FabSwingers.com forum: Why can’t it say on a profile if people reply or not?

By *urfs Up Jesus OP Man
over a year ago

Boston

On the lines of say this profile only replies to 5% of messages as in 95/100 are ignored. It would then let us know who are time wasters and who not to bother everyone would win.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

So someone who doesn't reply is a time waster?

Couldn't be anything to do with they ain't into you/your profile doesn't spark their interest in you? So that makes them a time waster?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Timewaster

those who don't read a profile to see what the other person wants or is looking for is a time waster of their own time. I rarely reply or take ages to reply to those I want to, does that make me a time waster?

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

This boils my blood!! Just because someone doesn't want to engage in conversation with you does not automatically make them a time waster. There are a plethora of reasons they may not reply!

I can't stand guys who make such a song and dance about demanding a reply 'even if it's a polite no thanks'. If I replied to every single message I get on a weekend I would be be on for hours.

Surely it would make someone a bigger time-waster if they entered into conversations and ping-pong messages when they had no desire to meet.

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By *essysteveCouple
over a year ago

ALICANTE AREA SPAIN

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People's prerogative to reply or not. Just apply to more hopeful people and you'll strike it lucky. Put plenty in your message so the person is more inclined to read it and then give you a polite rejection by reply if you aren't on their list. REMEMBER : You have to be in it to win. Better to have tried and failed than not tried at all.

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot

Yesterday we had three messages from straight guys, but it clearly states on our profile we only meet bi guys

That’s without at the start of our profile it says we are not meeting due to Ben’s recovery from an operation, so if we don’t reply we must be time wasters !!!

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Be great if profiles said "this person sends x amount of messages to them who don't have oral sex listed as an interest" seeing as the OP only has that and safe sex listed as interests. I like to think the OP hasn't really thought this through before posting.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I’m trying to work out why me not replying is anything other than saving time

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But we already know who the time wasters are

The ones that send multiple cut n paste generic messages and have a sense of entitlement to a response

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"On the lines of say this profile only replies to 5% of messages as in 95/100 are ignored. It would then let us know who are time wasters and who not to bother everyone would win."

Or "the person sending this message has sent X amount of emails, which are 90% identical" to show who is cut-and-pasting

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I’m trying to work out why me not replying is anything other than saving time

V x "

That's how I look at it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get many messages a day with things like lets meet

i wanna fuck you etc so not answering them makes us timewasters op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I don't think it would put many people off messaging anyway, seeing as a lot of men seem to have a scattergun approach where they just throw everything at it and see what sticks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they are replying to messages though... Just not yours, evidently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I think it would just open people up to more abuse. "who do you think you are, only replying to x percent of messages, don't you know in the real world you're nothing" etc etc

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

It's always men who question why they don't get a reply! Single women get inundated with messages more than men realise and it would take hours to read them all and reply to them all plus if you say no thanks you get replies asking why not, or abuse and name calling

I believe Fab do say no reply = no interest

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This is from the FAQs

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

you can find them here

https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I wonder, in the history of fab. Has this question EVER been asked by a woman?

V x

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Astonishing, they have no concept of how conversation works!

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I wonder, in the history of fab. Has this question EVER been asked by a woman?

V x "

Are you implying that women actually have time to write the first message between deleting unread messages and pointing out the obvious on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another "Why won't women reply to me" Wahhhh wahhhhh.

All part and parcel of being on this site, it's up to them if they choose to reply or not, they owe you nothing.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I wonder, in the history of fab. Has this question EVER been asked by a woman?

V x

Are you implying that women actually have time to write the first message between deleting unread messages and pointing out the obvious on the forums

Well we are usually quite efficient

V x

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By *ungrylikethewolfMan
over a year ago

Cheadle

Whilst I get the what the op is trying to say..

Many females and some couples don't do themselves any favours (see it from both sides as we have a singles profile and a couples one).

They wink/message/contact you first, then ignore any potential responses OR reply with single words.

I mean, thats fine for me as I want my mind stimulating as well as my sex organs so they just go to the block list..

But I can see how people get to the point of tarnishing women and some couples with the same brush.

Easier just to move on and block.

(At least you won't see them pop up again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the main point is unless they have an active status looking you may not got a reply. just cos we're online don't mean ladies /couples are looking

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I wonder, in the history of fab. Has this question EVER been asked by a woman?

V x

Are you implying that women actually have time to write the first message between deleting unread messages and pointing out the obvious on the forums

Well we are usually quite efficient

V x "

Well yes very true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find 99% of the messages I get are self centred. Focused entirely on what they’re after. I’m meat in their sandwich, I’m their chance to tick a few things off a fuck list, or I’m just required to drop everything and head right there for a massive whatever stuck in my where ever.

I am a waste of time for those people, yes a total waste of time, for those people. X

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Maybe next to OP name on the forums it could say "this user starts a thread and logs off, time waster in the forums"

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By *lixirWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham

So many angry people I guess you all don't use your filters properly and delete all your messages.

The OP has a point what's wrong with people knowing if a profile hardly replies or not and lets be honest it would stop a lot of people mailing people who don't reply and wasting everyone's time.

Granted nobody has to reply to messages thats a given but if someone only replies to say 1% then they are not using their filters properly (couples stating no males on their profile but haven't blocked them).

Alas it might kill the ego trippers on here who never really meet or chat though.

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By *lixirWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham

"Maybe next to OP name on the forums it could say "this user starts a thread and logs off, time waster in the forums""

Why the personal attack on him its rather childish and petty! You need to grow up.

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