FabSwingers.com forum: The right to have your sexuality represented

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are other sites mention no names that have many more options than gay bi or straight ,as is right .

Most people on here are saying fab straight to highlight this point.

Isnt it about time this site moved with the times to represent everyone fairly?...

The right to leave this section blank should be allowed if not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are other sites mention no names that have many more options than gay bi or straight ,as is right .

Most people on here are saying fab straight to highlight this point.

Isnt it about time this site moved with the times to represent everyone fairly?...

The right to leave this section blank should be allowed if not ."

Fab straight = straight on your profile but meeting men.

So bi and not wanting to advertise it.

How could there be a category for that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How about the option to leave your personal choice to later to be undecided more or less than curious .How about the option to say undecided or leave the whole section blank

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go to other sites and see how many ideas some of them have if you are one of these people who just cant see what im saying here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with Foucault on categorisation... For me, in an ideal world there would be none.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The gender is input to allow it to be searched by people looking for that gender. Leave it blank and the profile won't appear on any searches. No problem if you're not looking to meet but if thats the case, why be on Fab?

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

I don't know what sites you may mean, but, I haven't seen anything wild when I've wasted my time looking at other sites.

The only option I could think of that represents this would be MSM - Men who have sex with men.

Otherwise you are going to get a Q&A on the Kinsey / Klein scale of things...

Fab Straight means more to do with Bi male phobia in the swinging community :-/

It's a bit like gender... It can get a bit buzz kill if you were to include *all* the options in the rainbow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise you decided on your sexuality...only on how you act on it maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are looking for straight single men who are .....

If those characteristics were blank on someone's profile, we would block and move on

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think people are missing the point curious doesnt mean your actually bi and even gay isnt always set in stone We have free will .Yes a lot of you wont understand how sexuality might be a choice but just because you dont understand something doesnt make you right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the gay anyway and id block comment/ you dont meet bi or even curious guys anyhow you insist guys are 100 per cent straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think people are missing the point curious doesnt mean your actually bi and even gay isnt always set in stone We have free will .Yes a lot of you wont understand how sexuality might be a choice but just because you dont understand something doesnt make you right "

Does't make you right either

But the choice is still mine whether to meet single bisexual men or not, and I choose not to

Just as it is your choice not to want to meet me for whatever reason. Whatever your reason for not meeting me is fine by me. I will neither ask for the 'whys' or 'hows' nor will I try and explain or justify

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No one is making a big thing about you not playing with bi guys and this is not anything to do with this post .No one offered here dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope; only you are

"the gay anyway and id block comment/ you dont meet bi or even curious guys anyhow you insist guys are 100 per cent straight"

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This site isnt even open to asexuals who have emotional intellectual or fetish needs according to the current system ..you cant tell me that is right.Or that they are gay or trying to get with all you so wonderful women etc yada yada

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By *lderexperienceMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I'm content with putting bi on my profile, but it does make me laugh going in the bi chat room and the number of "straight" guys on cam wearing lingerie and wanking.

Maybe rather than add yet more labels we tackle the phobia that leads people to state straight when clearly they are not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope; only you are

"the gay anyway and id block comment/ you dont meet bi or even curious guys anyhow you insist guys are 100 per cent straight"

- Mrs. J -"
yeeh wasnt even your comment i was refering to .Sorry kind of missed how this refers to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope; only you are

"the gay anyway and id block comment/ you dont meet bi or even curious guys anyhow you insist guys are 100 per cent straight"

- Mrs. J -yeeh wasnt even your comment i was refering to .Sorry kind of missed how this refers to you "

It doesn't; it refers to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow ...really .. the one thing im certain im not is gay;but anyhow- this isnt about me being bi straight or confused or asexual ,and to be honest the last one is closest .Its about the right to not be catorgorised wrongly and abused by others when you dont fit in with the labelling .All i can do is thank you for helping me make the point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they could invent a "self absorbed diva" catageory, i think you would find that helpful ?

I agree with eandj your determination to have your own category while being condescending to others is quite offensive, and i can see why eandj are taking issues with your comments.

If you don't like the site -leave.

Cds, tv, ts are all lumped into one category. It's for convenience. It's called narrowing the search. I'm more an hpw, and i'm clear about that on my profile. It's what profiles are for, telling a bit more about yourself.

The category narrows the search, the profile narrows it more, and then actually communicating with the person will narrow it even further. It's not that much effort.

Go and look at the same question for cd/tv/ts there could be about 30 different sub-options in that one subheading. All taking up precious bandwidth.

There are fetish sites that pander to extremes, perhaps they would be better suited ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.s. your heading - your right to have your sexuallity represented.

Jesus, chill out.

Your right ?

Of course, you are being repressed by this free to use site. How dare they !!

Too many people are desperate to be offended.

Maybe you should have titled it - my right to be offended by any percieved slight.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?"

your block list must be astronomical then as it's 1 in 3 men on here isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"P.s. your heading - your right to have your sexuallity represented.

Jesus, chill out.

Your right ?

Of course, you are being repressed by this free to use site. How dare they !!

Too many people are desperate to be offended.

Maybe you should have titled it - my right to be offended by any percieved slight.

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Tv gained that right so what are you saying that as an asexual i shouldnt have rights ?

and im a diva for pointing it out

ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe we need a profile-description box to tick that reads 'I could start an argument in an empty room'. Lots would use it...lol.

Just got to love the entertainment value of the Forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they could invent a "self absorbed diva" catageory, i think you would find that helpful ?

I agree with eandj your determination to have your own category while being condescending to others is quite offensive, and i can see why eandj are taking issues with your comments.

If you don't like the site -leave.

The category narrows the search, the profile narrows it more, and then actually communicating with the person will narrow it even further. It's not that much effort.

Go and look at the same question for cd/tv/ts there could be about 30 different sub-options in that one subheading. All taking up precious bandwidth.

There are fetish sites that pander to extremes, perhaps they would be better suited ?

being asexual isnt extreme so no not really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being asexual isn't extreme in the slightest, but being a dick about it is.

As i said. The tv/ts/cds are vastly different categories. Apart from a few random spoilt petulant divas who want attention, most accept it is a basic description to assist you having to search everyones profile.

How dare you assume that tv/ts/cd are all the same and should be happy with their categorisation ?

Surely there should be pttv/fttv/tts/ntts/scd/pcd/ccd/scd/hpw/nhpw/gtv/nwwtv/atv/bhwp/sdcd how dare you oppress me !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?

your block list must be astronomical then as it's 1 in 3 men on here isn't it?"

If she is not attracted to bisexual men, then it is irrelevant how large her block list will be or whether there is not a single heterosexual man left alive in this world

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they could invent a "self absorbed diva" catageory, i think you would find that helpful ?

I agree with eandj your determination to have your own category while being condescending to others is quite offensive, and i can see why eandj are taking issues with your comments.

If you don't like the site -leave.

The category narrows the search, the profile narrows it more, and then actually communicating with the person will narrow it even further. It's not that much effort.

Go and look at the same question for cd/tv/ts there could be about 30 different sub-options in that one subheading. All taking up precious bandwidth.

There are fetish sites that pander to extremes, perhaps they would be better suited ?

being asexual isnt extreme so no not really "

but on a site where people are generally looking for some sort of sexual encounter, it's you going to be very much a minority interest isn't it?

...I'd be careful what you wish for because if that kind of category came to be, I'll guarantee there'll be a demand for a filter and you'll pretty much find yourself filtered out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"P.s. your heading - your right to have your sexuallity represented.

Jesus, chill out.

Your right ?

Of course, you are being repressed by this free to use site. How dare they !!

Too many people are desperate to be offended.

Maybe you should have titled it - my right to be offended by any percieved slight.

Tv gained that right so what are you saying that as an asexual i shouldnt have rights ?

and im a diva for pointing it out

ffs "

nobody is saying you don't, but this is very much an opt in site isn't it? you're not compelled to be here you're choosing to be... and the "goods and services" on here aren't exactly subject to protected characteristics...in the end, there are probably sites more specialist to your needs that you can choose to be part of...

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

"Being asexual isn't extreme in the slightest, but being a dick about it is.

How dare you assume that tv/ts/cd are all the same and should be happy with their categorisation ?

Surely there should be pttv/fttv/tts/ntts/scd/pcd/ccd/scd/hpw/nhpw/gtv/nwwtv/atv/bhwp/sdcd how dare you oppress me !! "

Your completely right but it will never change. The separate for tv/ts and cd has been a long running thing. Makes no difference as we all different as people anyway. It comes down to this does not matter if it's bi straight or Martian on there profile. If you like them and want to meet them does it really matter? You would get people that selected wrong category anyway I spoke to a guy once and he had watersports on his profile. He thought it was interests as he liked windsurfing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about the option to leave your personal choice to later to be undecided more or less than curious .How about the option to say undecided or leave the whole section blank "

I agree, it can cause too much hassle. I'd like the option to leave it blank. I can give my gender and the gender I'm looking for and surely that's all that matters.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Fab straight = straight on your profile but meeting men.

So bi and not wanting to advertise it.

How could there be a category for that?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Go to other sites and see how many ideas some of them have if you are one of these people who just cant see what im saying here"

We can see but we think you're being ott about it

If Fab is so crap why aren't you back on the much better sites that represent your 'rights' so much better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are other sites mention no names that have many more options than gay bi or straight ,as is right .

Most people on here are saying fab straight to highlight this point.

Isnt it about time this site moved with the times to represent everyone fairly?...

The right to leave this section blank should be allowed if not ."

At what point does one stop redefining little nuances to suite every tom, dick or henrieta and their own comfortable label? It's becoming a bit of an encyclopedia already on the forums. These no way they can suit everyone's personal preferences to how they wish to describe themselves. Surely that's what the profile is for...to add you extras in. When would it stop? In 6 months or a year there will be some new definitions depending upon behavioural practices and people will be asking for them next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?"

So you don't believe people can be bisexual, just gay but in denial?

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By *trawberry.loveCouple
over a year ago

Blyth

Would that be the genealogical phase of Foucault's work or towards the more technology of the self?

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?

So you don't believe people can be bisexual, just gay but in denial? "

Some of us are attracted to people regardless of gender. Bisexual people can be found in all walks of society, and everywhere in the world. A lot of myths and misconceptions surround it though.

Bisexual people are like windscreen wipers they go both ways. Gay people are only attracted to the same sex.

Bisexuality is found in over 450 different animal species. Homophobia is found only in one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what the one for straight not meeting men on here then

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

Fab straight ok think of it like this straight but so is spaghetti until it gets hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what the one for straight not meeting men on here then"

Heterosexual; but don't tell anyone here otherwise you will be labelled 'homophobic'

- Mrs. J -

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

Labels are for baked bean cans not people. None of us choose our sexuality and none of us should be judged on it either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think whatever the replies have been this forum has helped me decide on me on being asexual So thank you.. for taking part whether you agreed with me on a right to representation

or not .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Labels are for baked bean cans not people. None of us choose our sexuality and none of us should be judged on it either."

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Why are the people with all the answers and complaints about how the site should do this and that never site supporters?

If more people were then there would be more cash to fund this and that. Personally, you can't sum up sexuality with a couple of words, that's what your profile is for.

Basically you're complaining about a service you get for free.

"There are other sites mention no names that have many more options than gay bi or straight ,as is right .

Most people on here are saying fab straight to highlight this point.

Isnt it about time this site moved with the times to represent everyone fairly?...

The right to leave this section blank should be allowed if not ."

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

That has nothing to do with it what's so ever. Top tip can tell people that have been site supporters as some point by the number of pictures they have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, labels are useful to filter in or filter out people one wants to meet or does not want to meet

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Go to other sites and see how many ideas some of them have if you are one of these people who just cant see what im saying here

We can see but we think you're being ott about it

If Fab is so crap why aren't you back on the much better sites that represent your 'rights' so much better?

This

You also talk about kinks - this is a swinging site not a kink site. I think maybe if you are not happy on this one then it's not the right place for you x

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

"Go to other sites and see how many ideas some of them have if you are one of these people who just cant see what im saying here

We can see but we think you're being ott about it

If Fab is so crap why aren't you back on the much better sites that represent your 'rights' so much better?

This

You also talk about kinks - this is a swinging site not a kink site. I think maybe if you are not happy on this one then it's not the right place for you x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Actually this site has quite a few boxes for kinks So im not talking about kinks further as i have no need to.

I have under a different profile been a site supporter before and its people who are satifisfied who join mostly, so thats self explanatory .

As for labels people should be able to use the right one and not have the wrong one put on them and no other choice.I have a valid point .

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton

You've been on this site 9 weeks.

You haven't bothered to become a member.

Yet you want the rules changed to suit you.

Move on to a site that's meets your needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the gay anyway and id block comment/ you dont meet bi or even curious guys anyhow you insist guys are 100 per cent straight

Yes. Yes I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"kind of think openminded should be an option or undecided for sexuality at the very least

I'd just see these people are gay or in denial and block anyway. How can you not know what you enjoy?

So you don't believe people can be bisexual, just gay but in denial?

Some of us are attracted to people regardless of gender. Bisexual people can be found in all walks of society, and everywhere in the world. A lot of myths and misconceptions surround it though.

Bisexual people are like windscreen wipers they go both ways. Gay people are only attracted to the same sex.

Bisexuality is found in over 450 different animal species. Homophobia is found only in one!"

This isn't homophobia, most of my friends are gay/trans.

I don't want to shag them, is what i'm saying. Label it what you like.

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By *bi_scotlandTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Got to admit, I find it slightly bizarre that someone who is asexual would want to be on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are other sites mention no names that have many more options than gay bi or straight ,as is right .

Most people on here are saying fab straight to highlight this point.

Isnt it about time this site moved with the times to represent everyone fairly?...

The right to leave this section blank should be allowed if not .

Fab straight = straight on your profile but meeting men.

So bi and not wanting to advertise it.

How could there be a category for that?

It would have to called "lying" or "too embarrassed to admit"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think whatever the replies have been this forum has helped me decide on me on being asexual So thank you.. for taking part whether you agreed with me on a right to representation

or not .

Asexual:

1 without sexual feelings or associations.

"she wore a grey frock, discreet and asexual"

BIOLOGY

(of reproduction) not involving the fusion of gametes.

noun

a person who has no sexual feelings or desires.

So why on earth are you on this or any other site if you have no sexual feelings or desires?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

" I think whatever the replies have been this forum has helped me decide on me on being asexual So thank you.. for taking part whether you agreed with me on a right to representation

or not .

Asexual:

1 without sexual feelings or associations.

"she wore a grey frock, discreet and asexual"

BIOLOGY

(of reproduction) not involving the fusion of gametes.

noun

a person who has no sexual feelings or desires.

So why on earth are you on this or any other site if you have no sexual feelings or desires?"

To demand his rights?

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