FabSwingers.com forum: males to verify themselves

By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

i think us males should verify ourselves with a credit card or something just to get rid of the fakes and the time wasters because it fucks it up for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make your own destiny, others don't ruin it for you.

And time wasters and those who you consider to be ruining it still have credit cards.

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

but what im sayin is the pricks that wont meet wont put those details for verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would not make any difference

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

ok 2 to 1 lol it was just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would prove they had a credit card - not that they are not a TWONK.

Only face-to-face meets with other members - resulting in reports on the profile - prove that they are who they say they are in reality. That's why we have a verification process already.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I've got a deck of credit cards but that does not prove I am genuine. My veris from people who have met me do.

Not everyone has a credit card, some don't even want one. That should not prevent them from enjoying Fab.

There is an issue with people, usy men, who are time wasters but I doubt this is the answer. Even sites where paid membership is required to write messages have lots of guys who get cold feet or who are just after photos.

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

yer true im just thinking out loud never done this forum shit before and not 1 of ya agree so now man feels a right plum haha i just thought i wouldnt put my details up if i wasnt going to be meeting but thanks for replys guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not a plum - unless there are thousands of others who also thought about a system involving payments would out the folks who really are not interested in actually meeting [and prefer to wank off to the pics available here] Believe me - there's plenty of those around - all the sites!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yer true im just thinking out loud never done this forum shit before and not 1 of ya agree so now man feels a right plum haha i just thought i wouldnt put my details up if i wasnt going to be meeting but thanks for replys guys"
I agree

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"i think us males should verify ourselves with a credit card or something just to get rid of the fakes and the time wasters because it fucks it up for the rest of us "
I do not think many members of this site are worried about fakes and timewasters .

I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about others .

Most fake profiles stand out like a sore thumb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun"

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

Out of interest, if there are new people every Friday and Saturday and they're gone by Sunday, why is that a problem?

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Rah i see the guys on here are against it but the girls are kinda for it and like i said if i was a fake ass guy wanting to wank over pics i would not put my real name into this system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

Out of interest, if there are new people every Friday and Saturday and they're gone by Sunday, why is that a problem?"
because I get messages from these people ..talk back and forth .swap pics and then they are gone .so no clue who we are talking too .and before u say block newbies ..everybody was new to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got a deck of credit cards but that does not prove I am genuine. My veris from people who have met me do.

Not everyone has a credit card, some don't even want one. That should not prevent them from enjoying Fab.

Cool avatar..slightly off topic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rah i see the guys on here are against it but the girls are kinda for it and like i said if i was a fake ass guy wanting to wank over pics i would not put my real name into this system "

Your conclusion is not correct.

I have no idea why you think giving credit card details would deter a "fake." (And I am also a little uncertain as to your definition of "fake.")

I am more than happy for people to join without additional hurdles. After all, the more the merrier.

It is easy to out folk who are not going to play in the way you want them to play.

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Your a couple profile its better for couples and single girls i was on as a couple and got inundated with messages but then as a single male profile i dont receive as much as i did before of course i wouldnt theres 300 guys to every 40-50 girls/couples and i would say a lot of male profiles that give abuse/dont turn up/ pic collectors ect mess it up for genuine guys because weve been branded

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Your a couple profile its better for couples and single girls i was on as a couple and got inundated with messages but then as a single male profile i dont receive as much as i did before of course i wouldnt theres 300 guys to every 40-50 girls/couples and i would say a lot of male profiles that give abuse/dont turn up/ pic collectors ect mess it up for genuine guys because weve been branded "

My progress on the site is entirely down to me and nobody else. Those who attribute lack of progress to others for whatever reason need to look much closer to home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume you are replying to me. The "+quote" button helps us to see to whom you are replying.

No one brands you. Crap single male profiles and responses are just that. It is quite easy to determine the ones we want to meet. A credit card would make no difference at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

Out of interest, if there are new people every Friday and Saturday and they're gone by Sunday, why is that a problem?because I get messages from these people ..talk back and forth .swap pics and then they are gone .so no clue who we are talking too .and before u say block newbies ..everybody was new to start with"

How many messages and photos do you manage to swap back and forth over 2 days?

This suggests an element of desperation.... so maybe slow down and take your time.

Yes, everybody was new at some point, it takes time to build trust respect and mutual attraction. How can you expect to find that in 2 days from a new member.

What you're saying is the site gives you the tools to resolve your frustration, you just don't want to use them.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Having a credit card authorisation to prove a user is 18 doesn't exclude those who have a credit card from being "fake" or timewarters. It merely proves they're over 18. It tells users nothing about their intention to meet people.

The OP's Veris state he's met 5 women on 7 meets, newest being 2 years ago. That tells me he's been a member over a year, at least two & has had meets but not recently. (Tho even then he may have had non Veried meets lately). So the clues are all there with the tools provided by Fab to tell other users lots about a profile. Clearly not a weekender/revolving door profile, but frustrated by the lack of new meets mostly, I assume, down to timewasters, no-shows &/or not using the tools or the clues on profiles.

I understand the OP's frustrations, but I doubt having a credit card would deter the pic collectors, fantasists who never meet, or the "fakes" & married men playing away or closet bi/gay husbands who have credit cards (& there must be plenty) from living their sad, solitary, devoid of real sex, pitiful lives.

My opinion for the OP is look for a local Social or Swingers Club in the Forums, attend one, meet the genuine swingers who don't have issues meeting single males & enjoy what benefits the site can truly provide. Learn to spot the fakes & timewasters & enjoy the fun rather than get too hung up on the negatives. That way you'll enjoy the site, the Forums, the Chat Rooms, Socials etc.

Fab has tried many things to out fakes & every site, including ones requiring a credit card has these issues.

Good luck with finding some fresh meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

How many messages and photos do you manage to swap back and forth over 2 days?

This suggests an element of desperation.... so maybe slow down and take your time.

Yes, everybody was new at some point, it takes time to build trust respect and mutual attraction. How can you expect to find that in 2 days from a new member.

What you're saying is the site gives you the tools to resolve your frustration, you just don't want to use them.

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excuse me .slow down realy

Do u not swap pics to see who u are talking too .if had 5 people from Fri .talk to me

And then not be on site any more

Desperate now that's cheek..everybody's allowed an opinion .and I know what the op means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

How many messages and photos do you manage to swap back and forth over 2 days?

This suggests an element of desperation.... so maybe slow down and take your time.

Yes, everybody was new at some point, it takes time to build trust respect and mutual attraction. How can you expect to find that in 2 days from a new member.

What you're saying is the site gives you the tools to resolve your frustration, you just don't want to use them.

excuse me .slow down realy

Do u not swap pics to see who u are talking too .if had 5 people from Fri .talk to me

And then not be on site any more

Desperate now that's cheek..everybody's allowed an opinion .and I know what the op means"

In which case, use the tools the site gives you.

Block new members and/or stop looking for new members.

You can't have it both ways. If you're fed up with new members mucking you about, block them.

Quick question for you, you've had 5 new members contact you and then close their profiles since friday?

Who or what is the common denominator?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

How many messages and photos do you manage to swap back and forth over 2 days?

This suggests an element of desperation.... so maybe slow down and take your time.

Yes, everybody was new at some point, it takes time to build trust respect and mutual attraction. How can you expect to find that in 2 days from a new member.

What you're saying is the site gives you the tools to resolve your frustration, you just don't want to use them.

excuse me .slow down realy

Do u not swap pics to see who u are talking too .if had 5 people from Fri .talk to me

And then not be on site any more

Desperate now that's cheek..everybody's allowed an opinion .and I know what the op means

In which case, use the tools the site gives you.

Block new members and/or stop looking for new members.

You can't have it both ways. If you're fed up with new members mucking you about, block them.

Quick question for you, you've had 5 new members contact you and then close their profiles since friday?

Who or what is the common denominator? "
I can have it any way i like thank u very much ..and how am i to know how they closed it.I like speaking to New people .that's not the issue .the issue was people comeing and going .so quick .and the op .sugested paying get down off ur high horse .

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

"Having a credit card authorisation to prove a user is 18 doesn't exclude those who have a credit card from being "fake" or timewarters. It merely proves they're over 18. It tells users nothing about their intention to meet people.

Fab has tried many things to out fakes & every site, including ones requiring a credit card has these issues.

Good luck with finding some fresh meets. "
hey u right been on this site since 2010 i will never delete account ive been in relationships since then so had loads of months without fab over the years met people that dont or have not verified ive got some great friends on here ive just moved to another area and all i see is timewaster this fake that so i had a little thought in my head ive been to clubs and parties in london i didnt realize i would be judged by you for not sleeping with over 100 fabbers i only mentioned something that entered my head i would of asked the site itself but as ive never been in forum thought i would try here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the same ages ago every Fri Sat New people .then disapear come sun

Can you explain how verifying yourself with a credit card would stop the fakes?

Give it a minute and think it through......

How many messages and photos do you manage to swap back and forth over 2 days?

This suggests an element of desperation.... so maybe slow down and take your time.

Yes, everybody was new at some point, it takes time to build trust respect and mutual attraction. How can you expect to find that in 2 days from a new member.

What you're saying is the site gives you the tools to resolve your frustration, you just don't want to use them.

excuse me .slow down realy

Do u not swap pics to see who u are talking too .if had 5 people from Fri .talk to me

And then not be on site any more

Desperate now that's cheek..everybody's allowed an opinion .and I know what the op means

In which case, use the tools the site gives you.

Block new members and/or stop looking for new members.

You can't have it both ways. If you're fed up with new members mucking you about, block them.

Quick question for you, you've had 5 new members contact you and then close their profiles since friday?

Who or what is the common denominator? I can have it any way i like thank u very much ..and how am i to know how they closed it.I like speaking to New people .that's not the issue .the issue was people comeing and going .so quick .and the op .sugested paying get down off ur high horse . "

Fair enough.

Carry on.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Rah i see the guys on here are against it but the girls are kinda for it and like i said if i was a fake ass guy wanting to wank over pics i would not put my real name into this system "

I'd say we're not for fakes, we just know how to spot them.

Guys seem to have a problem with them because they think fakes are stopping them getting meets.

Decent guys with decent profiles get meets, regardless what other numpties get up to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it that your finding it hard to get verified. As a single bloke i know how hard it is. I've been on for two years and it must have taken me the most of three months to get my first i messaged people and never seemed to get any were. Until I started to go to clubs then got chatting to people didn't get to play but gave a few people my name then out of the blue got asked to go to a party. Jumped at the chance and have never looked back. You have to put the leg work in and it takes time . So just stick with it

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

"I take it that your finding it hard to get verified. As a single bloke i know how hard it is. I've been on for two years and it must have taken me the most of three months to get my first i messaged people and never seemed to get any were. Until I started to go to clubs then got chatting to people didn't get to play but gave a few people my name then out of the blue got asked to go to a party. Jumped at the chance and have never looked back. You have to put the leg work in and it takes time . So just stick with it "
nah not at all G i been verified but defo want to hit the clubs more theres none in lincoln itself the town is shit but the birds are fit

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"hey u right been on this site since 2010 i will never delete account ive been in relationships since then so had loads of months without fab over the years met people that dont or have not verified ive got some great friends on here ive just moved to another area and all i see is timewaster this fake that so i had a little thought in my head ive been to clubs and parties in london i didnt realize i would be judged by you for not sleeping with over 100 fabbers i only mentioned something that entered my head i would of asked the site itself but as ive never been in forum thought i would try here "

Firstly, apologies if you think I was "judging" you for your right to operate your account in the way you want to operate it. That certainly wasn't my intention. Nor was it meant to infer anything on how many you should sleep with from Fab. I firmly believe everyone has the right to operate their account the way they wish to.

Similarly you have every right to have an idea or thought about how to reduce what you consider "fake" accounts. However, it's all been said before in the Forums & Fab have tried introducing many tools to help genuine users report these accounts - everything from stolen photos, to no shows at meets & these tools do work if members take the time to use them.

As for my suggestion of how people can interpret (& even misinterpret) a profiles content eg: Veris, latest Veris etc then you clarified that a 2 year old Verification is just that. 2 years old. Again, however my comment did point out that it could mean a couple of things. The only certainty was that you've been here at least 2 years & may not mean that was your last meet. I think I made that clear & it certainly wasn't making any derogatory comment. So again if you've taken that to heart as a "judgement" then I need to make clear that this was not my intention.

Anyway, now that you've found your way to the Forums I hope you find it enlightening & as much fun as other parts of the site.

Like other parts of the site you'll find negative sides to it. Everyone has an opinion, some of which some posters consider "facts". You'll find some replies are Fabs equivalent of trolls. I'm sure you'll find ways to deal with those just as we have to deal with "fakes".

In closing, once again welcome to the Forums, enjoy posting & interacting with the Forum users & (again) good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think us males should verify ourselves with a credit card or something just to get rid of the fakes and the time wasters because it fucks it up for the rest of us "

Nobody here is fake. Some are genuine tosses but that's there problem.

Most "time wasters" spend most of the time wasting their own time. Another guy certainly won't waste your time!

You get from this site what you seek and what you are prepared to put in. Other sites require credit cards etc...the dynamic/proportions etc are just the same!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"i think us males should verify ourselves with a credit card or something just to get rid of the fakes and the time wasters because it fucks it up for the rest of us "

And couples - often see a man hiding behind a 'couple' profile...

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By *ubywants2playCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't have a problem with fakes, they so far have been pretty obvious. The problem I have is with bottlers!!!

The amount of 'men' I've come across who are too scared to meet for a social is unreal!!!

Every single one has come back looking for another chance as well..... What a waste!!

R x

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Maybe we should provide DNA samples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signed letter from my mum and dad also look at my pay as you go credit card come on what ever next

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By *renchy1 OP Man
over a year ago

lincoln

"I don't have a problem with fakes, they so far have been pretty obvious. The problem I have is with bottlers!!!

The amount of 'men' I've come across who are too scared to meet for a social is unreal!!!

Every single one has come back looking for another chance as well..... What a waste!!

R x"
hey your right hit the nail on the head most of em are bottlers and let ppl down bcs they have probably already cum wanking over photos

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By *jxxxxCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Think you got a slightly hard ride there but some of your comments were a little misjudged.

Fortunately fab has a very good system of weading out the fakes - verifications! There just isn't really a way round it for the new guys - but we all started somewhere and all had the same problems. Clubs and socials are the easiest way for those new starters. Whilst the amazing wonderland has moved on from Lincoln there are still socials and if seriously interested in the scene and building up your network of friends this is the best and quickest approach. You can also have a lot of fun along the way too. See life ain't that bad! Keep your credit card and keep fab free xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You make your own destiny, others don't ruin it for you.

And time wasters and those who you consider to be ruining it still have credit cards."

Couldn't agree more ^

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I simply don't do veris anymore.

I tell people I've met not to waste their time.

People will meet you anyways if it feels right.

Tinder has no veris and you can get 10 meets a week if you wanted.

Instinct serves you well.

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

There's platinum membership

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"I simply don't do veris anymore.

I tell people I've met not to waste their time.

People will meet you anyways if it feels right.

Tinder has no veris and you can get 10 meets a week if you wanted.

Instinct serves you well."

True, i've probably met more people off Tinder in the last year than I have off Fab. Probably because women can choose who they want to chat to rather being bombarded...

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"i think us males should verify ourselves with a credit card or something just to get rid of the fakes and the time wasters because it fucks it up for the rest of us "

Would thisbe their credit card ?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I simply don't do veris anymore.

I tell people I've met not to waste their time.

People will meet you anyways if it feels right.

Tinder has no veris and you can get 10 meets a week if you wanted.

Instinct serves you well.

True, i've probably met more people off Tinder in the last year than I have off Fab. Probably because women can choose who they want to chat to rather being bombarded..."

Can you NOT have it integrated with Facebook? I wouldn't want all my family knowing my preferences...

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