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By (user no longer on site) OP   
16 weeks ago

Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex

How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
16 weeks ago


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔"

Depends - try it out!

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By *issmorganWoman
16 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Problem is, many people aren't honest full stop and know if they ticked that option, it would reduce their chances of meets.

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By *uliette500Woman
16 weeks ago

Hull


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔"

Probably a lot more than you think.

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By *eachbums40Couple
16 weeks ago

Midlands


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters"

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing??

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By *lik and PaulCouple
16 weeks ago

cahoots


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? "

Totally agree and there are other sites dedicated to cheaters.

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By *erlicanMan
16 weeks ago

Newbury


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔"

I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly.

At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly.

At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful."

I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me.

This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? "

I've seen people state that they actively seek out people who are cheating

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By *ilverfox for youMan
16 weeks ago

Hull

How many on here are ??

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
16 weeks ago

Somerset


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔"

A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion. "

I was thinking more of the people who prefer to keep that side of their life quiet and there are quite a few.

Always happy to be proved wrong

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
16 weeks ago

Somerset


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion.

I was thinking more of the people who prefer to keep that side of their life quiet and there are quite a few.

Always happy to be proved wrong "
She was one of those who wanted it kept quiet. Her husband didn’t know. I agree though, there are loads who want to keep things quiet.

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By *enny100Man
16 weeks ago

City

Don’t like judgy people. Each to their own I believe ..

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By *appygolucky247Man
16 weeks ago

ramsgate

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By *WB85Man
16 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Cheating always risks bringing you drama, and non of us are here for that.

I do hope ladies i speak to are always honest of their situations.

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By *uliette500Woman
16 weeks ago

Hull


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly.

At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful.

I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me.

This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway "

It doesn't matter what you do in life someone will judge you for it.

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By *enny100Man
16 weeks ago

City


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying,

bluntly.

At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful.

I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me.

This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway

It doesn't matter what you do in life someone will judge you for it. "

100%

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16 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Could get more interest, could get vastly less. Just explain in bio if you need to say and give context.

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By *arcus103Man
15 weeks ago

Lakenheath

Hi yes i would totally agree with you. I am in the same situation Long term marriage, Love ny wife to bits but absolutely no sex

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By *ollysgonelookingWoman
15 weeks ago

Caernarfon


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? "

Exactly this. 2 totally different types of people.

Why should there be an easy way for someone to potentially break their partners heart?

You have a hand.. use it.. * aww but its not the same* we all have needs* blah blah never mind least your not hurting anyone.

And yes this is coming from someone that has been cheated on years ago. Devastating is not the word.

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By *ousteau72Man
15 weeks ago

Wombourne

As a single man who has been cheated on (ex wife) obviously I would have to lean towards the group who say your shouldn't do it behind your partners back, it's a horrible thing to find out.

However, this is essentially a swingers site, so do different rules apply.

I've met women off here who said they were single and yet their erratic behaviour led me to believe they weren't single, and rather than question this I went along with it.

Also, as this is essentially a sex site, does it really matter? And bearing in mind I've been on the receiving end.

Not an opinion, just putting the question out there.

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By *ollysgonelookingWoman
15 weeks ago

Caernarfon


"As a single man who has been cheated on (ex wife) obviously I would have to lean towards the group who say your shouldn't do it behind your partners back, it's a horrible thing to find out.

However, this is essentially a swingers site, so do different rules apply.

I've met women off here who said they were single and yet their erratic behaviour led me to believe they weren't single, and rather than question this I went along with it.

Also, as this is essentially a sex site, does it really matter? And bearing in mind I've been on the receiving end.

Not an opinion, just putting the question out there."

Sorry to hear you have been hurt before.

Now thats the thing. This isnt a sex site. Its a swingers site. Swinging is a lifestyle, a community. Sex sites are different.

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By *issmorganWoman
15 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"As a single man who has been cheated on (ex wife) obviously I would have to lean towards the group who say your shouldn't do it behind your partners back, it's a horrible thing to find out.

However, this is essentially a swingers site, so do different rules apply.

I've met women off here who said they were single and yet their erratic behaviour led me to believe they weren't single, and rather than question this I went along with it.

Also, as this is essentially a sex site, does it really matter? And bearing in mind I've been on the receiving end.

Not an opinion, just putting the question out there."

Yes it matters, to many people.

If you don't want to meet anyone here behind someone's back and they've not been honest about it

If you choose to meet people you feel are attached and not honest,

About it, that's your decision though.

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By *ousteau72Man
15 weeks ago

Wombourne

When I say sex site, I mean as opposed to a dating site. I agree there is indeed a community spirit which is abundantly prevalent amongst swingers. My reference was more aimed at people's goals being of a sexual nature rather than a dating site where the majority are looking for a life partner.

Going back to the 'community ethos' amongst swingers, I would go as far to say that amongst some that a 'clique' exists, which is more akin to exclusion rather than community.

Apologies for any misleading narrative, wrong turn of phrase if you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Im not saying im not guilty but I don't get it!? Why cheaters don't just break up? And you could fuck whoever, whenever, wherever you just want?

Is it because looking like a family man/woman is more important than being one?

And you don't get tired covering your shit up everytime you cheating?😅

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By *icecouple561Couple
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15 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Im not saying im not guilty but I don't get it!? Why cheaters don't just break up? And you could fuck whoever, whenever, wherever you just want?

Is it because looking like a family man/woman is more important than being one?

And you don't get tired covering your shit up everytime you cheating?😅"

I guess there are loads of reason they don't break up, finances, children, they actually like their home life...

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By *ercuryMikeMan
15 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry

Seen a few ladies coming on recently saying they’re cheating, sure there’s even more blokes but they don’t own up.

Personally I just can’t be bothered with the potential hassle,

Irate other half turning up as you’re half way through sexy fun time, no thanks.

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
15 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent


"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔

I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly.

At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful."

I think people have a right to be "up there own arses" when it comes to choosing who to be intimate with, yes we're here for sex, but that doesn't mean we will have sex with anyone and it certainly doesn't mean we want things to be complicated, in fact quite the opposite.

After all, why should any swinger wife/husband (that have worked at complete honesty and openness in their relationship) not be judgmental and selective about not wanting to be a means of "release" for a dishonest man/woman?

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
15 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Would the people who are already being dishonest actually tell the truth and choose that option though ? Probably not.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
14 weeks ago

Norwich

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By *andC1000Couple
14 weeks ago

ashford


"Would the people who are already being dishonest actually tell the truth and choose that option though ? Probably not. "

Nope they’ll just continue to be dishonest with themselves and everyone else around them and still carry on either on here or head to fabguys for the easy option; regardless of consequences and anything they take home

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By *uliette500Woman
14 weeks ago

Hull

I've said it before and I'll say it again. For a supposedly open minded site there are an awful lot of judgemental people on here.

If you dont want to have sex with someone who is married and cheating then don't but there is no need to be abusive towards them. You make your choices and let them make theirs.

Ripping them to bits on an online forum serves no purpose whatsoever.

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By *ray_BTWMan
13 weeks ago

Worcester


"I've said it before and I'll say it again. For a supposedly open minded site there are an awful lot of judgemental people on here.

If you dont want to have sex with someone who is married and cheating then don't but there is no need to be abusive towards them. You make your choices and let them make theirs.

Ripping them to bits on an online forum serves no purpose whatsoever. "

Perfectly put

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By *idcot58Man
13 weeks ago

didcot

I have to cheat because mrs dosnt fuck anymore its such a shame as Mrs did swing

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By *idmanukMan
13 weeks ago

Riddlesden

Is it cheating if you come on looking for like minded men as wank buddies?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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13 weeks ago

Central


"Is it cheating if you come on looking for like minded men as wank buddies? "

It's going to depend on the agreement between the couple and whether a partner would interpret something as cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

And a fish and chip shop is a fish and chip shop. Does that mean you shouldnt but anything over than fish and chips mr and mrs literal.

Like most things in life this place is what you make of it

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By *esparate danMan
13 weeks ago

glasgow


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters"

What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife

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By *erlicanMan
13 weeks ago

Newbury


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? "

Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really?

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By *uliette500Woman
13 weeks ago

Hull


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife "

Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it?

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By *ray_BTWMan
13 weeks ago

Worcester


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing??

Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really?"

Great point, this should also include clubs....anyone wish to explain when they go clubbing or dogging how they determine if the guy is married/attached....as god forbid for you to inadvertently suck or fuck a married/attached cock....

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

This is a swinging site not a cheating site.

We all know the massive difference.

Why should there be a selection option for cheating??

Are cheaters and swingers the same thing??

Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really?

Great point, this should also include clubs....anyone wish to explain when they go clubbing or dogging how they determine if the guy is married/attached....as god forbid for you to inadvertently suck or fuck a married/attached cock.... "

I ask in a club, just like I would here.

I don't go dogging, so no idea on that. Maybe those who do aren't bothered, if someone's married or not.

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By *esparate danMan
13 weeks ago

glasgow


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife

Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it? "

Why cant i be interested in an answer?

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By *erlicanMan
13 weeks ago

Newbury


"I've said it before and I'll say it again. For a supposedly open minded site there are an awful lot of judgemental people on here.

If you dont want to have sex with someone who is married and cheating then don't but there is no need to be abusive towards them. You make your choices and let them make theirs.

Ripping them to bits on an online forum serves no purpose whatsoever. "

Thank you.

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By *erlicanMan
13 weeks ago

Newbury


"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters

What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife

Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it?

Why cant i be interested in an answer? "

You're not interested in an answer. Your comment is precisely the sort of sanctimonious crap I mentioned.

I don't get 'turned on by cheating" - I'm stuck in a situation I can't fix, don't want a divorce, am otherwise perfectly happy in my marriage - but need more than just an occasional wank. Clearly the distinction passes you by.

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