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"They also could have reached the age (one way or another) you're looking for." When blocking single guys, the only search parameters I use are; Male Within xx distance Therefore surely everybody should show up unless they are outside that distance or have hidden their profile. I understand those outside the distance who change their location, could THEN be listed in our search. But those who have hidden their profile would need to have created it, then hidden it almost immediately. Whilst I'm sure this does happen, the anomaly I mentioned occurs too frequently for that to be the cause surely? Between 5 and 10 per week? I hadn't considered the 'time out' aspect though. But again, that means they've created the profile and done something almost immediately which requires suspension... | |||
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"I think Covid-19 Lockdown is getting to you! Clearly far too much time on your hands! A fem fb and I have a couple profile. We just ignore those we don't want to chat with and block if they become a pest! Lol " There are many, many positive reasons for spending the time blocking these males. Not just because I don't want to chat with them. Actually, in some of our other posts you'll see it goes against our values to block for no reason... However, one example of the positives blocking local single guys give is; the search facility of *Who's Mobile Nearby'... these single guys won't show up and I can see which couples are close to us instead. | |||
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"They also could have reached the age (one way or another) you're looking for. When blocking single guys, the only search parameters I use are; Male Within xx distance " There are also their preference options of who they want to meet. If they only looking to meet women - won't show on your search if you're looking for those wanting to meet MF couples. They will show if they've added MF couples to their looking for list at a later date. | |||
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"I think Covid-19 Lockdown is getting to you! Clearly far too much time on your hands! A fem fb and I have a couple profile. We just ignore those we don't want to chat with and block if they become a pest! Lol " Agree with you that is weird. | |||
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"I block single guys within a certain distance because we're not interested in meeting a next door Nigel... I've now blocked ALL nearby single guys who have been online in the last few months. This took some doing! Periodically, maybe once every 2 or 3 days, I will complete the search again and delete those who have decided to log in again after a long period. I also block any new nearby profiles. I understand why the guys who log back in after several months are listed in a search, I also understand why those who are new to the site are listed in the search. But there's some profiles which appear in the search and confuse me. Those who have joined in the last few weeks and have been online in there last few days. How have they not shown in a previous search? Example: Local Lad Larry (not a real profile) signed up 3 weeks ago. In those 3 weeks, I have searched probably 5-10 times for local guys to block. Larry has never been listed. I complete a search today and his profile shows him as having been online in the last few hours. Why has he not shown in previous searches? I know people can hide their profiles, or change their location, but the anomaly I've described happens way too often for those situations. " omg paranoia or what you're not geared for this life get out now before someone recognises you    | |||
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" omg paranoia or what you're not geared for this life get out now before someone recognises you "If it was about recognition why would it be only single guys? Do females and men in relationships not have the ability to recognise their neighbors? Clearly, you don't have the ability to read what people write before commenting on it. Neither do you have the manners to realise if somebody asks for advice about a particular subject, you shouldn't clutter the forum with unnecessary comments, but instead leave the thread clean for those who may know the answer to leave feedback. As for your advice about 'getting out now'. This lifestyle is about mutual respect and understanding. Therefore if you are not capable of understanding that we're not looking for single guys, so therefore blocking those who are local so they don't show on the 'Whose Mobile Nearby' search, plus you lack the respect to read somebody's comments prior commenting yourself... maybe it is YOU who should 'get out now!  | |||
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" Agree with you that is weird. " So choosing to only block those who are local so they don't show on the 'Whose Mobile Nearby' search is weird, but blocking all single guys isn't? Is that your thinking? I think the fact you like the idea of somebody 'pissing in your arse' weird, so when that's considered alongside you hiding your profile while commenting on a forum, I think that's quite hypocritical... | |||
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"They also could have reached the age (one way or another) you're looking for. When blocking single guys, the only search parameters I use are; Male Within xx distance There are also their preference options of who they want to meet. If they only looking to meet women - won't show on your search if you're looking for those wanting to meet MF couples. They will show if they've added MF couples to their looking for list at a later date. " Thanks for this, I hadn't considered their search parameters needing to match ours. This must be exactly what's causes it. | |||
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" omg paranoia or what you're not geared for this life get out now before someone recognises you
If it was about recognition why would it be only single guys? Do females and men in relationships not have the ability to recognise their neighbors?
Clearly, you don't have the ability to read what people write before commenting on it.
Neither do you have the manners to realise if somebody asks for advice about a particular subject, you shouldn't clutter the forum with unnecessary comments, but instead leave the thread clean for those who may know the answer to leave feedback.
As for your advice about 'getting out now'. This lifestyle is about mutual respect and understanding. Therefore if you are not capable of understanding that we're not looking for single guys, so therefore blocking those who are local so they don't show on the 'Whose Mobile Nearby' search, plus you lack the respect to read somebody's comments prior commenting yourself... maybe it is YOU who should 'get out now! "lol....... chill...... coffee...... now get back to blocking your neighbours oh and i wasn't interested in meeting i never even looked at your profile but if i were i would have and i read the comment i quoted on, my comment was based on your very negative approach to this life, new people sign up every day and people who've been here before come back also not everyone turns on 'whos near' and not everyone shows their location on their profile my point was you're fighting a losing battle with a very negative approach and your retort emphasises that, enjoy your day | |||
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"lol....... chill...... coffee...... now get back to blocking your neighbours oh and i wasn't interested in meeting i never even looked at your profile but if i were i would have and i read the comment i quoted on, my comment was based on your very negative approach to this life, new people sign up every day and people who've been here before come back also not everyone turns on 'whos near' and not everyone shows their location on their profile my point was you're fighting a losing battle with a very negative approach and your retort emphasises that, enjoy your day "Is it that different to those blocking everyone who goes bb? Or those who's kinks don't match theirs? How about you do your own thing and let others do theirs in peace? OP asked for advice on specific matter, not to be judged on something that doesn't match you opinion. | |||
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"i wasn't interested in meeting" I didn't write anywhere in my reply that you were. " your very negative approach to this life" Where's the negativity? Although we're not looking for single guys, I chose to not block them because I consider a little callous. "new people sign up every day and people who've been here before come back also" Wow, thanks for this. "not everyone turns on 'whos near'" I am aware, but this means they won't show in that specific search for me either, so will not be a problem. "you're fighting a losing battle with " You're wrong. The 'Mobile Nearby' search was always cluttered with single guys. Now I might get the odd one or two per day who are passing through. A few minutes per day over the course of two weeks during lockdown is not a massive job to make MY searches easier. I think it is YOU fighting a losing battle by offering on your profile to drive around the country, desperate for a shag... | |||
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"lol....... chill...... coffee...... now get back to blocking your neighbours oh and i wasn't interested in meeting i never even looked at your profile but if i were i would have and i read the comment i quoted on, my comment was based on your very negative approach to this life, new people sign up every day and people who've been here before come back also not everyone turns on 'whos near' and not everyone shows their location on their profile my point was you're fighting a losing battle with a very negative approach and your retort emphasises that, enjoy your day
Is it that different to those blocking everyone who goes bb? Or those who's kinks don't match theirs?
How about you do your own thing and let others do theirs in peace? OP asked for advice on specific matter, not to be judged on something that doesn't match you opinion. "Lol, this appeared while I was writing my response! Couldn't put it better myself | |||
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"Just blocking all single men makes more sense if you're not looking for them at all. " Maybe, but that would be quite hypocritical of me. In other threads I've mentioned how I try to keep our inbox open because I don't like the idea of excluding people for no reason. In recent weeks we've had several messages from single guys, all very well aware there is no chance of meeting, but also very appreciative of the ability to still message and; ask a question, comment on a picture or simple to reply to a forum thread privately. If there were options to eliminate single guys from certain other aspects of the site, the nearby search for example, then I would have very few blocked. I prefer to block a profile for a reason, normally because I know they aren't for us so I don't want them showing in any searches I carry out. | |||
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"Just blocking all single men makes more sense if you're not looking for them at all. Maybe, but that would be quite hypocritical of me. In other threads I've mentioned how I try to keep our inbox open because I don't like the idea of excluding people for no reason. In recent weeks we've had several messages from single guys, all very well aware there is no chance of meeting, but also very appreciative of the ability to still message and; ask a question, comment on a picture or simple to reply to a forum thread privately. If there were options to eliminate single guys from certain other aspects of the site, the nearby search for example, then I would have very few blocked. I prefer to block a profile for a reason, normally because I know they aren't for us so I don't want them showing in any searches I carry out." But you would be excluding them for a reason, the one you state at the bottom of your post, they aren't for you. | |||
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"But you would be excluding them for a reason, the one you state at the bottom of your post, they aren't for you. " Yes, but that's often to stop ME inadvertently messaging the other profile in future, rather than the other way around. This is not limited to single guys, I block females and couples for the same reason. I only block profiles to prevent them from showing in searches I complete. I don't search for single guys, so they won't show unless it's the 'nearby' search. This is the way I chose to maintain the account. I see no reason to delete ALL males. We've had times when we've met and chatted to single guys at a club. A few days later they've messaged to make contact and show appreciation for the time spent chatting with them. Civility to others costs nothing, and I see no reason to prevent somebody from sending a message similar to "Hi, nice to meet you on Saturday, thanks for the chat, look forward to seeing you again" | |||
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