FabSwingers.com forum: Responses to posts

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

In my books, good manners imply that everyone gets a response. I read several profiles stating “I’m busy, will not reply if…”. I find that so rude and doesn’t help newbies and foreigners. Why newbies? It helps to know what’s acceptable and what not. Why foreigners? Different countries, different cultures. What’s acceptable in A may not be acceptable in B.

Thoughts?

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By *ucka39Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Each profile has a user which has their own rules as they are here for them just like me and you

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
9 weeks ago

North West

When I have filters down the messages often come in faster than I can reply to them. Many of them being one word such as Hey or Hi. Do they really deserve a reply?

Anyway I look forward to you replying to everyone on this thread.

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By *uliette500Woman
9 weeks ago

Hull

Read the FAQs on the site OP it clearly states not replying is not rude.

Not getting a reply is a reply in itself.

Nobody should feel they have to reply to anyone.

Also replying to someone stops them being blocked if I choose to put my filters up at a later date.

If I'm not interested I don't reply. If they keep messaging after I don't reply they get blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"When I have filters down the messages often come in faster than I can reply to them. Many of them being one word such as Hey or Hi. Do they really deserve a reply?

Anyway I look forward to you replying to everyone on this thread. "

Don’t blame you. And did not wish to stir this badly. I the fact that you have replied here gives me consolation that profiles here are not all fiction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
9 weeks ago

"Read the FAQs on the site OP it clearly states not replying is not rude.

Not getting a reply is a reply in itself.

Nobody should feel they have to reply to anyone.

Also replying to someone stops them being blocked if I choose to put my filters up at a later date.

If I'm not interested I don't reply. If they keep messaging after I don't reply they get blocked."

Thanks for sharing the other side to it. I try to respond to anything I receive and perhaps it is something I will regret as a novice here. Thanks for taking your time to replay anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ

Check out the FAQs from the above. It'll help understand how things work on fab

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By *aomilatteCouple
9 weeks ago

Midlands

"In my books, good manners imply that everyone gets a response. I read several profiles stating “I’m busy, will not reply if…”. I find that so rude and doesn’t help newbies and foreigners. Why newbies? It helps to know what’s acceptable and what not. Why foreigners? Different countries, different cultures. What’s acceptable in A may not be acceptable in B.

Thoughts?"

As you're new there are things about Fab you don't realise. Many don't take rejection kindly. Some who reply "thanks for your message but you're not for me" then receive abusive messages. So on Fab no reply is a polite "no thanks". Think of it like all the advertisement leaflets you get through your door, do you phone or message the double glazing company to say you're not interested?

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