FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys

By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Many ladies and couples keep the single guy filter on, ourselves included.

Some single guys feel they would a match and wish they could send a message, but can't.

How about a new button that can be switched on or off by the profile holder, that allows (only) single guys to send the equivalent of a wink while still being unable to send a message?

That way the profile holder can (in their own time) check the profiles of these guys and get in touch if they are interested.

Benefits include:

PH doesn't receive hundreds of messages.

PH already knows which profiles to look through when looking for guys.

Guys can express an interest and allow their presence to be known.

We appreciate the search function is available, but this just seems an easier way to look for single guys where everyone would have an advantage.

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By *oopy097Man
over a year ago

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As a single guy i say yes! It also filters out the cock pics

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

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If it said single guys we find you i wouldnt message it would stink of desperation us single guys get a tough time as it is i wouldnt bother

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"If it said single guys we find you i wouldnt message it would stink of desperation us single guys get a tough time as it is i wouldnt bother "

You would prefer to wait until someone searches through hundreds of profiles and messages you out of them all?

Or would you rather let them know you've read their profile and would like them to consider you?

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

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"If it said single guys we find you i wouldnt message it would stink of desperation us single guys get a tough time as it is i wouldnt bother

You would prefer to wait until someone searches through hundreds of profiles and messages you out of them all?

Or would you rather let them know you've read their profile and would like them to consider you?

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some couples are quite nasty when you contact them maybe as they stated that they will contact you and you have ignored this they feel they are entitled and you are somehow desperate i dont know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many ladies and couples keep the single guy filter on, ourselves included.

Some single guys feel they would a match and wish they could send a message, but can't.

How about a new button that can be switched on or off by the profile holder, that allows (only) single guys to send the equivalent of a wink while still being unable to send a message?

That way the profile holder can (in their own time) check the profiles of these guys and get in touch if they are interested.

Benefits include:

PH doesn't receive hundreds of messages.

PH already knows which profiles to look through when looking for guys.

Guys can express an interest and allow their presence to be known.

We appreciate the search function is available, but this just seems an easier way to look for single guys where everyone would have an advantage.

I think ur on to something with this! Brill idea!!!

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"I think ur on to something with this! Brill idea!!!

Thank you

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

That's a great idea. That's sort of how I do it at the moment. If I read a profile and I'm interested but they have single guys well find you 9n their profile, I simply send a wink and if they're interested they will usually message saying thanks and introduce themselves...

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"If it said single guys we find you i wouldnt message it would stink of desperation us single guys get a tough time as it is i wouldnt bother

You would prefer to wait until someone searches through hundreds of profiles and messages you out of them all?

Or would you rather let them know you've read their profile and would like them to consider you?

some couples are quite nasty when you contact them maybe as they stated that they will contact you and you have ignored this they feel they are entitled and you are somehow desperate i dont know "

That's the idea behind this new button. Ladies and couples can keep the filter in place. If they don't want contact by single guys at all then they can keep the button off too.

But by switching it on, they are saying they ARE interested in single guys, just not right now.

This would also help stop any of the nastiness you are speaking of.

The alternatives are for them to

a) Switch off the filter and deal with the hundreds of messages that inevitably arrive, mostly from guys they will have no interest in or

b) Search through dozens of male profiles and hope to find someone compatible, and then have to find out whether that person might be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The alternatives are for them to

a) Switch off the filter and deal with the hundreds of messages that inevitably arrive, mostly from guys they will have no interest in or

b) Search through dozens of male profiles and hope to find someone compatible, and then have to find out whether that person might be interested.

But wouldn't we then just get hundreds of winks instead, and still have to look through loads of profiles to see who appeals.

At least with a message you can often tell if they appeal or not even without opening it.

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

Yip sounds like a plan i do understand couples getting swamped with single guys i was a couple for a while and we got the same and not all couples are arrogant n nasty iv met some smashing couples on this n preveous profiles i just tend to meet at socoals clubs or when abrode

Good luck x

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

" But wouldn't we then just get hundreds of winks instead, and still have to look through loads of profiles to see who appeals.

At least with a message you can often tell if they appeal or not even without opening it. "

That's a valid point but I don't think that would happen. In our experience most of these messages are from guys expecting an instant meet. If they know they are unlikely to receive a response until whenever the profile holder is ready, and it could be months, it is far less likely they will "try their luck".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the fab button that 'fabs' pictures is also a version of who's looked at you.If the fabs are turned on I can see who has sent me a nod saying "nice pic"-while it might not be the fabs function..but it does allow you to commence communication if desired.

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"the fab button that 'fabs' pictures is also a version of who's looked at you.If the fabs are turned on I can see who has sent me a nod saying "nice pic"-while it might not be the fabs function..but it does allow you to commence communication if desired."

Very true, and I'm sure many use the fab a pic feature for the same reason. But some people consider a fabbed pic to be just that- an appreciation of the photo.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

The alternatives are for them to

a) Switch off the filter and deal with the hundreds of messages that inevitably arrive, mostly from guys they will have no interest in or

b) Search through dozens of male profiles and hope to find someone compatible, and then have to find out whether that person might be interested.

But wouldn't we then just get hundreds of winks instead, and still have to look through loads of profiles to see who appeals.

At least with a message you can often tell if they appeal or not even without opening it. "

Exactly this.

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

The alternatives are for them to

a) Switch off the filter and deal with the hundreds of messages that inevitably arrive, mostly from guys they will have no interest in or

b) Search through dozens of male profiles and hope to find someone compatible, and then have to find out whether that person might be interested.

But wouldn't we then just get hundreds of winks instead, and still have to look through loads of profiles to see who appeals.

At least with a message you can often tell if they appeal or not even without opening it.

Exactly this. "

I don't think so. Please see my reply above. Also, if the number of times per month the button could be used is limited then it wouldnt make any sense to "waste" them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it said single guys we find you i wouldnt message it would stink of desperation us single guys get a tough time as it is i wouldnt bother

You would prefer to wait until someone searches through hundreds of profiles and messages you out of them all?

Or would you rather let them know you've read their profile and would like them to consider you?

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awwww I would feel honoured and extremely grateful that I got that opportunity

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

I actually think it is a great idea

I often find this text on profiles and think wow our interests are a perfect match..

sometimes too the age filters mean I'm literally just outside their range and if woul be nice.

Maybe Fab could amend the wink function or introduce a 'Wave'.

Site supporters could have ten winks or waves a month that can be sent to any other member.

The limit would make them mean more and ensure that they are used wisely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually think it is a great idea

I often find this text on profiles and think wow our interests are a perfect match..

sometimes too the age filters mean I'm literally just outside their range and if woul be nice.

Maybe Fab could amend the wink function or introduce a 'Wave'.

Site supporters could have ten winks or waves a month that can be sent to any other member.

The limit would make them mean more and ensure that they are used wisely

I"
ooooo a wave I like that idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Yep,I agree, fabbing a pic does the same as a wink. ie nothing haha. Still it let's someone know that their pics are appreciated.

Men tend to get their pics fabbed by other men they have no interest in. A big thank you to all the queers out there.

To me,"single men,we'll find you" means don't ring us we'll ring you. ie don't bother hoping the phonesever gonna ring. Move along...next.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Why is it only the guys think this is a good idea on this thread?

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

As someone who respects people’s choices and does not like to pester, this does appeal to me. I take something of a passive role, even when I’ve been viewed numerous times by couples who state “not looking for single guys” I wait to let them message me and it does happen. Going through all the profiles to find the decent ones, is a task. I’ve had that same issue when I’ve had couple profiles.

Probably the reason that so many males have responded in the affirmative, is that as decent guys, this makes sense. Bear in mind too, that this thread was begun by a couple not a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep,I agree, fabbing a pic does the same as a wink. ie nothing haha. Still it let's someone know that their pics are appreciated.

Men tend to get their pics fabbed by other men they have no interest in. A big thank you to all the queers out there.

To me,"single men,we'll find you" means don't ring us we'll ring you. ie don't bother hoping the phonesever gonna ring. Move along...next."

I usually check out a person's profile if they fab my pics. More so than if they just wink at me.

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"I usually check out a person's profile if they fab my pics. More so than if they just wink at me. "

You don't have the single guy filter in place though. We don't receive winks or messages from single guys because of this. We don't always know who fabbed our pics because we are only notified for 24 hours.

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"Why is it only the guys think this is a good idea on this thread?"

Perhaps because in theory the "wave" (as it now seems to have become) could help sort the good guys from the bad?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Why is it only the guys think this is a good idea on this thread?

Perhaps because in theory the "wave" (as it now seems to have become) could help sort the good guys from the bad?

I'm not sure that it would make much difference as they would all be using this facility to try and get attention tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps have alternative sets of filters for messages and winks. That way a person could decide to block winks from everyone they block messages from but, alternatively, could block messages from single men but accept winks from them. Presumably a fairly simple change technically speaking too?

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"Why is it only the guys think this is a good idea on this thread?

Perhaps because in theory the "wave" (as it now seems to have become) could help sort the good guys from the bad?

I'm not sure that it would make much difference as they would all be using this facility to try and get attention tbh. "

That's exactly the idea, but with its use being limited to just 10 or 15 times a month guys are more likely to use it sensibly.

And of course, the function can always be switched off and would therefore make absolutely no difference to the way things work at present.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

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Always thought a fabbed pic was the equivalent of this.

Just look through who has fabbed your pics and you find out who is interested.

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

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Need to disagree mate lots couples fab my profile but says on theirs not interested in single males i can block males, females, but cant block couples who are not interested in single males with blocking couples who are so they have complete access to nosey about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it only the guys think this is a good idea on this thread?"
I was being ironic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What annoys me is people saying just looking for women or couples but leaving it open for single guys to message and having single guy veris then giving abuse.

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

I tend not to message unless they message me mate your only i giving them the chance to dish out verbal i stick to socials then see if there a spark you prob want to meet first anyway In their defence they prob do get a lot of fake arseholes message them iv been a couple i know but some are just nasty for sake of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading through this i now realise why after being a part of fab for a week ive had hardly any of my msgs replied to. Its cause idiots before me have messed it up for everyone. I am recently single and have been looking for good company more than anything. Its a real shame that some men dnt know how to behave and have put so many people off. Thinking of shutting my account down already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The alternatives are for them to

a) Switch off the filter and deal with the hundreds of messages that inevitably arrive, mostly from guys they will have no interest in or

b) Search through dozens of male profiles and hope to find someone compatible, and then have to find out whether that person might be interested.

But wouldn't we then just get hundreds of winks instead, and still have to look through loads of profiles to see who appeals.

At least with a message you can often tell if they appeal or not even without opening it.

Exactly this. "

I'm up for this x

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

"After reading through this i now realise why after being a part of fab for a week ive had hardly any of my msgs replied to. Its cause idiots before me have messed it up for everyone. I am recently single and have been looking for good company more than anything. Its a real shame that some men dnt know how to behave and have put so many people off. Thinking of shutting my account down already. "
mate this is good for banter in the forums and putting your name down for socials best way to meet honest iv met some great folk here and last profile clubs are good too but be prepared as in some clubs single guys follow couples about and does look creepy but you do still me nice couples and fems aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice mate.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

"Many ladies and couples keep the single guy filter on, ourselves included.

Some single guys feel they would a match and wish they could send a message, but can't.

How about a new button that can be switched on or off by the profile holder, that allows (only) single guys to send the equivalent of a wink while still being unable to send a message?

That way the profile holder can (in their own time) check the profiles of these guys and get in touch if they are interested.

Benefits include:

PH doesn't receive hundreds of messages.

PH already knows which profiles to look through when looking for guys.

Guys can express an interest and allow their presence to be known.

We appreciate the search function is available, but this just seems an easier way to look for single guys where everyone would have an advantage.

Sounds good to me - anything that gives the site more optionality is great!

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

The overall idea seems to be well received by the guys as MrsGivesWood pointed out, but it would be interesting to hear from other couples and ladies. Let's face it, without their support the whole thing becomes pointless.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *akeb7722Man
over a year ago

weston-super-mare

I use the wink a lot to give my interest and go from there, but yes that button would work quite well i think

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What annoys me is people saying just looking for women or couples but leaving it open for single guys to message and having single guy veris then giving abuse. "

Then don't message if it says not looking for single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I'm a single guy ..

I can't see a benefit to this .there's the obvious flaw..and here's why..

The guy instead of messaging or winking presses the new button .. "he thinks he's a match " that doesn't mean you are. You could have 100's of these and zero are from who you seek you'd still need to search yourself...it also doesn't stop the spam cut and paste bloke pressing the button on every profile with the option I see zero benefit..for anyone.

If couples or whoever is interested in meeting single guys be proactive look for who you seek after all yout know who you're looking for the type of guy you like..

Here's my top tip for couples and single ladies the guys you might be interested in are possibly out there meeting folk already ..you might have to upo your game to entice them..

It's often said (often to guys) the more effort you put in the greater your rewards..

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By *offee with Milk OP Couple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"The guy instead of messaging or winking presses the new button .. "he thinks he's a match " that doesn't mean you are.

True. He can't message or wink with the filter in place, so he fabs a pic or two and hopes for the best. 24 hours later the notification that a pic has been fabbed is gone and the profile holder is none the wiser.

" You could have 100's of these and zero are from who you seek you'd still need to search yourself..."

You would have to have a seriously sexy profile to get hundreds of these since each guy is limited to only 10 per month.

" it also doesn't stop the spam cut and paste bloke pressing the button on every profile with the option "

That could happen but only to the first ten profiles, then the guy would have to wait a month before he could try again. Such actions would get him nowhere.

" I see zero benefit..for anyone.

If couples or whoever is interested in meeting single guys be proactive look for who you seek after all yout know who you're looking for the type of guy you like.. "

But they would not be interested at the moment, which is why the filter is in place. When they are ready to meet guys, they will already have a head start by knowing who is interested.

"Here's my top tip for couples and single ladies the guys you might be interested in are possibly out there meeting folk already ..you might have to upo your game to entice them..

It's often said (often to guys) the more effort you put in the greater your rewards.. "

Even with this in place, we would still be proactive, but we can also be reactive.

Of course the option isn't going to appeal to everyone which is why it can be switched off and then fab reverts back to its old familiar self.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

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"The guy instead of messaging or winking presses the new button .. "he thinks he's a match " that doesn't mean you are.

Why does he definitely fab a picture ?? You're jumping to a huge conclusion there and even if he did use the fab for that purpose he can do it again if he wishes..

You could have 100's of these and zero are from who you seek you'd still need to search yourself...

You would have to have a seriously sexy profile to get hundreds of these since each guy is limited to only 10 per month.

it also doesn't stop the spam cut and paste bloke pressing the button on every profile with the option

That could happen but only to the first ten profiles, then the guy would have to wait a month before he could try again. Such actions would get him nowhere.

And what happens to let say you're number 11 and he's the perfect match for you.. you'll have no contact ..

I see zero benefit..for anyone.

If couples or whoever is interested in meeting single guys be proactive look for who you seek after all yout know who you're looking for the type of guy you like..

But they would not be interested at the moment, which is why the filter is in place. When they are ready to meet guys, they will already have a head start by knowing who is interested.

So when you're ready start searching my original point stands the waving winker fabber dabber might not interest you.. zero benefit .. if folk have filters in place preventing messages contact any right minded person moves swiftly to the next profile rather than being fabbedabberdosy and waiting for the profile to maybe contact them in the future when and if they feel like it.. I'd rather initiate contact with folk who are wanting to communicate than one that might.

Here's my top tip for couples and single ladies the guys you might be interested in are possibly out there meeting folk already ..you might have to upo your game to entice them..

It's often said (often to guys) the more effort you put in the greater your rewards..

Even with this in place, we would still be proactive, but we can also be reactive.

And so can the guy he's messaging folk proactively and reacting to messages he receives.. folk forget guys have choice as well.

Of course the option isn't going to appeal to everyone which is why it can be switched off and then fab reverts back to its old familiar self. "

I'll say it again.. effort in reward out ..

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