FabSwingers.com forum: Appear online mode

By *ountryPleasure OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Ashford

I really need this. I like having messages to go through but it can be overwhelming to not catch up on the older ones and be polite without new ones arriving and feeling impatient because they can see you're online and feel ignored. I Need to be able to come on and click 'appear ofline' and catch up. Honestly sometimes it's sometimes a chore that I just don't log in for months and the Fab looses on money from me.

Or I have to pretend 'all my messages have disappeared' because I deleted them in a rage of unable to get ahead of it.

I know I can turn on special messaging filters but I don't want to, I just want to pause and be able to appear offline.

Would love this option pleaseeee

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By *ountryPleasure OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Ashford

"I really need this. I like having messages to go through but it can be overwhelming to not catch up on the older ones and be polite without new ones arriving and feeling impatient because they can see you're online and feel ignored. I Need to be able to come on and click 'appear ofline' and catch up. Honestly sometimes it's sometimes a chore that I just don't log in for months and the Fab looses on money from me.

Or I have to pretend 'all my messages have disappeared' because I deleted them in a rage of unable to get ahead of it.

I know I can turn on special messaging filters but I don't want to, I just want to pause and be able to appear offline.

Would love this option pleaseeee "

TITLE MEANT TO READ APPEAR OFFLINE

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By *icecouple561Couple
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20 weeks ago

East Sussex

I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to.

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By *ucka39Man
20 weeks ago

Newcastle

You could hide your profile as an option

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By *istletoe KissesWoman
20 weeks ago

There and Here

"You could hide your profile as an option "

This is what I do but I'd prefer the option to appear offline

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By *izzycreteWoman
20 weeks ago

Not too far

"You could hide your profile as an option

This is what I do but I'd prefer the option to appear offline "

Me too.

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By *ountryPleasure OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Ashford

This always looks super sketchy to me and I tend not to continue messages. So I'm not sure I'd want to use this as an option. Still vote for an 'appear offline' option x

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By *llaBelle1Woman
20 weeks ago

Sitting on a cornflake

This exactly!! I just go into hidden mode to catch up on message admin then everyone on friends list is asking if I’m ok!!

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By *ucka39Man
20 weeks ago

Newcastle

"This exactly!! I just go into hidden mode to catch up on message admin then everyone on friends list is asking if I’m ok!!"

But you could use the status to explain prior

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"This exactly!! I just go into hidden mode to catch up on message admin then everyone on friends list is asking if I’m ok!!

But you could use the status to explain prior "

Then you just get more messages

Absolutely agree op, it’s so stupid to have it as a feature anyway

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By *ineappleroloWoman
19 weeks ago

Derby

I'd like this option too.

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By *orny PTMan
19 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to. "

Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing?

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By *ucka39Man
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to.

Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing?"

Hiya

I'm assuming it'd do same if it were 18/18

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By *amanthabWoman
19 weeks ago

Somewhere

Being able to appear offline is a great idea, and perhaps it could be available to site supporters

It is completely overwhelming getting literally over 100 messages in a day and not being able to respond or filter through them

I end up bulk deleting a lot of the time

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwichish

I would just be very clear in your profile that you get a lot of messages, try to take time to respond and ask them not to get upset if they don’t get a reply instantly.

Also reading and then setting back to unread is never a bad option then they don’t necessarily know you have been on or read it yet.

And there is always the fails safe to make sure people have read that bit by asking them to add a special word to the message first line (as headings have gone now). At least you would know the ones to prioritise.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwichish

And then I took time to read your profile and you do all that

So in that case I wouldn’t worry, you are perfectly honest in your profile

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By *ountryPleasure OP Woman
19 weeks ago

Ashford

Or we could just have an appear offline option.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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19 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to.

Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing?"

I think it would

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By *riel13Woman
19 weeks ago

Northampton

"You could hide your profile as an option "

It doesn't stop the ones that have hotlisted, messaged or friended you before as they can check in those lists and see the blue dot.. And some do look

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By *riel13Woman
19 weeks ago

Northampton

Don't try to keep up... Just reply to those you are interested in... ButbI think the online button needs to not be a thing at all... The option would definitely be good though

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