FabSwingers.com forum: "thanks but no thanks" suggestion

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I suggest that admins add an option to the mailbox.

If a user receives a message, there is a button you can click that sends a generic reply back saying "thanks for your message, but sorry, I'm not interested" or something similar.

These wouldn't count towards your daily maximum number of messages.

It would be easier for women and couples who get a lot of messages to say "no thanks" quickly. Also from a single guy's perspective, at least you know and can move on.

Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when was there a limit on how many messages you can send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a limit if you are not a site supporter, also an automatic "no thanks " button could be seen as just as impersonal as no reply at all.

No reply is many people's way of saying no thankyou so just move on and hope for better luck next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People would just moan about getting an automated response as much as they do now with no reply!

It's quicker just to not bother - and no reply should tell someone all they need to know!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting thoughts...

I am a site supporter, but I don't send all that many messages anyway, so the limit is not all that relevant for me.

For me, an automated reply is better than no reply - at least you know where you stand! And if the person persists, you can always block.

Although I agree that no reply is pretty clear in its meaning as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I suggest that admins add an option to the mailbox.

If a user receives a message, there is a button you can click that sends a generic reply back saying "thanks for your message, but sorry, I'm not interested" or something similar.

These wouldn't count towards your daily maximum number of messages.

It would be easier for women and couples who get a lot of messages to say "no thanks" quickly. Also from a single guy's perspective, at least you know and can move on.

Asking for a friend

Actually this makes sense. We get messages now and again from the same people but nothing offensive to warrant blocking them.

If we clicked the "Thanks but no thanks" maybe a pop-up could appear the next time they tried to send a message to remind them that they had previously sent a message but the other party wasn't interested....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I suggest that admins add an option to the mailbox.

If a user receives a message, there is a button you can click that sends a generic reply back saying "thanks for your message, but sorry, I'm not interested" or something similar.

These wouldn't count towards your daily maximum number of messages.

It would be easier for women and couples who get a lot of messages to say "no thanks" quickly. Also from a single guy's perspective, at least you know and can move on.

Asking for a friend

Actually this makes sense. We get messages now and again from the same people but nothing offensive to warrant blocking them.

That message already exists if you haven't replied!

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By *ubywants2playCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Can I suggest that admins add an option to the mailbox.

If a user receives a message, there is a button you can click that sends a generic reply back saying "thanks for your message, but sorry, I'm not interested" or something similar.

These wouldn't count towards your daily maximum number of messages.

It would be easier for women and couples who get a lot of messages to say "no thanks" quickly. Also from a single guy's perspective, at least you know and can move on.

Asking for a friend

Actually this makes sense. We get messages now and again from the same people but nothing offensive to warrant blocking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you send a further message to someone who hasn't replied to initial contact - the following warning appears!

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent "xxxxxxxxx" a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already.

PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply!

Seems pretty sufficient to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think I once read in the forums the Admin did trial a thanks but no thanks button. People complained the standard/ thanks but no thanks reply was impersonal. Just think of no reply to any email you send as a polite thanks but no thanks.

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

Think its a grand idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you send a further message to someone who hasn't replied to initial contact - the following warning appears!

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent "xxxxxxxxx" a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already.

PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply!

Seems pretty sufficient to me!

This, although it seems to be written in invisible ink most of the time as some people don't seem to take any notice at all!

Plus if someone messages me and has obviously not bothered reading my profile to see what I'm looking for, why would I want to message them back thanking them?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I think I once read in the forums the Admin did trial a thanks but no thanks button. People complained the standard/ thanks but no thanks reply was impersonal. Just think of no reply to any email you send as a polite thanks but no thanks. "

It was more they have it on another site and yes, there are many threads started by people complaing about the impersonal mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a flaw in the plan if you to a messages all filters you may change at a later date become void

easier to not answer or block to save people wasting their time

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"If you send a further message to someone who hasn't replied to initial contact - the following warning appears!

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent "xxxxxxxxx" a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already.

PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply!

Seems pretty sufficient to me!

Well you learn something new everyday. I did not realise that message was received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No thanks"! Auto reply is too impersonal - I'd rather be ignored

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I'm on another site that has the 'thanks but no thanks' auto reply option and yes I do get messages from people complaining that I didn't say no personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on another site that has the 'thanks but no thanks' auto reply option and yes I do get messages from people complaining that I didn't say no personally.

Yes I would rather be ignored with a personal touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no reply doesn't necessarily mean no thanks. There are all sorts of reasons why people don't reply.

Unless you have specifically been told "no thanks" or been blocked from future correspondence then message another time.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

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"Can I suggest that admins add an option to the mailbox.

If a user receives a message, there is a button you can click that sends a generic reply back saying "thanks for your message, but sorry, I'm not interested" or something similar.

These wouldn't count towards your daily maximum number of messages.

It would be easier for women and couples who get a lot of messages to say "no thanks" quickly. Also from a single guy's perspective, at least you know and can move on.

Asking for a friend

Actually this makes sense. We get messages now and again from the same people but nothing offensive to warrant blocking them.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

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The thing is does a none reply mean the person is thinking about replying, may reply later, is inundated with messages or just cant be bothered. I think an automated 'no thanks' with a pop up flag saying you have received a 'no thanks' if you try to contact them again is a great idea. At least we all know where we stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you send a further message to someone who hasn't replied to initial contact - the following warning appears!

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent "xxxxxxxxx" a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already.

PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply!

Seems pretty sufficient to me!

Maybe to you but as we mentioned in our previous comment, we regularly get email from people who have previously messaged us and we haven't replied.

They will get the same pop-up you pasted on the thread, but then continued to message us anyway.

At least if you "Thanks but no thanks" them they will realise you aren't interested without the need to block them or spend a lot of time responding to each message with a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you send a further message to someone who hasn't replied to initial contact - the following warning appears!

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent "xxxxxxxxx" a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already.

PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply!

Seems pretty sufficient to me!

Maybe to you but as we mentioned in our previous comment, we regularly get email from people who have previously messaged us and we haven't replied.

They will get the same pop-up you pasted on the thread, but then continued to message us anyway.

At least if you "Thanks but no thanks" them they will realise you aren't interested without the need to block them or spend a lot of time responding to each message with a reply."

I guess it's individual choice - but I'm happy to use the block button as just another filter!

It's nothing personal. And saves people wasting time repeatedly messaging me when I'm not interested. A decent message will get a thanks but no thanks - but a crap one liner or crude message just gets a straight block!

And before anyone throws the 'single male vs couples' volume of messages argument into the pot - we adopt the same approach on the couples profile - and it seems to work just fine! And by the very nature of using blocking as a filter actually reduces the number of messages we have to deal with!

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