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Suggested way to out time wasters

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By *vc4life OP   Man
over a year ago

washington

Sick of speaking to time wasters on here, any one else agree with the following method.

User sends a face pic to show themselves.

Once both parties have recieved pics of other, they then request the other party to take a pic as described by the other party. Ie Party 1 would ask Party 2 to send a pic with their fist infront of the face, a picture they would need to take just for the cause.

The pic could then be veried against the 1st pic sent to verify that the person is who they say they are.

If we all start doing this we can out the saddo pathetic time wasters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can out me as a timewaster then. Bollocks to that

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By *uppy ConquerorMan
over a year ago

dundee

Not the kind of hoops i singed up to jump through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still doesn't mean they'll turn up to a meet though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We wouldn't do that.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Blimey who has time for that?!

I’ll stick with my gut instincts. Not let me down in 11 years.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"You can out me as a timewaster then. Bollocks to that "

Me to. What exactly does it prove? Certainly not that they would turn up.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sorry but I wouldn't be prepared to go through extra 'vetting'

I chat to people in depth before I agree to a social meet.

I have more than enough veris to prove I'm real, not a time waster.

Only reason I've ever had to cancel anything was due to being very ill.

Choosing wisely who you'd like to meet, avoids potential time wasters

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Or you just use common sense

It’s really isn’t that hard to do

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Or you just use common sense

It’s really isn’t that hard to do "

Right?! I don't get all this0fuss about timewasters, just use your head!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I wouldn't do that as doesn't prove would turn up

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP, if you're continually coming up against timewasters maybe re-think your own selection process.

I've yet to have any issue with timewasters in over 9 years, so I'll stick with common sense and gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can out me as a timewaster then. Bollocks to that "

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By *istresscuckCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

That would be us out as we are genuine as verifications show but we wont enter into swapping face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of speaking to time wasters on here, any one else agree with the following method.

User sends a face pic to show themselves.

Once both parties have recieved pics of other, they then request the other party to take a pic as described by the other party. Ie Party 1 would ask Party 2 to send a pic with their fist infront of the face, a picture they would need to take just for the cause.

The pic could then be veried against the 1st pic sent to verify that the person is who they say they are.

If we all start doing this we can out the saddo pathetic time wasters x"

What is your definition of a timewaster out of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is your definition of a timewaster out of interest "

Someone who wastes 1 minute to several hours of your time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is your definition of a timewaster out of interest

Someone who wastes 1 minute to several hours of your time."

To me a timewaster is someone who arranges to meet and doesn't show up on the day

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think the op means this in jest... Surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the op means this in jest... Surely? "

Ud never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anyone can do that n still mess around n waste ur time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey who has time for that?!

I’ll stick with my gut instincts. Not let me down in 11 years. "

Totally agree

It's up to you as an individual to connect with the person, their messages n say the right things, ask the right questions to see if they are Timewaster's. I'm a guy and even I don't send a face pic in first message.

Sometimes I send a message to someone who I know I have no intention of meeting and I will never ask but my message is just to ask them a question or something I noticed and think they should know. so why do I have to send them a face pic.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Not sure how that would guarantee that a person will turn up for a meet.

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By *vc4life OP   Man
over a year ago

washington

Im talking more once a relationship has been established and a meet is being arranged.

This weeks out the single males that find fun in pretending they are a couple or a female x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im talking more once a relationship has been established and a meet is being arranged.

This weeks out the single males that find fun in pretending they are a couple or a female x"

heres the simplest way to make sure the person they are with the second pic etc..

Send the person a pic of you holding a bit of paper with their name and ask they do the same. That way you both know its recent and are intent. Again it wouldn't stop timewasters but at least you know the person looks serious and is the same person they say they are.

Have any single girls asked to speak to the couple by phone and then get the guy on phone without the female, sounds familiar. Or a girl asking to speak to the single guy and he speaks on phone, quiet, and sounding echoy as if hes in the toilet, hiding loll

Oh how fab timewasters make it harder for the genuine lollllll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends whether you want someone who is genuine or you want a performing seal

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By *vc4life OP   Man
over a year ago

washington

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By *vc4life OP   Man
over a year ago

washington

Exactly what we mean PH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends whether you want someone who is genuine or you want a performing seal

"

lollll, Agreed that's the thing, when you join fab you have your views and what you want from the site or from swinging but then after all the crap we get, timewasters, assholes etc...

and then we change how we act on here, being more tighter with messages, not as trusting people as we did at first one here, learning from our experiences.

Everyone's different on their experience and how they react to their experiences and sometimes on here, well usually, its good to see peoples views and ideas on how to avoid timewasters etc.. but we all wont see it the same positive way or think its a good idea, which is nothing wrong with that. Lets just all learn from our experience and try to avoid it happening the best way we can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends whether you want someone who is genuine or you want a performing seal

lollll, Agreed that's the thing, when you join fab you have your views and what you want from the site or from swinging but then after all the crap we get, timewasters, assholes etc...

and then we change how we act on here, being more tighter with messages, not as trusting people as we did at first one here, learning from our experiences.

Everyone's different on their experience and how they react to their experiences and sometimes on here, well usually, its good to see peoples views and ideas on how to avoid timewasters etc.. but we all wont see it the same positive way or think its a good idea, which is nothing wrong with that. Lets just all learn from our experience and try to avoid it happening the best way we can "

and what I said about paper with name etc... I haven't done it, nor will I.

I like to think I'm quite good at finding out if they are a timewaster or not but I know for a fact, people might have to cancel for a genuine reason as normal life is more important to us than on here and so it should be

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We don't meet male's so can't say there time wasters but two couples have let us down one we met at a party who was meet verified and the other was verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't meet male's so can't say there time wasters but two couples have let us down one we met at a party who was meet verified and the other was verified "

Yeah its just not guys who are timewasters but some reasons maybe genuine.

I could be wrong but prob men are the biggest timewasters but it cannot be proven as there is no stats to say as much.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Very true it wouldn't have botherd us so much but one of them we booked a hotel and travelled down we added up going to a club instead and met with another couple it worked well in the end

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By *ary_JosephCouple
over a year ago

South Shields


"You can out me as a timewaster then. Bollocks to that "

Ditto...what a palaver...

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By *vc4life OP   Man
over a year ago

washington

Haha maybe it is a bit too much then haha.

Just thought it a good way to out those who arnt well or publicly verid and dont attend clubs. Unlike u guys mary / joseph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just arrange to meet at a club if they don’t turn up there are others there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sick of speaking to time wasters on here, any one else agree with the following method.

User sends a face pic to show themselves.

Once both parties have recieved pics of other, they then request the other party to take a pic as described by the other party. Ie Party 1 would ask Party 2 to send a pic with their fist infront of the face, a picture they would need to take just for the cause.

The pic could then be veried against the 1st pic sent to verify that the person is who they say they are.

If we all start doing this we can out the saddo pathetic time wasters x"

No thanks, I,m not doing that or asking anyone to do it for me. It still wouldn't stop no shows and just chatters.

You go and run your fab experience how you want to and let others do likewise.

There will always be time wasters, it's the internet, suck it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is your definition of a timewaster out of interest

Someone who wastes 1 minute to several hours of your time.

To me a timewaster is someone who arranges to meet and doesn't show up on the day "

We class a "no show" as one type of timewaster.

A pic collector is another, where you've spent time messaging, swopping photos and then they fall off the planet.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Best way to avoid timewasters:

Arrange to meet in club, see them, say hello, chat, progress to play if everyone wants.

If they don't turn up, go and have fun with someone else!

Works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yet we waste so much time even discussing this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the fist bit .

If the fists hiding the face what difference does it make ?

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley


"Best way to avoid timewasters:

Arrange to meet in club, see them, say hello, chat, progress to play if everyone wants.

If they don't turn up, go and have fun with someone else!

Works for us"

That’s our strategy. It’s worked brilliantly so far!

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By *ngel clawsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Think you get a pretty good idea of someone's intentions and reliability from their veri's, arange to meet at a social or club otherwise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a massive waste of time, defeating the whole point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way! Taking a new photo for every single correspondence is exactly the kind of annoying demands associated with pic collectors and timewasters. I'm not taking a new photo just to prove I'm real. You have verifications for that.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You can out me as a timewaster then. Bollocks to that "

Have to agree. What's wrong with checking veris and having a chat on the phone or cam? Far simpler! If you do try this, let us know how it went OP. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op and what if the 2nd party sends u a face pic and you don't reciprocate are u then in breach ,and don't say you wouldn't because I bet you would so why would anyone agree to jump through your hoops

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not a fan but make your own system that works for you.

What specifically are you having happen op and with what verification level of people?

Consider how quickly you're supposedly meeting after first contact and what types and pattern of communication you have leading up to the meet.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I'm not a fan but make your own system that works for you.

What specifically are you having happen op and with what verification level of people?

Consider how quickly you're supposedly meeting after first contact and what types and pattern of communication you have leading up to the meet. "

Exactly this. People should do what works best for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t they have a agreed to meet button. Once 2 people arrange to meet they both press the button for the other to confirm. If you showed up and are genuine once verifications are wrote happy days,but if you didn’t show there’s a way to show others how many times you haven’t shown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don’t they have a agreed to meet button. Once 2 people arrange to meet they both press the button for the other to confirm. If you showed up and are genuine once verifications are wrote happy days,but if you didn’t show there’s a way to show others how many times you haven’t shown.

"
accountability love that oh and can we have a fine system to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but I wouldn't be prepared to go through extra 'vetting'

I chat to people in depth before I agree to a social meet.

I have more than enough veris to prove I'm real, not a time waster.

Only reason I've ever had to cancel anything was due to being very ill.

Choosing wisely who you'd like to meet, avoids potential time wasters "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tell anyone getting in touch if we're interested we chat here first until we get to know them better then a social meet to see how we get on but theres no guarantee of anything more then its up to them if they want to chat or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like this sort of system for people who don't have meet verifications yet. It can be hard to get your first verification, especially if clubs aren't your cup of tea (and from what I've seen on the forums, single guys find it especially hard). Obviously there's no need if the person has meet veris already, but if we're interested in someone who hasn't got one yet, we'll ask for something like this. If it's too much effort that's fine, we'll go our separate ways with no hard feelings from our side

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

Deffo get my vote

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