FabSwingers.com forum: Hotlists

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We think it would be good if there was an option to allow people to see if you have them on your hotlist, that way people would have more of an idea if there's a mutual attraction before messaging and it would certainly help single guys know who was interested in them, as they seem to get a lot of stick on some threads on here. Just an idea anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a great idea to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my hot list as a quick list of those I will message later or just to perve on their pics!

Think knowing you're on someone's hot list is like winking, that shows you're interested in them so I'm not sure why we would need another way of showing that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't use mine at all.

People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't use mine at all.

People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy. "
do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't use mine at all.

People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy. "

Just say stalking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is for perving purposes or just as a way of keeping the ones i want to message but just haven't plucked the courage to do so yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

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because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We think it would be good if there was an option to allow people to see if you have them on your hotlist, that way people would have more of an idea if there's a mutual attraction before messaging and it would certainly help single guys know who was interested in them, as they seem to get a lot of stick on some threads on here. Just an idea anyway?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mine is for perving purposes or just as a way of keeping the ones i want to message but just haven't plucked the courage to do so yet"
exactly, but if you knew they had you on their hotlist it would make it easier for you to contact them, don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that just the same as winks though In that case? If someone is in my hotlist it's usually because I'm weighing up whether to message them or I've added them to show Paul- I don't bother with it for anything else

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By *alldarkhandsomedaveMan
over a year ago

Derby

It certainly wouldn't hurt but I generally use mine to perv on the people who load good pics, be it men, women or couples!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Isn't that just the same as winks though In that case? If someone is in my hotlist it's usually because I'm weighing up whether to message them or I've added them to show Paul- I don't bother with it for anything else "
nit really as we see a lot of people say on their profiles that they don't respond to winks as they feel they are lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't that just the same as winks though In that case? If someone is in my hotlist it's usually because I'm weighing up whether to message them or I've added them to show Paul- I don't bother with it for anything else nit really as we see a lot of people say on their profiles that they don't respond to winks as they feel they are lazy."

They say it's lazy as it's just clicking a button, same as adding to hotlist

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

No, people do use the hotlist for different reasons.

For example we might hotlist somebody who looks good, but is currently un-verified, then in future we can find them again easily.

On the forum, some people have even said they use the hotlist for the exact opposite of what the name implies, so they can keep an eye on people they actively want to avoid.

Hotlist is private and personal, leave it so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, people do use the hotlist for different reasons.

For example we might hotlist somebody who looks good, but is currently un-verified, then in future we can find them again easily.

On the forum, some people have even said they use the hotlist for the exact opposite of what the name implies, so they can keep an eye on people they actively want to avoid.

Hotlist is private and personal, leave it so."
as we said there would be an option for the person/couple to use!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

People use the site in lots of different ways remember!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People use the site in lots of different ways remember!"
again, as we said it would be an option!!! Peoples choice to use or no to use! You don't seem to be getting that part.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??"

That's what some people do. We would would block.

They want to see what the person they don't like is doing.

But that's the point I'm making. You might do one thing, we might do another, somebody else different again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

That's what some people do. We would would block.

They want to see what the person they don't like is doing.

But that's the point I'm making. You might do one thing, we might do another, somebody else different again.has this actually been said to you or are you assuming?"

Do forum search on 'hotlist' , it's been asked before. I was just summarising what I thought and what I've read before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

That's what some people do. We would would block.

They want to see what the person they don't like is doing.

But that's the point I'm making. You might do one thing, we might do another, somebody else different again."
has this actually been said to you? Or are you surmising?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't use mine at all.

People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy.

Just say stalking

I use mine for stalking the people I don't want as friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know."

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over a year ago

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Also, when you upgrade to Platinum membership, like we have. Then hotlist viewing is an included feature.

OP your hotlist looks great, and a little surprising too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

I agree with what someone else wrote, it seems a lot like the wink feature. Those that don't look at winks likely wouldn't look at this, either. I'm all for more choice with everything on this site, I just feel like in this case the tools are already there to be used. "
disagree sorry. If people looked and liked your profile then knew you had them on your hotlist, they'd more than likely make contact.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??"

No. For me the block button is for people I know from work that really don't need to see me on here and for people who are abusive in their messaging.

The hotlist is for people who amuse me on an unmeetable level. For example there is someone on there at the moment who has been leaving at least once a fortnight for the past year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys are on our hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

That's what some people do. We would would block.

They want to see what the person they don't like is doing.

But that's the point I'm making. You might do one thing, we might do another, somebody else different again.has this actually been said to you? Or are you surmising?"

It's actually been said in this thread.... people have said they use their hotlists differently in a few comments here.

I think the closest we have to what you're suggesting is the wink feature. If I view a delightful profile and they've already winked me I can confidently start licking my lips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

I agree with what someone else wrote, it seems a lot like the wink feature. Those that don't look at winks likely wouldn't look at this, either. I'm all for more choice with everything on this site, I just feel like in this case the tools are already there to be used. disagree sorry. If people looked and liked your profile then knew you had them on your hotlist, they'd more than likely make contact."

But how is that different from a wink? Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

No. For me the block button is for people I know from work that really don't need to see me on here and for people who are abusive in their messaging.

The hotlist is for people who amuse me on an unmeetable level. For example there is someone on there at the moment who has been leaving at least once a fortnight for the past year."
as you say that's for you but the majority would use it differently and as we said it'd make life a bit easier for single guys, especially the genuine ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

I agree with what someone else wrote, it seems a lot like the wink feature. Those that don't look at winks likely wouldn't look at this, either. I'm all for more choice with everything on this site, I just feel like in this case the tools are already there to be used. disagree sorry. If people looked and liked your profile then knew you had them on your hotlist, they'd more than likely make contact.

But how is that different from a wink? Just curious."
you need to read the thread thoroughly and you'll see why we think it's different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

I agree with what someone else wrote, it seems a lot like the wink feature. Those that don't look at winks likely wouldn't look at this, either. I'm all for more choice with everything on this site, I just feel like in this case the tools are already there to be used. disagree sorry. If people looked and liked your profile then knew you had them on your hotlist, they'd more than likely make contact.

But how is that different from a wink? Just curious.you need to read the thread thoroughly and you'll see why we think it's different."

Wow. Ok never mind. I'll leave you to it.

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By *alldarkhandsomedaveMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Also, when you upgrade to Platinum membership, like we have. Then hotlist viewing is an included feature.

OP your hotlist looks great, and a little surprising too!

Is that right about the Planinum upgrade?

I can probably guess how many I'm on....lol

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By *johnson7188Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Am adding you all to my hotlist lol

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??

No. For me the block button is for people I know from work that really don't need to see me on here and for people who are abusive in their messaging.

The hotlist is for people who amuse me on an unmeetable level. For example there is someone on there at the moment who has been leaving at least once a fortnight for the past year.as you say that's for you but the majority would use it differently and as we said it'd make life a bit easier for single guys, especially the genuine ones."

Yep. I'm speaking for myself. But previously when this has been mentioned, the majority, especially women have said they wouldn't use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not just message them, though? Then you'd know if there was mutual attraction

because if you look at a profile and they already have you on their hotlist it would make contacting easier. And as we said, it would be an option if you wanted others to know.

I agree with what someone else wrote, it seems a lot like the wink feature. Those that don't look at winks likely wouldn't look at this, either. I'm all for more choice with everything on this site, I just feel like in this case the tools are already there to be used. disagree sorry. If people looked and liked your profile then knew you had them on your hotlist, they'd more than likely make contact.

But how is that different from a wink? Just curious.you need to read the thread thoroughly and you'll see why we think it's different.

Wow. Ok never mind. I'll leave you to it.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about an option not to be on peoples hot list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been hotlisted by XYZ....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about an option not to be on peoples hot list?

A cold list??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are people on my hotlist for all kind of reasons. If I wanted to meet them then I'd message them. Some people are just nice to look at, but I don't want to take it further.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been hotlisted by XYZ....?"
now that's a very good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been hotlisted by XYZ....?"

But you'd still have the problem that people hotlist for different reasons, so those notifications would lead to confusion. Say I hotlist someone because I think they are 'entertaining' but they hotlist me because they genuinely fancy me

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Not really.

My hotlist is my Twat list, so they would get the wrong idea

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"And actively want to avoid? Isn't that why the block button is there??"

Maybe I like to keep an eye on a person, make sure we don't end up at the same place at the same time. I couldn't do that if I block them.

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By *johnson7188Man
over a year ago

newcastle

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been

haha"

Stop talking about me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been

haha

Stop talking about me haha

You're not on my hotlist.... you should know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about an option not to be on peoples hot list?

A cold list??

No, just an option not to be hotlisted by anyone.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

We use ours for the reason intended I think, those we'd like to rip the clothes off..but maybe, time, distance, other playmates further down the meet road etc. stop us contacting them..We usually only have one or two going at any one time due to the limitations listed above.

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

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definitely not there for fear of rejection think your reading too much into what was a honest suggestion with no hidden agenda, you're just a little to deep.

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By *johnson7188Man
over a year ago

newcastle

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been

haha

Stop talking about me haha

You're not on my hotlist.... you should know that

Least am on the chicken list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been

haha

Stop talking about me haha

You're not on my hotlist.... you should know that

Least am on the chicken list

Ice cream reserves too

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By *johnson7188Man
over a year ago

newcastle

"I like that the hotlist is a private function as I have people on it for a variety of reasons

Are you thinking along the lines of swiping dating app. If we both 'hotlist' each other an alert pops up saying you've been

haha

Stop talking about me haha

You're not on my hotlist.... you should know that

Least am on the chicken list

Ice cream reserves too

You know the score haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would work if there was an option to make hotlist matches public - so if you both had "show hotlist matches" turned on, when you viewed each other's profiles it would indicate that you both have each other hotlisted.

But because people use hotlists in different ways this would have to be optional.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It would work if there was an option to make hotlist matches public - so if you both had "show hotlist matches" turned on, when you viewed each other's profiles it would indicate that you both have each other hotlisted.

But because people use hotlists in different ways this would have to be optional. "

But, since lots (most??) people want hotlist to be private, wouldn't it defeat the object?

You wouldn't know if you weren't on their hotlist or they had it switched off??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But because people use hotlists in different ways this would have to be optional.

But, since lots (most??) people want hotlist to be private, wouldn't it defeat the object?

You wouldn't know if you weren't on their hotlist or they had it switched off??"

I don't know what most people want, do or think.

If it's something that people want, that's a way to do it.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

definitely not there for fear of rejection think your reading too much into what was a honest suggestion with no hidden agenda, you're just a little to deep."

Cool with that, glad to be wrong because there's enough of the rejection fear happening on fab..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Nessa)

We use our hot list for locals...

Or people that regularly post photos that we enjoy or message them about the photos.

If that made sense?

Hee hee

Kisses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines empty

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't use it just for people I have the hots for so would prefer it stay private.

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By *atti78Man
over a year ago

chester

That's a brilliant idea! I'm not having an easy time since I joined because I'm not verified and the only woman I've managed to meet wasn't verified either so I'm no further forward!ha patience is definantly the key to this site!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is for perving purposes or just as a way of keeping the ones i want to message but just haven't plucked the courage to do so yetexactly, but if you knew they had you on their hotlist it would make it easier for you to contact them, don't you think?"

And block which ever way the other people felt so yes it wouldn't be a bad idea

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy.

do they?"

Ooh Yes.

We use ours for a myriad of reasons, mainly as a form of book-marking to show each other later. Reasons include: do you fancy them, that's a good photo, how about that wallpaper for the lounge, etc.

I once even went through a phase of adding people I was worried might be about to go unlos. That was a particularly pointless idea

I would say if you wanted to know how someone felt about you, plucking up the courage to ask is the obvious way. (not that we're much good about it either)

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

definitely not there for fear of rejection think your reading too much into what was a honest suggestion with no hidden agenda, you're just a little to deep.

Cool with that, glad to be wrong because there's enough of the rejection fear happening on fab..

S"
yep, especially for the genuine single guys, we just think it'd be an easier way for them too x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

definitely not there for fear of rejection think your reading too much into what was a honest suggestion with no hidden agenda, you're just a little to deep.

Cool with that, glad to be wrong because there's enough of the rejection fear happening on fab..

Syep, especially for the genuine single guys, we just think it'd be an easier way for them too x"

I have kept up with the thread, I just don't get why you wouldn't just message him ?

He might say no, fine, remove him from your hotlist, then message somebody else who you like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP this just seems like a way of bypassing the fear of rejection?

You look at someone (say us) and find we have hotlisted you so make contact & we knock you back anyway cos you are just there so I can look at that great bum maybe?

You may also be there because you posted in the forums that one day you may play alone, so we'll sit & keep an eye on you, see if you change your wants in your profile.

As others have said though people use them for different things..

I like the idea on principle but if even 25% of the 68 couples/bifems on our hotlist all contacted us that's 17 that would want to meet & we'd be too busy..

definitely not there for fear of rejection think your reading too much into what was a honest suggestion with no hidden agenda, you're just a little to deep.

Cool with that, glad to be wrong because there's enough of the rejection fear happening on fab..

Syep, especially for the genuine single guys, we just think it'd be an easier way for them too x

I have kept up with the thread, I just don't get why you wouldn't just message him ?

He might say no, fine, remove him from your hotlist, then message somebody else who you like?"
youre missing our point, it's not a personal suggestion for ourselves and there's no particular guy we are afraid to message, it was a suggestion for an option for the site as a whole. People put 2 and together and come up with 69 too much on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's a brilliant idea! I'm not having an easy time since I joined because I'm not verified and the only woman I've managed to meet wasn't verified either so I'm no further forward!ha patience is definantly the key to this site!!"

I'm verified, I'll meet you for a coffee

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"youre missing our point, it's not a personal suggestion for ourselves and there's no particular guy we are afraid to message, it was a suggestion for an option for the site as a whole. People put 2 and together and come up with 69 too much on here!!!"

OK, not 'you' , but I mean in general, people can just message the person on their hotlist, when the time is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use mine to view people I find attractive and some for the amusement factor. I don't keep a grot list, I just block them if I don't want contact with them

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

A lot if people use hotlist for all sorts of teafons(

" might look at later"

" vague interest"

Or ( a lot of people use it this way ) a " not " list.

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Simply viewing a profile with you settings set to show it often results in a "fancy a fuck" message. We would imagine for some, seeing themselves on your hotlist would be would lead to entitlement. We could see a whole new slew of "can't get a meet threads" not understanding the concept of window shopping.

We use ours for saving pics we think are well done and general perving. For instance, there are single men and TVs on ours not because we want to meet them but because the quality of their photos are high and we like they way they look.

Even saying all that, if it worked like the choice to hide yourself from "who looked at me" and was optional, we don't see why not.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Don't use mine at all.

People use them for various reasons other than people they fancy. do they?"

Yep...

Mine is more of a 'Not List' or people who just amuse me with continual ridiculous status updates etc...

No one wants to be on mine

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over a year ago

We advice guys who are interested in meeting us to hotlist us so that when we list a meet they can see more easily as at that point we've already chatted to them and would be happy to meet with them

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