Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
![]() | Back to forum list |
![]() | Back to Fabswingers.com site feedback |
Jump to newest | ![]() |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Verifications I think it would be better if you could only verify the person once and shouldn't be able to hard verifications that way if you have a bad time with this person you would be able to leave negative feedback warning people " That's a very bad idea. Just because you didn't get on with them, it doesn't mean that other won't! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Why would you even want to go to the trouble of warning people by leaving negative feedback? Just block and move on!" Yes exactly totally agree ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"What gets me is when people dont verify you yet have others. I verify everyone i meet. Do people ever feel pissed off if they do verify and the person wont show it even when they have others.?" Very! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"What gets me is when people dont verify you yet have others. I verify everyone i meet. Do people ever feel pissed off if they do verify and the person wont show it even when they have others.?" No, I have the right to show what I want on my profile so accept they have the right also. Some people like privacy and don't show new veries until much later or at least until the 3 days after they are on site. Are you meeting people for veri's or for the people? ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Verifications I think it would be better if you could only verify the person once and shouldn't be able to hard verifications that way if you have a bad time with this person you would be able to leave negative feedback warning people " Hi, We think the veri system is as good as it can be, if you have a bad time with someone just put it down to experience and move on. As to hiding veri's that's up to the user....Connie x ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The whole concept of verifications is quite disgusting: How demeaning is it to write things about someone's sexual performance in public? I would not dream of writing personal things about anyone." They don't have to be Sexual, it's a site tool to show they are what they claim to be and often just say that they turned up. Ie im a female, am using my own pictures ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The whole concept of verifications is quite disgusting: How demeaning is it to write things about someone's sexual performance in public? I would not dream of writing personal things about anyone." Maybe fabs not the right place for you then ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Verifications I think it would be better if you could only verify the person once and shouldn't be able to hard verifications that way if you have a bad time with this person you would be able to leave negative feedback warning people " . Verifications are a bit meaningless anyway and they all tend to say the same thing. . I read everything on a members profile except the verifications . Why would anyone choose to list when they have meet ?. What about discretion . Surely members should have sufficient judgement to rely on the content of a profile in order to make their assessment. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The whole concept of verifications is quite disgusting: How demeaning is it to write things about someone's sexual performance in public? I would not dream of writing personal things about anyone." . Excellent point ![]() ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"And in addition, we al know that a huge amount of verifications are faked: and that it is very easy to do; all you need to do is to get a verification on one profile ( usually a fake female profile; it's easy to achieve) then make loads of fake profiles, and verify yourself with those profiles, It's been done loads of times : So the whole thing is a farce anyway. Verifications are meaningless . " Not really, because the verification system allows you to track across other veris. If someone has a single veri from a person with two veris, one of which is the person in question and the other is a webcam veri, well, you might be suspicious. On the other hand, if someone has several veris from people who are themselves similarly verified, then it's less likely they are fake. We find them to be an extremely useful tool for helping to work out who is genuine or not. It's not the only tool - common sense is more useful than anything else. But to describe them as 'a farce' is a bit silly. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"And in addition, we al know that a huge amount of verifications are faked: and that it is very easy to do; all you need to do is to get a verification on one profile ( usually a fake female profile; it's easy to achieve) then make loads of fake profiles, and verify yourself with those profiles, It's been done loads of times : So the whole thing is a farce anyway. Verifications are meaningless . Not really, because the verification system allows you to track across other veris. If someone has a single veri from a person with two veris, one of which is the person in question and the other is a webcam veri, well, you might be suspicious. On the other hand, if someone has several veris from people who are themselves similarly verified, then it's less likely they are fake. We find them to be an extremely useful tool for helping to work out who is genuine or not. It's not the only tool - common sense is more useful than anything else. But to describe them as 'a farce' is a bit silly." ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I always tell people not to leave veris. Hate them, they feel tacky and I have never liked being subject to approval by others. I prefer to walk my own path. A simple tick in a box to say the individual exists would do. Anther is no need for anything else, it's just a waste of your time, telling people how someone wasted your time?? " If that works for you ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"And in addition, we al know that a huge amount of verifications are faked: and that it is very easy to do; all you need to do is to get a verification on one profile ( usually a fake female profile; it's easy to achieve) then make loads of fake profiles, and verify yourself with those profiles, It's been done loads of times : So the whole thing is a farce anyway. Verifications are meaningless . " Well we must have done that a fair few times then ![]() ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A female member here ( a freind of mine) has a couple of " veris" and is continually being messaged with " will you veri me? I'll veri you back." We followed up a few of these and there was a clear trait of lots of fake veris. Once you know how it's done, it's easy to spot. It's a ridiculous system, and I cant see the point of it at all . " Yes you can, you're just choosing not to. But as you claim not to be interested in using veris yourself, why do they bother you at all anyway? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A female member here ( a freind of mine) has a couple of " veris" and is continually being messaged with " will you veri me? I'll veri you back." We followed up a few of these and there was a clear trait of lots of fake veris. Once you know how it's done, it's easy to spot. It's a ridiculous system, and I cant see the point of it at all . " Yeah and you reported each and every one to admin so as the problem could be addressed I hope. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"What if they want quality, and interesting and intelligent people, and they behave that way themselves, and attract the people they are looking for...but still send and receive veris? Is that possible too?" Now now, don't over complicate things. Sone of us can't cope!! ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A female member here ( a freind of mine) has a couple of " veris" and is continually being messaged with " will you veri me? I'll veri you back." We followed up a few of these and there was a clear trait of lots of fake veris. Once you know how it's done, it's easy to spot. It's a ridiculous system, and I cant see the point of it at all . " Tell her not to reply to these people, just report and block them. I've personally never had anyone ask me for one unless we've met. As for OP, you're better off chatting to people than taking notice of veris. You just get a better idea of what they actually want and if you're compatible. I've met a couple of guys with great veris, neither was an enjoyable experience for me. They weren't what i was looking for but obviously what plenty of other people were looking for. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . " So because a newbie can't work out that by sticking their head into chat, attending a party or club, meeting someone socially and getting verified the system is useless...... I have filters so without verification they can't engage in a chat with me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . " To be absolutely honest , how you see it as their loss that they won't meet you is probably one of the most laughable comments you've made so far . But we will sleep well in the knowledge that it's our loss ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant " If you refuse to meet verified females you're not going to have much fun on here. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant If you refuse to meet verified females you're not going to have much fun on here." True , but turn it round the other way and it kind of works ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . " . An excellent post . If a member has a well written profile , why do they need verifications ?. Are members who rely on verifications incapable of making judgement or using common sense ?. It seems bizarre to list on here the members whom you have met . What about discretion?. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . . An excellent post . If a member has a well written profile , why do they need verifications ?. Are members who rely on verifications incapable of making judgement or using common sense ?. It seems bizarre to list on here the members whom you have met . What about discretion?. " And you're showing 2 veris and your summary because???? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . . An excellent post . If a member has a well written profile , why do they need verifications ?. Are members who rely on verifications incapable of making judgement or using common sense ?. It seems bizarre to list on here the members whom you have met . What about discretion?. " It seems similarly bizarre to say that, when you are also currently displaying verifications on here from members whom you have met. What about discretion? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . . An excellent post . If a member has a well written profile , why do they need verifications ?. Are members who rely on verifications incapable of making judgement or using common sense ?. It seems bizarre to list on here the members whom you have met . What about discretion?. It seems similarly bizarre to say that, when you are also currently displaying verifications on here from members whom you have met. What about discretion?" Gets popcorn ready.this looks interesting ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Gets popcorn ready.this looks interesting ![]() Nah, too complicated with the massive confusing quotes. ...so newbies tell me | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"The whole concept of verifications is quite disgusting: How demeaning is it to write things about someone's sexual performance in public? I would not dream of writing personal things about anyone." Sheeesh! You've missed the point of verifications by a country mile! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I have explained to a few people how to bypass the idiots, yes. It mainly comes down to what people want. If it's just lots of shagging of dubious quality, then they probably need to somehow get veris, If they want quality, and interesting and intelligent people, then they behave that way themselves , and will attract the people they are looking for ." I've been on here for 5 years and am happy to have verifications. You seem to not to want them. Don't judge others by your own actions. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You've missed the point of verifications by a country mile!" Agree, they are not about performance, they are about someone being real or not. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . " This all seems odd. How does one get a veri removed? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance" No they don't. You can't speak for everyone on here. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance No they don't. You can't speak for everyone on here. " Yes they do | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance No they don't. You can't speak for everyone on here. Yes they do " You are totally wrong . We have left many veris which don't go into any detail of anything sexual at all . But the majority of people just accept what's given. And either display or don't display . Their choice . Just as its our choice as to whether we display them or not . But to steadfastly refuse to accept or give them seems a ridiculous stance to take . | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance No they don't. You can't speak for everyone on here. Yes they do " No they don't. Are any of mine like that NO. I'm beginning to think you are so anti-veri because you've not had one ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance No they don't. You can't speak for everyone on here. Yes they do You are totally wrong . We have left many veris which don't go into any detail of anything sexual at all . But the majority of people just accept what's given. And either display or don't display . Their choice . Just as its our choice as to whether we display them or not . But to steadfastly refuse to accept or give them seems a ridiculous stance to take . " ![]() ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . This all seems odd. How does one get a veri removed?" This. Because when I've asked admin to remove a veri in the last that was given falsely, they removed it but my summary still said it was there. So if it had been my only one I would have kept the green tick. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Except they actually are about performance: because people make them so: A long time ago, when I was stupid, and gave and received validations, I gave someone a validation that said: " yes, she is real, she is a woman, and she turned up" There was hell to pay because I had not explained that she was the best fuck on the planet etc; So despite the fact that " they are only to confirm the person is real" that is not so: everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance . And since no one actually tells the truth: " this was an average/OK / boring Fuck, then it is all bollocks " Well that was one person that you decided to meet. Not everyone is shallow or fickle. I meet newbies for coffee and a veri, I state that in the veri. I agree with what was said above, you haven't had one so now think the whole system is rubbish. Time will tell though | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Except they actually are about performance: because people make them so: A long time ago, when I was stupid, and gave and received validations, I gave someone a validation that said: " yes, she is real, she is a woman, and she turned up" There was hell to pay because I had not explained that she was the best fuck on the planet etc; So despite the fact that " they are only to confirm the person is real" that is not so: everyone expects a fabulous review of thief performance . And since no one actually tells the truth: " this was an average/OK / boring Fuck, then it is all bollocks Well that was one person that you decided to meet. Not everyone is shallow or fickle. I meet newbies for coffee and a veri, I state that in the veri. I agree with what was said above, you haven't had one so now think the whole system is rubbish. Time will tell though" Well I suppose we shouldn't be too surprised to see that this kind of wild and sometimes whacky dismissal of the verification system tends to come from those without any... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Never looked at a veri nor would I post them.. Don't feel like posting my bed notches anymore than I want to count yours.. Except hers over there,look who she's been with,eewwh that's disgusting ![]() But you dont have any veris... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"They bother me because: 1. I think it's very unpleasant 2. Because some " newbies " tell me they can't get anywhere at all; because: 1 they can't get verified without meeting someone . 2.They can't get meetings because they aren't verified. I never look at verifications : I look at what the person says: and decide from our chats whether they are genuine or not. I will never verify anyone: I refuse to be verified; and will have them removed if someone insists on verifying me, I will have it removed . And if someone says they won't meet me without verifications; then I couldn't care less: their loss, not mine . " Congrats on joining the green tick club ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Verifications I think it would be better if you could only verify the person once and shouldn't be able to hard verifications that way if you have a bad time with this person you would be able to leave negative feedback warning people " . Surely members make their own judgement and do not reply on others to make it for them .. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I've been accused of not showing all my verifications as my verification summary is different to the verifications on show. Why is it that if people leave the site you lose the verification they left for you but the tally doesn't change on the verification summary ? ?...... Personally I feel that the verification summary should change at the same time. ![]() Admin introduced the summary after complaints that the veri was lost when users left. There's no rule to say you must show every veri nor show the summary, both are opt in. Anyone demanding to see all my veris or summary would see neither | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Admin introduced the summary after complaints that the veri was lost when users left. There's no rule to say you must show every veri nor show the summary, both are opt in. Anyone demanding to see all my veris or summary would see neither " My view entirely! ![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
![]() | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Ye I agree and also something like a negative verification too, maybe one that stays on there profile for a week, so when they arrange meet and don't show or block you when you got to the address they gave you, should be able to do a site vari to say that happened so others are aware that person maybe not so genuine. " That is just so open to abuse it wouldn't work. Anyone could just make up a nasty remark or report about someone else never having met.. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top | ![]() |