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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

after all the recent hastles with newbies in chat rooms alot of my friends have been talkin bout leavin site....

after talkin them round we tried to think of a solution.... wot we came up with woz a points system

newbies banned from chat rooms till they had accued a certain ammount of points... those points being awarded for things like forum posts.. inboxes sent/replied to...

also thot of a 3 strike system .. 3 bans and ur banned from chat rooms for a certain length of time

in no way is this a complaint bout the chat mods... they try theyre v best to keep up with wots goin on... but wen u see ppl banned, then return and continue with the same stuff that got em banned it does become v tiresome for those that stick to the rules.

nothin will prob come of this thread, but as i said alot of the regulars i know are thinkin of deletin their accounts, and as its been those ppl that have made this site wot it is surely it b best to support them instead of lettin others ruin after all wot is a fantastic site

well thanks for readin, all respectfull ideas/comments on this subject r welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ell said mr sun... agree with all that you say..... would only say not very good on newbies as they aint allowed to post on forums until they are verified and they find it hard enough to be replied to when they new as it is... sometimes chat room is only way for them to communicate with other members!!

but all in all a very good point made.. sick and tired of all the bullshitters in the room.. it puts people off.....

mrs hoops 2p worth

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well in that case id say let them into forums to earn the points... easier for mods to see wot kind of person they r if they have to put msgs here than trawling thru chat log to check on complaints

thx for ur post mrs hoops x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a post in the forum that the newbies have to chat in b4 they are allowed in the chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we need something... feel sorry for the poor good newbies...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we need something... feel sorry for the poor good newbies...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i wouldnt restrict them to a single forum.. let them add to any forum they wish.

it wud let them introduce themselfs to members and allow them to learn the rules and ways of Fab.. instead of throwin them in at the deep end in chat

ty for ur comment katy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes mrs aasex.. the good newbies are being tarred by the ones causing the trouble.

and its also ruinin an otherwise gr8 site for those that have been here a while.

ty for ur reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i have to say good thinking and why not it might stop all the hasel on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it might not stop it but hey worth a try

ty for replyin zoe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree with a points system mr sun hun,

having been on receiving end the past few nites after only recently returning to chat due to all the crap that was going on with newbies .

i took a break and just popped in for 10 during the day .

i do miss my friends and our chats late at nite an when having a laugh it is then disrupted by some, not all major idiots who wont take no for an answer . or who persist on being rude and obnoxious in to the bargain.

this however does reflect badly on those that are new and try to keep to the rules but yes something must be done about it .

sioux's 2p worth xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we all miss ya too sioux x and thanx for replying x

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I think it can be just a photo verification that lets you post in the forums along with waiting 3 days from setting up a profile

I think it would help if it was the same for chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there should be a wait to be allowed access into chat the same as there is a wait for forums, one thing this does is stop people causing hasstle on chat then creating another id to come back in under and cause more hasstle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

that could work too and thx for takin time to read and reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why dont people send more time swinging instead of moaning about new people ?????

anyone u dont like block and report if they hassle you. u want it like a mini cyber prison

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"why dont people send more time swinging instead of moaning about new people ?????

anyone u dont like block and report if they hassle you. u want it like a mini cyber prison"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we all miss ya too sioux x and thanx for replying x"

awwww fanx mr sun hun its been emotional whit can i say noo xxxxx but im glad tae be back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why dont people send more time swinging instead of moaning about new people ?????

anyone u dont like block and report if they hassle you. u want it like a mini cyber prison"

Tell it like it is Miss, there are some seriously sad folk in this swinging world

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

Thanks for this feedback:

So we can get a full understanding of the problem. What sort of a pain are newbies being in chat? Are you/others reporting them? Are they breaking rules?

Are mods stepping in?

If we need to do things to make this issue better then that's what we'll do but we need to fully understand it first.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not 100% sure how the points system would work or be managed etc, but in my opinion the moderation system needs an overhaul....

Mods' power, (and I'm a mod), has gone from one extreme to the other...

At one point in time on the old site, if a mod banned someone - they were banned - end of story, until the ban was physically lifted, now it's gone the other way - the maximum ban we can give is 4hrs whereafter the member automatically is allowed back into chat. In most cases that system works fine but there are times when bigger teeth are required.

Whilst I certainly don't advocate mod bullying or abuse of power, I feel that we should, as well as our existing power to ban, have the power of a 24 & 48 hrs ban, plus a "Refer to Admin" option. For example, if someone is being a real pain in the arse, slap a 24 or 48hr ban on them to allow a bit of breathing space, then refer it to Admin with the request for a total ban ..

Of course the ban happy mods - and there are SOME - would also need to be attended to and reminded of why they are here - all in all, with a bit of thought, the moderation system could run like a Swiss watch and hopefully nip a lot of problems in the bud, and eradicate the more stubborn ones

Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot say that I've noticed any serious problems with Newbies in chat, nothing major - just the occasional member typing in CAPS, the odd would be director an MSN addy here and there, but really just general ignorance of the rules tbh, but nothing which could be classed as a major incident whilst I've been around ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure where this would leave genuine new people

say like my wife and I

we had been hear a while before we even looked at the forums

and i dont want to annoy anyone but surely you were all new once and i am sure the problem is not realy worse than it may have been a year or 2 ago

if looked at without rose titned glasses

wont there always be some obnoxious people who dont take no to mean no

and i am sure there not all new

some sort of points may work but you would need ot be very careful not to make life hard for the new genuine but slightly shy people

just my 2p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think when ppl get a ban there isp should also be banned that way they cant do another profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think when ppl get a ban there isp should also be banned that way they cant do another profile "

what about al the other prople who use the same ISP

imagine if thay ban everyone on BT

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone


"Not 100% sure how the points system would work or be managed etc, but in my opinion the moderation system needs an overhaul....

Mods' power, (and I'm a mod), has gone from one extreme to the other...

At one point in time on the old site, if a mod banned someone - they were banned - end of story, until the ban was physically lifted, now it's gone the other way - the maximum ban we can give is 4hrs whereafter the member automatically is allowed back into chat. In most cases that system works fine but there are times when bigger teeth are required.

Whilst I certainly don't advocate mod bullying or abuse of power, I feel that we should, as well as our existing power to ban, have the power of a 24 & 48 hrs ban, plus a "Refer to Admin" option. For example, if someone is being a real pain in the arse, slap a 24 or 48hr ban on them to allow a bit of breathing space, then refer it to Admin with the request for a total ban ..

Of course the ban happy mods - and there are SOME - would also need to be attended to and reminded of why they are here - all in all, with a bit of thought, the moderation system could run like a Swiss watch and hopefully nip a lot of problems in the bud, and eradicate the more stubborn ones

Just a thought "

Checkout the new chat mod system a chat mod can choose between bans from 1hr to permanent (reviewed by admin) now (a change we made earlier this week)

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for this feedback:

So we can get a full understanding of the problem. What sort of a pain are newbies being in chat? Are you/others reporting them? Are they breaking rules?

Are mods stepping in?

If we need to do things to make this issue better then that's what we'll do but we need to fully understand it first.

Admin x"

Occasionally we will have a user reporting grief through a whisper.... so they block and then go an report that profile but by the time they have done that, the profile has gone. ten minutes later, what seems to be the same person is on another profile whispering the same things....A time before been allowed into chat could help this.

Also, a lot of users will come into the room, and while not technically break any rules their behaviour can be awful.

Examples would be saying quite disgusting things, repeating the same line of text every few mins (male 35 in Perth up for meet? etc), and just generally using behaviour that wouldnt be accepted in a bar. Other users (generally non mods) will step in and try to guide them to change what they are saying or their behaviour and can get a backlash of abuse. I have noticed a real decline in the friendliness of the rooms (especially the scots) room recently, particularily late at night.

I wonder if having an ability for the user to turn off incoming whispers at thier discretion would be an idea.... or block whispers off individual whispers, yet still see them in main chat?

Its quite hard to explain but maybe either SJ or Mark would assume a different name and surf the chat rooms over the next few weeks at different times to get a feel for them.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think when ppl get a ban there isp should also be banned that way they cant do another profile

what about al the other prople who use the same ISP

imagine if thay ban everyone on BT"

Stunna probably meant to say by IP internet Protocol) address rather than ISP (internet service provider).

All modems are allocated an IP address, banning that IP from the system would mean a banned user couldnt get on without considerable expense.

Steve

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone


"i think when ppl get a ban there isp should also be banned that way they cant do another profile

what about al the other prople who use the same ISP

imagine if thay ban everyone on BT

Stunna probably meant to say by IP internet Protocol) address rather than ISP (internet service provider).

All modems are allocated an IP address, banning that IP from the system would mean a banned user couldnt get on without considerable expense.

Steve"

Most ISPs allocate a new IP address each time you disconnect from the ISDN (i.e. unplug router). Very few users on here have stable IP's that we can ban via.

That said once we've banned a user there are various bits of technology in place to make it very hard for them to re-register (undetected).

Admin x

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone


"Its quite hard to explain but maybe either SJ or Mark would assume a different name and surf the chat rooms over the next few weeks at different times to get a feel for them.

Steve

"

We'll do this.

Can I also ask everyone who sees bad behaviour in chat to PLEASE report it. Admins have access to chat logs so it's a simple check to verify the report and take action by banning idiots from the site.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats the point of reporting them , they just come back under another name..

they easy to spot..

one couple banned , then came back , banned , and back again ..

spoiling for a fight in the forums..

to be honest, you better totally ignoring them.. they will eventually get bored..

banning just encourages them...

they only after attention

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

A points system would be really hard to administer, and a bit like the system mentioned on another post about naming and shaming no-shows etc, it's really hard to work out who's a time waster and who's not.

Agree broadly with View (we're starting to agree on a few things...), ignore them and they'll go away.

As a single guy who's taken the time to build a profile, get verified and been not pushy etc etc i get really cheesed off when i see people meeting new bods who've only been here a fortnight, but there's no point in throwing toys out of the pram, and a points system wouldnt stop any of the idiots on here anyway.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

There is always the option of blocking the people who are causing trouble and if they come back in another name, block them too.

If they don't get attention , they soon shut up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

"

There is generally one or two mods in late at night, sometimes to the early morning but in different rooms.... As often happens to myself, get another user to search through the rooms, find one and ask to join the scots room for a while. Like ourselves many mods will take a liking to particular room and will "base" themselves there and then wander around the other rooms occasionally.... sometimes we may just need a poke to visit another room to go and help out.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mind you it aint always the newbies that cause the probs its the multiple screen names that some members have. still hopefully things will get better xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

defo not just the newbie's for sure..

they didnt join and get a 'welcome to some of the politics '...... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just dont understand why sj and mark have put a block button there, as it seems many people dont wanna use it they just wanna moan about users.

if you block them u cant see their stupidness. its quite simple.

block report ignore. much easier then coming up with points and shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not 100% sure how the points system would work or be managed etc, but in my opinion the moderation system needs an overhaul....

Mods' power, (and I'm a mod), has gone from one extreme to the other...

At one point in time on the old site, if a mod banned someone - they were banned - end of story, until the ban was physically lifted, now it's gone the other way - the maximum ban we can give is 4hrs whereafter the member automatically is allowed back into chat. In most cases that system works fine but there are times when bigger teeth are required.

Whilst I certainly don't advocate mod bullying or abuse of power, I feel that we should, as well as our existing power to ban, have the power of a 24 & 48 hrs ban, plus a "Refer to Admin" option. For example, if someone is being a real pain in the arse, slap a 24 or 48hr ban on them to allow a bit of breathing space, then refer it to Admin with the request for a total ban ..

Of course the ban happy mods - and there are SOME - would also need to be attended to and reminded of why they are here - all in all, with a bit of thought, the moderation system could run like a Swiss watch and hopefully nip a lot of problems in the bud, and eradicate the more stubborn ones

Just a thought

Checkout the new chat mod system a chat mod can choose between bans from 1hr to permanent (reviewed by admin) now (a change we made earlier this week)

Admin x"

Really ?

It's nice to see that the mods have been informed ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

soz for late reply sj mark... yes we have reported these ppl.. when i report them i put time/date/room incident happened

as others from room i use have mentioned it is a rare few that cause all the trouble

i know mods cant b there 24/7 as they have RW lifes like the rest of us. as i said in original post the mods do a gr8 job.

mayb the suggestion of watchin the rooms under a user tag would inform u better than i can by writing here.

again ty for a gr8 site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we think there's loads of problems with site how easy it is to join and if I have a pound for every new profile I've seen with will fill out later. only to keep an eye on and see them if not deleted still saying the same thing comeon fab get a grip

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone


"Really ?

It's nice to see that the mods have been informed ..."

When you try and ban someone in chat all will become clear! There's also a big yellow message on chat entry page for mods

Admin x

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"i think when ppl get a ban there isp should also be banned that way they cant do another profile

what about al the other prople who use the same ISP

imagine if thay ban everyone on BT

Stunna probably meant to say by IP internet Protocol) address rather than ISP (internet service provider).

All modems are allocated an IP address, banning that IP from the system would mean a banned user couldnt get on without considerable expense.

Steve

Most ISPs allocate a new IP address each time you disconnect from the ISDN (i.e. unplug router). Very few users on here have stable IP's that we can ban via.

That said once we've banned a user there are various bits of technology in place to make it very hard for them to re-register (undetected).

Admin x"

Hmmmm, not sure this works, cos there is one person (no names, no pack drill lol) who has been a royal pain in the ass to one of our friends and he has been banned (by mods) a few times but always gets back on with a new profile, he did it again last night. Not sure exactly which profiles of his have been completely banned, and which he just dumps cos he gets found out by chatters.

Cant there be a limit to the number of profiles someone can create either at once, or cumulatively?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a great idea to have an option whereby you can block whispers. Thumbs up to whoever said that

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Are IP addresses the same as the info on the MACC cards in the comp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yellow message ?

There was no yellow message on my page last night when I looked ... :-

All I had was the 'ususal' page and I couldn't find anyone to ban, so am non the wiser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we still ain't got no yellow message, so cumon then - who's robbed our yellow message ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

posted a thread bout switchin off wispas in chat rooms a week a go

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess


"Are IP addresses the same as the info on the MACC cards in the comp?"

No. IP addresses look like xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx

To get your MAC (Media Access Control) address

1.Click on the Start Menu.

2.Click on 'Run...'

3.Type 'cmd' without quotes and press Enter.

4.At the command prompt, type 'ipconfig /all' without quotes. (space between g and /)

5.Alternatively, if using Windows XP, you can use the command 'getmac'.

6.Your MAC Address is listed under 'Physical Address' as a series of 6 groups of two digits, letters and numbers, separated by dashes, such as in the image below. Make sure you get the physical address of the correct network adapter - usually there are several listed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont think so sth unless its the ip addy that gets banned, cos u just create new email accounts and apply to fab think thats wot happens hun xxx its wrong but......... dont know wot else to do about it

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

being a newbie on this site myself, i'd like to put in some input, i've sat on chat some nights and watched with interest what happens in chat, i've also read and do read forum post's regularly, i've found it hard to become involed in the chat room because i don't know anyone in there, i have introduced myself on four or five occations now, but have been meet with what can only be discribed as a stone wall, IE either totally ignored or greeted and left to fend for myself,i understand that this might or might not be due to the newbie syndrome, but i found it very disconcerting to say the least,i think forum posting should be the way for a newbie to work his/hers/their way up the ranks and find fellow swingers and find their feet in the community along with exceptance from those who have been here a while,maybe a newbie should be restricted to forum posts untill invited by established member/members to join in the chat rooms, thus this should in some degree aliviate the problems you all seem to be summerising in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

_ouvak you have to just come into chat and perservere doesnt take long for ppl to get to know ya thru chat, always a laff and a giggle, dont know which room you went in and got ignored, but if you say hi to everyone we all chat back xx its hard i know hun but u gotta stick at it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Touvak,you will find that many of the forum posters don't go into the chat rooms,some cross over and do chat and forums but lots don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

There is generally one or two mods in late at night, sometimes to the early morning but in different rooms.... As often happens to myself, get another user to search through the rooms, find one and ask to join the scots room for a while. Like ourselves many mods will take a liking to particular room and will "base" themselves there and then wander around the other rooms occasionally.... sometimes we may just need a poke to visit another room to go and help out.

Steve"

Where are the mods beyond 2am? I've sat in the room the past couple weeks now and have never seen one beyond that time.

Shame we can't get a late night mod in the scottish room.

Just my twopenneth worth.

Pixie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

There is generally one or two mods in late at night, sometimes to the early morning but in different rooms.... As often happens to myself, get another user to search through the rooms, find one and ask to join the scots room for a while. Like ourselves many mods will take a liking to particular room and will "base" themselves there and then wander around the other rooms occasionally.... sometimes we may just need a poke to visit another room to go and help out.

Steve

Where are the mods beyond 2am? I've sat in the room the past couple weeks now and have never seen one beyond that time.

Shame we can't get a late night mod in the scottish room.

Just my twopenneth worth.

Pixie xx"

errrr by that time we are in land of zzzz, we mod when we can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yippee at last I've got my yellow message explaining all about the new moderation system ...

Jusy a shame that Userplane, or is it Userpain ?, won't let me into the freekin' chat rooms - yet again !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yippee at last I've got my yellow message explaining all about the new moderation system ...

Jusy a shame that Userplane, or is it Userpain ?, won't let me into the freekin' chat rooms - yet again !!!"

took me 20 mins grr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yippee at last I've got my yellow message explaining all about the new moderation system ...

Jusy a shame that Userplane, or is it Userpain ?, won't let me into the freekin' chat rooms - yet again !!!

took me 20 mins grr"

I just managed to get in a minute ago - it's becoming a real pain in the arse .....

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By *epburn69Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

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By *epburn69Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx"

sorry to hear you have been offended. keep your head high and keep going xx

ignore them, they are the idiots, block them xx

and good luck xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx

sorry to hear you have been offended. keep your head high and keep going xx

ignore them, they are the idiots, block them xx

and good luck xx"

As view said PLUS report them from their profile.

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By *epburn69Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen


"As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx

sorry to hear you have been offended. keep your head high and keep going xx

ignore them, they are the idiots, block them xx

and good luck xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firstly i know where ur coming from with this post sundance but come on we were all new at one point and some peeps dont make it an easy run ive bn in the room when a few of the newbies have came in and bn totally ignored one poor lad got totally slandered for looking at a fems cam wtf why have cam on if no ones to look he did say hi more than some do. there is a few that can make it hard for the rest but this seems to be targeting all newbies which doesnt seem right how would we have got to were we r with it if it was all ifs n buts ban the whispas i totally agree and welcome the newbies the way we were welcomed when we all joined we soooooooooooo need fresh meat female and male and guess thats why the block button is still in use xx

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By *epburn69Woman
over a year ago

aberdeen

Thanks for the reply to my message,I am a determined female and I have learned in the past you have to look after number one as sometimes there is no one around but you to do that.I am a survivor and i will keep my head up and try and not let things get me down.Much appreciated your support, best wishes to all who replied.xx

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

There is generally one or two mods in late at night, sometimes to the early morning but in different rooms.... As often happens to myself, get another user to search through the rooms, find one and ask to join the scots room for a while. Like ourselves many mods will take a liking to particular room and will "base" themselves there and then wander around the other rooms occasionally.... sometimes we may just need a poke to visit another room to go and help out.

Steve

Where are the mods beyond 2am? I've sat in the room the past couple weeks now and have never seen one beyond that time.

Shame we can't get a late night mod in the scottish room.

Just my twopenneth worth.

Pixie xx

errrr by that time we are in land of zzzz, we mod when we can."

That’s what the folk on late at night, and that are posting in this thread, are trying to say, we know Mods do this in their own spare time and we are grateful that they do!

But as shown above by 2 Mods (albeit husband and wife) there are differing opinions on whether there are Mods around later on at night during the times when a lot of the directing, abuse, etc talked about in this thread is going on, usually the times after the Pubs/Clubs chuck the d*unks out at! But also that’s also the time when other regular members have the time to come on and chat to friends, etc.

Take Friday night just past for example, there was 2 females, on separate couples profiles, actively encouraging other members to direct them and when the regulars said it wasn’t the directing room most stopped the directing but you also got back from some that the females were wanting directed so they should be allowed to. This led to the ‘directors’ thinking it was ok to then go on and direct others who then didn’t like it! No point in reporting the profile of the ‘directors’ at that time of the night because it wouldn’t have stopped them doing it there and then and that’s what was needed!

Also another member believed it was correct to come in and out of the room posting another members MSN address to ‘warn’ them about him as he had seemingly (only one members word against another’s again, but maybe true, who knows but them) threatened her on MSN. A Mod there at the time could have stopped this and also taken the username of the alleged ‘abuser’ and helped her out without the constant ‘naming and shaming’ and if proved true through the Fab mail/chat systems taking the appropriate action against the other member for abuse.

Again, just my tuppence worth and no offence meant to anyone!

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx"

The regulars, who only want the room to stay a fun place to chat to friends and newbies, will always try to do what they can to stop the directing, abuse, etc but with no ‘teeth’ at the time there can sometimes be little that can be done and the regulars then get the abuse turned on them for what’s seen as interfering by the folk that were asked to stop directing, etc.

The late night chat should be the same as any other time chat and be fun for all without anyone abusing other members, so chin up and keep going in when you can xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"firstly i know where ur coming from with this post sundance but come on we were all new at one point and some peeps dont make it an easy run ive bn in the room when a few of the newbies have came in and bn totally ignored one poor lad got totally slandered for looking at a fems cam wtf why have cam on if no ones to look he did say hi more than some do. there is a few that can make it hard for the rest but this seems to be targeting all newbies which doesnt seem right how would we have got to were we r with it if it was all ifs n buts ban the whispas i totally agree and welcome the newbies the way we were welcomed when we all joined we soooooooooooo need fresh meat female and male and guess thats why the block button is still in use xx "

In your opinion, is this type of behaviour happening in any room in particular or is it all rooms.? If there is a room where you think it happens more than others, or at a specific time etc etc, let either me know(in private plz) or any of the other Chat Moderators and we will try to keep an eye open in an effort to see if anything untoward is happening.

After saying that though, no-one can gaurantee that anyone will respond to any other member in a chat room - that is something which builds up over a period of time, however if I were to witness anyone openly humiliating or ridiculing anyone for viewing a cam then I would deal with the matter as I felt appropriate at the time with either a warning or a ban ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

scotland rm can be bad for it post was up about it a while back some get to do what they want in rm others get shit for anything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"scotland rm can be bad for it post was up about it a while back some get to do what they want in rm others get shit for anything x"

Noted

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"scotland rm can be bad for it post was up about it a while back some get to do what they want in rm others get shit for anything x"

Have to agree with you on that one too. Maybe some of the Mods won't take action against their 'friends' incase they miss out on a meet???

Moderating the rooms should be fair right across the board!

Just my point of view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i gotta be fair, dont care who it is abusing the system, even if they are friens, I will warn them, kick them, then ban them, then as with all banning it is up to admin to administer for how long. but while idiots carry on having multiple addys it gets very hard they keep coming back but none of us in any room like the abuse and certainly no directing unless its in the Directing Room wooooo hoooo. After all we mods are only as good as the members we moderate love. Hope you have better experiences soon.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"i gotta be fair, dont care who it is abusing the system, even if they are friens, I will warn them, kick them, then ban them, then as with all banning it is up to admin to administer for how long. but while idiots carry on having multiple addys it gets very hard they keep coming back but none of us in any room like the abuse and certainly no directing unless its in the Directing Room wooooo hoooo. After all we mods are only as good as the members we moderate love. Hope you have better experiences soon. "

I am having great experiences with the friends i have met and yet to meet (in person) off here as it is

Might be because I am never afraid to 'say it like it is' and put my point of view across!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"scotland rm can be bad for it post was up about it a while back some get to do what they want in rm others get shit for anything x

Have to agree with you on that one too. Maybe some of the Mods won't take action against their 'friends' incase they miss out on a meet???

Moderating the rooms should be fair right across the board!

Just my point of view!"

Moderating is fair right across the board, however should you feel that there has been any inappropriate behaviour by ANY of the mods, then feel free to report that behaviour via the Mods' profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i gotta be fair, dont care who it is abusing the system, even if they are friens, I will warn them, kick them, then ban them, then as with all banning it is up to admin to administer for how long. but while idiots carry on having multiple addys it gets very hard they keep coming back but none of us in any room like the abuse and certainly no directing unless its in the Directing Room wooooo hoooo. After all we mods are only as good as the members we moderate love. Hope you have better experiences soon. "
here here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes red hot very true everyone has the choice to complainif they think any of us have been unfair lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why spend all that time in chat room anyway

there allways very clicky

maybe thats why they dont like newbies

who knows

who cares

thought we were all here to swing

steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why spend all that time in chat room anyway

there allways very clicky

maybe thats why they dont like newbies

who knows

who cares

thought we were all here to swing

steve "

usually clicky to folks who havent bothered to make friends with folks.

if yu had, they would be yur pals no a clique ,,

same as the folks on here who chat to each other have formed friendships..

yu get back what you put in..

I knew no one when I joined ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well everyone has different ideas on how to make friends

we have looked in chat room and find its the same few everytime we have looked

we have no problem with that but have found it very hard when your ignored most times

we have been swinging for a long time now so it not just newbies that are having problems

before i finish please dont think im having a go at chat room or those that use them just giving my views

steve

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over a year ago


"well everyone has different ideas on how to make friends

we have looked in chat room and find its the same few everytime we have looked

we have no problem with that but have found it very hard when your ignored most times

we have been swinging for a long time now so it not just newbies that are having problems

before i finish please dont think im having a go at chat room or those that use them just giving my views

steve"

not at all dude, didnt take it as you were having a go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Topside, it can be really hard to get involved in chat.... the room can go fast and hard to follow conversations but it takes a wee bit of perserverance to get in there.

And you are right, ppl do tend to talk in their "cliques" but thats only cos there can be that many people in at certain times that you cant chat to all of them at the once.

Steve

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus


"As a quite a new member to this site ,i would like to say that things seem to have got worse the last couple of weeks.I have been offended twice by 2 different users and as a result have not been putting my cam on as much also my confidence has been knocked and sometimes i dont participate in conversation becoz i find it quite fast sometime.I also appreciate the regulars who have stuck up for me recently,hence i agree with everything that said regulars have said.Being very shy at times I would like to apologise to any females who i maybe dont chat and say hi too as sometimes i feel they may not want my unrequired attention. It can take a lot for single females to go into a chatroom and it would be nice if things improved.The mods do a good job in my opinion, and the regulars who try to be "mods" late at nite, thanks to you too.Hope i haven't made any mistakes in posting this forum as i tend to fuck up when i try to whisper in chat.Best wishes from Audrey(Hepburn69)xx

The regulars, who only want the room to stay a fun place to chat to friends and newbies, will always try to do what they can to stop the directing, abuse, etc but with no ‘teeth’ at the time there can sometimes be little that can be done and the regulars then get the abuse turned on them for what’s seen as interfering by the folk that were asked to stop directing, etc.

The late night chat should be the same as any other time chat and be fun for all without anyone abusing other members, so chin up and keep going in when you can xxx "

I have to agree that the MOD's that are here are doing a great job.

The MODs cant be there all the time, but as sj and Mark have said:

Report the profiles with dates and times, they will check the chat logs and take action accordingly.

I think the system they have in place is adequate for what is needed, the amount of MOD's they have as well is of a good level too. Giving MOD privelages to more people i dont think will help at all. Just means there will be more people with '*' after their name.

The people who cause the problems are the ones, as View said, looking for attention.

If MODs are about, in other rooms too, get them to deal with.

If not, report to Admin with dates and times and let them deal with.

Good system all in all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

"
bb well most of the mods have a life out side the site family,kids and jobs so can`t be on 24/7 and if u need a mod that bad u can alway`s go look in other rooms for 1.xxxx

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

bb well most of the mods have a life out side the site family,kids and jobs so can`t be on 24/7 and if u need a mod that bad u can alway`s go look in other rooms for 1.xxxx "

If you have read further on you will see that's what I have said and you will also have seen that there isn't always Mods in the other rooms either and it's not just me that is saying this.

The people on late at night do go looking for a Mod when needed and on a few occasions have found Jim and he has dealt with the trouble as needed.

Again this is just my point of view!

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over a year ago


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

bb well most of the mods have a life out side the site family,kids and jobs so can`t be on 24/7 and if u need a mod that bad u can alway`s go look in other rooms for 1.xxxx

If you have read further on you will see that's what I have said and you will also have seen that there isn't always Mods in the other rooms either and it's not just me that is saying this.

The people on late at night do go looking for a Mod when needed and on a few occasions have found Jim and he has dealt with the trouble as needed.

Again this is just my point of view!"
i did read it all and well that`s up to who ever needs a mod at night to look for 1 of mail admin and let them deal with it i was just saying as abovre that he mods don`t live on here 24/7 .

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

bb well most of the mods have a life out side the site family,kids and jobs so can`t be on 24/7 and if u need a mod that bad u can alway`s go look in other rooms for 1.xxxx

If you have read further on you will see that's what I have said and you will also have seen that there isn't always Mods in the other rooms either and it's not just me that is saying this.

The people on late at night do go looking for a Mod when needed and on a few occasions have found Jim and he has dealt with the trouble as needed.

Again this is just my point of view! i did read it all and well that`s up to who ever needs a mod at night to look for 1 of mail admin and let them deal with it i was just saying as abovre that he mods don`t live on here 24/7 ."

Agreed already in the thread with all of that and again this was just my point of view from being on when all of this has been happening the past 2 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

come on the mods do a great job no ones disputing that there must be some night hawk though that is capable of being a night mod but what happens when they need to go to bed or suddenly need to go out or a meet ffs they have lives as we do this wont be resolved with any more or any few for that matter give the newbies a chance greet them and let them decide how they play it block button takes 2 min and if they come back 2 min again its not hard ive had the recieving end of it 2 being the newbies and maybe going in to deep shit happens some like ya some dont who cares im here for fun if i make gd mates along the way fantastic oh and i have lol newbies pop in say hi there is some fantastic peeps on here dont let the very few others knock u down enjoy and no digs at anyone with this its a swinging site go swinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng xxx

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over a year ago


"Being one of the folk that is usually in chat in the Scotland room late at night speaking to mates and having a laugh I know how frustrating it gets when the usual people come in, seemingly, only to hassle, direct and abuse other members knowing there a very few, if any, Mods in the chatrooms at that time of the night.

I have noticed over the last week or so (maybe because I am off work just now and spending too much time in there lol) that it seems to be getting worse and everyone is having a good time and a laugh when someone else feels left out of the conversations and decides to cause trouble, it usually stops when the regulars ask the person too, but there are some that just won’t listen and a points system, for them to get in there in the first place, could be easily abused i.e. post nice threads until enough points are accumulated then get into chat and start off the rubbish that gets the other chatters upset!

A Mod is not always easy to find when needed late at night because unlike the ‘night owls’ they have more sense and are usually in bed at a decent time lol. There are however some of the ‘night owls’ that could quite capably Mod the room late at night and keep it fun!

Just my tuppence worth!

bb well most of the mods have a life out side the site family,kids and jobs so can`t be on 24/7 and if u need a mod that bad u can alway`s go look in other rooms for 1.xxxx

If you have read further on you will see that's what I have said and you will also have seen that there isn't always Mods in the other rooms either and it's not just me that is saying this.

The people on late at night do go looking for a Mod when needed and on a few occasions have found Jim and he has dealt with the trouble as needed.

Again this is just my point of view! i did read it all and well that`s up to who ever needs a mod at night to look for 1 of mail admin and let them deal with it i was just saying as abovre that he mods don`t live on here 24/7 .

Agreed already in the thread with all of that and again this was just my point of view from being on when all of this has been happening the past 2 weeks."
well all the chatters can do is mail adim as i said and let them sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it can be just a photo verification that lets you post in the forums along with waiting 3 days from setting up a profile

I think it would help if it was the same for chat"

I think that is a great idea.

some newbies can def be a challenge due to lack of experience and they deserve help and guidance.. and in some cases..mischief making and they deserve what they get 'a ban 'lol ...

however .. some of the regulars also need to consider some of their actions before taking swipes.. point scoring , room politics , whispering about people, popping on msn to slag folks off etc etc..

good and bad in the newbies... good and bad in the established forum posters and chatters .....

me no angel.. me no hypocrite either lol .....

The moderators do an outstanding job in my book .. both forum and chat.

in their spare time..

on a hiding to nothing with some..

its a free site and still the feckers moan..

trying to chat and post and have fun, whilst trying to jump on the bad behaved..

wouldnt do it for all the 'T in china' and am no objective enuf.. I would ban most moaners for the fun of it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think more people should use the block button.....attention makes the attention seekers worse so why give them it ? also arguing with them makes them worse so the block button can sometimes be your best friend, but i dont think the block button is used enuff.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I think it can be just a photo verification that lets you post in the forums along with waiting 3 days from setting up a profile

I think it would help if it was the same for chat

I think that is a great idea.

some newbies can def be a challenge due to lack of experience and they deserve help and guidance.. and in some cases..mischief making and they deserve what they get 'a ban 'lol ...

however .. some of the regulars also need to consider some of their actions before taking swipes.. point scoring , room politics , whispering about people, popping on msn to slag folks off etc etc..

good and bad in the newbies... good and bad in the established forum posters and chatters .....

me no angel.. me no hypocrite either lol .....

The moderators do an outstanding job in my book .. both forum and chat.

in their spare time..

on a hiding to nothing with some..

its a free site and still the feckers moan..

trying to chat and post and have fun, whilst trying to jump on the bad behaved..

wouldnt do it for all the 'T in china' and am no objective enuf.. I would ban most moaners for the fun of it...

"

I have seen newbies turn up all excited thinking it is going to be a piece of cake to get what they want and have the attitude to match, but once some things are pointed out by the regulars in chat they have turned into fun chatters.

I know there are people who make a new profile to get back at someone in chat but I think the problem starts when the chatters decide straight away that this person is new so they are bound to be trolls and then give out a defensive attitude to the newbies....when they get the same attitude back they seemed surprised and shout for them to be banned.

Maybe the best thing to do is to give out what you expect in return.

If someone is annoying you , block them, then you see them no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it can be just a photo verification that lets you post in the forums along with waiting 3 days from setting up a profile

I think it would help if it was the same for chat

I think that is a great idea.

some newbies can def be a challenge due to lack of experience and they deserve help and guidance.. and in some cases..mischief making and they deserve what they get 'a ban 'lol ...

however .. some of the regulars also need to consider some of their actions before taking swipes.. point scoring , room politics , whispering about people, popping on msn to slag folks off etc etc..

good and bad in the newbies... good and bad in the established forum posters and chatters .....

me no angel.. me no hypocrite either lol .....

The moderators do an outstanding job in my book .. both forum and chat.

in their spare time..

on a hiding to nothing with some..

its a free site and still the feckers moan..

trying to chat and post and have fun, whilst trying to jump on the bad behaved..

wouldnt do it for all the 'T in china' and am no objective enuf.. I would ban most moaners for the fun of it...

I have seen newbies turn up all excited thinking it is going to be a piece of cake to get what they want and have the attitude to match, but once some things are pointed out by the regulars in chat they have turned into fun chatters.

I know there are people who make a new profile to get back at someone in chat but I think the problem starts when the chatters decide straight away that this person is new so they are bound to be trolls and then give out a defensive attitude to the newbies....when they get the same attitude back they seemed surprised and shout for them to be banned.

Maybe the best thing to do is to give out what you expect in return.

If someone is annoying you , block them, then you see them no more "

i agree with you here.....think sometimes the room jump on the bandwaggon.....instead a few words of advice would be listened to more, and the block button needs used more.

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By *ectameeqCouple
over a year ago

Hayes

No points system- won't work at all.

Not everyone likes to use the chatrooms or forums, ect etc. Therefore these members will miss out on points which isn't fair.

In addition to this, I would see a points system acting as a catalyst for more spamming.

Not only that, but the quality of forum posts etc. will go downhill. People will post anything, rubbish, just to accumulate points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who doesn't use chatrooms, but DOES use forums I would be against a points system. It won't really matter what you try to do to keep idiots off the site (as a whole), cos sex sites will ALWAYS attract the plonkers of life, especially when its free - fact

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