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"Good idea I am looking for this too" Thanks. Fingers crossed, it may take us members to request this to get a response. | |||
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"What is it you're asking admin for ? A fab dating forum ?" Yes | |||
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"What is it you're asking admin for ? A fab dating forum ?" Was thinking that. I guess it would remove some of those that are just looking for sex. | |||
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"I'm moving this to the feedback section where people can add their comments. That's probably better than messaging admin "How do you so that and how do i view it? Thanks | |||
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"I'm moving this to the feedback section where people can add their comments. That's probably better than messaging admin
How do you so that and how do i view it?
Thanks"Only mods can do it and you can view it in the usual ways, either by going to the relevant section or clicking on "view recent threads you've posted to"  | |||
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"I'm moving this to the feedback section where people can add their comments. That's probably better than messaging admin
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Only mods can do it and you can view it in the usual ways, either by going to the relevant section or clicking on "view recent threads you've posted to" "Thank you. Hope it does the trick | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles." | |||
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"Brilliant idea. It’s a totally separate issue to looking for fun yet still needed on here because a lot of us would like to date people with similar mindsets instead of on a plainer site and having to explain how we feel and our interests and it being a huge hurdle that it wouldn’t be if we dated someone who was a fab member. " Thats exactly mine and other people in the lifestyle’s thinking who want more. | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles." Being devils advocate, how would that be policed? We have friends that are on dating apps but ultimately full of guys are just looking for a shag and not dating at all. Would such a feature just be simply abused to jump the queue. Cos everyone would be honest about their intentions? | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles. Being devils advocate, how would that be policed? We have friends that are on dating apps but ultimately full of guys are just looking for a shag and not dating at all. Would such a feature just be simply abused to jump the queue. Cos everyone would be honest about their intentions?" It wouldn't matter where you said it/ advertised it...there will always be people who will say what people want to hear to get what they want | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles. Being devils advocate, how would that be policed? We have friends that are on dating apps but ultimately full of guys are just looking for a shag and not dating at all. Would such a feature just be simply abused to jump the queue. Cos everyone would be honest about their intentions?" Why would you have to pretend to want a relationship on a site like this? If anything youd have to pretend not to on here. | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles. Being devils advocate, how would that be policed? We have friends that are on dating apps but ultimately full of guys are just looking for a shag and not dating at all. Would such a feature just be simply abused to jump the queue. Cos everyone would be honest about their intentions? Why would you have to pretend to want a relationship on a site like this? If anything youd have to pretend not to on here. " If someone says they're looking for a relationship some people will pretend to want the same in order to increases their chances of getting sex. | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles." That's a good idea  | |||
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"Surely you can state that you are looking for a relationship on your profile? I met my husband at a swingers club and the only reason he knew I was also up for dating is because I was talking about how I had gone to the club straight from a date. I think if people are honest about what they want and aren't afraid to ask the question then you can use this platform to find a life partner xx" Exactly, The OP post was about petitioning FAB to effectively create a private (dating) room where guys could go if they were " Looking For A Relationship" and not just here for sex. The question was simple (if such a feature existed ) how would this policed, how would you determine, who was genuinely interested in a relationship and not just sex, Everyone is honest about their intentions | |||
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"Surely you can state that you are looking for a relationship on your profile? I met my husband at a swingers club and the only reason he knew I was also up for dating is because I was talking about how I had gone to the club straight from a date. I think if people are honest about what they want and aren't afraid to ask the question then you can use this platform to find a life partner xx Exactly, The OP post was about petitioning FAB to effectively create a private (dating) room where guys could go if they were " Looking For A Relationship" and not just here for sex. The question was simple (if such a feature existed ) how would this policed, how would you determine, who was genuinely interested in a relationship and not just sex, Everyone is honest about their intentions " Yep, can't see it working myself. Many fabbers have said they met their partners at clubs, meets etc. anyway. If two people meet, and talk, before having sex, then they're starting to establish what they both want. | |||
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"Surely you can state that you are looking for a relationship on your profile? I met my husband at a swingers club and the only reason he knew I was also up for dating is because I was talking about how I had gone to the club straight from a date. I think if people are honest about what they want and aren't afraid to ask the question then you can use this platform to find a life partner xx Exactly, The OP post was about petitioning FAB to effectively create a private (dating) room where guys could go if they were " Looking For A Relationship" and not just here for sex. The question was simple (if such a feature existed ) how would this policed, how would you determine, who was genuinely interested in a relationship and not just sex, Everyone is honest about their intentions " people just have to use their instincts in getting to know each other in the exact same way they need to out the same thing on tinder or any of the others , there is no requirement to police it i dont think its a reason to avoid giving people a dedicated section or search function to seek out similar people though | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles." Yes - can’t see a reason not to have this option, it’s a shame some can only see a negative side when it would bring joy to so many of us seeking a partner who also swings. As for “if they’ve ticked dating they might only want sex” .....erm it’s not Match guys, we’re already on a sex site so everyone has their eyes open to that intention. Connecting with a like-minded partner from the pool of singles out there is like panning for gold. All credit to Fab if they help us out a bit and let’s face it Fab could see a BIG revenue increase with such an additional benefit once word gets out. | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles. Yes - can’t see a reason not to have this option, it’s a shame some can only see a negative side when it would bring joy to so many of us seeking a partner who also swings. As for “if they’ve ticked dating they might only want sex” .....erm it’s not Match guys, we’re already on a sex site so everyone has their eyes open to that intention. Connecting with a like-minded partner from the pool of singles out there is like panning for gold. All credit to Fab if they help us out a bit and let’s face it Fab could see a BIG revenue increase with such an additional benefit once word gets out. " Well not so much as had a reply from admin sp can’t see it happening. Seem to take the money and run. | |||
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"Surely you can state that you are looking for a relationship on your profile? I met my husband at a swingers club and the only reason he knew I was also up for dating is because I was talking about how I had gone to the club straight from a date. I think if people are honest about what they want and aren't afraid to ask the question then you can use this platform to find a life partner xx Exactly, The OP post was about petitioning FAB to effectively create a private (dating) room where guys could go if they were " Looking For A Relationship" and not just here for sex. The question was simple (if such a feature existed ) how would this policed, how would you determine, who was genuinely interested in a relationship and not just sex, Everyone is honest about their intentions " Why do you feel it would need to be policed? Most of us are quite capable of making sure conversations and dates run how we would like them to and shut them down when they're not. For me, if I was arranging a date I'd have very different expectations than if I was arranging a meet. It would surely be about making your own rules about dating boundries as opposed to meets that quickly escalate physically. | |||
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"What is it you're asking admin for ? A fab dating forum ? Was thinking that. I guess it would remove some of those that are just looking for sex. " Hope not, we are here only for the sex! | |||
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"What is it you're asking admin for ? A fab dating forum ? Was thinking that. I guess it would remove some of those that are just looking for sex. Hope not, we are here only for the sex!" Yes but you are already in a couple. | |||
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"What is it you're asking admin for ? A fab dating forum ? Was thinking that. I guess it would remove some of those that are just looking for sex. Hope not, we are here only for the sex!" then you could just skip past that forum, similar to how people from wales probably skip past the scotland one or people who only meet at home skip the clubs section | |||
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"I have sent this via the contact page to admin. Many people have been wanting this. Maybe if anyone interested could send a similar email it may be something that is taken up. See below: Hi, i am hoping to find a partner who wants to swing and enjoy the lifestyle but also do the normal things too like nights out, restaurants walks etc. I have joined this site with the hope of finding this. There have been many forum subjects about this with hundreds of people saying they want the same. Is this something you can consider due to the demand for it? Thank you." Good idea but sadly it won't stop guys who will tick the "looking for dating" box just to increase their chances of getting a meet and sex ? I guess it's the same with other actual dating sites though. Pretty sure I've heard of people dating and even marrying off here though | |||
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"I think this is a great idea too! I met someone on a dating site, that knew I wanted to date. I told him straight away I was looking for more than sex. We had a few meet ups but I wasn't actually sure at that point, then he found my profile on here, messaged me on here asking to see me again, and I did and ended up with the feels, and then he decided that he wasn't after anything except casual sex. I personally think once he found me on here he thought I was easy and could just be used. I'm not easy, I very much enjoy meets and sex and making friends on here, but I'd also like to meet someone for more which is why I used the dating site. He's hurt me quite badly actually and treated me like shit, after pursuing me and knowing that I was after more, and kept showing interest and seeing me knowing I liked him for more than sex until recently when he basically ghosted me. Charming huh! Anyway, long story short, a dating option would be great! "Aargh lady, that’s proper shit It definitely sounds like he made assumptions about you based on the fact you’re on Fab - why can’t we be sexually empowered and also find a longer lasting connection? He clearly didn’t deserve you sweetie, you can do much better x | |||
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"I don’t really understand this. I date solely from fab already and have been for years. What is it I’m asking for? V x " I agree. Fab can be anything you want it to be. The problem will be people saying they want to date. They then go on a date. Have sex and move on to the next person. Isn’t that what is happening already? | |||
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"Maybe we just need 'Dating' option within the 'What we are looking for' information so that people can search for those who also interested in dating and obtain local results (depending on the parimatars entered e.g. Within 5 miles. Being devils advocate, how would that be policed? We have friends that are on dating apps but ultimately full of guys are just looking for a shag and not dating at all. Would such a feature just be simply abused to jump the queue. Cos everyone would be honest about their intentions? Why would you have to pretend to want a relationship on a site like this? If anything youd have to pretend not to on here. If someone says they're looking for a relationship some people will pretend to want the same in order to increases their chances of getting sex. " You just hit the nail right on the head mod. You just have to read some of the profiles on straight dating sites to know that there is a very large element of guy's claiming to be looking for a relationship, and as soon as they have had their funnel painted, it's move on to the next one. If two people connect on here, and have a meeting of minds, they are very likely to end up dating anyway. That happened to me when I was seeing a lady from West Sussex for twenty one month's, who I met on a swinger site, and but for a chain of events, would probably still have been going. Also you have the scenario of distance, with all the most interesting and exciting people located at opposite ends of the country. Unless one or other is serious about relocating, travel will kill a long distance romance in the end. | |||
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"I think this is a great idea too! I met someone on a dating site, that knew I wanted to date. I told him straight away I was looking for more than sex. We had a few meet ups but I wasn't actually sure at that point, then he found my profile on here, messaged me on here asking to see me again, and I did and ended up with the feels, and then he decided that he wasn't after anything except casual sex. I personally think once he found me on here he thought I was easy and could just be used. I'm not easy, I very much enjoy meets and sex and making friends on here, but I'd also like to meet someone for more which is why I used the dating site. He's hurt me quite badly actually and treated me like shit, after pursuing me and knowing that I was after more, and kept showing interest and seeing me knowing I liked him for more than sex until recently when he basically ghosted me. Charming huh! Anyway, long story short, a dating option would be great!
Aargh lady, that’s proper shit It definitely sounds like he made assumptions about you based on the fact you’re on Fab - why can’t we be sexually empowered and also find a longer lasting connection? He clearly didn’t deserve you sweetie, you can do much better x"Exactly, what's wrong with wanting to be empowered sexually AND cared about?! Thank you so much, I appreciate it as I'm still moping over him lol! X | |||
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"I think this is a great idea too! I met someone on a dating site, that knew I wanted to date. I told him straight away I was looking for more than sex. We had a few meet ups but I wasn't actually sure at that point, then he found my profile on here, messaged me on here asking to see me again, and I did and ended up with the feels, and then he decided that he wasn't after anything except casual sex. I personally think once he found me on here he thought I was easy and could just be used. I'm not easy, I very much enjoy meets and sex and making friends on here, but I'd also like to meet someone for more which is why I used the dating site. He's hurt me quite badly actually and treated me like shit, after pursuing me and knowing that I was after more, and kept showing interest and seeing me knowing I liked him for more than sex until recently when he basically ghosted me. Charming huh! Anyway, long story short, a dating option would be great!
Aargh lady, that’s proper shit It definitely sounds like he made assumptions about you based on the fact you’re on Fab - why can’t we be sexually empowered and also find a longer lasting connection? He clearly didn’t deserve you sweetie, you can do much better x
Exactly, what's wrong with wanting to be empowered sexually AND cared about?! Thank you so much, I appreciate it as I'm still moping over him lol! X"Absolutely nothing wrong with that at all lovely! I’m moping over the loss of my 3yr-relationship with my guy I met on here so I’m probs not the best company to cheer you up right now but hang on in there, brighter days are ahead (I’ve been told, lol) X | |||
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" I met someone on a dating site, that knew I wanted to date. I told him straight away I was looking for more than sex. We had a few meet ups but I wasn't actually sure at that point, then he found my profile on here, messaged me on here asking to see me again, and I did and ended up with the feels, and then he decided that he wasn't after anything except casual sex. I personally think once he found me on here he thought I was easy and could just be used. I'm not easy, I very much enjoy meets and sex and making friends on here, but I'd also like to meet someone for more which is why I used the dating site. He's hurt me quite badly actually and treated me like shit, after pursuing me and knowing that I was after more, and kept showing interest and seeing me knowing I liked him for more than sex until recently when he basically ghosted me. Charming huh! " Sounds like just a typical guy from Fab haha. Sadly it seems the majority of people that use the site only seek NSA and hookups. Clearly you have dodged a bullet but sucks so hard to have been dragged through the enotuinal journey twice for someone that couldn't respect you in the same way. IMO people most people would just tick a box on the profile to say they want dating, even if they didn't. And a dating forum group would just get swamped by people that just want hookups and suspect they might get more luck posting in it. | |||
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"I think this is a great idea too! I met someone on a dating site, that knew I wanted to date. I told him straight away I was looking for more than sex. We had a few meet ups but I wasn't actually sure at that point, then he found my profile on here, messaged me on here asking to see me again, and I did and ended up with the feels, and then he decided that he wasn't after anything except casual sex. I personally think once he found me on here he thought I was easy and could just be used. I'm not easy, I very much enjoy meets and sex and making friends on here, but I'd also like to meet someone for more which is why I used the dating site. He's hurt me quite badly actually and treated me like shit, after pursuing me and knowing that I was after more, and kept showing interest and seeing me knowing I liked him for more than sex until recently when he basically ghosted me. Charming huh! Anyway, long story short, a dating option would be great! "Had the same thing happen to me. Although now the conversations and his attitude has changed and not in a good way. X | |||
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