FabSwingers.com forum: the block system!

By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

Hi admin. I think I have a terrific idea to improve the block system.

Lets say we want to block person A. When we block them there should be a check box with a list of reasons, for example

A/ out of our/my age bracket

B/ not looking for singles

c/ not looking for bi curious or bi sexual

D/ not my type

E/ Etc Etc Etc

Once we have checked the relivant box and blocked the person it goes on system so that when person A views our profile instead of getting the "you are unable to view this profile because they have blocked you" message, they will get something along the lines of, you are unable to view this profile as they have blocked you for the following reason A,B,C etc

This would make people understand the reason behind being blocked by anyone a little better and stop them being annoyed at random blockings.

What does anyone think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can think of a hundred different reasons why I might block someone, and I suspect other users could think of hundreds more! Are you proposing to list all of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi admin. I think I have a terrific idea to improve the block system.

Lets say we want to block person A. When we block them there should be a check box with a list of reasons, for example

A/ out of our/my age bracket

B/ not looking for singles

c/ not looking for bi curious or bi sexual

D/ not my type

E/ Etc Etc Etc

This would make people understand the reason behind being blocked by anyone a little better and stop them being annoyed at random blockings.

What does anyone think?"

I'd agree with that, as the block system....like many other things on this site...is broken.

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

a hundred different reasons? go on then ill throw down the challenge

clearly a list of 100 is inpractical but then im sure you already knew that, but then a list of 5-10 would probaly cover all your 100 reasons in some way shape or form.

how long do you want to compile the list?

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By *pitfiresCouple
over a year ago

East

Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

i agree with this and was going to suggest it, but didnt because we will get people with nothing between their ears saying "they will only abuse other members"

maybe a free txt box which admin have to approve before it goes live

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By *pitfiresCouple
over a year ago

East

"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

i agree with this and was going to suggest it, but didnt because we will get people with nothing between their ears saying "they will only abuse other members"

maybe a free txt box which admin have to approve before it goes live"

That makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you use your filters most of the people you block because of A,B or C wouldn't be able to message you in the first place.

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By *j_markCouple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

"If you use your filters most of the people you block because of A,B or C wouldn't be able to message you in the first place."

http://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

Admin x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

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"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

i agree with this and was going to suggest it, but didnt because we will get people with nothing between their ears saying "they will only abuse other members"

maybe a free txt box which admin have to approve before it goes live"

Happily I have got something between my ears but will still say that is suggested might give people a platform to abuse people on their message and unless Admin have more time on their hands it would need an army of people to approve any message.

To the original suggestion.....if people are inclined to get annoyed that others have blocked them, a message saying why they were blocked would probably not make things any better.

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

what makes you say that rugby? you only have to look on the forums for the amount of people starting threads about being disgruntled, miffed, annoyed at being blocked for whatthey seem "no reason"

now surely when they view a profile if it say this person has blocked you because you dont fit the criteria of a,b,c or whatever, that can only make sense!

as for the filters, yeah ok so some people will use the filters, many dont, but surely the filters can stop people who fit your criteria messaging you can they? so what if someone fits your criteria but you actually dont like them and block them, surely a message saying "not our type" would suffice.

its a great idea and should be put into practice, it would certainly cut down on the number of threads started by blocked people if nowt else

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

"If you use your filters most of the people you block because of A,B or C wouldn't be able to message you in the first place."

can you show me where i can block bi curious males but not straight males? or straight women but not bi curious women?

also can we block asian or black men but not white?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"what makes you say that rugby? you only have to look on the forums for the amount of people starting threads about being disgruntled, miffed, annoyed at being blocked for whatthey seem "no reason"

Because I think anyone who can't accept without getting annoyed that another member has a right to block them isn't going to accept a reason either.

you would probably still get people posting threads saying "this person blocked me and the message said I wasn't her type" etc

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

well as you know we cant please everyone, but i certainly think it would help 80% of people understand why they have been blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what makes you say that rugby? you only have to look on the forums for the amount of people starting threads about being disgruntled, miffed, annoyed at being blocked for whatthey seem "no reason"

Because I think anyone who can't accept without getting annoyed that another member has a right to block them isn't going to accept a reason either.

you would probably still get people posting threads saying "this person blocked me and the message said I wasn't her type" etc"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay sort of but there is a little note thingy that one can do that will say why you have blocked someone, so not sure there is any point in having an other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well as you know we cant please everyone, but i certainly think it would help 80% of people understand why they have been blocked."
I just don't think it's realistically do'able as people block for so many reasons, so at some point after option A,B,C & D you would need a box just called 'other' which doesn't leave the blocked person any wiser as to why he was blocked in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I block people that get ideas and then think that everyone MUST agree with them or else they must be mad. You know, the person who will be right no matter.

What section would that go under?

Or the guy who starts off with wonderful polite messages, that slowly degenerate into crude rubbish once you agree to meet. Where does he get classified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

But how many would type "blocked cos your a fooking arsehole"? lol

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"can you show me where i can block bi curious males but not straight males? or straight women but not bi curious women?

also can we block asian or black men but not white?

on the later option, whlist we sympathise as too dont want... as users are not required to define their race when joining then how can the site offer that block option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

But how many would type "blocked cos your a fooking arsehole"? lol"
I have blocked profiles because of pictures that show them having bareback sex with multiple partners, I couldn't write that in a box as that's their choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can you show me where i can block bi curious males but not straight males? or straight women but not bi curious women?

also can we block asian or black men but not white?

on the later option, whlist we sympathise as too dont want... as users are not required to define their race when joining then how can the site offer that block option?"

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

so, basically what people are saying is the list of reasons has to be specific?

does it really?

I mean lets be honest, if your blocking someone who has bareback sex on thier pictures would "not my type" cover that??

really now its a great idea to give the blocked person a reason, be it true or not, but the descriptions do not and could not possibly be 100% tailored to every case.

the list pretty much covers every eventuality and i dare say no one can put a reason on here that wouldnt fit into 1 of the following catagories.

1. Not looking for your sexual orientation

2. Age bracket

3. Not looking for singles

4. Not looking for couples.

5. Not my/our type

6. No correspondance previously

7. Profile inadequate for us

well i cant think of anymore which shows you how these so called "hundreds" of reason can all be catagorised into 1 simple list.

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

"Therefore make E: Other and maybe have a free text box

But how many would type "blocked cos your a fooking arsehole"? lolI have blocked profiles because of pictures that show them having bareback sex with multiple partners, I couldn't write that in a box as that's their choice!"

surely that would come under "not my type"

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

i dare say no one can put a reason on here that wouldnt fit into 1 of the following catagories.

1. Not looking for your sexual orientation

2. Age bracket

3. Not looking for singles

4. Not looking for couples.

5. Not my/our type

6. No correspondance previously

7. Profile inadequate for us

well i cant think of anymore which shows you how these so called "hundreds" of reason can all be catagorised into 1 simple list."

9. You live too far away from us/me

10. You live too close to us/me for comfort

11. Too much correspondence i.e. you are annoying us/me

etc, etc, etc .......

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

9 and 10 could be under the same header of "location issue"

11.....well maybe

but reckon that would come under not my type i.e pushy arsehole lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"9 and 10 could be under the same header of "location issue"

11.....well maybe

but reckon that would come under not my type i.e pushy arsehole lol"

Your 1-8 didn't include a "location issue"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12. Too short

13. Too tall

14. Too fat

15. Too slim

16. Didn't use keyword in profile

17. You've met someone I don't like

18. Too hairy

19. Bald

20. Willy too small

21. Willy too big

22. We smoke, yr profile says u won't meet smokers

23. You only sent 1 word/line message

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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24. You wear Y fronts

25. You had garlic for tea.

26. You drive a skoda

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

27. you have facial hair (man)

28. you have facial hair (woman)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

29. We've blocked you and we ain't saying why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"24. You wear Y fronts

25. You had garlic for tea.

26. You drive a skoda

Oooppsss! Guilty of two of those

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

30. we mailed you 4 months ago but you never replied

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"24. You wear Y fronts

25. You had garlic for tea.

26. You drive a skoda

Oooppsss! Guilty of two of those

A skoda driving y front wearer?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"30. we mailed you 4 months ago but you never replied

what if they mailed you two and a half months ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

You have hobbit feet

You have a mullet

You like line dancing

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"30. we mailed you 4 months ago but you never replied

what if they mailed you two and a half months ago?"

being site supporters it would say on our profile Ruggers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"24. You wear Y fronts

25. You had garlic for tea.

26. You drive a skoda

Oooppsss! Guilty of two of those

A skoda driving y front wearer?"

My breath is fresh

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

34. you only have pics of the Fem yet want to meet a couple (so no pic of the fella = block)

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

35. yr pics look great but the background suggests yr house is a sty so no thanks

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

36. your username puts us off!

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

trying, but still short of the 100's reasons suggested above lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about you just discover your blocked and move on!

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"How about you just discover your blocked and move on!"

37. find your blocked but not given a reason so counter block

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

block is block simple as , this is a free site ,have seen users ask for links to video attached to profile want this room that room ect its a free site if we ask admin to put more and more things on this site it will go towards a pay site ,it aint broke it dont need fixing ,fabswingers is the fastest growing number 1 site .

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

yes its a free site, but does that mean we cant improve it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so, basically what people are saying is the list of reasons has to be specific?

does it really?

I mean lets be honest, if your blocking someone who has bareback sex on thier pictures would "not my type" cover that??

really now its a great idea to give the blocked person a reason, be it true or not, but the descriptions do not and could not possibly be 100% tailored to every case.

the list pretty much covers every eventuality and i dare say no one can put a reason on here that wouldnt fit into 1 of the following catagories.

1. Not looking for your sexual orientation

2. Age bracket

3. Not looking for singles

4. Not looking for couples.

5. Not my/our type

6. No correspondance previously

7. Profile inadequate for us

well i cant think of anymore which shows you how these so called "hundreds" of reason can all be catagorised into 1 simple list."

Put bluntly sweet, nobody really gives a shit! If I block some arse for being an arse, I really don't care what he (or she) thinks. If they then want to bleat about it on the forum, so what? If you don't like their whining, don't read it!

Nobody seems to want your "rules", let it go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block 1 reason... we dont want to meet you eva

block 2 reason... cause you are a mod lol

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

what you mean is "you dont give a shit"

you cannot speeak for everyone, as i said previously there are 100s of threads all questioning why they have been blocked. So put simply to you, you have said you piece, let it go, let others aire thier views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block 2 reason... cause you are a mod lol "

Awww richy.. We still love u both even if you have gone over to the dark side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

38. Too many tattoo's

39. Not enough tattoo's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol dave m8, me and gayna off to get the tena ladies out now, thanks m8 and ruggers and honey, made me nite here, hope i dont start laughing thinking about this while inside gayna lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40. Majority of profile consists of legal disclaimer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear a condom mate in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what you mean is "you dont give a shit"

Do you REALLY not realise they are taking the piss out of you. Oh! Newslash! They are not going to change the system. They have told you that, twice I believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

42. Doesn't have a sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opps, missed 41 .. Any suggestions?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"what makes you say that rugby? you only have to look on the forums for the amount of people starting threads about being disgruntled, miffed, annoyed at being blocked for whatthey seem "no reason"

now surely when they view a profile if it say this person has blocked you because you dont fit the criteria of a,b,c or whatever, that can only make sense!

its a great idea and should be put into practice, it would certainly cut down on the number of threads started by blocked people if nowt else

People will abuse the system? Nooooooo! Why would anyone do that??

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"Opps, missed 41 .. Any suggestions?"

Has sense of humour but it's not the type that i like?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

43. Recognized them from elsewhere and want to block so they don't know I'm here...

Except the why were you blocked function just told them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wear a condom mate in case

no point ive been doctored lol

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"Wear a condom mate in case

no point ive been doctored lol "

was for incase you started giggling about this thread whilst inside Gayna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what you mean is "you dont give a shit"

The truth is blocking is an option and it means I don't want to meet them - end of

I din't need to give a reason and I certainly don't want to fill in a bloody survey each time I block someone.

Yes people moan about it but then they moan about everything

People should use the site as it is and stop analysing everything and trying to 'improve' things that don't need it

There are more important things in the world to worry about than why some total stranger doesn't want to meet you off a sex site !

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"yes its a free site, but does that mean we cant improve it?"
at whos expense

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"yes its a free site, but does that mean we cant improve it?at whos expense"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

44. Your wallpaper is shit

45. How can I shag someone who really believes spotty Australian students give a shit about your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so, basically what people are saying is the list of reasons has to be specific?

does it really?

I mean lets be honest, if your blocking someone who has bareback sex on thier pictures would "not my type" cover that??

really now its a great idea to give the blocked person a reason, be it true or not, but the descriptions do not and could not possibly be 100% tailored to every case.

the list pretty much covers every eventuality and i dare say no one can put a reason on here that wouldnt fit into 1 of the following catagories.

1. Not looking for your sexual orientation

2. Age bracket

3. Not looking for singles

4. Not looking for couples.

5. Not my/our type

6. No correspondance previously

7. Profile inadequate for us

well i cant think of anymore which shows you how these so called "hundreds" of reason can all be catagorised into 1 simple list.

Nobody seems to want your "rules", let it go!"

Thought the whole point of the forums was to let people have their say and this one is for suggestions?

I for one would of liked to of known why i was blocked the other day? Had never spoken to this person.

They sent me an invite then blocked me

Now a box that they could of ticked would of been nice to say changed their mind rather than leaving me thinking what an earth i had done wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I don't really want to fill in a tick list of why ive blocked someone so that they have the opportunity of knowing why

Its rare for me to block anyway,I much prefer to use the private note function if I want to remind myself about a profile

In turn I have no interest to know why someone would have blocked me either its not going to change how I am,or how I use the site in anyway at all

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

"44. Your wallpaper is shit

45. How can I shag someone who really believes spotty Australian students give a shit about your profile

#45 would be covered by #40 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought the whole point of the forums was to let people have their say and this one is for suggestions?

I for one would of liked to of known why i was blocked the other day? Had never spoken to this person.

They sent me an invite then blocked me

Now a box that they could of ticked would of been nice to say changed their mind rather than leaving me thinking what an earth i had done wrong?"

But the reason you hoped you would get, i.e. "changed their mind" is not on the list, so that's one more. At what point does is start to get silly? Don't forget people will only start threads with a "We want to suggest another reason" title!

If I block someone, then I feel I had a reason. Often, I block profile I have read casually that does not interest me. Why should I give a reason?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BTW, this forum is for feedback, which is not quite the same as suggestions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so, basically what people are saying is the list of reasons has to be specific?

does it really?

I mean lets be honest, if your blocking someone who has bareback sex on thier pictures would "not my type" cover that??

really now its a great idea to give the blocked person a reason, be it true or not, but the descriptions do not and could not possibly be 100% tailored to every case.

the list pretty much covers every eventuality and i dare say no one can put a reason on here that wouldnt fit into 1 of the following catagories.

1. Not looking for your sexual orientation

2. Age bracket

3. Not looking for singles

4. Not looking for couples.

5. Not my/our type

6. No correspondance previously

7. Profile inadequate for us

well i cant think of anymore which shows you how these so called "hundreds" of reason can all be catagorised into 1 simple list.

Nobody seems to want your "rules", let it go!

Thought the whole point of the forums was to let people have their say and this one is for suggestions?

I for one would of liked to of known why i was blocked the other day? Had never spoken to this person.

They sent me an invite then blocked me

Now a box that they could of ticked would of been nice to say changed their mind rather than leaving me thinking what an earth i had done wrong?"
Someone you have never spoke to sends you a friend invite & you accepted??

Isn't it obvious they just wanted to see your pics, they ain't gonna give a fig that you want to know why they blocked you.

Please for your own sanity, stop over thinking things and get on with your life.

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By *obinhood-maidmarion OP Couple
over a year ago

Near Birmingham

"BTW, this forum is for feedback, which is not quite the same as suggestions!"

btw its not!

Fabswingers.com site feedback: All about the Fab Swingers site. Ideas, bug reports, suggestions for improvements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. I give in, you are quite right! It's a wonderful idea. I will berate myself daily for questioning your outstanding grasp of the serious issues and most dignified solutions.

Or, if you prefer, "Ok hun, have it your way!"

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By *anderer2018Man
over a year ago

Bangkok

I think the system has a lot of merits and could help. I know the arguements for keeping the existing system, and I understand that if you're the person who's doing the blocking it's not your problem, however it might be useful to the people who are being blocked allowing them to make more informed choices when contacting people in the future.

Just some thoughts

Andy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do people focus on those NOT interested in them and expect those who have a life to pander to their fragile egos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what will you think reading that you were blocked because ....x.... which you think isn't you - but hey that what the blocker selected as he had to select something from the list ..

Then we'll have peeps in here moaning they been unjustly blocked

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