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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've each been on and off the site for years and think something should be done to combat inactive users using the site for online kicks.

Couldn't you delete profiles that have not been verified after a certain amount of time?

Or even those verified if they've not met for 6-12 months reset their profile to newbie?

There is a big problem with jokers of late and think something should be done to give users a better experience.

Just an idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a great idea. New profiles that haven't been verified after 2 months should just be deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a great idea. New profiles that haven't been verified after 2 months should just be deleted."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More should be done when members are reported on multiple occasions for blatant time wasting. . I recently spent a whole day off getting ready for an arranged meet only for the guy to totally stand me up.. No phone call, no apology,no explanation nothing !! Just didn't bother to turn up !! Subsequently I found out that this was far from the first time he's done this.. I was contacted by a number of other people to say he's done exactly the same to them.. they reported him, as I have but he's still on FAB and most likely he'll do the very same to his next 'victim'.. Maybe we need a '3 strikes and you're out' policy.. or a warning placed on their profile warning other uses that they've failed to turn up for 'meets' on numerous occasions..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More should be done when members are reported on multiple occasions for blatant time wasting. . I recently spent a whole day off getting ready for an arranged meet only for the guy to totally stand me up.. No phone call, no apology,no explanation nothing !! Just didn't bother to turn up !! Subsequently I found out that this was far from the first time he's done this.. I was contacted by a number of other people to say he's done exactly the same to them.. they reported him, as I have but he's still on FAB and most likely he'll do the very same to his next 'victim'.. Maybe we need a '3 strikes and you're out' policy.. or a warning placed on their profile warning other uses that they've failed to turn up for 'meets' on numerous occasions.. "

That could be abused though.

Say if 3 people didn't like you and they just reported your profile for no factual reason... Bang, you're gone.

Unless both parties agreed to a meet request and then a feedback thing was given.

You'd soon also learn who was serious if they knew you could leave bad feedback or click they didn't show and it go against them.

I'm sure a lot of peoples dogs, friends and parents would stay alive longer too

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? The verifications are genuine and show I've met ... if I've not met in months it still doesn't change that .End of the day it's just to show I am a woman and not actually some huge brickie called Dave lol. Also people can use their own discretion if me not being recently verified if a deal breaker or not .

As for changing status to a newbie ....well I'm not lol .I still on regular messaging and contributing in chat. I don't see why anyone should be told they have to meet X times over a certain period of time . If and when I want to indulge in bedroom gymnastics then thats down to me and my meet ..not a time limit.

People can I'm sure use their own methods and filters to out time wasters ect . The site is mearly a vehicle and how each use is is down to them and no other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For starters it can take up to 6 months for single guys to be verified and how will your idea work with those in the forces that get posted abroad just as they've verified?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be something done about it. How someone can have pics of a pornstar and claim to be them is beyond me.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"There should be something done about it. How someone can have pics of a pornstar and claim to be them is beyond me. "

There is already any fake profiles and pics you can report and admin deal .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What utter bullshit. There is way too much said on this forum about people who do not meet very often being fakes, time wasters ect.....

So unless you are constantly meeting you must be thrown off the site or have your status reduced.

What are you the Fab police?

Some people just like to chat or cam, nothing wrong with that.

I have met 3 people off this profile but only have 1 verification, so your idea is flawed anyway. I have had a different profile previously that had more verifications.

I also am on another site and have 2 FWB,s from that site.

I am not meeting Willy nilly just so I can stay on this site. I will meet if and when I want to.

If you are not happy with the site and its regulation, go and join another one instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe go and make your own swinging site, you can set your own rules then.

Don't police the rest of us please.

X

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I've not met anyone for almost 4 months... My currently off work for 12 weeks after a hip replacement...

Shall I get my coat and get ready to be thrown off the site?

Nahhhhhh..

Maybe if people had a better way of selecting there meets they wouldn't get 'Let Down' so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a big issue and one I've pondered many times.

I've been let down by verified people as well as unverified so kind of rules that out!

I think the op is just a bit angry at the moment, hence the post. Attacking her idea is not really the way to go. Maybe point out the flaws in that particular plan and add what you think might help!!! After all we are all on here to have fun and people have to ruin it by being fake and spoiling others use of the site.

Us real fabbers who do meet should stick together to help make the site a better and easier site to use rather than get all nasty towards one another!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is hardly a need for anger on this thread.

This is a section for site feedback and fab welcome thoughts/problems being highlighted.

This is also a public forum and providing rules are adhered to you're free to have your say just like everybody else.

Well last night I had a think about what I would do to try and combat time wasters, not those who genuinely cannot meet.

When engaging in conversation maybe have a meet request option that both agree to with a date on.

If you're then stood up you can report feedback back, like turned up, didn't, made excuses, arranged for anither time.

And have a 3 strikes and you're out policy. But maybe have a mark on your profile for a certain amount of time if you fail to turn up.

Personally think it would give people a little more confidence and be able to work out the TIME WASTERS and jokers who leave a bad vibe on the site with those who get stood up.

If you're wanting to actively meet on this site even those verified are not assured not to be time wasters so something should be put in place to avoid time being wasted and efforts too.

It's not a case of careful selection like it used to be, I was stood up twice by somebody heavily verified as genuine with very lame excuses.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Admin already have something in place to deal with reports. I will paste what they say they do.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

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Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"There is hardly a need for anger on this thread.

This is a section for site feedback and fab welcome thoughts/problems being highlighted.

This is also a public forum and providing rules are adhered to you're free to have your say just like everybody else.

Well last night I had a think about what I would do to try and combat time wasters, not those who genuinely cannot meet.

When engaging in conversation maybe have a meet request option that both agree to with a date on.

If you're then stood up you can report feedback back, like turned up, didn't, made excuses, arranged for anither time.

And have a 3 strikes and you're out policy. But maybe have a mark on your profile for a certain amount of time if you fail to turn up.

Personally think it would give people a little more confidence and be able to work out the TIME WASTERS and jokers who leave a bad vibe on the site with those who get stood up.

If you're wanting to actively meet on this site even those verified are not assured not to be time wasters so something should be put in place to avoid time being wasted and efforts too.

It's not a case of careful selection like it used to be, I was stood up twice by somebody heavily verified as genuine with very lame excuses."

People have to cancel for genuine reasons. Not every reason is 'Lame' or a 'Made up excuse'.

In 7 years I have only had to cancel one meet which I made it clear, all depended on work. I have also only been cancelled once due to child care. I didn't judge, shit happens.

The problem with giving feedback you talk about is bitter people. There is nothing to stop people telling lies because they don't get what they want.

How would you feel if I said... Oh he's arranged with me 3 times.. He didn't turn up twice and said his car broke down the 3rd. You know it's rubbish.. But it's my word against yours. See my point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is hardly a need for anger on this thread.

This is a section for site feedback and fab welcome thoughts/problems being highlighted.

This is also a public forum and providing rules are adhered to you're free to have your say just like everybody else.

Well last night I had a think about what I would do to try and combat time wasters, not those who genuinely cannot meet.

When engaging in conversation maybe have a meet request option that both agree to with a date on.

If you're then stood up you can report feedback back, like turned up, didn't, made excuses, arranged for anither time.

And have a 3 strikes and you're out policy. But maybe have a mark on your profile for a certain amount of time if you fail to turn up.

Personally think it would give people a little more confidence and be able to work out the TIME WASTERS and jokers who leave a bad vibe on the site with those who get stood up.

If you're wanting to actively meet on this site even those verified are not assured not to be time wasters so something should be put in place to avoid time being wasted and efforts too.

It's not a case of careful selection like it used to be, I was stood up twice by somebody heavily verified as genuine with very lame excuses.

People have to cancel for genuine reasons. Not every reason is 'Lame' or a 'Made up excuse'.

In 7 years I have only had to cancel one meet which I made it clear, all depended on work. I have also only been cancelled once due to child care. I didn't judge, shit happens.

The problem with giving feedback you talk about is bitter people. There is nothing to stop people telling lies because they don't get what they want.

How would you feel if I said... Oh he's arranged with me 3 times.. He didn't turn up twice and said his car broke down the 3rd. You know it's rubbish.. But it's my word against yours. See my point?"

If you read my post again you'll see what I said was both parties agree to a meet request - then according feedback be left.

Not sure this could be falsified if both parties agreed that a meet has been arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only been truly stood up once. we took full responsibility for it because we went outside if our usual checks prior to arranging a meet. did we blame the site or insist they put safeguards in place because we didn't? nope because we're grown ups who use the tools already provided plus our common sense. the site gives us the opportunity to contact people we think we may have something in common with. that's all. it's responsibility ends there as far as we're concerned

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By *ilbearniMan
over a year ago

peninsula


" I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? The verifications are genuine and show I've met ... if I've not met in months it still doesn't change that .End of the day it's just to show I am a woman and not actually some huge brickie called Dave lol. Also people can use their own discretion if me not being recently verified if a deal breaker or not .

As for changing status to a newbie ....well I'm not lol .I still on regular messaging and contributing in chat. I don't see why anyone should be told they have to meet X times over a certain period of time . If and when I want to indulge in bedroom gymnastics then thats down to me and my meet ..not a time limit.

People can I'm sure use their own methods and filters to out time wasters ect . The site is mearly a vehicle and how each use is is down to them and no other . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've only been truly stood up once. we took full responsibility for it because we went outside if our usual checks prior to arranging a meet. did we blame the site or insist they put safeguards in place because we didn't? nope because we're grown ups who use the tools already provided plus our common sense. the site gives us the opportunity to contact people we think we may have something in common with. that's all. it's responsibility ends there as far as we're concerned"

This is very true and admin/owners can't be held responsible for how people behave on this site but by the same token if it just turns into a bad site then genuine people will stop using it.

Maybe there should be the possibility for people to pay a bit more for membership and this might stop the misuse of the site??

Friendship would be good too instead of some of the nastiness that goes on on the forums that way we could share amongst ourselves if people are fake etc. I suppose even this could be abused by a few, the same reason we can't openly name and shame??

It's very difficult to come up with a full proof option!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is already an option to report that someone doesn't turn up for a meet - on the 'Report profile' function.

The site has regularly stated that naming/shaming is never to be allowed anywhere on the site due to it being too open to abuse.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"There is hardly a need for anger on this thread.

This is a section for site feedback and fab welcome thoughts/problems being highlighted.

This is also a public forum and providing rules are adhered to you're free to have your say just like everybody else.

Well last night I had a think about what I would do to try and combat time wasters, not those who genuinely cannot meet.

When engaging in conversation maybe have a meet request option that both agree to with a date on.

If you're then stood up you can report feedback back, like turned up, didn't, made excuses, arranged for anither time.

And have a 3 strikes and you're out policy. But maybe have a mark on your profile for a certain amount of time if you fail to turn up.

Personally think it would give people a little more confidence and be able to work out the TIME WASTERS and jokers who leave a bad vibe on the site with those who get stood up.

If you're wanting to actively meet on this site even those verified are not assured not to be time wasters so something should be put in place to avoid time being wasted and efforts too.

It's not a case of careful selection like it used to be, I was stood up twice by somebody heavily verified as genuine with very lame excuses.

People have to cancel for genuine reasons. Not every reason is 'Lame' or a 'Made up excuse'.

In 7 years I have only had to cancel one meet which I made it clear, all depended on work. I have also only been cancelled once due to child care. I didn't judge, shit happens.

The problem with giving feedback you talk about is bitter people. There is nothing to stop people telling lies because they don't get what they want.

How would you feel if I said... Oh he's arranged with me 3 times.. He didn't turn up twice and said his car broke down the 3rd. You know it's rubbish.. But it's my word against yours. See my point?

If you read my post again you'll see what I said was both parties agree to a meet request - then according feedback be left.

Not sure this could be falsified if both parties agreed that a meet has been arranged. "

But.... What if it is a genuine reason...like a ill child or something? If one party gets the hump and leaves bitter feedback...that wouldn't be fair.

I think it work just fine as it is.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I think it work just fine as it is. "

If people concentrated more on using their filters, and using a bit of sense when arranging meets, they would enjoy it here much more. Reading the FAQs would help to avoid some common pitfalls, together with acceptance that there are twats on every internet site.

Fab is a tool, and we're all responsible for how we use the site. We can't really blame them if we're not using it right.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


" I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? The verifications are genuine and show I've met ... if I've not met in months it still doesn't change that .End of the day it's just to show I am a woman and not actually some huge brickie called Dave lol. Also people can use their own discretion if me not being recently verified if a deal breaker or not .

As for changing status to a newbie ....well I'm not lol .I still on regular messaging and contributing in chat. I don't see why anyone should be told they have to meet X times over a certain period of time . If and when I want to indulge in bedroom gymnastics then thats down to me and my meet ..not a time limit.

People can I'm sure use their own methods and filters to out time wasters ect . The site is mearly a vehicle and how each use is is down to them and no other . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe go and make your own swinging site, you can set your own rules then.

Don't police the rest of us please.

X"

I haven't met anyone this time round. Even tho I have a verification of a lovely friend I met on another site and bumped into her here.

Over the last 15 years I've been on an off the site using different profile name's. I probably have had no more than 10 meets over that period. I have also had to pull out of meets because something popped up, life. work etc.

Am genuine. I wouldn't just not show up. Wouldn't like it done to meself.

There's enough rules. Keep it as it is. Not hard to work out the players an fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a great idea. New profiles that haven't been verified after 2 months should just be deleted."

I've not met in 4 wks. Would I now be on a time limit? Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? "

"Pussy" facing a second operation to fix a prolapse within 24 months!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site gives you plenty tools to use to filter out people.. i dont see how unverifieds should be punished because people cant be arsed to you these tools, ive been on this site 8 years and never met a fake or a "timewaster" yet because i use the filters and also my gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use this site to chat in the forums as i love the banter, why should i be penalised for not meeting or not met for awhile?

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Good idea

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

There is already an option for people to pay for Site Supporter status. And there are already filters available to avoid non-site-supporters, unverified profiles etc. And there is already a system in place to report anyone who doesn't turn up to an arranged meet without warning.

And we all have the most important tool in our armoury, to avoid timewasters - our OWN COMMON SENSE!. This site is for making contacts only, and first and foremost the site is free. For those who want pay sites, there are plenty of other to choose from - and all they have the same problem with timewasters, because guess what? Timewasters have money too!

It is unreasonable to expect to any more tools for ing out these so-called timewasters, and there are no 'new' ideas for what the site could do. Just do a search on fakes and timewasters, and you will see that everything suggested in this thread has been suggested before.

We must all take responsibility for evaluating who to meet. That's what I do, and in 4+ years on this and other sites, I have never had my time wasted by someone failing to turn up. Yes, I have had conversations which didn't lead to anything, but that is just part of the rich tapestry that is Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is hardly a need for anger on this thread.

This is a section for site feedback and fab welcome thoughts/problems being highlighted.

This is also a public forum and providing rules are adhered to you're free to have your say just like everybody else.

Well last night I had a think about what I would do to try and combat time wasters, not those who genuinely cannot meet.

When engaging in conversation maybe have a meet request option that both agree to with a date on.

If you're then stood up you can report feedback back, like turned up, didn't, made excuses, arranged for anither time.

And have a 3 strikes and you're out policy. But maybe have a mark on your profile for a certain amount of time if you fail to turn up.

Personally think it would give people a little more confidence and be able to work out the TIME WASTERS and jokers who leave a bad vibe on the site with those who get stood up.

If you're wanting to actively meet on this site even those verified are not assured not to be time wasters so something should be put in place to avoid time being wasted and efforts too.

It's not a case of careful selection like it used to be, I was stood up twice by somebody heavily verified as genuine with very lame excuses."

Your sugested system is open to abuse on numerous ways, say people meet and one side doesn't like the other, they leave negative feedback however the other side could have had a great time and leave positive feedback, ones all happy and has no idea the other has just left a black mark against them.

Alternativelt What's to prevent someone lying and saying the other party didn't turn up ?.

Unless a member of fab admin oversees every meet, they wouldn't know who to believe.

The problem with an honour system of verifications is that not everyone is honerable.

Yes the current system is not perfect and is open to abuse, but so is every other suggestion I've seen on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's OK to say use your common sense and use the tools available on the site ..but that still doesn't always help .. In my recent situation I had messaged the guy who 'stood me up' quite a number of times.. he was charming, plausible and seemingly genuine (as far as wanting to meet was concerned..) We had discussed meeting up a number of times and eventually we decided on a mutually suitable date and time.. He was verified and the verifications were positive.. On the day of the 'meet' we had exchanged messages and at one point he contacted me to say that the time we had agreed on wasn't suitable anymore, could I make it a bit later.. I agreed and we reconfirmed a later time..

Despite all that, he never showed up.. and, as I said previously, I never heard a thing from him. No call, no message, no explanation, no apology.

Yes, things do happen and people have genuine reasons not to turn up at times, I fully accept that, but common decency says that in those circumstances you let the other person know, asap .. I think some way of adding a visual indicator ( Like an icon depicting a large Ass !!) to a profile to show that a person has had 'Multiple' fail to shows should be introduced..

Again, I fully accept that one person reporting such a thing could be being vindictive or simply unfair but surely if a number of unrelated people report the same person for the same thing on multiple occasions then there must be a fair chance that he/she deserves something on their profile that highlights this fact as a warning to others.. In my case, I have heard from a few other FAB users who told me that this guy did exactly the same to them so I think it's fair to say that he's a TIMEWASTER and that fact should be highlighted somewhere..

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

We get so fed up with time wasters and it is difficult sometimes to out the good from the bad! Just seems we are slowing down or not even replying to messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? The verifications are genuine and show I've met ... if I've not met in months it still doesn't change that .End of the day it's just to show I am a woman and not actually some huge brickie called Dave lol. Also people can use their own discretion if me not being recently verified if a deal breaker or not .

As for changing status to a newbie ....well I'm not lol .I still on regular messaging and contributing in chat. I don't see why anyone should be told they have to meet X times over a certain period of time . If and when I want to indulge in bedroom gymnastics then thats down to me and my meet ..not a time limit.

People can I'm sure use their own methods and filters to out time wasters ect . The site is mearly a vehicle and how each use is is down to them and no other . "

I (f) had an accident in May ... police found me head down next to busy main street 100yards from us. Open skull wound no idea what happened...in end was fractured skull, cheek and jaw bone and blood clot. So now in and out of hospital and not really meeting but just for socials a laugh, natter and maybe hot fun... Does that mean we are "time wasters" ?

Think it is right that people who are reported should get a strict warning And after a certain number of verified no meet reports Admin should act and close the account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More should be done when members are reported on multiple occasions for blatant time wasting. . I recently spent a whole day off getting ready for an arranged meet only for the guy to totally stand me up.. No phone call, no apology,no explanation nothing !! Just didn't bother to turn up !! Subsequently I found out that this was far from the first time he's done this.. I was contacted by a number of other people to say he's done exactly the same to them.. they reported him, as I have but he's still on FAB and most likely he'll do the very same to his next 'victim'.. Maybe we need a '3 strikes and you're out' policy.. or a warning placed on their profile warning other uses that they've failed to turn up for 'meets' on numerous occasions..

That could be abused though.

Say if 3 people didn't like you and they just reported your profile for no factual reason... Bang, you're gone.

Unless both parties agreed to a meet request and then a feedback thing was given.

You'd soon also learn who was serious if they knew you could leave bad feedback or click they didn't show and it go against them.

I'm sure a lot of peoples dogs, friends and parents would stay alive longer too "

There will be a "trail" of messages prior to the meet. These could be checked up on by admin to avoid the abuse if the system by people falsely reporting people they fall out with.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"We've each been on and off the site for years and think something should be done to combat inactive users using the site for online kicks.

Couldn't you delete profiles that have not been verified after a certain amount of time?

Or even those verified if they've not met for 6-12 months reset their profile to newbie?

There is a big problem with jokers of late and think something should be done to give users a better experience.

Just an idea. "
I cannot understand why people worry about so called fakes and timewasters .

Surely on fab you sell yourself by having a detailed well written profile combined with good pictures.

I do not think many fakes would go to the bother of writing a good profile .

You just need to use common sense .

On fab I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about those of others .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Think it is right that people who are reported should get a strict warning And after a certain number of verified no meet reports Admin should act and close the account.

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How would you verify a no meet report ? Unless someone from Fab admin is actually there it's all hearsay

Whats to prevent someone being reported for not meeting one week by someone vindictive, then going on a meet the following week but not receiving a verification for it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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There will be a "trail" of messages prior to the meet. These could be checked up on by admin to avoid the abuse if the system by people falsely reporting people they fall out with."

That only works if all communication and meet details are conducted on FAB. I exchange numbers and Kik id's and generally chat via there as its quicker and easier. Quite a lot of people do the same.

There is no trail of messages in this case

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


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There will be a "trail" of messages prior to the meet. These could be checked up on by admin to avoid the abuse if the system by people falsely reporting people they fall out with.

That only works if all communication and meet details are conducted on FAB. I exchange numbers and Kik id's and generally chat via there as its quicker and easier. Quite a lot of people do the same.

There is no trail of messages in this case"
Maybe fab should have a special subscripion for those lacking in common sense and are incapable of eliminating fakes themselves .

For an annual subscription of say £500 they could employ full time staff and investigate all your complaints . They could maybe also sell an insurance service for your meet. You pay a £20 insurance fee and fab arrange a stand in for no shows.

I prefer just to use common sense.It has never let me down yet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Think it is right that people who are reported should get a strict warning And after a certain number of verified no meet reports Admin should act and close the account.

How would you verify a no meet report ? Unless someone from Fab admin is actually there it's all hearsay

Whats to prevent someone being reported for not meeting one week by someone vindictive, then going on a meet the following week but not receiving a verification for it ? "

Didn't say report by one party - by several .. so 3 or more. If three parties complain about a couple or single something must be wrong. Admin can check on messages as all stored and see if and what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Didn't say report by one party - by several .. so 3 or more. If three parties complain about a couple or single something must be wrong. Admin can check on messages as all stored and see if and what"

Again that only works if all communication is done through fab, which, as I've stated above, for myself and others is not the case.

As a personal example I have had experience of my own personal stalker on here, she hates the fact I won't meet her, creates a new profile, sends me a let's meet message and then reports me to admin when I don't respond. Or I assume just reports me as when she feels like it without sending me a message

I know this is the case as previously she said that was what she was going to do, during one of her numerous times on here.

Using your method,id have racked up my 3 strikes within a week and half, all due to a stalker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's OK to say use your common sense and use the tools available on the site ..but that still doesn't always help .. In my recent situation I had messaged the guy who 'stood me up' quite a number of times.. he was charming, plausible and seemingly genuine (as far as wanting to meet was concerned..) We had discussed meeting up a number of times and eventually we decided on a mutually suitable date and time.. He was verified and the verifications were positive.. On the day of the 'meet' we had exchanged messages and at one point he contacted me to say that the time we had agreed on wasn't suitable anymore, could I make it a bit later.. I agreed and we reconfirmed a later time..

Despite all that, he never showed up.. and, as I said previously, I never heard a thing from him. No call, no message, no explanation, no apology.

Yes, things do happen and people have genuine reasons not to turn up at times, I fully accept that, but common decency says that in those circumstances you let the other person know, asap .. I think some way of adding a visual indicator ( Like an icon depicting a large Ass !!) to a profile to show that a person has had 'Multiple' fail to shows should be introduced.. "
why the hell would you give someone so many chances.. 2 at the most then block move on its simple..

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World


"It's OK to say use your common sense and use the tools available on the site ..but that still doesn't always help .. In my recent situation I had messaged the guy who 'stood me up' quite a number of times.. he was charming, plausible and seemingly genuine (as far as wanting to meet was concerned..) We had discussed meeting up a number of times and eventually we decided on a mutually suitable date and time.. He was verified and the verifications were positive.. On the day of the 'meet' we had exchanged messages and at one point he contacted me to say that the time we had agreed on wasn't suitable anymore, could I make it a bit later.. I agreed and we reconfirmed a later time..

Despite all that, he never showed up.. and, as I said previously, I never heard a thing from him. No call, no message, no explanation, no apology.

Yes, things do happen and people have genuine reasons not to turn up at times, I fully accept that, but common decency says that in those circumstances you let the other person know, asap .. I think some way of adding a visual indicator ( Like an icon depicting a large Ass !!) to a profile to show that a person has had 'Multiple' fail to shows should be introduced..

Again, I fully accept that one person reporting such a thing could be being vindictive or simply unfair but surely if a number of unrelated people report the same person for the same thing on multiple occasions then there must be a fair chance that he/she deserves something on their profile that highlights this fact as a warning to others.. In my case, I have heard from a few other FAB users who told me that this guy did exactly the same to them so I think it's fair to say that he's a TIMEWASTER and that fact should be highlighted somewhere.. "

But in this case you didn't use any common sense. You allowed the man to mess you about many times.HAD you used common sense you would have dumped his ass after the 2nd time he messed you about instead of giving him more chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does it affect you if people are "inactive users using the site for online kicks"?

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Personally, I don't bother contacting anyone that hasn't been online that day.

And, to be honest, if someone gets their kicks out of this site, then great, so what?

However, if they arrange to meet and then don't show, then that's a different matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's OK to say use your common sense and use the tools available on the site ..but that still doesn't always help .. In my recent situation I had messaged the guy who 'stood me up' quite a number of times.. he was charming, plausible and seemingly genuine (as far as wanting to meet was concerned..) We had discussed meeting up a number of times and eventually we decided on a mutually suitable date and time.. He was verified and the verifications were positive.. On the day of the 'meet' we had exchanged messages and at one point he contacted me to say that the time we had agreed on wasn't suitable anymore, could I make it a bit later.. I agreed and we reconfirmed a later time..

Despite all that, he never showed up.. and, as I said previously, I never heard a thing from him. No call, no message, no explanation, no apology.

Yes, things do happen and people have genuine reasons not to turn up at times, I fully accept that, but common decency says that in those circumstances you let the other person know, asap .. I think some way of adding a visual indicator ( Like an icon depicting a large Ass !!) to a profile to show that a person has had 'Multiple' fail to shows should be introduced..

Again, I fully accept that one person reporting such a thing could be being vindictive or simply unfair but surely if a number of unrelated people report the same person for the same thing on multiple occasions then there must be a fair chance that he/she deserves something on their profile that highlights this fact as a warning to others.. In my case, I have heard from a few other FAB users who told me that this guy did exactly the same to them so I think it's fair to say that he's a TIMEWASTER and that fact should be highlighted somewhere.. "

It has been highlighted. you know he is so he won't waste any more of your time...if other people choose to let him waste theirs then that's up to them surely?

I suppose the question might be how did other users know he'd wasted your time?

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By *atievTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I can understand some call for a mutual meet function where you can leave feedback. In my experience from other sites that have this function it is hardly if ever used. However it may make habitual fantasisers think twice if there was some such function and you insisted on its use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Milfmandy , we have had this too , last night 12th July was typical , it is mainly young guys , this one said he be there etc etc 100% certain !! We sat there like spare prick at an orgy !! No msg no sorry etc. There should be a a flagging of failed meets for not turning up with out a prior cancellation , so people can be aware of the time wasters , too many flags and they off the site ..,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For starters it can take up to 6 months for single guys to be verified and how will your idea work with those in the forces that get posted abroad just as they've verified?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've only been truly stood up once. we took full responsibility for it because we went outside if our usual checks prior to arranging a meet. did we blame the site or insist they put safeguards in place because we didn't? nope because we're grown ups who use the tools already provided plus our common sense. the site gives us the opportunity to contact people we think we may have something in common with. that's all. it's responsibility ends there as far as we're concerned"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've each been on and off the site for years and think something should be done to combat inactive users using the site for online kicks.

Couldn't you delete profiles that have not been verified after a certain amount of time?

Or even those verified if they've not met for 6-12 months reset their profile to newbie?

There is a big problem with jokers of late and think something should be done to give users a better experience.

Just an idea. "

Agree first half but why should people who not met for over 6 month have to be reset? People have lives away from here. People get ill. I didnt meet for a year but i classyself as a swinger. I held socials, sex partys, etc why should people not be entitled to time out as and when needed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refer you to my earlier post:

There is already an option to report that someone doesn't turn up for a meet - on the 'Report profile' function.

The site has regularly stated that naming/shaming is never to be allowed anywhere on the site due to it being too open to abuse.


"Milfmandy , we have had this too , last night 12th July was typical , it is mainly young guys , this one said he be there etc etc 100% certain !! We sat there like spare prick at an orgy !! No msg no sorry etc. There should be a a flagging of failed meets for not turning up with out a prior cancellation , so people can be aware of the time wasters , too many flags and they off the site .., "

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater


"What utter bullshit. There is way too much said on this forum about people who do not meet very often being fakes, time wasters ect.....

So unless you are constantly meeting you must be thrown off the site or have your status reduced.

What are you the Fab police?

Some people just like to chat or cam, nothing wrong with that.

I have met 3 people off this profile but only have 1 verification, so your idea is flawed anyway. I have had a different profile previously that had more verifications.

I also am on another site and have 2 FWB,s from that site.

I am not meeting Willy nilly just so I can stay on this site. I will meet if and when I want to.

If you are not happy with the site and its regulation, go and join another one instead.

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Beautifully written my love! Some people on this site have to much time on their hands! Most of them can be found in the chat rooms day in day out or watching Jeremy Kyle!

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By *uerido55Man
over a year ago

Manchester


" I had a hysterectomy back in December ,months leading up to that colposcopys . Needless to say I have not been in frame of mind to meet and at present setting no time limit as to when I do feel like meeting . Why should I loose verifications or be classed a newbie ? The verifications are genuine and show I've met ... if I've not met in months it still doesn't change that .End of the day it's just to show I am a woman and not actually some huge brickie called Dave lol. Also people can use their own discretion if me not being recently verified if a deal breaker or not .

As for changing status to a newbie ....well I'm not lol .I still on regular messaging and contributing in chat. I don't see why anyone should be told they have to meet X times over a certain period of time . If and when I want to indulge in bedroom gymnastics then thats down to me and my meet ..not a time limit.

People can I'm sure use their own methods and filters to out time wasters ect . The site is mearly a vehicle and how each use is is down to them and no other . "

How dare you have the audacity to refuse to meet?

Anyone would think it was your body not a communal piece of meat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's OK to say use your common sense and use the tools available on the site ..but that still doesn't always help .. In my recent situation I had messaged the guy who 'stood me up' quite a number of times.. he was charming, plausible and seemingly genuine (as far as wanting to meet was concerned..) We had discussed meeting up a number of times and eventually we decided on a mutually suitable date and time.. He was verified and the verifications were positive.. On the day of the 'meet' we had exchanged messages and at one point he contacted me to say that the time we had agreed on wasn't suitable anymore, could I make it a bit later.. I agreed and we reconfirmed a later time..

Despite all that, he never showed up.. and, as I said previously, I never heard a thing from him. No call, no message, no explanation, no apology.

Yes, things do happen and people have genuine reasons not to turn up at times, I fully accept that, but common decency says that in those circumstances you let the other person know, asap .. I think some way of adding a visual indicator ( Like an icon depicting a large Ass !!) to a profile to show that a person has had 'Multiple' fail to shows should be introduced.. why the hell would you give someone so many chances.. 2 at the most then block move on its simple.. "

I would only give a person one chance.. if they stood me up without any explanation or apology.. as this guy did.. then yes, he's blocked and I've moved on ..

My point was in relation to an individual who does the same thing to multiple people and would be very likely to carry on doing so again and again..

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By *aystay66Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"What utter bullshit. There is way too much said on this forum about people who do not meet very often being fakes, time wasters ect.....

So unless you are constantly meeting you must be thrown off the site or have your status reduced.

What are you the Fab police?

Some people just like to chat or cam, nothing wrong with that.

I have met 3 people off this profile but only have 1 verification, so your idea is flawed anyway. I have had a different profile previously that had more verifications.

I also am on another site and have 2 FWB,s from that site.

I am not meeting Willy nilly just so I can stay on this site. I will meet if and when I want to.

If you are not happy with the site and its regulation, go and join another one instead.

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford


"What utter bullshit. There is way too much said on this forum about people who do not meet very often being fakes, time wasters ect.....

So unless you are constantly meeting you must be thrown off the site or have your status reduced.

What are you the Fab police?

Some people just like to chat or cam, nothing wrong with that.

I have met 3 people off this profile but only have 1 verification, so your idea is flawed anyway. I have had a different profile previously that had more verifications.

I also am on another site and have 2 FWB,s from that site.

I am not meeting Willy nilly just so I can stay on this site. I will meet if and when I want to.

If you are not happy with the site and its regulation, go and join another one instead.

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Agreed! It's called being adult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Didn't say report by one party - by several .. so 3 or more. If three parties complain about a couple or single something must be wrong. Admin can check on messages as all stored and see if and what

Again that only works if all communication is done through fab, which, as I've stated above, for myself and others is not the case.

As a personal example I have had experience of my own personal stalker on here, she hates the fact I won't meet her, creates a new profile, sends me a let's meet message and then reports me to admin when I don't respond. Or I assume just reports me as when she feels like it without sending me a message

I know this is the case as previously she said that was what she was going to do, during one of her numerous times on here.

Using your method,id have racked up my 3 strikes within a week and half, all due to a stalker."

Verified account? If she just opens new accounts don't think she would be verified.

Reporting from 3 different parties not just one...for example 2 verified couples and verified one single girl

Admin can figure out when there is something nasty behind a report, give them a bit of credit.

But in the end it is all down to common sense..and the use of existing filters of Fab. The filters stop 75% time wasters and 25% is then common sense... like they want to meet you but live in Florida... Okay if there are two tickets at the airport fine with us..otherwise it's just a time waste...

Or like the endless stream of friends invites from single guys or people 300miles and more away... Use your own common sense "filter"...

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