FabSwingers.com forum: Meet Safety

By *ral D OP Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

After (lets call it a scary meet) a year ago in which the woman i went to meet turned out to be a quite agressively dominating man, i have been thinking of ways in which to make meeting people safer. I have come up with an idea which i am sure most fab users would be grateful of. Here is my idea....

Have a Forum page which has a "check in" for example if i am meeting "anon_female" Tuesday at 2pm i can add my meet to a private page no one else other than admin can see, then when my meet is over i can click on a "meet successful" button that lets admin know i am safe, if i havent got back in touch with admin within a certain amount of time admin then message my profile asking for a reply. But in the terrifying event something bad has happened at least if the police need to be involved Admin will have the person i had a meet withs details.

How do other people feel about this? Would it be helpful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are that concerned about your safety...why don't you meet in public?

Don't you think this is much more the case for women?

Also...use your experience and judgement to filter....some guys on here seem so desperate they will throw caution to the wind.

I've certainly never had such a problem....tho have been surprised how trusting some ladies are...with dozens of first meets being at their place or mine.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Fab and common sense suggest meeting in a public place first.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Admin are far too busy to take responsibility for our meets.

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By *omersetfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Let someone you trust know where you are!

I had a horrific meeting when in public he was nice and polite but after going back to his place, round the corner, he was abusive and scary.

Left rapidly and was shaking in the locked car for a few minutes before I could head off home

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By *andWnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Or use apps like panic guard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use a fab friend who you trust and have numbers for as a safety buddy. You tell them where you are going and who you are meeting. If you go back to theirs let safety buddy know the address. It is easy to excuse yourself and make a text. To be fair you can even let your met know what you are doing, if they are genuine they will not mind in the slightest. If they object then walk away nothing is worth putting yourself in danger for, especially a random fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*meet not met

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

When I was a single woman and going to a man's house to meet I would text the address and a photo of his front door to my friend and tell the man I had done so.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was a single woman and going to a man's house to meet I would text the address and a photo of his front door to my friend and tell the man I had done so.

Sally"

Exactly we should all do this

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

[Removed by poster at 18/02/17 11:45:09]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a gun/axe/big knife. You should be ok.

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By *ral D OP Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"When I was a single woman and going to a man's house to meet I would text the address and a photo of his front door to my friend and tell the man I had done so.

Sally"

This is a much better idea than mine!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have a safety text I send to a friend. And if I'm getting in a car with someone, I always photograph the number plate and send that to my friend too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell my sister or a close friend. I know that they would rather know that I'm safe over judging me on my lifestyle choices and any good friend would be the same.

However, I understand it's not always this simple, some people just don't have that kind of support circle around them and admins on here are very busy so why can't we act as guardian angels to one another? There could be a team of us who could volunteer say one night a week to man the "panic button" so to speak, or maybe we could have a "volunteer" button on our profiles which could be clicked by someone we've had a good meet with before. Then when required, fill in the required details.

We could all have a secure space on our profiles which we complete when we go to a meet, with all required details and in the event of an emergency, or the very worst, then admins can access it to pass on the details within to the authorities. This one would of course require at least one close friend knowing about your existence on this site in order for the details to be retrieved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always exchange numerous e-mails. Then if we think the chap is compatible, we exchange telephone numbers and Texts.

We then arrange to meet in a public environment for a no strings meet.

If we find the chap to be not at all as described (that has happened) - we leave immediately.

If he becomes aggressive, he gets what is coming to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who would be paying for this new service OP? Admin woukd need to employ alot of staff to make this work. Terrible idea. Best to own your own safety and text a trusted friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who would be paying for this new service OP? Admin woukd need to employ alot of staff to make this work. Terrible idea. Best to own your own safety and text a trusted friend."

If this idea did come to fruition and it became apparent that there would be significant costs involved then a subscription-style service would be most appropriate, whereby people 'opt-in' and pay a monthly or annual fee. The visible downsides to this seem to far outweigh any benefits that spring to mind. Such as:

-People thinking that the fee is mandatory and leaving the site.

-The scheme failing in some way and leaving the site open to legal proceedings through legal or implied obligation.

-Opportunistic A-Holes finding ways to exploit the service for fraudulent compensation claims.(and opportunistic A-holes are in absolute abundance on this site, as with many other free sites in the sex industry!)

-The administrative burden alone would more than likely redirect tech support from the rest of the site, making the Fab experience worse for everyone. And as an administrator by profession, I understand how much of a burden this could actually be!

So yeah, bad idea. Unless it was run by volunteers from this site and separated from the website altogether (to avoid legal obligation being placed on site admin)

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Why the dickens would you rely or ask admin to do this?

Take responsibly for your own safety.

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