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By *abio OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

can we have some sort of clarification on what "verification" is suppose to achieve....

following on from another thread in support and advice... I am now confused....

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

or is suppose to be use as some sort of recommendation service..... with the option of play by play account of what happens on meets...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"can we have some sort of clarification on what "verification" is suppose to achieve....

following on from another thread in support and advice... I am now confused....

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

or is suppose to be use as some sort of recommendation service..... with the option of play by play account of what happens on meets...

"

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more but some like to add a bit more by saying nice genuine person etc etc

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

they are a human, turned up for a meet, answered a phone and spoke or clicked their cam on.....

nowt more.

and a trophy cabinet for those inclined to want to wear trophies..

I just make a necklace out of the teeth of my meets..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our personalities ARE allowed to come accross from verifications, something that stands out to make the time decently special.... its up to those to put what they want in, whether it be simple great guy great fun, or ripped me a new arsehole, if we had a standard set of tick boxes there would be nothing to really make it a personal experience that u want to share with the rest of fab. VERIFICATION and RECOMENDATION are much the same thing, I dunno why ur blurring it more than the simple fact some people like others to know what they think of their meet, in postive aspects of course.

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

We haven't laid down any hard and fast guidelines here so we don't have a strong opinion either way. Even if we did people would probably write what they wanted anyway

So long as the verification is truthful then we are not too worried.

Admin x

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more"

the moderator just said what it is, its user defined.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

the moderator just said what it is, its user defined."

LOL, liek anyone will take any notice. If the admin didn't say what they wanted to hear it will be discussed till the end of time.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

the moderator just said what it is, its user defined."

I am guessing that was his definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

the moderator just said what it is, its user defined.

I am guessing that was his definition."

i read his verifies...they painted a nice picture though....so of course his statement wasnt entirely based on any sound advice, regardless of any moderator interaction, I knew i was right anyway lol....

so again I will say, the verify is a personal account of how you _iewed the person, it is there to share amongst the other members, it is not a tick-box of "arrived" "fucked" "real moustache" "smelly cock", its intended to make peoplelook at the verified individual as perhaps a 3dimensional being and not JUST simply a fuck.Because I'm gettin bored I will say, Finallllly....

imagaine a great meet, the guys got verifications on a tickbox, lets say "great fuck", that gives me no indication he can hold a conversation,I'd be embarrassed inviting a guy to a party and he sits there like a total fud without an ounce of social skill.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This

is it suppose to be used to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine... nothing more

the moderator just said what it is, its user defined.

I am guessing that was his definition.

i read his verifies...they painted a nice picture though....so of course his statement wasnt entirely based on any sound advice, regardless of any moderator interaction, I knew i was right anyway lol....

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Our take on this is that it is to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine/ looked like their pics etc

Our definition was without any intervention from anyone else, mod or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our take on this is that it is to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine/ looked like their pics etc

Our definition was without any intervention from anyone else, mod or otherwise."

Yeah but I'm still right!- in fact I detest cold verifications, then perhaps I end up just meeting people that can give an account of how they feel...and god forbid..maybe something different from the last meet before me....can u see it now..

turned up.sex.pic look like him.

big cock.turned up.came on my face.looked like pic.

helped in gangbang.

said hello at social.

so to the original OPs post, verifies are indeed a summing up and a recommendation to others that a person is genuine and maybe just that little bit more than a simple lookslikepicfuckswell meet.

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By *abio OP   Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Our take on this is that it is to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine/ looked like their pics etc

Our definition was without any intervention from anyone else, mod or otherwise.

Yeah but I'm still right!- in fact I detest cold verifications, then perhaps I end up just meeting people that can give an account of how they feel...and god forbid..maybe something different from the last meet before me....can u see it now..

turned up.sex.pic look like him.

big cock.turned up.came on my face.looked like pic.

helped in gangbang.

said hello at social.

so to the original OPs post, verifies are indeed a summing up and a recommendation to others that a person is genuine and maybe just that little bit more than a simple lookslikepicfuckswell meet.

"

just because i have met people at clubs it doesn't mean i have played with them... and yes a lot of the people that have varified me, and I have varified them have been at socials.....

so please don't assume anything... can we know who assumptions can make an ass off....

you hate cold varifications... good... I hate blow by blow graphic ones!!

what do we really need to know from a varification... they there were who they said they were... that they turned up.. and they were genuine...

anything varification i write is basic because people don't need to know any more than that.....

I don't need to know if someone can suck like a hoover, or gushes like a dam..or can fuck all night... or can do page 236 of the karma sutra.....

all that to me is bordering on a lack of discretion... which say a lot about the person who writes them....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well its your choice to be offended by veris that give blow by blow accounts, I never assumed anything, all I have saisd is theres different ways of using the verification system that includes giving a more interesting _iew of the persons, I cant see why this seems such an issue, and yes I have veris from different types of meets. this having decorum nonsense really doesnt wash with me from anyone, it is a swinging site we are open minded, people endlessly complaining about being to open in our lifestlyes wether it be verifications, adult themed pictures whatever, learn to deal with the very fact our site is intended for people with an open minded _iew point in sexual activities.

whether what u read is what u believe is ur choice but do rememeber its only a bloody profile, a 2d representation of what you want to give to the swinging community.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Well it seems to us that the ppl who whinge about VARIFYCATIONS are always moaning bout the content of others varies or the amount,now to us it sounds like jelousy but thats us and if fab thought that they were pointless they wouldent have put the option to vari ppl in place abd the over all consencus is that they are a good thing ,i just wish ppl would stop moaning about them ffs this is suppose to be fun and iff ppl have had a relly fun meet its only right that iff they feel the need to advertise it ,well why not its not harming any 1 realy now is it ???

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

To me graphic verifications mean nothing. One persons may say a person is great in bed, has great oral skills etc. Then another person may meet them and think crap in bed, no oral skills etc.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Our take on this is that it is to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine/ looked like their pics etc

Our definition was without any intervention from anyone else, mod or otherwise.

Yeah but I'm still right!- "

There isn't any right or wrong answer tbh.

What is right for YOU is all you can go on, but others may think something else is right for them.

As Admin have said, use it as how you want to use it and others can do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you wouldnt put a bad one on anyway would you?

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By *el_n_DonnaCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

In our _iew verifications should say people on the profile are who they say they are.

What we do find strange is where you see a couples profile verified because the "male half" of the couple has met someone in person - surely if it's a couples profile, verifications should be because the couple have been met etc?

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By *eaderswife_wyorksMan
over a year ago

bradford

the verification system,is almost useless,we had a guy recently contact us,his profile said he was bi,he had also been verified as gen by a male,we dont meet bi guys[our preference]when this was pointed out,he never replied,untill 2 days later,and guess what he had altered hisprofile to say he was now str8,and hid his only verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the verification system,is almost useless,we had a guy recently contact us,his profile said he was bi,he had also been verified as gen by a male,we dont meet bi guys[our preference]when this was pointed out,he never replied,untill 2 days later,and guess what he had altered hisprofile to say he was now str8,and hid his only verification."

How does that make the system of verification useless ? this guy changed his profile info to get a meet, but his verification was gen lol just goes to show you what some guys will do to get a meet haha.

* sits on coffin *

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"Our take on this is that it is to say someone is who they say they are, they turned up and were genuine/ looked like their pics etc

Our definition was without any intervention from anyone else, mod or otherwise.

Yeah but I'm still right!- in fact I detest cold verifications, then perhaps I end up just meeting people that can give an account of how they feel...and god forbid..maybe something different from the last meet before me....can u see it now..

turned up.sex.pic look like him.

big cock.turned up.came on my face.looked like pic.

helped in gangbang.

said hello at social.

so to the original OPs post, verifies are indeed a summing up and a recommendation to others that a person is genuine and maybe just that little bit more than a simple lookslikepicfuckswell meet.

just because i have met people at clubs it doesn't mean i have played with them... and yes a lot of the people that have varified me, and I have varified them have been at socials.....

so please don't assume anything... can we know who assumptions can make an ass off....

you hate cold varifications... good... I hate blow by blow graphic ones!!

what do we really need to know from a varification... they there were who they said they were... that they turned up.. and they were genuine...

anything varification i write is basic because people don't need to know any more than that.....

I don't need to know if someone can suck like a hoover, or gushes like a dam..or can fuck all night... or can do page 236 of the karma sutra.....

all that to me is bordering on a lack of discretion... which say a lot about the person who writes them...."

Feck me man ,but other ppl do like to know the inns and outs ,this whinging bout varies gets realy boring now its common sence that if you dont like varies well "DONT READ THEM",coz if you dnt read them then ull av nothing to worry about simples

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Well if we are going to get serious about the subject then we all surely must realise that it is impossible to unify how they are written and what agenda they have.

Some will go way over the top and when you look at the profile or meet the person you realise that it is wholey inaccurate. Often the people who have given them give similar over verifications for all they meet. They probably want to meet again or dont want to burn their boats incase they decide to meet them in future or are maybe worried about akwardness if they bump into them at a club or party.

Remember that verifications cost nothing. Maybe if there were some kind of limitations on a sliding scale they would think twice but that obviously wouldnt work for other reasons.

Verifications to many only mean they look like they say and they turned up and either played or didnt. Nobody seriously gives negative verifications as they wouldnt be displayed anyway (although give a tick to a newbie). Some people _iew the verifications with sceptism and others take as gospel.

However, they can serve a purpose as in they show what type of person the profile holder likes to meet and whether or not they are likely to be what you are looking for. No fool proof method of course but maybe one of many other indicators. Interesting example (lol in my opinion) a couple who occasionally talk to us and told us that although they gave a good verification to a guy we know he was crap and they wouldnt be meeting him again... and asked us not to tell him. (and no they havent met him again). I would add that in our opinion said guy was not crap and that maybe it was all down to chemistry perhaps?

Then there are those who give glowing verifications in the hope that they may be the happy recipient of the same shortly after....

This is not even taking into account individual _iews on who is attractive or not and that we all may like sexual acts in different ways.

Of course then there are the last type... the accurate pleasant but discrete ones with nice people who look after themselves and show respect to themselves and others. They are the type of people we like to mix with and so give an indication that the recipent of their verification may indeed be of interest to us. These are our favourites but because of all the other issues not ALWAYS easy to know whether they are genuine or not.

Gut instinct as a result of many other aspects is obviously the only way to go. This coupled with not rushing into anything and taking time for a chat on the phone followed by a social without expectations works for us. No doubt others do it their way and if it works for them great.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if a verification painted a not so good re_iew of the person or persons you had met, as graphic or articulate as anyone wants to paint them, no one would see anything that didnt advertise them as they want to see, i think it is better to just have a tick box to verify and keep the current verification for the advertising purpose that it is currently used for. and have a list of how many were left so we have an idea of how many they didnt approve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if a verification painted a not so good re_iew of the person or persons you had met, as graphic or articulate as anyone wants to paint them, no one would see anything that didnt advertise them as they want to see, i think it is better to just have a tick box to verify and keep the current verification for the advertising purpose that it is currently used for. and have a list of how many were left so we have an idea of how many they didnt approve "

its used how its wanted be used or not...no point in anyone moaning about it, to have one...I love...not to have one...och well.

Only thing I like about them is showing a persons character than something just plain cold, I like to have fun and meet the people, I stipulate whether i met them at a party , or had sex.Enough people here can read and write something simple or something complex, something just reserved or something more overt...

If ur meet went bad and u dont get a verify thats simple move on, if it went great and no verify ok...move on, get a great one...smile!!!

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