FabSwingers.com forum: Distance and Location

By *loryHoleThroatGOAT OP Man
26 weeks ago

Musselburgh

I'm on Swingers and Guys. Both are bloody good at what they do.

However, I have a FWB who is also on both.

On Swingers they are within half or 1 mile.

However the same profile on Guys is 'within touching distance'

Which is it?

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By *ucka39Man
26 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Your signal will bounce off mast to mast as each mast has only so many users each time

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By *loryHoleThroatGOAT OP Man
26 weeks ago

Musselburgh

I see what you're saying. Howevervl Swings & Guys...

Swing says within 1 mile.. the very same profile on Guys.. 'within touching distance'

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"I see what you're saying. Howevervl Swings & Guys...

Swing says within 1 mile.. the very same profile on Guys.. 'within touching distance'"

Fab doesnt have the "within touching distance" option fab guys does

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
26 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers."
no it wouldn’t

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By *tsOnlyMe1980Man
26 weeks ago

derby

Here does have ‘within quarter mile’ in big cities. There’s a couple that show up that close to me in the small village I live in

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By *uliette500Woman
26 weeks ago

Hull

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers."

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

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By *tsOnlyMe1980Man
26 weeks ago

derby

Yep, agreed.

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By *assy LassieWoman
25 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks. "

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that"

I once had someone try to triangulate me based on the quarter mile, and that was quite creepy enough, thank you. (It's also why my who's near is basically permanently off now)

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Stockport

I usually find that "within half a light year" is accurate enough for most purposes...

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

So, therefore, it doesn't really affect you then, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

You can switch it off if you don't use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Why? Surely if you use it it's to find or be found.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Well, yes it would.

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You can switch it off if you don't use it."

if you hit the quote button under reply, we'll know who you're talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"You can switch it off if you don't use it.

if you hit the quote button under reply, we'll know who you're talking to."

Ah. Thanks Swing. I thought it did that automatically. x

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that

I once had someone try to triangulate me based on the quarter mile, and that was quite creepy enough, thank you. (It's also why my who's near is basically permanently off now)"

So, therefore, it doesn't really affect you then, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that"

You can switch it off if you don't use it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that

I once had someone try to triangulate me based on the quarter mile, and that was quite creepy enough, thank you. (It's also why my who's near is basically permanently off now)

So, therefore, it doesn't really affect you then, does it?"

I am capable of imagining what it might be like for other people.

Maybe guys are fine with being triangulated to their workplace or home. I have no idea. I bet most women won't be.

If I were to put it here, I'd make the extra detail opt in. And then I would opt the fuck out.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks. "

Why? Surely if you use it it's to find or be found.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.no it wouldn’t

Well, yes it would.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Stockport

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.no it wouldn’t

Well, yes it would."

I rather suspect that if 'touching distance' was active on fabswingers, then almost all women would disable who's near. The list of people who were near and _might_ have some interest in sex would become a list of only men. Even most couples who remove themselves from it.

Why? Simply because although many women have sexual desires, they are also extremely selective. They do not wish to carry a sign on their forehead saying "r@pe me". By contrast, a large proportion of men are "up for it" any time, any place, with anyone that has the right selection of holes according to their sexuality.

The owners of fabswingers and fabguys understand this, which is why the who's near feature is implemented differently on the two sites. Most women understand this. Unfortunately far too few men understand this.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers."

Jeezo no thanks, bad enough the we are close to each other messages without guys actually walking about looking for me

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By *uliette500Woman
25 weeks ago

Hull

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Why? Surely if you use it it's to find or be found."

I use is to see who is near I wouldn't use it at all if it brought people to my front door.

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By *illan-KillashMan
25 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks. "

Even that's too close sometimes.

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By *uliette500Woman
25 weeks ago

Hull

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes. "

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace.

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes.

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace. "

I've literally had messages ordering me to my nearest chain coffee shop because I'm always around it. Yes, that is where I live and I do work from home, creeps.

"You're within reasonable distance and I'd like to see if we're interested in meeting", fine.

"You're always in the same spot, I bet you frequent this Gloria Jeans and you should come and meet me. Wait, why haven't you come and met me?! You're so rude!" ... really really not fine.

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By *assy LassieWoman
25 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that

You can switch it off if you don't use it.

Who said I don't use it. I implied touching distance would be rather creepy

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By *naswingdressWoman
25 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Absolutely. Imagine within touching distance. Folk would be running around like pokemon go trying to find fabbers. No thanks to that

You can switch it off if you don't use it.

Who said I don't use it. I implied touching distance would be rather creepy"

I would love to use it. But I've learned that people are weird about it. A quarter of a mile is quite weird enough. Touching distance could be dangerous, given that there are some unsavoury characters that are on here (yes yes not all men, I do mean a small minority).

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By *bi HaiveMan
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25 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If someone can tell me how proximity equates in any way to interest and attraction then maybe I'll change my mind on the subject.

I often have mine on. Because I travel and 'idle curiosity'. Not because I'd ever expect that because I'm 1/4 of a mile from soneone that they're in the mood, at all interested in me or me in them, or that just because two (or three or four) people are close to eachother that it insinuates anything may happen.

It can be a useful tool to many I'm sure.

But I fully undesirable why others aren't keen.

Hence, its optional.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If someone can tell me how proximity equates in any way to interest and attraction then maybe I'll change my mind on the subject.

It can be a useful tool to many I'm sure.

But I fully undesirable why others aren't keen.

Hence, its optional. "

Fully undesirable?

Damn you autocarrot.

'Understand'

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

Mine is permanently off because it's not something I'm comfortable with but I've also no interest in meeting random people based on nothing more than the fact they are near.

I see people say how they turn it on when they go to new places but I've never done that.

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By *illan-KillashMan
25 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes.

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace. "

I've seen a message from a man to a ladyfriend.

"Hi, noticed you were close to me, are you in xxxxxxxxx, do you fancy a coffee?)

She was; in their cafe, drinking a coffee, which she didn't finish before leaving quicksmart.

*block

Some men understand and respect boundaries and appreciate the dangers some women face. Some men, as evidenced herein don't.

*not all weirdo stalkers are men

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By *uliette500Woman
25 weeks ago

Hull

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes.

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace.

I've seen a message from a man to a ladyfriend.

"Hi, noticed you were close to me, are you in xxxxxxxxx, do you fancy a coffee?)

She was; in their cafe, drinking a coffee, which she didn't finish before leaving quicksmart.

*block

Some men understand and respect boundaries and appreciate the dangers some women face. Some men, as evidenced herein don't.

*not all weirdo stalkers are men

I fully understand they are not all men and women can be jist as bad.

The most concerning comments on here though are from men, especially the ones suggesting that if you have this setting turned on then you 'want to be found'

I'm sure that is not the intended use for this feature but I feel messages like the one your friend received leave women feeling very vulnerable in a way that men generally wouldn't feel.

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

I used to have it turned on and have been "found" by two couples.

Once when walking the dogs and a couple were out for lunch and we had a chat on the street.

The other time though was when I was staying in an hotel and a couple messaged to say I was showing up very close and must be in the same hotel.

They gave me their room number and wanted me to call and fuck the missus asap.

I had no intention of going along but I didn't recognise the profile and decided to have a look. She was only 20 and they had got around my filters because he was 62.

The first line of their bio was written in capital letters saying that they didn't meet single men ever and would block any who thought they could be persuaded.

They said they would only ever meet single women.

When I told them I wouldn't be meeting them for all those reasons they got aggressive so I blocked them and turned off the who's near permanently.

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By *illan-KillashMan
25 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes.

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace.

I've seen a message from a man to a ladyfriend.

"Hi, noticed you were close to me, are you in xxxxxxxxx, do you fancy a coffee?)

She was; in their cafe, drinking a coffee, which she didn't finish before leaving quicksmart.

*block

Some men understand and respect boundaries and appreciate the dangers some women face. Some men, as evidenced herein don't.

*not all weirdo stalkers are men

I fully understand they are not all men and women can be jist as bad.

The most concerning comments on here though are from men, especially the ones suggesting that if you have this setting turned on then you 'want to be found'

I'm sure that is not the intended use for this feature but I feel messages like the one your friend received leave women feeling very vulnerable in a way that men generally wouldn't feel. "

Absolutely. I'm seeing lots of red flags here, I'm not shocked others can't.

I might have it turned on because I'm looking. Which isn't the same as "want to be found"

The "you want to be found" vibe makes me uneasy.

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By *assy LassieWoman
25 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers.

I'm glad it doesn't. Within 1/4 of a mile is close enough thanks.

Even that's too close sometimes.

Wow a man who actually gets it, thanks.

From some of the comments on here I was starting to feel like if I had it turned on I was prey to be hunted down.

Why can't people understand the feature is there just to give you an idea who is close by not so you can track us down to our home address or workplace.

I've seen a message from a man to a ladyfriend.

"Hi, noticed you were close to me, are you in xxxxxxxxx, do you fancy a coffee?)

She was; in their cafe, drinking a coffee, which she didn't finish before leaving quicksmart.

*block

Some men understand and respect boundaries and appreciate the dangers some women face. Some men, as evidenced herein don't.

*not all weirdo stalkers are men

Sent from my iphone

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By *ette Davis EyesTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Near Mullingar

How do I switch off my distance? Is it possible even?

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

"How do I switch off my distance? Is it possible even? "

Hiya

Turn off your location on your device, clear the cookies for the site, log in, it'll ask for permission decline then come off the site and put your location back on. It may ask again and just do as before decline

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

It says it’s 15-20 miles from here to skegness,but it’s actually almost 70 miles

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

"It says it’s 15-20 miles from here to skegness,but it’s actually almost 70 miles "

Your device location settings. Clear history

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

In the open countryside, where the next building is are potentially a mile or so distant, just a flicker of light at night, it can be too easy to be tracked down.

Getting messages highlighting that someone is doing this, when you are isolated, is disturbing.

The descriptors are more than detailed enough

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By *vonne5exMan
11 weeks ago

Doncaster

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers."
What is touching distance?

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By *ucka39Man
11 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I've asked this before. 'Touching distance' would be great on Fab Swingers. What is touching distance?"

Local

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