FabSwingers.com forum: Uber style points system?

Stowmarket+50m

To discourage bad meets, profile dumping/restarting, and no shows, could we have profiles point verification system with ratings for:

Communication/ghosting

On-time/no-show

Hygiene

Protection wearing

Temperament (Welcoming/Polite/Hostile)

Quality connection vs. f#ck and go

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By *agnificent Beast OP Man
6 weeks ago

Stowmarket+50m

Ratings/feedback system could determine how much exposure/visibility/attention the user will get and allow potential matches to vet you before engaging/committing to a meet.

Ratings could be shown for the last 3-12 months.

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By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
6 weeks ago

The lost village

And what happens when people lie because they didn't get to meet someone they wanted to or didn't get sex when they expected it?

Tink

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
6 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

It wouldn't stop you meeting someone with a "high" score from others and finding them repellent.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

This is in the right place for admin to see it.

How do you propose to stop people giving poor scores vindictively? How would the scores be verified accurate?

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I have zero desire to score anyone or to be scored. I am not a trip advisor destination.

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By *uliette500Woman
6 weeks ago

Hull

I feel it would be too open to abuse.

What would there be to stop some giving a poor score just because someone had said no to them?

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
6 weeks ago

North Somerset

Given the amount of false feedback on Google, TripAdvisor, Trust pilot etc...

No.

The current verification system is perfectly adequate and in all honesty we dont really care what others think about someone else - we'll make our own minds up thanks.

Just because one person thinks someone is great and that a meet went well, it offers no guarantees that any subsequent interactions will be the same. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

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By *rYoniMan
6 weeks ago

Essex ++

Previously people have suggested being able to give negative veris in formal way and so many discussions about the problems with that. This takes it to a whole new level and is an awful idea. I don't want to be rated and don't want to rate others to this level of detail. It is also incredibly subjective.

Out of interest is the implication that "quality connection" is somehow better than quick fuck and go? Guess that rather depends on individual preferences.

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By *assy LassieWoman
6 weeks ago

Near Glasgow

Too much hassle.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
6 weeks ago

Narnia

Agree with previous comments, it's too open to disgruntled people leaving vindictive low scores.

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By *ealitybitesMan
6 weeks ago

Belfast

As others have said this is wide open for abuse but even if it was used positively I can't see how or why anyone would be gullible enough to rely on someone else's rating.

I've never been in a Uber so I don't know how their scoring system works but in my opinion asomething like this would be more like var which is used to referee games rather than assist in confirming decisions.

The thought of having a conversation with someone while they were mentally ticking off boxes makes the whole experience too transactional.

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By *rYoniMan
6 weeks ago

Essex ++

"As others have said this is wide open for abuse but even if it was used positively I can't see how or why anyone would be gullible enough to rely on someone else's rating.

The thought of having a conversation with someone while they were mentally ticking off boxes makes the whole experience too transactional."

I'm laughing at the VAR comment. Imagining cameras and a referee at a party orgy. "After review man number 3 still wearing white socks, touching without permission, RED CARD1". "After review. lady with fox tail butt plug, used teeth during blow job and inflicted pain, YELLOW CARD"

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By *agnificent Beast OP Man
6 weeks ago

Stowmarket+50m

I think it could be designed in a way that would prevent vindictive usage; and over time with enough data, it would give a real clear picture of the user/s and insentive for accountability and honesty in profiles.

Those with lots of low scored feedback/vindictive comments would clearly have their account/legitimacy/eligibility questioned.

It would certiainly out the riff raff.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Some want to be a hole on here some seek holes on here ratings won't stop or filter those types

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"This is in the right place for admin to see it.

How do you propose to stop people giving poor scores vindictively? How would the scores be verified accurate?"

Easily..stayed true to their conversations at pre meet during meet post meet if applicable... Yes no ...

If no then what changed

Picture reflected in person image

Yes no

If not what changed

Turned up on time as expected

Yes no if not what changed

Accountability can be added to verifications currently there's none

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By *onyh43Man
6 weeks ago

North East

All sounds like an unworkable idea to me, fraught with loopholes and complications.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
6 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

"Given the amount of false feedback on Google, TripAdvisor, Trust pilot etc...

No.

The current verification system is perfectly adequate and in all honesty we dont really care what others think about someone else - we'll make our own minds up thanks.

Just because one person thinks someone is great and that a meet went well, it offers no guarantees that any subsequent interactions will be the same. 🤷‍♂️

Obi"

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By *agnificent Beast OP Man
6 weeks ago

Stowmarket+50m

Well, you could design a system where if both parties didn't agree to a meet, then there would be no opportunity to provide feedback.

Those who consistently provide false or misleading feedback would be highlighted in ratings and could be removed?

I'm not saying the idwa is fully formed, but I do think there is great scope for improvement for peoples safety and pleasure. I think everybody knows or has been subject to no shows are going to great pengths to clean their homes and organise their days, been catfished, or met someone that clearly needed a shower, etc. Imagine if profiles on here were just as accountable as clubs, where people have to register their identities and were held to reasonable standards/community conduct. Where any abuse or casual sexism and misandry was not acceptable.

Surely that's appealing to many who are serious about the lifestyle?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

My personal opinion is that we're meeting people from the internet we have to be realistic about it.

I wouldn't reorganise my day, clean my home especially or agree to sex the first time I met someone from here or any dating or swingers site. Always a coffee somewhere very public. That means a no show, catfish or otherwise unsuitable person doesn't spoil my day too much.

Also don't go to someone's home until you know them better and if you're single have someone who knows where you are and ensure the person youeet knows that.

In short don't rely on the opinion of others to ensure your own safety.

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Given the amount of socials we have had where we have found them attractive and there has been no chemistry and when we politely decline a second meet due to those reasons we get pulled apart and abused I feel the rating system would be flawed because the people who can’t handle rejection would use that as a reason to mark us down when we don’t owe anyone our bodies if we don’t want to. Imagine the amount of disgruntled men we see in the forum all the time rating people because they didn’t get exactly what they wanted. I think the site is fine as it is. Plus agree with others who have said regardless of verifications just because one couple have enjoyed us or we enjoyed them doesn’t mean they are suitable for another couple, doesn’t mean they are bad but just not suitable.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

Newry

"Given the amount of socials we have had where we have found them attractive and there has been no chemistry and when we politely decline a second meet due to those reasons we get pulled apart and abused I feel the rating system would be flawed because the people who can’t handle rejection would use that as a reason to mark us down when we don’t owe anyone our bodies if we don’t want to. Imagine the amount of disgruntled men we see in the forum all the time rating people because they didn’t get exactly what they wanted. I think the site is fine as it is. Plus agree with others who have said regardless of verifications just because one couple have enjoyed us or we enjoyed them doesn’t mean they are suitable for another couple, doesn’t mean they are bad but just not suitable. "

☝️ All of this

I'm not a product or service, I'm a human being

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By *rYoniMan
6 weeks ago

Essex ++

Assuming theoretically possible to design a system that somehow works it would require a lot of development time and then more important a lot of time of admin checking veris and dealing with inevitable disputes and such moderation would be a lot more complicated than checking pics for example. Almost certainly Fab would have to hire quite a few people. Would people advocating this system be prepared to pay significantly more and potentially lose the free nature of the site?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Things are very subjective and it's not really going to be able to be standardised, unless people had similar volumes of partners and we each scored everyone in absolutely the exact matching ways. It would need enormous amounts of training somehow, so it could be done.

Without that, it would be meaningless, with nothing comparable, surely.

People, if forced to rate others, would be deterred from meeting, possibly because of retaliation, down the line. Perhaps, at best, people could be resentful of not getting full marks and ruining their track record.

In any event, a great performer for me, could be a shite partner for most other people.

I also sense it commodities people, almost as sexual objects. I think we're many of us, looking for the softer qualities of people, less akin to a a rating given to a 1 off meeting person.

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By *rYoniMan
6 weeks ago

Essex ++

"Things are very subjective and it's not really going to be able to be standardised, unless people had similar volumes of partners and we each scored everyone in absolutely the exact matching ways. It would need enormous amounts of training somehow, so it could be done.

Well I'm for volunteering for training in meeting people and scoring people after sexual encounters. Even if enormous amounts required. It's a tough job but guess somebody would have to do it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Well I'm for volunteering for training in meeting people and scoring people after sexual encounters. Even if enormous amounts required. It's a tough job but guess somebody would have to do it. "

I'll be head of training and development

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Yorks

Thing is, some people are spiteful. So, if you say no. Or they don't like someone, what's to stop them leaving bad feedback.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Central

"Thing is, some people are spiteful. So, if you say no. Or they don't like someone, what's to stop them leaving bad feedback. "

Or they could easily make a mistake, confusing people for others

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
5 weeks ago

Cheshire

"To discourage bad meets, profile dumping/restarting, and no shows, could we have profiles point verification system with ratings for:

Communication/ghosting

On-time/no-show

Hygiene

Protection wearing

Temperament (Welcoming/Polite/Hostile)

Quality connection vs. f#ck and go"

Your 10/10 out of sterling performance might be somebody's 3 at best, if this was your rating going forward and couldn't be removed would this still look like a good idea ?

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By *rYoniMan
5 weeks ago

Essex ++

"To discourage bad meets, profile dumping/restarting, and no shows, could we have profiles point verification system with ratings for:

Communication/ghosting

On-time/no-show

Hygiene

Protection wearing

Temperament (Welcoming/Polite/Hostile)

Quality connection vs. f#ck and go

Your 10/10 out of sterling performance might be somebody's 3 at best, if this was your rating going forward and couldn't be removed would this still look like a good idea ?"

Yep the people strongly in favour of ratings or having negative ratings compulsory visible always seem to think they will get nothing but very positive ones

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