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By *habs OP Man
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"while people can still pick and choose what they put up on there profile the varifications still don't really mean a lot....
people are still only going to show the ones that show them in the best light, so whether it has a name attached to it or not doesn't mean anything.....
it just means that you now won't know if for example all of the varifications on a profile have come from one person for example, or who is being indiscreet in varifying people
I see it as being a backward step in some ways...
if someone is big enough to write out the varification, they should be big enough to deal with some of the consequences that come with that.....
this give people a kop out in my opinion"
I hear ya - but when you have people that:
1) Only wanna meet you because you've met Person A (supposedly popular person to know?).
2) Don't wanna meet you because you've met person B (potential minger's club?)
3) Taken to using your verified list to decide to to meet (ie, harvesting from my our meets/friend's lists as opposed to their own searches?)
Any/all of the above, then it starts getting worrying.
Suffice to say a guy I used to chat to, see how we were doing, talk about progress (success or fail, though he's been swinging longer than I have and he knows I take my time more than he does - he can literarily choose to play with ANYONE) was asking what I got up to for the weekend (this was sometime ago).
I (back then) made the naive mistake of telling him about a party I went to, got chatting to a lovely young lady (did not mention her name) and we got on and decided to take things further there and then (at the party).
Bearing in mind the only thing he knew of her was that I met her at the party and we played (no name, description or what site she was on), he now retorted "I have to meet her, you have to introduce me". And no, he doesn't meet people to chat to them or have a social drink. I found it rather insulting. Since no longer speaking to him, he goes behind my back to note who I've seen and contact them directly.
I don't like that but I can't stop him short of telling people "don't meet such and such guy, he's only meeting you cause he knows I've met you", or hide their names.
Generally though, I have no personal problem displaying my friend's list or verifications.
As an added idea though - perhaps FabSwingers could change it so it doesn't matter how many verifications you have from someone you can only display one (if you want: newest/oldest)
I'm just throwing it out there, not suggesting how it should work. |
