FabSwingers.com forum: Vetting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A suggestion to improve the site. I suggest that all non couple profiles with no verification older than 6 weeks be deleted and a 2 week ban placed on the email. This would help cut out the single male population that sits idle and fake female profiles.As for couples I would give them 8 . This will force people into the community. This would overall improve the site.

A second point would be I would suggest that FAB itself creates a function so the site can provide verifications. As ignoring site issues with displaying, it can be very tricky and tiresome to get verifications and this comes from someone with meets and who is active in the community.

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"A suggestion to improve the site. I suggest that all non couple profiles with no verification older than 6 weeks be deleted and a 2 week ban placed on the email. This would help cut out the single male population that sits idle and fake female profiles.As for couples I would give them 8 . This will force people into the community. This would overall improve the site.

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade."

Really?

So, we would have our account suspended for 2 weeks just because we don't have a veri in the last 2 months?

Get a grip mun!

Baring in mind by your rules your profile should be suspended, I don't think you have thought this through at all lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So yours would be deleted any minute now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think that it is a brutal but effective suggestion. It would force people to be verified and more active whilst help to cut down the single male population and other elements, like fakes. Escorts etc. It's not perfect but would overall improve FAB.

I did think it through. The fact that by that thinking I would be forced off doesn't mean it's a bad idea. Better to be forced off and improve FAB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that it is a brutal but effective suggestion. It would force people to be verified and more active whilst help to cut down the single male population and other elements, like fakes. Escorts etc. It's not perfect but would overall improve FAB.

I did think it through. The fact that by that thinking I would be forced off doesn't mean it's a bad idea. Better to be forced off and improve FAB"

Why not just use filters ? That works very effectively for us

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By *hoccie and GamerCouple
over a year ago

Hull

We have a group of people who we like to meet now and again, and feel no need to verify every time we meet.

To have to every time just so avoiding punishment wouldn't mean anything, and this site would come to a grinding halt. Like a lot of people, swinging is something we drop in and out of when it suits us. It doesn't drive our social life.

So although your intentions might be good. In practice it wouldn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this would ever do is put off newbies from joining. Personally I have enough swing-related friends that would perpetually verify us without ever having to leave the house

or if that failed I'd stick my boobs on cam. You can't force people to fuck strangers more than they want to.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

We think that people who put cock pics as a profile photo should be banned

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I've taken a 6 month break, because of illness. But I still use the site daily, to keep in touch with my friends, and to evaluate potential new partners for when I'm well enough to meet again. By your suggested 'rule change', I would have been thrown off the site 4 and a half months ago, and I would be forced to make a new profile every six weeks, in order to keep up my contacts. All unnecessary additional admin for the site.

Anyone who doesn't want to engage with people who haven't been verified in the last six weeks, can just use their filters, and delete unwanted messages. No need to try to force other users to work 'your' way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your talking bollocks I meet regular but not always get a verification and people you meet the d to leave site and they're verifications go with them .I regularly meet a lass who comes and goes from site and never verifies so by your ruling I would be barred for not securing a verification thus turning site into a chore and not a pleasure op give your head a bang as think u fell out of bed and banged it hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade."

Foxtrot Oscar !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet when we want too, when time and opportunity permits. As soon as you start forcing people into doing as you suggest you'll lose them. Besides this website is only a small part of the swinging lifestyle and much happens outside of Fab, it isn't all hand in hand.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Why not just set your message filters so only verified profile can contact you, and tick the only verified box when searching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did think it through. The fact that by that thinking I would be forced off doesn't mean it's a bad idea. Better to be forced off and improve FAB"

So Fab is only good if people meet very frequently ? I disagree. Fab works great for us but if the rules told us how often we should meet others then we, and most others, would simply use other sites more and this site would go downhill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really understand what you mean about the site providing verifications. On what basis? How? If it was automated it would be meaningless, if it needed input what sort of fees would cover the additional cost?

And deleting accounts with no/old veris would be daft. Not everyone gives veris, especially once you've met a group of people you repeat meet. Not verifying doesn't make you fake. Plus there are plenty of good reasons people take a step back for a while. This would penalise genuine members more than fakes. There are already filters to out the unverified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade."

So you want people to be deleted if they've no recent meets. But also want fab to introduce an unspecified way of verifying people if tbey can't get a meet.

Am I missing something or is there a huge flaw in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity OP would you say that me having no veris since I set this profile up 2 years ago should be deleted for not being part of the community?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

'Force people into the community.'

For a community that is based on trust and mutual respect, I don't think that is really a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did think it through. The fact that by that thinking I would be forced off doesn't mean it's a bad idea. Better to be forced off and improve FAB"

you want to "force" people to meet even though potentially nobody has taken their fancy in a 2 month period? seriously..."force"? not a word i would wish to be associated with in a swinging context at all...

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Why?

I see no benefit for me (and I'm sure lots of others)

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure this is the right idea

But i do think something needs to change on fab

Too many single guy profiles

Most of whom dont turn up or cancel when a meet is arranged

Makes using fab more tedious than fun

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

But that's just your opinion. I like the solo men and I've never been let down.

So for me there is no need to change.

Who is right and who is wrong?

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could also end up with unscrupulous people trading verifications for fags / booze / phone top ups etc. completely undermining the validity of the verification process.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Force people into the community.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Is Fab degrading? Seems exactly the same now as it was five years ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not sure this is the right idea

But i do think something needs to change on fab

Too many single guy profiles

Most of whom dont turn up or cancel when a meet is arranged

Makes using fab more tedious than fun"

We like the single guy profiles. We only meet guys so its good to have plenty of choice

Plus in over ten years of swinging iv only had 3 guys not turn up so the site works well for me and i think one of thos guys was from another site anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sites have fakes, jokers, timewasters, Muppets. But they all still have Genuine swingers. Couples, singles etc.

What bothers me is messages from a couple that's not a couple.

I'm like most men on here simply want another mans wife on my cock.

But my ex fab partner was good for couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of time wasters and lots of them are verified I had offers of meets last night and when I replied to say yes they just deleted my message and they're the ones that did the chasing not me and today the excuses vary from I was d*unk too my phone was flat

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Verifications are just opinions and there's no way of ensuring they're geunine so why would we judge anyone by that method? Some of us don't want to meet every week or every month even. Some of us can't. Some of us are looking for longer term relationships and are prepared to take as long as it does to find the right person. Why should people like us be discriminated against in favour of what could easily turn into a clique of people verifying eachother?

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple
over a year ago

East Mids

We really do anything on fab! We have found the site to be full of wasters and dreamers but fab is really good for keeping in contact with events!

To be honest that is the main reason we are on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So we all want fab to improve.

But vari's could be fake !

People may not want to or be able to meet often !

We all want freedom of choice !

And we are all sick of dickhead single guys making couples profiles.

It comes down to filters

We would rather pay double or more for a fab that we can really make our own.

Filter single males by different age ranges to couples

Bi males males from straight

Single bi females by ...........as if any one filters those

But you get our meaning

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Fab is great, if one can't out the fakes, and also has to worry them self sick about what everyone else gets up to, they should leave.

That would be some good ing

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

sounds like the Tory Government want to run Fab

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Why does everyone assume verifications are the only way to find out who is genuine on here? I've met non-verified men and had an excellent time. I've been stood up by verified men. Verifications help, but it is up to us to use all the tools (filters, age limits, common sense!) to arrange our meets, not the site.

This is a free site. If we pay, we're paying to support it, not for guarantees and hand holding. I don't expect anything from the site apart from a good time, and feeling that I MUST meet someone to keep my profile active would have me leaving tout bloody suite.

There's always someone posting about laying down the law on here, like it would make life easier for anyone but them! It certainly seems to be mainly men saying that there are too many men, thus suggesting that they are desperately thinking of ways to cut down the competition. Sorry, but if I won't meet you voluntarily, I'm certainly not meeting you at your say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does everyone assume verifications are the only way to find out who is genuine on here? I've met non-verified men and had an excellent time. I've been stood up by verified men. Verifications help, but it is up to us to use all the tools (filters, age limits, common sense!) to arrange our meets, not the site.

I agree if you can't get a meet u can't expect fab to whittle down your competitors op just to give u a better conversion rate

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We find the best way to separate the wheat from the chaff is good old fashioned chatting over a reasonable period of time. We're hardly going to meet someone who can't be bothered to chat to us first and the time wasters/ losers soon either give up or reveal themselves. This method also has the benefit of putting off those who expect to exchange a few words/pics with complete strangers then have a shag. It works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are there so many people on here who feel the need to dictate how others behave?

It's simple...really it is.... you enjoy fab your way and allow others to do likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are there so many people on here who feel the need to dictate how others behave?

It's simple...really it is.... you enjoy fab your way and allow others to do likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade.

Foxtrot Oscar !!!!"

you know that anit swearing in Welsh lol

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By *essThePirateWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

This is a serious suggestion for change. If change is not made FAB will continue to degrade."

Quite the opposite. I have a list I compare with a a few guys and we boycott people verified by people that will verify anything.

I don't post a verification until.ages after. If they bed someone else the same day and can't mention.it.in.pillow talk..

I don't contact anyone who is still.gagging to meet their previous meet. And dating diaries going back 15 shag...well get a life or switch your webcam.on.

Would you believe some one with 4765 verifications from the same person?

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By *essThePirateWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Op your talking bollocks I meet regular but not always get a verification and people you meet the d to leave site and they're verifications go with them .I regularly meet a lass who comes and goes from site and never verifies so by your ruling I would be barred for not securing a verification thus turning site into a chore and not a pleasure op give your head a bang as think u fell out of bed and banged it hard "

Refreshing. Meet your girl and cherish your whatever. Saving subtle "look.I got laid" diaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I 'Verify' my partner every time we meet, he doesn't display them, to us, they are a catalogue of our encounters and a progression of our relationship! I don't want all our intimate liaisons publicly available and nor would he..

Let's leave the FAB rules to the mods shall we?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Change is needed , however I suspect the issue is more with what is locally available and my previous experiences in London which were very different

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