some people are in too much of a rush to get their knob wet or their fanny filled to do the due diligence.

I'm willing to bet the people who moan are in a rush to meet and the people who don't moan don't rush.

Maybe I'm lucky, but I don't seem to suffer like many people do.

There's got to be a reason....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's called doing your research and using some common sense. Why should people expect admin to do everything for them? Do they need to arrange meets for you as well OP?

Who's rattled your cage? If you read the thread you'd know I haven't ask for help just getting opinions don't really know why your so touchy over it lol

I'm not. But you can't beat due diligence. Fab is just a platform to meet others. There is already a report function for no shows which works perfectly well. I think admin have enough to do as it is. Remember they are all volunteers.

I still think some people are in too much of a rush to get their knob wet or their fanny filled to do the due diligence.

I'm willing to bet the people who moan are in a rush to meet and the people who don't moan don't rush.

Maybe I'm lucky, but I don't seem to suffer like many people do.

There's got to be a reason....

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I chat to people a lot before deciding whether to meet them or not and don't take things off site. If they start pushing for a meet, it doesn't happen. Unfortunately there will always be ghosts and no shows.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "

What's your idea of a time waster OP?

Can you define it by your experience in the 4 weeks you've been here?

We may be able to offer some subjective ideas to help you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make the site a pay site, at least £40 a month. Maybe reduce the cost for every verification until free ?"

What a ridiculous idea. There are sites out there that charge loads of pounds and they are populated with more time wasters than this one. I can't name the one I have in mind but begins with S and ends in C. We've tried it on a couple of occasions and it is nearly a complete waste of time. I say nearly as we once had some success on it with a meet in Amsterdam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete their messages.

Block them.

Move on.

Job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People dont turn up for a variety of reasons nerves, general change of mind, there cheats and back out, fanacists or fakes.

We always turn up however if the need arises we'd cancel last minuite.

It's our choice who we have sex with, if we meet someone and there not for us we're telling them. were not having sex just because we've agreed to meet and fab has a raitings system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People dont turn up for a variety of reasons nerves, general change of mind, there cheats and back out, fanacists or fakes.

We always turn up however if the need arises we'd cancel last minuite.

It's our choice who we have sex with, if we meet someone and there not for us we're telling them. were not having sex just because we've agreed to meet and fab has a raitings system "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. A one off registration fee then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't give someone your number or they will text you forever and nothing moves on.

If they serious you have a free message system here, use it then when meet arrange exchange numbers.

They don't need your number until you plan to meet.

Cuts out the dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ridiculous ? Compared to what, a site where I can join an infinite amount of times, pretending to be any age/sex, single or couple all for free with nothing to stop me ?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Many of the "problems" people have on Fab could be so easily avoided by use of filters and common sense.

Instead of expecting the site to fix your problems, why not use the tools the site gives you, due diligence and an ounce of gumption?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd agree but that's not what this about all I'm seei_g couples and women talking time waster on my news feeds so I'm expressing my opinion on a way to fix for everyone to enjoy this place abit more. Try just reading what I put instead of assuming please"

Agree and understand your feelings on this matter but this is one way that would be definetly open to abuse and some genuine fabers could be victimised with no fault of their own

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been accused of being a fake several times, I suspect even reported to that effect. The only times I've ever missed an agreed to meet (that I agreed to, not someone telling me it was going to happen, lol) is when I had a damn good reason. And I told the people as soon as I knew.

I think people just need to do their due diligence and take their chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been accused of being a fake several times, I suspect even reported to that effect. The only times I've ever missed an agreed to meet (that I agreed to, not someone telling me it was going to happen, lol) is when I had a damn good reason. And I told the people as soon as I knew.

I think people just need to do their due diligence and take their chances. "

Agreed.

I genuinely hardly arrange meets as I would rather see my kids.eg some wants to meet me next Saturday but I can't as my son might wanna see me.

I realise that our life's are far more important outside of fab so if someone does cancel then I don't get upset, I'm actually kl with it thinking it must be an important reason.

If anyone does not show up then just learn from it although I normally chat for a while beforehand, asking what I feel are the right questions and if I feel confident enough about that person then I will arrange to meet.

As I said this method from the Op would be fantastic but is definetly open to abuse and I would not expect fab to look any further into this idea due to it being abused in this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There should be a way to get rid of time wasters on here say if they received a few negative veris regarding time wasting soon get rid of a few or Could set up a meets request link and both could agree to it then it's proven that your a time waster if you don't turn up saves people doing fake ones that way. This is just a rough idea that would have to be tweaked obviously to work but it's a rough draft so to speak lol what you guys think? Am I on to something here? "
It's too rough and drafty

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