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"Good idea, I thought I was the only ugly bastard this keeps happening too lol" Ha no, me too | |||
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"Can I offer a suggestion please? .. Can this site not make it fairer for everybody but particularly men who when asked to send a face picture. Of course invariably the guy sends it and then is blocked straight away with no reciprocated picture sent. If there was significant distance between those people I wouldn't bother but when engaging with locals on here discretion gets very difficult to maintain. This is why I only really chat to women a good distance away and not in my town, but surely there can be another way.. Can identifying pictures be held in a kinda joint location between two profiles and both will only be released to the other party if both parties have sent such a picture to it to be sent. If one party doesn't allocate or send an identifying face picture to the kinda middleman (like an escrow account) then they won't receive a identifying picture of the other person. Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are .. And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄" How do you know they're blocking because they recognise you? I get sent face pics. If I'm not attracted to them, I won't be meeting them and I don't send a face pic in reply. Could this be happening to you? | |||
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"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!" A block is pretty damn clear - no more contact or association desired, in the strongest possible way. What's confusing? | |||
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"A nice no thanks not my type but good luck, that would be nice. A instant block, tells a thousands words of the trouble you could have got into. Im ugly and I know it but Just chatting and looking for friends " For better or worse, that's not the norm here, and it isn't likely to change. (The reason I never say thanks but no thanks is that it attracts abuse. And I know that you would never do that, but everyone says they wouldn't do it, and yet the abuse happens) | |||
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"A nice no thanks not my type but good luck, that would be nice. A instant block, tells a thousands words of the trouble you could have got into. Im ugly and I know it but Just chatting and looking for friends " Nobody owes you a message. A block is a pretty clear message saying sorry not for me. I don't understand why it needs to be a written message for you to get it. | |||
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"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!" Fab's rules have always been very clear that no reply = no thanks. A block makes it certain and prevents future wasted efforts. Women are especially vulnerable to trouble, after being identified, including stalking and attacks | |||
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"Can I offer a suggestion please? .. Can this site not make it fairer for everybody but particularly men who when asked to send a face picture. Of course invariably the guy sends it and then is blocked straight away with no reciprocated picture sent. If there was significant distance between those people I wouldn't bother but when engaging with locals on here discretion gets very difficult to maintain. This is why I only really chat to women a good distance away and not in my town, but surely there can be another way.. Can identifying pictures be held in a kinda joint location between two profiles and both will only be released to the other party if both parties have sent such a picture to it to be sent. If one party doesn't allocate or send an identifying face picture to the kinda middleman (like an escrow account) then they won't receive a identifying picture of the other person. Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are .. And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄" I do see what your saying OP, for each person to upload a pic to a neutral place and once each person sees the other they decide to respond. I'm sure you are looking at it from a safety perspective of one person's pic is seen but the other doesn't send a pic so it can feel a but scary....but it's individual choice to send, you don't have to, and if it's demanded then that should be a red flag for people | |||
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"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!" When you get a leaflet through your door from Dominos, but you want Pizza Hut, do you go to Domino's to tell them you're not interested? | |||
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"A nice no thanks not my type but good luck, that would be nice. A instant block, tells a thousands words of the trouble you could have got into. Im ugly and I know it but Just chatting and looking for friends " We do this a nice sorry not for me (the female) and then we normally block, only because it’s stops another message weeks/months later down the line asking to chat and see how we get on. But we have found after a while a new profile is set up and then another message but it’s the same guy again with the same photo.  | |||
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"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?! A block is pretty damn clear - no more contact or association desired, in the strongest possible way. What's confusing?" If the person asked for a pic of someone maybe the confusion comes from not having a reply to the mail saying something like you are not for me thanks anyway. They could obviously still block after that so they don't get any other mails | |||
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"Sending a face pic, especially when you don’t have one on your profile is a good thing, but it doesn’t mean they have to like you. You could be one of 20 or 30 or more messages that day, they can’t reply to all, maybe when they have said no thanks, the guy keept messaging, so it’s easier to block. There should be a “Thanks, but no thanks” reply, that blocks any further messages but not access to the profile. A genuine tip, send a message, then delete it, that way you won’t be invested in something that probably won’t happen." What a good idea a block from messaging be a good new feature maybe it could have options too like block anyone from more than 30 miles away so someone doesn't get messages from all over the country!! | |||
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"On a slight tangent I find profiles with no pictures showing at all unjust when in the bio it says no face pictures no chat.....as if you would just send your face picture to someone you have not even seen anything of. " Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things. | |||
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"People are really missing the point on this ... 😳🤷" Why do you need to see the face of someone who doesn't want to proceed with you? | |||
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"On a slight tangent I find profiles with no pictures showing at all unjust when in the bio it says no face pictures no chat.....as if you would just send your face picture to someone you have not even seen anything of. Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things." I never do. Surely Fab should at least ask that a couple of public pictures are added to every profile before it goes live and get photo verified I know people could still upload fake ones but at least le out a lot of false profiles. | |||
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"On a slight tangent I find profiles with no pictures showing at all unjust when in the bio it says no face pictures no chat.....as if you would just send your face picture to someone you have not even seen anything of. Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things. I never do. Surely Fab should at least ask that a couple of public pictures are added to every profile before it goes live and get photo verified I know people could still upload fake ones but at least le out a lot of false profiles. " They could. They probably won't. | |||
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"Wish people would actually read .. read the question, read the profile .. ?????? Typical modern .. hearing but not actually listening. My suggestion is a good one and it's got nothing to do with demanding a reply. It's too do with discretion and privacy, which is supposed to be a cornerstone of the way this site works. " I think we get it. You can't handle the fact that people don't always reciprocate. Rather than accepting that it's an act of trust you need to go through, which won't always be rewarded (and is rarely abused), you want a system set up to institute what you call fairness. A technological infrastructure to ensure you see all the faces of all the people who aren't attracted to you. That, and some subject drift, has been discussed in this thread. But I suppose, as the flip side to the "typical modern", it's very typical decrepit to assume that you're right, and that anyone who disagrees can't read. | |||
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"Wish people would actually read .. read the question, read the profile .. ?????? Typical modern .. hearing but not actually listening. My suggestion is a good one and it's got nothing to do with demanding a reply. It's too do with discretion and privacy, which is supposed to be a cornerstone of the way this site works. " I kind of get what you are saying but some people are more happy to share face pictures than others early on in messaging. What if for instance you send your face pic and the other person/couple knows you and for some reason won't want you to know that they actually swing? | |||
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"People don't have time to say thanks but no thanks to dozens/hundreds of people. You just need to get over yourself and your idea that you're entitled to a reply." It isn't what he is saying | |||
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"Wish people would actually read .. read the question, read the profile .. ?????? Typical modern .. hearing but not actually listening. My suggestion is a good one and it's got nothing to do with demanding a reply. It's too do with discretion and privacy, which is supposed to be a cornerstone of the way this site works. " It sounds like you want a face pic in reply to the face pic you send regardless of whether the recipients are interested in you. Why would people do that? You insist you want to be discreet but don't believe that your correspondents would require the same. If there's no mutual attraction, there's no point sending a picture in reply. | |||
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"Can I offer a suggestion please? .. Can this site not make it fairer for everybody but particularly men who when asked to send a face picture. Of course invariably the guy sends it and then is blocked straight away with no reciprocated picture sent. If there was significant distance between those people I wouldn't bother but when engaging with locals on here discretion gets very difficult to maintain. This is why I only really chat to women a good distance away and not in my town, but surely there can be another way.. Can identifying pictures be held in a kinda joint location between two profiles and both will only be released to the other party if both parties have sent such a picture to it to be sent. If one party doesn't allocate or send an identifying face picture to the kinda middleman (like an escrow account) then they won't receive a identifying picture of the other person. Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are .. And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄 You have to get used to the hoe flation on here. 4's think they are 8's, looking for 10's  " | |||
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"Often find people send facepics as a demand for a face pic in return, before i feel i can trust them enough to share one. My profile has loads of pics add my face you have the whole picture. Where as im often n left with a unthoughtful double chin and cock shot to make my judgement on. I only like you idea OP cause those people would be waiting a long time for me to upload my facepic 😂 Why should men get all the wank material and the opportunity to send photos of my face pics covered in their cum without me asking for it... Nah.. Kinda like the idea but really i thinj you just need to not send them until both parties feel confident to share them mutually. " | |||
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"I actually ask to be blocked in my profile if I'm not for someone I think its best that way i know in ab years time I'll probably approach them again . Saying that if I've been chatting for someone for 2 or 3 days and then send a face pic I would expect "sorry you're not my type " at least out of curtesy , I can understand if they know me why they'd not want to send a pic back if someone I know sent me a face pic I'd probably not send one back either . New fake profiles appear all the time I do worry about the face pics I've sent out in the past !" I expect to exchange face pics within the first few messages not days 🫣 I need to know I’m physically attracted to the person and if I’d been chatting for days I would feel like I’d been leading them on if I eventually saw their face pic and there was no attraction. If no face pic is on the initial message I generally send mine and ask for one in return at the same time which most times we receive. I don’t think people should be asking without sharing there’s first. | |||
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"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!" Blocking is a pretty clear answer 😂 | |||
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"Purely for safety reasons, absolutely not. That's what you're not thinking about from a man's perspective. Imagine having the worry of someone you aren't interested in trying to approach you in public? Because they can't take no for an answer. I mean they do it in messages all the time, so I don't think they'd think twice in real life either. " Think youre 100% correct. Im a man and get men who wont take no for an answer and keep trying to change my mind then become abusive, so i totally understand the womans point of view. | |||
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