FabSwingers.com forum: Reversing a Verification

By *anii OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

Sexy Town

Can you reverse a face to face meeting verification. I always think verifications are a 2 way street to prove to others that the other person is genuine. but when its not reciprocated it annoys me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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8 weeks ago

East Sussex

You can remove it by blocking the person although it will show in their summary.

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By *riel13Woman
8 weeks ago

Northampton

You want to reverse a verification because they didn't do you one??

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By *uliette500Woman
8 weeks ago

Hull

If you sent a verification and it was truthful why would you want to 'reverse' it?

If they didn't send you one that's their choice, it might be annoying but it doesn't make yours less true.

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
8 weeks ago

glasgow

if you gave a genuine verification and they didn't respond with one that's their choice, seems a bit petty and childish you want to revoke theirs

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By *naswingdressWoman
8 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the only reason a verification should be taken away is if it's given under false pretences (so LurkerExample123 decides to verify everyone in this thread, or something like that)

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By *amantha_NiteTV/TS
8 weeks ago

The Lake District

"You can remove it by blocking the person although it will show in their summary.

This is what I had too do,after a 5 year break,covid restrictions,other lifestyle intrusions etc,I returned to the 1st club of the type found on here that I visited,all different staff,I say staff,it was just one female host there and just 5 people attended all evening,having chatted extensively on here before attending,we met and chatted at club,she asked for club review and verification,offering to verify myself,no way i was gonna leave a review with such a poor visit,a week after leaving her verification,she called ME a "Cheeky Madam" for asking if she would reciprocate her verification that she asked for! I've no intention of returning to that club.

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By *anii OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

Sexy Town

I definitely don't see it as petty. I see it as part of the limited safe guards we have on Fab, both swingers and guys.

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By *anii OP TV/TS
8 weeks ago

Sexy Town

Thanks, i get what you mean, You had a bad experience at a club, especially if you pay as well the club some make it memorable and in you case not leaving a verification was better for the club.

My angle is one of safety to others on Fab . its good that others show others that the person you are going to meet is genuine. I sometimes contact someone who as left the verification for the person i am looking to meet. Never meet blind

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Durham

"Thanks, i get what you mean, You had a bad experience at a club, especially if you pay as well the club some make it memorable and in you case not leaving a verification was better for the club.

Not sure what you mean by safety for others. It appears that your only issue is that he didn't leave you a verification.

If the meet was unsafe or unpleasant why did you verify him in the first place?

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
8 weeks ago

glasgow

"I definitely don't see it as petty. I see it as part of the limited safe guards we have on Fab, both swingers and guys. "

Safeguards to what? A verification proves your real and turn up nothing else

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By *bi HaiveMan
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8 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thanks, i get what you mean, You had a bad experience at a club, especially if you pay as well the club some make it memorable and in you case not leaving a verification was better for the club.

If someone contacted me out of the blue about someone I'd left a verification for I'd not reply and most likely block.

My opinion on someone else doesn't ensure anyone else meeting them would feel the same. We all have different tastes, preferences and opinions of people. 🤷‍♂️

A verification is just one person's view. Sure, a pattern can develop through multiple verifications, but that should be clear from what you've read. There shouldn't be any need to check details with the person who left it. Of course people talk about others if they're friends, the same as they do in normal life. But an enquiry from a complete stranger is, to me anyway, just a tad odd.

We should all be able as adults to make up our own minds as to whether to chat to or meet someone. And there can be plenty of reasons people don't leave a verification even if you've left one for them. It doesn't change the opinion you had of them at the time you left it, surely? 🤔

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By *uckurcumMan
8 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

I've had meets but no verifications left ..it's up to the individual...

Possibly in my case some guys don't want to be seen as having had guy on guy contact..

It's their choice ...doesn't bother me at all.

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By *lueDressWoman
8 weeks ago

Bath

I would've reversed a verification if I could. Turned up the person that was charming for the first year. Turns out to be a completely different person and was in fact a dangerous catfish.

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
8 weeks ago

glasgow

"I would've reversed a verification if I could. Turned up the person that was charming for the first year. Turns out to be a completely different person and was in fact a dangerous catfish."

If you met them how where they a catfish?

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By *ature housewifeWoman
8 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Thanks, i get what you mean, You had a bad experience at a club, especially if you pay as well the club some make it memorable and in you case not leaving a verification was better for the club.

If someone contacted me asking me anything about people I had met, I would think they were a stalker. That's just bizarre and ridiculously indiscreet. What if, for example, the person didn't want others knowing they meet TV/TS? Do you ask for the persons consent before you send random messages to people they have met?

There's being safe...and there's being paranoid.

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By *ature housewifeWoman
8 weeks ago

Glasgow

I see no reason why a verification should be reversed.

You may have verified them as is proper to do but perhaps they did not want to appear on your profile confirming they met you. Perhaps they do not want others to know that they meet TV/TS. It's personal choice whether someone leaves a verification.

If I later discovered that someone I met had been disingenuous or through continued contact discovered that they were actually a right bastard, I'd look to myself and how I choose who I meet.

That said, how do you differentiate between wrongly assessing their personality in the first instance and them losing interest after they have shot their load? Let's be honest, most men will say anything to get their end wet. Once they do, it's, "NEXT!"

Some people rely on verifications to prove being genuine - particularly those who like spontaneous outdoor fun.

It's my choice who I meet. If I pick poorly, that's my fault.

I think reversing verifications would just be used by the bitter and resentful as a way of getting back at people.

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By *londebiguyMan
7 weeks ago

Southport

"Thanks, i get what you mean, You had a bad experience at a club, especially if you pay as well the club some make it memorable and in you case not leaving a verification was better for the club.

That is very weird.

I certainly would not talk to a stranger about someone else if met.

If say that is overstepping the mark of acceptable behaviour.

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By *oltMan
7 weeks ago

Doncaster

I got verified by a guy . Never met him before never spoken to him. Blocked him but still shows that I've "met" a guy which may potentially put people off. Very annoying

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
7 weeks ago

glasgow

"I got verified by a guy . Never met him before never spoken to him. Blocked him but still shows that I've "met" a guy which may potentially put people off. Very annoying "

You can contact admin and they will investigate and he can be punished for giving fake verifications and they will remove it

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By *ednesday 2023TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Stortford

You might wish to reconsider a veri if the second or subsequent meets reveal a different character or unreliable.

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By *uliette500Woman
2 weeks ago

Hull

"You might wish to reconsider a veri if the second or subsequent meets reveal a different character or unreliable."

But if it was that bad you can just block the person and they can't show your veri.

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By *1buttonMan
2 weeks ago

EDINBURGH

"Can you reverse a face to face meeting verification. I always think verifications are a 2 way street to prove to others that the other person is genuine. but when its not reciprocated it annoys me. "

I wonder what happens if you give someone an absolute dreadful verification. They'll just leave it as plus one and not publish. But definitely a good fun way to get your own little personal dig in!

In the end of the day, the whole place is essentially fickle, so be stronger one and give them the nasty verification, a 2nd one, then BLOCK

And the people who have verifications that are over five years old, should they be wiped?

And verifications from people who no longer exist on the site or have not been visible for a number of years.

And verifications showing the others have never been verified. That's all fake!

Time for a TripAdvisor scoring chart. How good they are at various activities and Performance.

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By *uliette500Woman
2 weeks ago

Hull

"Can you reverse a face to face meeting verification. I always think verifications are a 2 way street to prove to others that the other person is genuine. but when its not reciprocated it annoys me.

I wonder what happens if you give someone an absolute dreadful verification. They'll just leave it as plus one and not publish. But definitely a good fun way to get your own little personal dig in!

In the end of the day, the whole place is essentially fickle, so be stronger one and give them the nasty verification, a 2nd one, then BLOCK

And the people who have verifications that are over five years old, should they be wiped?

And verifications from people who no longer exist on the site or have not been visible for a number of years.

And verifications showing the others have never been verified. That's all fake!

Time for a TripAdvisor scoring chart. How good they are at various activities and Performance."

No point in sending a bad veri as they will choose not to show it but it still looks good on their summary.

Would show as 3 veris although they might be all bad ones. They just tell perspective meets that the people who left them had left the site so they couldn't show them.

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