FabSwingers.com forum: Marrieds

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been off the 'market', as it were, for the past 3 years but now back on the prowl.

So I'm indulging in the frustrating experience of messaging what I think could be suitable ladies, and most of the time my message is deleted without even a "thanks but no thanks"!

So a thought struck me. It's ok, it didn't hurt! lol Like the "will not meet smokers", would it not be useful to have a "will not meet marrieds" option on the profile page?

Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so!!

It would also be useful to have a "won't meet marrieds" filter.

It would save a lot of hassle!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad my suggestions/requests were well received!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you focus on being married?

It is not allowed to discuss a profile unless comments have been invited, so I will refrain, but suffice to say that I would not respond to a message either. I do meet married men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I'm indulging in the frustrating experience of messaging what I think could be suitable ladies, and most of the time my message is deleted without even a "thanks but no thanks"!

Have you not thought they may have looked at your profile and decided to give your message as much attention as you have with your profile ?

Seriously, I'd wager not one single woman will message you with a profile as bare as yours is mate.

Before anyone starts, I'm not slagging you off mate, but you need to help yourself before anyones going to message you.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Writing that you're not interestef in married or attached people on the profile really doesnt help.

Its the very first line on my profile and I still get between 10 and 20 mails a day from married or attached people playing away.

If your messages are being deleted without reply why assume it's because you're married?? It could be any number of reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't just the fact that you are cheating but women on here get hundreds of messages per day, unless you stand out (which your profile doesn't) your message will be deleted.

I also say clearly on my profile what I am looking for and not looking for but still I get messages from people who have just looked at the picture and want to see more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Have you not thought they may have looked at your profile and decided to give your message as much attention as you have with your profile ?

Seriously, I'd wager not one single woman will message you with a profile as bare as yours is mate.

Before anyone starts, I'm not slagging you off mate, but you need to help yourself before anyones going to message you."

As is so often the case in these forums, you've completely missed the point of my post!

My post has nothing to do with my profile, it is about a facilty whereby people could receive fewer messages from people who are of no interest to them, because they're married, and married people could save their own time by not messaging people who will not be intetested in them simply because of their marital status.

It seemed logical and simple to me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Its the very first line on my profile and I still get between 10 and 20 mails a day from married or attached people playing away"

My point exactly, if you know these 10 - 20 mails a day are from married or attached people, they obviously must state that on their profiles, so my suggestion would mean 10 - 20 less pointless mails a day in your Inbox.

One of your wee problems solved!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you are still relying on one key thing though....

people who are playing away without consent telling the truth......

if they are playing behind partners back... who says they wont say anything in quest to get leg over.....

see...great in theory... but if they know there is less chance of people playing with them... where is the incentive?

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

" Its the very first line on my profile and I still get between 10 and 20 mails a day from married or attached people playing away

One of your wee problems solved!!"

I was actually referring to your

" Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so!!"

And my point was.. people DO say so.... and people ignore it.

A "won't meet marrieds" filter will work the same way as the "won't meet smokers" filter. Profile says non-smoker... and by the time you meet someone they've suddenly taken up smoking

Some people on here will do whatever it takes to get round filters. I had a message a few weeks ago from a guy I had spoken with previously, and he had suddenly gone from being 35 to being 24!!! ... When I questioned him on it his response was along the lines of "I had to change it to get in touch with someone"

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"I've been off the 'market', as it were, for the past 3 years but now back on the prowl.

So I'm indulging in the frustrating experience of messaging what I think could be suitable ladies, and most of the time my message is deleted without even a "thanks but no thanks"!

So a thought struck me. It's ok, it didn't hurt! lol Like the "will not meet smokers", would it not be useful to have a "will not meet marrieds" option on the profile page?

Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so!!

It would also be useful to have a "won't meet marrieds" filter.

It would save a lot of hassle!

"Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile"

From somebody who's only capable of putting 3 lines on there profile that's a bit rich......

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I've been off the 'market', as it were, for the past 3 years but now back on the prowl.

So I'm indulging in the frustrating experience of messaging what I think could be suitable ladies, and most of the time my message is deleted without even a "thanks but no thanks"!

So a thought struck me. It's ok, it didn't hurt! lol Like the "will not meet smokers", would it not be useful to have a "will not meet marrieds" option on the profile page?

Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so!!

It would also be useful to have a "won't meet marrieds" filter.

It would save a lot of hassle!

To the suggestion of having a "won't meet marrieds " option like the no smoking, it isn't a bad idea if it can be done, BUT you have to remember it won't put most people off mailing anyway.

To your other comments, it may not be because you are married that you are not getting any answers, and as you have been around a while then I am suprised that you havn't figured that out yourself.

The fact you are telling people they should write a decent profile as you are on the "prowl" would put a lot of people off straight away, so if that is your attitude in mails then maybe thats a reason why you don't get answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That option would need to work across the board, so if you dont meet marrieds.. what about married couples playing together?

Couples wanting to play with non married singles would therefore not get contact from married/attached couples..

It would need to be single profiles specific.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so! "

Maybe if you practiced what you preach then you wouldn't be having this problem. You should right a proper and decent profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my profiles hidden and doesnt stop people emailing me asking to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, I give up, there's obviously little point in trying to engage in serious discussion in these forums.

There's always one, but usually more who are totally incapable of reading a post and sticking to the point(s) being made.

Rugby, thanks for acknowledging that my suggestion might have some validity, I appreciate that there might be practical and/or technical issues which would prevent my suggestion being put in place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, I give up, there's obviously little point in trying to engage in serious discussion in these forums.

There's always one, but usually more who are totally incapable of reading a post and sticking to the point(s) being made.

Rugby, thanks for acknowledging that my suggestion might have some validity, I appreciate that there might be practical and/or technical issues which would prevent my suggestion being put in place."

No mate I think it's you that's missing the point.

The married filter is all well and good, but for the most part I'd guess people wouldn't tell the truth anyway.

If I've got this right you're telling women in your messages you're married yeah ?, and your posts are being deleted with no reply.... yes i'd guess some would delete them on reading you are married but my point was taking out the married bit, women looking at what little profile you have would probably delete you anyway just over your profile content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could more women write a proper and decent profile,

It would save a lot of hassle!

wow,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you not thought they may have looked at your profile and decided to give your message as much attention as you have with your profile ?

Seriously, I'd wager not one single woman will message you with a profile as bare as yours is mate.

Before anyone starts, I'm not slagging you off mate, but you need to help yourself before anyones going to message you."
. But he has another two profiles on here, both of which say a lot more.

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

We just looked at you profile not alot on it plus it dont say where you from now just about every town in england has a river so down by the river side is not helping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do people read profiles we think not as too many pm s seem to prove this

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it a good idea, quite similar to won't meet bi guys...

those 2 are the most common exclusions and may save some of the angst, not all of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do people read profiles we think not as too many pm s seem to prove this "

Same problem here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just looked at you profile and its bland if you would of emailed us I would reply with a no thanxs for the reason of your profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excuse me, but do I need to put this in capitals, THIS THREAD IS NOT ABOUT MY PROFILE!!!

Thanks View, you seem to be one of the few who can actually read, and then address the actual subject!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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To be fair, you put yourself up for suggestions of why you were not getting answers to your mails on your OP.

If you wanted to just discuss your suggestion it might have been better not mentioning anything else , ie you getting your mails deleted and how you thought other people should write a better profile.

You can't dictate which bit of your post that people will comment on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair, you put yourself up for suggestions of why you were not getting answers to your mails on your OP.

You can't dictate which bit of your post that people will comment on."

Thank you !!

It seemed to me that he was blaming the married bit for being the only reason he was getting all his messages deleted where as id say its the profile that probably turns people off but he seems blinkered to that fact.

anyway im done in this thread, can only offer advice and have it thrown back at you so many times, good luck to him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"anyway im done in this thread, can only offer advice and have it thrown back at you so many times, good luck to him

Thanks for your good wishes. I didn't actually ask for advice, but thanks for it all the same!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been off the 'market', as it were, for the past 3 years but now back on the prowl.

So I'm indulging in the frustrating experience of messaging what I think could be suitable ladies, and most of the time my message is deleted without even a "thanks but no thanks"!

So a thought struck me. It's ok, it didn't hurt! lol Like the "will not meet smokers", would it not be useful to have a "will not meet marrieds" option on the profile page?

Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile, and if they don't want to meet married people, then say so!!

It would also be useful to have a "won't meet marrieds" filter.

It would save a lot of hassle!

"Failing that, could more women write a proper and decent profile"

From somebody who's only capable of putting 3 lines on there profile that's a bit rich......

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