FabSwingers.com forum: Sick of sending a face to then being blocked

By *lanenaked OP Man
4 weeks ago

near you .. but not too near

Can I offer a suggestion please? .. Can this site not make it fairer for everybody but particularly men who when asked to send a face picture. Of course invariably the guy sends it and then is blocked straight away with no reciprocated picture sent. If there was significant distance between those people I wouldn't bother but when engaging with locals on here discretion gets very difficult to maintain. This is why I only really chat to women a good distance away and not in my town, but surely there can be another way..

Can identifying pictures be held in a kinda joint location between two profiles and both will only be released to the other party if both parties have sent such a picture to it to be sent. If one party doesn't allocate or send an identifying face picture to the kinda middleman (like an escrow account) then they won't receive a identifying picture of the other person.

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄

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By *itty72Man
4 weeks ago

Belfast

Good idea, I thought I was the only ugly bastard this keeps happening too lol

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By *nexpectedExplorerMan
4 weeks ago

SA3

"Good idea, I thought I was the only ugly bastard this keeps happening too lol"

Ha no, me too

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By *damst123Man
4 weeks ago

london

Thats happen to a lot as well😮‍💨😮‍💨

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By *eri24Woman
4 weeks ago

Bridgend

"Can I offer a suggestion please? .. Can this site not make it fairer for everybody but particularly men who when asked to send a face picture. Of course invariably the guy sends it and then is blocked straight away with no reciprocated picture sent. If there was significant distance between those people I wouldn't bother but when engaging with locals on here discretion gets very difficult to maintain. This is why I only really chat to women a good distance away and not in my town, but surely there can be another way..

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄"

How do you know they're blocking because they recognise you?

I get sent face pics. If I'm not attracted to them, I won't be meeting them and I don't send a face pic in reply. Could this be happening to you?

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By *inkPomPomWoman
4 weeks ago

Isle of Man

It's just how it is

Maybe they recognise you, maybe they don't fancy you and didn't feel like debating that

If they've blocked you and your face didn't end up all over the place I wouldn't worry too much

Happens to everyone

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By *damst123Man
4 weeks ago

london

Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!"

A block is pretty damn clear - no more contact or association desired, in the strongest possible way.

What's confusing?

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By *inkPomPomWoman
4 weeks ago

Isle of Man

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

so you think that if someone sees you and finds you unattractive, you should have access to their face pics?

how utterly bizarre.

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By *tom53Man
4 weeks ago

Wrexham

A nice no thanks not my type but good luck, that would be nice. A instant block, tells a thousands words of the trouble you could have got into. Im ugly and I know it but Just chatting and looking for friends

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A nice no thanks not my type but good luck, that would be nice. A instant block, tells a thousands words of the trouble you could have got into. Im ugly and I know it but Just chatting and looking for friends "

For better or worse, that's not the norm here, and it isn't likely to change.

(The reason I never say thanks but no thanks is that it attracts abuse. And I know that you would never do that, but everyone says they wouldn't do it, and yet the abuse happens)

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By *uliette500Woman
4 weeks ago

Hull

Nobody owes you a message. A block is a pretty clear message saying sorry not for me. I don't understand why it needs to be a written message for you to get it.

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By *addyjonMan
4 weeks ago

Thurrock

Most probably someone checking if their partner is cheating,lol

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By *lanenaked OP Man
4 weeks ago

near you .. but not too near

I think a good many of the replies haven't read my opening message .. this isn't about not replying and whatever clear message blocking is supposed to say (other than I'm ignorant and can't be arsed saying sorry not for me thanks). The point here is giving away your identity when they haven't. A mutual temporary Holding location for both identifiable pictures from each party only release to the opposite person on receipt of same from both parties. It's just a simple bit of IT programming surely.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
4 weeks ago

andover

Tbf if you choose to send a face pic that’s your prerogative, you’re in no way entitled to receive one back if they don’t choose to share it. If it turns out your not to that persons taste, why would they send one in return? That would just be worse as it would be leading you on.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!"

Fab's rules have always been very clear that no reply = no thanks. A block makes it certain and prevents future wasted efforts.

Women are especially vulnerable to trouble, after being identified, including stalking and attacks

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By *lan157Man
4 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Two people have to find each other attractive to move things forward OP . You are gallant enough to send your face photo which has not had the desired effect . There really is no point in a woman reciprocating if she is not going to take it further . It feels hurtful I know but she has to protect herself and prior experience will have told her this is the best way.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
4 weeks ago

isle of munters

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄"

I do see what your saying OP, for each person to upload a pic to a neutral place and once each person sees the other they decide to respond.

I'm sure you are looking at it from a safety perspective of one person's pic is seen but the other doesn't send a pic so it can feel a but scary....but it's individual choice to send, you don't have to, and if it's demanded then that should be a red flag for people

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By *urple MarrowMan
4 weeks ago

Colchester

"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!"

When you get a leaflet through your door from Dominos, but you want Pizza Hut, do you go to Domino's to tell them you're not interested?

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By *e and him 2021Couple
4 weeks ago

stoke on trent

We do this a nice sorry not for me (the female) and then we normally block, only because it’s stops another message weeks/months later down the line asking to chat and see how we get on.

But we have found after a while a new profile is set up and then another message but it’s the same guy again with the same photo.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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4 weeks ago

O o O oo

"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!

A block is pretty damn clear - no more contact or association desired, in the strongest possible way.

What's confusing?"

If the person asked for a pic of someone maybe the confusion comes from not having a reply to the mail saying something like you are not for me thanks anyway. They could obviously still block after that so they don't get any other mails

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By *ugby 123Couple
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4 weeks ago

O o O oo

I think it is like a chicken and an egg thing, who goes first, do you take the chance they are not going to send back. Although we didn't used to send pics (when we were meeting as we used to show face on a webcam instead while having a conversation ) I (Mrs ) would probably have not sent a pic out if someone asked for it first, just incase they didn't send me one back.

I can understand your concerns OP, men can be vulnerable the same as anyone else, but if someone is on here for the same reason as you then they would hopefully have the same discretion as you.

I don't know if what you are asking is doable but to what you suggest you would still have to show your face somewhere and they still may recognise you. You have to decide if sending it is worth your worry of someone knowing you if you do.

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By *on vanillaMan
4 weeks ago

cannock

Is say it's disrespectful

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By *ednesday 2023TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Stortford

Sending a face pic, especially when you don’t have one on your profile is a good thing, but it doesn’t mean they have to like you.

You could be one of 20 or 30 or more messages that day, they can’t reply to all, maybe when they have said no thanks, the guy keept messaging, so it’s easier to block.

There should be a “Thanks, but no thanks” reply, that blocks any further messages but not access to the profile.

A genuine tip, send a message, then delete it, that way you won’t be invested in something that probably won’t happen.

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By *arpet manMan
4 weeks ago

Coventry

I actually ask to be blocked in my profile if I'm not for someone I think its best that way i know in ab years time I'll probably approach them again .

Saying that if I've been chatting for someone for 2 or 3 days and then send a face pic I would expect "sorry you're not my type " at least out of curtesy , I can understand if they know me why they'd not want to send a pic back if someone I know sent me a face pic I'd probably not send one back either .

New fake profiles appear all the time I do worry about the face pics I've sent out in the past !

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By *arpet manMan
4 weeks ago

Coventry

"Sending a face pic, especially when you don’t have one on your profile is a good thing, but it doesn’t mean they have to like you.

You could be one of 20 or 30 or more messages that day, they can’t reply to all, maybe when they have said no thanks, the guy keept messaging, so it’s easier to block.

There should be a “Thanks, but no thanks” reply, that blocks any further messages but not access to the profile.

A genuine tip, send a message, then delete it, that way you won’t be invested in something that probably won’t happen."

What a good idea a block from messaging be a good new feature maybe it could have options too like block anyone from more than 30 miles away so someone doesn't get messages from all over the country!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think sending a face picture is an act of trust. Probably the first, if you meet the person.

If you can't trust the person to treat your picture appropriately, can you trust them in an intimate setting?

People need to take a leap of faith. Sometimes that doesn't work out. I imagine that abuse of face pictures (identifying people, etc) is pretty rare, so rare that it doesn't need a whole bespoke system.

(If abuse of face pictures happens, it should be treated harshly, but I don't think that's what's being discussed here - this feels more like unfairness. Sometimes life isn't fair 🤷‍♀️)

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By *ettriano 6969Man
4 weeks ago

Eastbourne

On a slight tangent I find profiles with no pictures showing at all unjust when in the bio it says no face pictures no chat.....as if you would just send your face picture to someone you have not even seen anything of.

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"On a slight tangent I find profiles with no pictures showing at all unjust when in the bio it says no face pictures no chat.....as if you would just send your face picture to someone you have not even seen anything of. "

Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things.

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By *lanenaked OP Man
4 weeks ago

near you .. but not too near

People are really missing the point on this ... 😳🤷

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People are really missing the point on this ... 😳🤷"

Why do you need to see the face of someone who doesn't want to proceed with you?

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By *ettriano 6969Man
4 weeks ago

Eastbourne

Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things."

I never do. Surely Fab should at least ask that a couple of public pictures are added to every profile before it goes live and get photo verified I know people could still upload fake ones but at least le out a lot of false profiles.

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By *tever69UKMan
4 weeks ago

Bury - Manchester

People don't have time to say thanks but no thanks to dozens/hundreds of people. You just need to get over yourself and your idea that you're entitled to a reply.

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things.

They could. They probably won't.

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By *lanenaked OP Man
4 weeks ago

near you .. but not too near

Wish people would actually read .. read the question, read the profile .. ?????? Typical modern .. hearing but not actually listening. My suggestion is a good one and it's got nothing to do with demanding a reply. It's too do with discretion and privacy, which is supposed to be a cornerstone of the way this site works.

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By *uriousTal111Man
4 weeks ago

Malvern

Functionality idea... Have a feedback options in a list. Sorry, not attracted, love it etc

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Wish people would actually read .. read the question, read the profile .. ?????? Typical modern .. hearing but not actually listening. My suggestion is a good one and it's got nothing to do with demanding a reply. It's too do with discretion and privacy, which is supposed to be a cornerstone of the way this site works. "

I think we get it.

You can't handle the fact that people don't always reciprocate.

Rather than accepting that it's an act of trust you need to go through, which won't always be rewarded (and is rarely abused), you want a system set up to institute what you call fairness. A technological infrastructure to ensure you see all the faces of all the people who aren't attracted to you.

That, and some subject drift, has been discussed in this thread.

But I suppose, as the flip side to the "typical modern", it's very typical decrepit to assume that you're right, and that anyone who disagrees can't read.

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By *ettriano 6969Man
4 weeks ago

Eastbourne

I kind of get what you are saying but some people are more happy to share face pictures than others early on in messaging. What if for instance you send your face pic and the other person/couple knows you and for some reason won't want you to know that they actually swing?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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4 weeks ago

O o O oo

"People don't have time to say thanks but no thanks to dozens/hundreds of people. You just need to get over yourself and your idea that you're entitled to a reply."

It isn't what he is saying

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By *eri24Woman
4 weeks ago

Bridgend

It sounds like you want a face pic in reply to the face pic you send regardless of whether the recipients are interested in you.

Why would people do that? You insist you want to be discreet but don't believe that your correspondents would require the same.

If there's no mutual attraction, there's no point sending a picture in reply.

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By *ildSilkCouple
4 weeks ago

Nr Swansea

To the men asking for a reply saying “no thanks”. We’ve tried this and often just get abuse in return “good, your Mrs is fat anyway.” So it’s easier to just follow the rules of the site that says no reply is a “no thanks”.

The amount of effort couples have to put in to get the level of honesty and acceptance in their relationships to get into this lifestyle only to get “single men” chucking them abuse for saying no thanks.

The power lies with women and couples due to the numbers game. If you don’t like that. Leave the site…

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By *d8567Man
4 weeks ago

Alsager

The usual arrogant attitudes from the usual people some of which send me offensive messages then block no thank you is the correct response but arrogant attitudes from some women on here are standard my advice is do not take it personally

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By *eralDeviantWoman
4 weeks ago

Hull

Often find people send facepics as a demand for a face pic in return, before i feel i can trust them enough to share one. My profile has loads of pics add my face you have the whole picture. Where as im often n left with a unthoughtful double chin and cock shot to make my judgement on.

I only like you idea OP cause those people would be waiting a long time for me to upload my facepic 😂

Why should men get all the wank material and the opportunity to send photos of my face pics covered in their cum without me asking for it...

Nah.. Kinda like the idea but really i thinj you just need to not send them until both parties feel confident to share them mutually.

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By *d8567Man
4 weeks ago

Alsager

As I understand if you message and no one replied the system will tell you not to message again so do not regarding pictures no reply means not interested which people have done even if a picture take care and try to not let the sexist arrogant entitled answers get you down remember most women get hundreds of messages a day they do not have the time to reply to them all so I have been told

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By *d8567Man
4 weeks ago

Alsager

Personally I think I would rather receive no reply than an abusive one which I have received do not believe the nonsense about the magic profile being written though

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By *hadow300Man
4 weeks ago

dagenham

Agree

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By *hadow300Man
4 weeks ago

dagenham

Agree with above lol

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

If I’m chatting with someone and they send a face pic I’ll delete it if I’m not interested or if I recognise them. As a woman on the site we get inundated with messages. We can’t reply to everyone. As per fabs guidelines a deleted message is a polite no thanks. No one owes you anything. I appreciate sometimes it’s a bummer but we gotta suck it up and move on.

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By *undayTarkaMan
4 weeks ago

southwest

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By *undayTarkaMan
4 weeks ago

southwest

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄

You have to get used to the hoe flation on here. 4's think they are 8's, looking for 10's

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
4 weeks ago

isle of munters

Half the posts haven't actually read the OPs op

I can see the OPs frustration

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By *assion 4 lickingMan
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you something, you don't have any pictures of your face but I don't need to see it, I can tell how beautiful you are already.

"Often find people send facepics as a demand for a face pic in return, before i feel i can trust them enough to share one. My profile has loads of pics add my face you have the whole picture. Where as im often n left with a unthoughtful double chin and cock shot to make my judgement on.

I only like you idea OP cause those people would be waiting a long time for me to upload my facepic 😂

Why should men get all the wank material and the opportunity to send photos of my face pics covered in their cum without me asking for it...

Nah.. Kinda like the idea but really i thinj you just need to not send them until both parties feel confident to share them mutually. "

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
4 weeks ago

Scotland

"I actually ask to be blocked in my profile if I'm not for someone I think its best that way i know in ab years time I'll probably approach them again .

New fake profiles appear all the time I do worry about the face pics I've sent out in the past !"

I expect to exchange face pics within the first few messages not days 🫣 I need to know I’m physically attracted to the person and if I’d been chatting for days I would feel like I’d been leading them on if I eventually saw their face pic and there was no attraction. If no face pic is on the initial message I generally send mine and ask for one in return at the same time which most times we receive. I don’t think people should be asking without sharing there’s first.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
4 weeks ago

Hampshire

"Cant they just reply, no not my type of something like that insted of just blocking out of now where keeping us confused?!"

Blocking is a pretty clear answer 😂

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By *imi_RougeWoman
4 weeks ago

Hampshire

Purely for safety reasons, absolutely not.

That's what you're not thinking about from a man's perspective.

Imagine having the worry of someone you aren't interested in trying to approach you in public? Because they can't take no for an answer. I mean they do it in messages all the time, so I don't think they'd think twice in real life either.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
4 weeks ago

belfast

"Purely for safety reasons, absolutely not.

That's what you're not thinking about from a man's perspective.

Think youre 100% correct. Im a man and get men who wont take no for an answer and keep trying to change my mind then become abusive, so i totally understand the womans point of view.

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By *mimrgreyMan
3 weeks ago

lancaster

I think its pertinent if a prpfile demands a face picture it should at least have one in its pictures

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By *rincessandtheprickCouple
3 weeks ago

wrexham

I don’t wanna sound bitchy, but don’t take it so personally for a simple fact for females and couples on here it’s impossible to keep up. They’re not being rude at all.

If we be applied to every single one that messaged us, we would need to take on a secretary to do so that’s not a sound Big added we wish we didn’t get as much messages as we do

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By *lue_OasisWoman
3 weeks ago

birmingham

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄"

This site hasn't been updated since 1998. This isn't going to happen anytime this century unfortunately.

And yes, it can be uneasy to have your photo out there, but I think I can speak on behalf of a lot of women on this site and say, we aren't looking at your profile or pictures ever again if we've blocked you.

And with the amount of messages received by women, there is a less than 1% chance you'd have done or said anything so memorable to warrant someone going back to your profile after you've been blocked.

Hope that helps

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By *olden FlowMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

That’s why I don’t send pictures anymore, especially if you private your pictures, if you are asking me for face pics you will have to send one with your message

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

It's a shame this happens.

As the female of the couple. I understand about non reply etc for a male.

Dosent take a minute to tell you you are of no attraction.

Sending a face pic is part of it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Manners, respect cost nothing.

Shame that's been forgotten.

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By *lkGuyMagic24Man
3 weeks ago

Kingswood

My way around this is talking to them first, if they are interested enough from our conversation then I’d suggest Ftime or tgram on cam so we both see each other at the same time, a non negotiable for me, if they don’t want to do that then that’s the end of that.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

My face is on my profile so if someone wants me to be interested then I want a face pic. I don't know if I think someone is attractive or not without knowing what they look like.

I guess I'm just not cagey about being seen on here. I understand some will be though.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwich

If it bothers you that much op forget messaging on here and go to socials and clubs.

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By *immers123Woman
2 weeks ago

South Molton

They just don't find you attractive that's all. I've done it and had it done to me.

I live in a very small town and I've never recognised anyone who's sent a face pic and lives here. Just forget about it, you are over thinking it way too much.

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By *immers123Woman
2 weeks ago

South Molton

"That’s why I don’t send pictures anymore, especially if you private your pictures, if you are asking me for face pics you will have to send one with your message "

You have face pics on your profile

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By *mimrgreyMan
2 weeks ago

lancaster

I think if a profile is demanding a face picture they should have one on there profile and this is primarily a.sex meet app not a beauty contest

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"I think if a profile is demanding a face picture they should have one on there profile and this is primarily a.sex meet app not a beauty contest "

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By *mimrgreyMan
2 weeks ago

lancaster

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By *mimrgreyMan
2 weeks ago

lancaster

"I think if a profile is demanding a face picture they should have one on there profile and this is primarily a.sex meet app not a beauty contest

I don’t think they need to have one on their profile but should be prepared to send one if you ask for one. It’s a swinging site with some people using it for a sex hook up site, anyone can use it as they wish, it’s not a beauty contest but people are not going to want to have sex with you if they are not attracted to you. It’s not a strange concept, in the vanilla world people only sleep with people they are sexually and physically attracted to , it’s no different on here, if anything especially with couples they already have someone they fancy and love to play with on tap so they can afford to be fussy and only go for someone that they find attractive. We don’t invite anyone into the bedroom that we don’t fancy and why would we? "
noone is going to semd a face pic.after you then block all im saying if its on the profile they require a face then have one in pics that way you can decide to send.a message or not if it demamds one i dont bother i usually message them and ask for.there s as they demanded mine doesmt go down well i.dont dont care for a fp not bothered about looks a old horndog lime me will meet thw demamds of any woman in bed

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
2 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"I think if a profile is demanding a face picture they should have one on there profile and this is primarily a.sex meet app not a beauty contest

I don’t think they need to have one on their profile but should be prepared to send one if you ask for one. It’s a swinging site with some people using it for a sex hook up site, anyone can use it as they wish, it’s not a beauty contest but people are not going to want to have sex with you if they are not attracted to you. It’s not a strange concept, in the vanilla world people only sleep with people they are sexually and physically attracted to , it’s no different on here, if anything especially with couples they already have someone they fancy and love to play with on tap so they can afford to be fussy and only go for someone that they find attractive. We don’t invite anyone into the bedroom that we don’t fancy and why would we? noone is going to semd a face pic.after you then block all im saying if its on the profile they require a face then have one in pics that way you can decide to send.a message or not if it demamds one i dont bother i usually message them and ask for.there s as they demanded mine doesmt go down well i.dont dont care for a fp not bothered about looks a old horndog lime me will meet thw demamds of any woman in bed "

That was quite a hard read but what I’ve got from the jumbled text is that you don’t care who you fuck or what they look like. That kind of thing is a red flag for most couples or single women as they will want to feel desired not just you will ‘ fuck anything with a pulse ‘ that in its self will be enough for you not to be successful. Also just because you fuck anything doesn’t mean couples or women will, if anything as I mentioned earlier we are more likely to be fussy because we can be. Unicorns are rare so they get inundated with messages so they can pick and choose who they see and likely to only see people they fancy. Your approach won’t work that much.

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I avoid your type!!

Go seek a pros titute and leave real legitimate woman alone

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By *essTTWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Don't message someone who asks for unreasonable things.

Why should they?

If you see a profile with no pictures then just scroll past 🤷🏾‍♀️

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By *appy26Man
2 weeks ago

cahir

It's a mean and horrible way of letting someone down half of you wo.an would not like if it was done to you

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By *rMzChiefMan
2 weeks ago

chesterfield

"Good idea, I thought I was the only ugly bastard this keeps happening too lol"

No me too. And again just today. Im just too old, too caucasian and to bearded

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By *unny girl7Woman
2 weeks ago

stoke on trent/cheshire border

Easy solution-just dont send a face pic-I dont,but then I only meet at clubs!

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By *uliette500Woman
2 weeks ago

Hull

"It's a mean and horrible way of letting someone down half of you wo.an would not like if it was done to you "

It's not mean or horrible, it's just a clear message that they are not for you. Would you actually feel any better if they sent a message saying thanks for your face pic but now I've seen you I'm not interested? Both ways of doing it give you the same message.

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By *rectus HumongusMan
2 weeks ago

uranus

For goodness sake this type of thing comes every day, to the O P based on your post it comes across as you feel entitled.

Whether someone is in your area or hundreds of miles away if someone decides they do not want to go further.

Respect people's wishes its that simple nobody is obliged to respond to a wink or message.

Moaning is not a good look

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By *rBruce101Man
2 weeks ago

Leicester

"It's a mean and horrible way of letting someone down half of you wo.an would not like if it was done to you "

Blocked or "sorry, but I find you unattractive"

I'll take the block thanks.

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By *rBruce101Man
2 weeks ago

Leicester

"For goodness sake this type of thing comes every day, to the O P based on your post it comes across as you feel entitled.

Whether someone is in your area or hundreds of miles away if someone decides they do not want to go further.

Respect people's wishes its that simple nobody is obliged to respond to a wink or message.

Moaning is not a good look"

Spot on. Suck it up and move. My friend who is a single woman gets at least 200 messages a day. There isn't enough time for her to go through them all, let alone reply.

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By *rBruce101Man
2 weeks ago

Leicester

Surely this will guard against people who recognise you and then don't send a picture of themselves but unfairly they know who you are and you don't know who they are ..

And for the record no I'm not cheating on anybody 🙄"

Hang on, you have a hidden profile. That is funny as fuck.

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By *oodlebug9Woman
1 week ago

nowhere

It happens to women too.

It is rare for me to send my face first but when I do.. I've been blocked a few times.

Don't take it personally.

It maybe recognition, maybe not their type.

Feel free to inbox your face. (OP only)

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By *KMaxMan
1 week ago

Bristol

It's not about fairness, it's the reality of a site like this.

If it upsets you that much, maybe it isn't for you.

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
1 week ago

Waterford city

In my experience when a guy sends a face picture and l dont find him attractive l will reply with thanks lm really not interested, lm usually met with a barage of insults. So not replying is the easiest option. Mutual attraction is everything

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