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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would it be possible for new members to have a couple of hours breathing space before anyone can message them so they can look around the site and learn about filters etc.

A single woman joining can get loads of messages within minutes of signing up and it can be very overwhelming for them.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That's a great idea.

If you made it a couple of days, and restricted new members from sending any messages over the same period, you'd probably put quite a few fakes off too.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I think I've got this feature, but it's lasted over a year.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's a great idea.

If you made it a couple of days, and restricted new members from sending any messages over the same period, you'd probably put quite a few fakes off too."

That is a very good idea.

Nobody can post in the forums until they've been here a week so a couple of days of just looking and getting used to the site wouldn't be that terrible.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

They get tips as soon as they join about filters etc

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


" Would it be possible for new members to have a couple of hours breathing space before anyone can message them so they can look around the site and learn about filters etc.

A single woman joining can get loads of messages within minutes of signing up and it can be very overwhelming for them.

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I think this is a great idea. A lot of decent single women probably get put off straight away (and even leave the site), simply because they get bombarded with so much shit right from the get go.

Giving them time to get their feet under the table is a good idea.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"That's a great idea.

If you made it a couple of days, and restricted new members from sending any messages over the same period, you'd probably put quite a few fakes off too."

You can set this in your filters

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"That's a great idea.

If you made it a couple of days, and restricted new members from sending any messages over the same period, you'd probably put quite a few fakes off too.

You can set this in your filters"

That's not the same thing at all though. If we stop new sign ups from messaging us personally, it's not much of a deterrent.

If new members couldn't send any messages for a couple of days, then they may well not bother coming back 48 hours later to start being active fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I want to browse without getting messages, I hide my profile and unhide it again when I'm ready to "chat"

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I think a breathing space for new members is a good idea. Yes, new members get tips about filters, etc, but most of the tips are just 'white noise', until people have found their way round the site. A couple of hours to explore the site, without an explosion in their inbox, would be good, especially for single females.

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Or set it so until they loaded a verification picture up it doesn't disable - Big banner after joining saying you can't send or receive any messages until you have loaded a verification picture up - would also stop the d*unk joiners posting straight away just cus they need a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could accounts start with all the message blocks applied then the user instructed to change them to what they want? Rather than the massive influx in and having to stop them

Unless it's already changed to this since I signed up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's a good idea. I can see where you're coming from but when we first joined I was very keen but quite nervous and knew it was now or never. We arranged a meet and played that first evening we joined, and never looked back. If we hadn't been able to do that is either have got cold feet and may not have come back, or joined another site where we could have met straight away.

Also we came off, then rejoined a while later, we wouldn't have wanted to wait because although we had a new profile, we weren't newbies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could accounts start with all the message blocks applied then the user instructed to change them to what they want? Rather than the massive influx in and having to stop them

Unless it's already changed to this since I signed up. "

That's sounds a smarter idea

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've no idea why folk join and then leave the site, there could be a thousand and one other reasons why folk leave rather than volume of mail.

A fair few ladies profiles I read on my local updates Say something like 'been here before know the score...yada yada.' So they know a) what's likely to happen and b) likely knowabout filters as they're often set.

I'd also say Some ladies seem to enjoy the attention of oodles of messages as well.

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By *rowneyedgirl03Woman
over a year ago

northwest

Yes o agree wen I set up my profile within a week I had over 900+ unread messages

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

New accounts where we expect people to get lots of mail, do have restrictions on who can mail them.

We look at lots of metrics and we're not totally convinced convinced that "too much mail" is a big factor in newbies giving up.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Would it be possible for new members to have a couple of hours breathing space before anyone can message them so they can look around the site and learn about filters etc.

A single woman joining can get loads of messages within minutes of signing up and it can be very overwhelming for them.

"

This is a great yet simple idea. Gives people a chance to learn about how to utilise the site before they're avalanched.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"New accounts where we expect people to get lots of mail, do have restrictions on who can mail them.

We look at lots of metrics and we're not totally convinced convinced that "too much mail" is a big factor in newbies giving up.

Admin x

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What restrictions are there?

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

Off the top of our head:

Must be verified

Must match age requirements

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a great idea.

If you made it a couple of days, and restricted new members from sending any messages over the same period, you'd probably put quite a few fakes off too."
Great idea

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"That's not the same thing at all though. If we stop new sign ups from messaging us personally, it's not much of a deterrent.

If new members couldn't send any messages for a couple of days, then they may well not bother coming back 48 hours later to start being active fakes."

Oh, my filters stop anyone new from messaging for at least 3 days. How long should they have a time out for?

It's 7 days for the forums I think?

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

The first day I joined I had 100 messages. Felt like there were lots of men just waiting to pounce on the fresh meat! I knew what to expect, having been on similar sites before but if you hadn't then it would be pretty overwhelming!

Also annoying as there are so many messages you can't read them all and so overlook pp you might really like to meet !

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"I think a breathing space for new members is a good idea. Yes, new members get tips about filters, etc, but most of the tips are just 'white noise', until people have found their way round the site. A couple of hours to explore the site, without an explosion in their inbox, would be good, especially for single females."

If new people cant message or experience the message how would they get the "feel" to know what filters best for them to use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or set it so until they loaded a verification picture up it doesn't disable - Big banner after joining saying you can't send or receive any messages until you have loaded a verification picture up - would also stop the d*unk joiners posting straight away just cus they need a wank."

By doing that, you make photo verification compulsory. This would put off a lot of people, including us and is pretty pointless as it proves absolutely nothing and doesn't make any difference to the experience here

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By *im le2Man
over a year ago

AYLESTONE

Ppl can hide there profile . They can still look but others can't see you or text you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a breathing space for new members is a good idea. Yes, new members get tips about filters, etc, but most of the tips are just 'white noise', until people have found their way round the site. A couple of hours to explore the site, without an explosion in their inbox, would be good, especially for single females."

I agree with this. When I first joined I didn't even notice the tips, because being bombarded with mail just made me log off really fast it really put me off even working out how to navigate around the site. So it was ages before I found out about filters etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a breathing space for new members is a good idea. Yes, new members get tips about filters, etc, but most of the tips are just 'white noise', until people have found their way round the site. A couple of hours to explore the site, without an explosion in their inbox, would be good, especially for single females.

I agree with this. When I first joined I didn't even notice the tips, because being bombarded with mail just made me log off really fast it really put me off even working out how to navigate around the site. So it was ages before I found out about filters etc. "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would the easiest thing not just to do away with the new members symbol or the announcement of a new member

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Or set it so until they loaded a verification picture up it doesn't disable - Big banner after joining saying you can't send or receive any messages until you have loaded a verification picture up - would also stop the d*unk joiners posting straight away just cus they need a wank.

By doing that, you make photo verification compulsory. This would put off a lot of people, including us and is pretty pointless as it proves absolutely nothing and doesn't make any difference to the experience here"

How does it not prove anything? Photo Verification isn't just about loading any random pic up, but one that shows you holding a paper with site name, and profile name on - which at least proves that you are a couple and not some single man, either pretending to be a couple, but yet to tell his wife! or a single guy pretending to be a girl (who funnily enough only wants to meet other girls)

The fact that your photo verification isn't ever published anywhere public still allows you to remain private of any public pictures.

While I appreciate choice, and privacy, we equally need to improve the experience to all users on here, that get bored of fake profiles, even spotting them, still makes it annoying that you have to trawl through them in search, or delete email after email.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Or set it so until they loaded a verification picture up it doesn't disable - Big banner after joining saying you can't send or receive any messages until you have loaded a verification picture up - would also stop the d*unk joiners posting straight away just cus they need a wank.

By doing that, you make photo verification compulsory. This would put off a lot of people, including us and is pretty pointless as it proves absolutely nothing and doesn't make any difference to the experience here

How does it not prove anything? Photo Verification isn't just about loading any random pic up, but one that shows you holding a paper with site name, and profile name on - which at least proves that you are a couple and not some single man, either pretending to be a couple, but yet to tell his wife! or a single guy pretending to be a girl (who funnily enough only wants to meet other girls)

The fact that your photo verification isn't ever published anywhere public still allows you to remain private of any public pictures.

While I appreciate choice, and privacy, we equally need to improve the experience to all users on here, that get bored of fake profiles, even spotting them, still makes it annoying that you have to trawl through them in search, or delete email after email."

To be honest fake profiles easy to spot and takes seconds, i don't find it time consuming to hit block.

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