FabSwingers.com forum: Negative Feedback

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about a negative feedback option particularly for timewasters.

Had set up a meet at a hotel, at my cost, have been texting and getting on really well for a few days.

Get a text 10 mins before the meet to say stuck in traffic. Fair enough. Get a text an hour and a half after we should have met saying I'm tired and cant meet.

This isnt about sour grapes. That is just plain rude.

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

it's still your word against theirs.

Use the report button on the person's profile, and fill in as much details as possible to admin

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Wouldn't work....

I mean whats to stop me saying you arranged to meet me and didn't show up.. Too open to abuse

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the comments. Cost me £100 to sit by myself drinking and staying in the hotel. X

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Did you only communicate by text?

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"Did you only communicate by text?"

that assumes he had her (err his) number to communicate with

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Thanks for the comments. Cost me £100 to sit by myself drinking and staying in the hotel. X"

Maybe next time consider meeting for a coffee / drink and THEN book a hotel if needed.

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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago

Croydon

This comes up time and time again... and i think there should be a system like ebay whjere negative feedback can be left - but gives the person a chance to comment as well.

Dont know why this hasnt been instigated as it would prevent time wasters to an extent.

If someone left us a negatve comment, then we would get a notification of a veri like the current system. Then be up to us to defend ourselves!

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"What about a negative feedback option particularly for timewasters.

Had set up a meet at a hotel, at my cost, have been texting and getting on really well for a few days.

Get a text 10 mins before the meet to say stuck in traffic. Fair enough. Get a text an hour and a half after we should have met saying I'm tired and cant meet.

This isnt about sour grapes. That is just plain rude."

There are some tips for safe meeting on the faq www.fabswingers.com/faq and one of the key rules is to avoid putting yourself in a situation where if someone doesn't turn up you'll be annoyed our out of pocket:

Do you have any tips for safe meeting?

Don't forget that the only person responsible for your safety is you, so don't put yourself in a situation where a stranger can let you down. These are some tips to help:

* Don't give strangers your home phone number, your usual mobile number or your address or let them know where you work. Buy a spare PAYG SIM for your mobile and use it for initial contacts.

* Don't rely on strangers for transport, so don't agree to go somewhere in a car with someone you don't know.

* Don't turn up to strange addresses without having met the people you're expecting, first, beforehand.

* Always meet first somewhere safe and public (a cafe) first.

* Always tell someone you trust who you're going to meet, and where.

* Don't arrange meets without having spoken to the people you're expecting to meet first on phone OR on seen on cam.

* Don't invite strangers into your home.

* Don't put yourself in a situation where if someone doesn't turn up, you'll be upset. So don't travel 100s of miles and book into a hotel in the expectation of meeting someone unless you've met them beforehand.

Attending an organised social or a swinging club meet is a good place to start.

Admin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find the Webcam and talking on the phone is the best way...even then there are too many "keyboard" fantasists to make that wholly reliable.

Almost a foolproof way is to go to a club, however some fools do get through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about ...no?

Would lead to endless 'rows' etc ...take the advice given and make sure the meet is deffo on before spending any money .....

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Thanks for the comments. Cost me £100 to sit by myself drinking and staying in the hotel. X

Maybe next time consider meeting for a coffee / drink and THEN book a hotel if needed."

I've done this before - went all the way to Cheltenham for a lunch meet, had arranged the time and all, got there 2.45pm and left 3 voicemails: I'm here, .. I'm at pool table (2 hours later), I'm off home else miss last train as was approaching 9pm and I had work the next day.

Finally heard from her 2 hours after I got home saying I should get over it as she did not owe me a meet as was not a contract, and glad she did not meet me if I was going to take it so personally.

Nice eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lovely. But thinking about it there are twats in all areas of life so why should swinging be any different?

I've just put it down to experience and a lesson learned.

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