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Dark Desires Gentlemen's Rules of Engagement (A New Standard)

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By *arkDesiresParties OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Dark Desires Parties has a reputation for smooth and sexy Parties, with a relaxed and friendly crowd. The single gentlemen that attend have a reputation for being Well dressed, well mannered and respectful. As our parties grow, we want the reputation of the quality of conduct of the single gentlemen that attend to set a new standard. Our Rules of engagment below is a template for this and we would very nuch like your feedback.

Thanks

Team DD

Rules of Engagement

Single Gentlemens guidelines

Dark Desires aims to create an environment where single women and couples can come and fully indulge there desires and fantasies. For this to happen single gentlemen are essential, and can greatly contribute to the positive experience of couples and single women at our parties, which encourages their participation in these events, leading to greater numbers attending.

To help facilitate this we have some guidelines for single gentlemen that we hope will eventually become the standard behaviour of the gentlemen at a Dark Desires party.

These are based on some of the principles of ‘The G00dfellaz’ who are leading the way by setting defined standards of behaviour of single gentlemen within their organisation.

This is now attracting attention from Resorts, clubs, and couples around the world!

Be Prepared

Always come to a party prepared to play. We suggest a small bag with Condoms, Lube, wet wipes, Mouthwash or mints, And a hairband(just in case the lady forgot hers).

Grooming and appearance

Always be smartly dressed. Make an effort to dress well. If in doubt overdress for the occasion. In general no caps, tshirts or sportswear.

Smell clean and fresh. Shower directly before attending any party.

Wash between play partners.

Wash or freshen up directly after play. No woman wants to smell your previous play partner on you.

Approach with respect

Approach with Respect. Always approach women at a party with respect. Ass grabbing or slapping as they walk past is not acceptable. If a woman is playing with others, give her space and ask before joining in. This is one of the biggest complaints and turn offs for women and couples.

If you are playing with a PlayPartner and another male starts touching her, Quietly make her aware of what is happening and ask if she is ok with it. If she is not then you communicate to the gentleman that he is not needed.

Take care of your PlayPartner

Take care of your PlayPartner. Frequently check to make sure she is ok by asking. If she has been playing awhile ask if she needs a drink. If someone is kneeling on a hard floor see if you can find a cushion or towel for her and place it under her knees, or if her head has begun to hang off the end of the bed offer to support it.

We want people to feel safe and looked after, and therefore free to fully express their desires.

Work together as a group for her pleasure when there are more than one of you, and be open to changing positions.

Find out her wants and desires

Take the time to find out the wants, desires and fantasy’s of a potential play partner or couple, and convey that information to others that may be involved. Take the time to understand the different dynamics of Cuckold couples, Stag & Vixen, Hotwife couples, Snowbunnies, Queen of Spades etc.... In short, be attentive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this

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By *unglefever1Man
over a year ago

Billericay

Very good ????

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By *ne life live it 1978Woman
over a year ago

long eaton

Just how a lady should be treated, spot on, thank you for putting it out there even though it should just be paramount

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By *arkDesiresParties OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks for the support. Hopefully we can help it become standard behaviour

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By *ne life live it 1978Woman
over a year ago

long eaton

Absolutely, respectfullness is key in the swinging world

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By *lfasoCouple
over a year ago

South East

We were at the DD party last Friday and found everyone friendly and the gentlemen very respectful. We had a great time as a result

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough


"Dark Desires Parties has a reputation for smooth and sexy Parties, with a relaxed and friendly crowd. The single gentlemen that attend have a reputation for being Well dressed, well mannered and respectful. As our parties grow, we want the reputation of the quality of conduct of the single gentlemen that attend to set a new standard. Our Rules of engagment below is a template for this and we would very nuch like your feedback.

Thanks

Team DD

Rules of Engagement

Single Gentlemens guidelines

Dark Desires aims to create an environment where single women and couples can come and fully indulge there desires and fantasies. For this to happen single gentlemen are essential, and can greatly contribute to the positive experience of couples and single women at our parties, which encourages their participation in these events, leading to greater numbers attending.

To help facilitate this we have some guidelines for single gentlemen that we hope will eventually become the standard behaviour of the gentlemen at a Dark Desires party.

These are based on some of the principles of ‘The G00dfellaz’ who are leading the way by setting defined standards of behaviour of single gentlemen within their organisation.

This is now attracting attention from Resorts, clubs, and couples around the world!

Be Prepared

Always come to a party prepared to play. We suggest a small bag with Condoms, Lube, wet wipes, Mouthwash or mints, And a hairband(just in case the lady forgot hers).

Grooming and appearance

Always be smartly dressed. Make an effort to dress well. If in doubt overdress for the occasion. In general no caps, tshirts or sportswear.

Smell clean and fresh. Shower directly before attending any party.

Wash between play partners.

Wash or freshen up directly after play. No woman wants to smell your previous play partner on you.

Approach with respect

Approach with Respect. Always approach women at a party with respect. Ass grabbing or slapping as they walk past is not acceptable. If a woman is playing with others, give her space and ask before joining in. This is one of the biggest complaints and turn offs for women and couples.

If you are playing with a PlayPartner and another male starts touching her, Quietly make her aware of what is happening and ask if she is ok with it. If she is not then you communicate to the gentleman that he is not needed.

Take care of your PlayPartner

Take care of your PlayPartner. Frequently check to make sure she is ok by asking. If she has been playing awhile ask if she needs a drink. If someone is kneeling on a hard floor see if you can find a cushion or towel for her and place it under her knees, or if her head has begun to hang off the end of the bed offer to support it.

We want people to feel safe and looked after, and therefore free to fully express their desires.

Work together as a group for her pleasure when there are more than one of you, and be open to changing positions.

Find out her wants and desires

Take the time to find out the wants, desires and fantasy’s of a potential play partner or couple, and convey that information to others that may be involved. Take the time to understand the different dynamics of Cuckold couples, Stag & Vixen, Hotwife couples, Snowbunnies, Queen of Spades etc.... In short, be attentive.

"

I attended last Friday and I have to say it was just amazing at Ab Fabs Had a huge amount of fun and made some really amazing g new friends - CustardCream1 and Lesson2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the support. Hopefully we can help it become standard behaviour "

Can’t wait for your next event

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour


"Dark Desires Parties has a reputation for smooth and sexy Parties, with a relaxed and friendly crowd. The single gentlemen that attend have a reputation for being Well dressed, well mannered and respectful. As our parties grow, we want the reputation of the quality of conduct of the single gentlemen that attend to set a new standard. Our Rules of engagment below is a template for this and we would very nuch like your feedback.

Thanks

Team DD

Rules of Engagement

Single Gentlemens guidelines

Dark Desires aims to create an environment where single women and couples can come and fully indulge there desires and fantasies. For this to happen single gentlemen are essential, and can greatly contribute to the positive experience of couples and single women at our parties, which encourages their participation in these events, leading to greater numbers attending.

To help facilitate this we have some guidelines for single gentlemen that we hope will eventually become the standard behaviour of the gentlemen at a Dark Desires party.

These are based on some of the principles of ‘The G00dfellaz’ who are leading the way by setting defined standards of behaviour of single gentlemen within their organisation.

This is now attracting attention from Resorts, clubs, and couples around the world!

Be Prepared

Always come to a party prepared to play. We suggest a small bag with Condoms, Lube, wet wipes, Mouthwash or mints, And a hairband(just in case the lady forgot hers).

Grooming and appearance

Always be smartly dressed. Make an effort to dress well. If in doubt overdress for the occasion. In general no caps, tshirts or sportswear.

Smell clean and fresh. Shower directly before attending any party.

Wash between play partners.

Wash or freshen up directly after play. No woman wants to smell your previous play partner on you.

Approach with respect

Approach with Respect. Always approach women at a party with respect. Ass grabbing or slapping as they walk past is not acceptable. If a woman is playing with others, give her space and ask before joining in. This is one of the biggest complaints and turn offs for women and couples.

If you are playing with a PlayPartner and another male starts touching her, Quietly make her aware of what is happening and ask if she is ok with it. If she is not then you communicate to the gentleman that he is not needed.

Take care of your PlayPartner

Take care of your PlayPartner. Frequently check to make sure she is ok by asking. If she has been playing awhile ask if she needs a drink. If someone is kneeling on a hard floor see if you can find a cushion or towel for her and place it under her knees, or if her head has begun to hang off the end of the bed offer to support it.

We want people to feel safe and looked after, and therefore free to fully express their desires.

Work together as a group for her pleasure when there are more than one of you, and be open to changing positions.

Find out her wants and desires

Take the time to find out the wants, desires and fantasy’s of a potential play partner or couple, and convey that information to others that may be involved. Take the time to understand the different dynamics of Cuckold couples, Stag & Vixen, Hotwife couples, Snowbunnies, Queen of Spades etc.... In short, be attentive.

I attended last Friday and I have to say it was just amazing at Ab Fabs Had a huge amount of fun and made some really amazing g new friends - CustardCream1 and Lesson2 "

Awww shucks, you will make me blush

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By *orny-dick-30Man
over a year ago

City Center

Love to get one invite for next party

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By *rSweetnessMan
over a year ago

Northants

Absolutely brilliant.

There’s always room to fine tune your A-Game guys

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Or I could just sum it up in a few words

1) use basic common sense

2) don’t be an arse

Guide’s are frustrating in that those who need it are very unlikely to read it, let alone take it in! those who don’t wouldn’t need to read it the first place!

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you! And all you are doing is just preaching to the choir and grandstanding…..

Those who get it will… those who don’t aren’t worth the time or effort…

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Actually…… there is one thing I will add……

Most of the worst behaviour I have ever seen in clubs have come from people who were part of couples where one half has gone rouge on the other… or think they are above not adhering to rules because they are part of a couple…..

Yet….. never see those guides….

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By *ay12345Man
over a year ago

London

I like this. Clear outline to help guys.

But not to be that ‘equality guy’ but can we have like a brief (much more brief than the one above) one for ladies too.

Such as not every guy is okay with you just grabbing his crotch before you say hello to him. Or that guys can politely say no also, and that shouldn’t cause a fuss

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By *arkDesiresParties OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Or I could just sum it up in a few words

1) use basic common sense

2) don’t be an arse

Guide’s are frustrating in that those who need it are very unlikely to read it, let alone take it in! those who don’t wouldn’t need to read it the first place!

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you! And all you are doing is just preaching to the choir and grandstanding…..

Those who get it will… those who don’t aren’t worth the time or effort…"

I disagree to some extent. I feel I have always been very respectful and well mannered, but visiting Cap D'agde last year and meeting the G00dfellaz really caused me to raise my game. I think having it out there can definitely help spark some ideas. For example used to just carry condoms, now I make sure I have lube, wet wipes , and moutwash etc... just a small change, but a step forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this. This is why I like your parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal experience from playing with a gentleman who follows the Goodfellaz mantra….amazing, felt totally safe and respected, he looked good, smelt nice etc, 4 amazing orgasms & went home smiling!

Few days earlier met someone who rocked up straight from working on a building site, didn’t follow that mantra, put a stop to the meet after 20 minutes and spent the next few days popping painkillers like they were smarties because of how rough he was

I know which experience I would like to repeat

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By *arkDesiresParties OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"I like this. Clear outline to help guys.

But not to be that ‘equality guy’ but can we have like a brief (much more brief than the one above) one for ladies too.

Such as not every guy is okay with you just grabbing his crotch before you say hello to him. Or that guys can politely say no also, and that shouldn’t cause a fuss"

You're right, and all parties can be more attentive. I'm just focusing on this because it's an issue that I feel is quite common, and stops many couples returning to parties, or even getting involved because of fear of the unknown factor. I hope that if people have an idea of what to expect and what is expected it may ease concerns.

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

Nice post OP. I always followed these rules not knowing it formally exists lol. Few years ago I was even laughed at for carrying my bag to a playroom by few single guys. However, on that night guess who did have the last laugh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I absolutely agree with these rules and it's great to see them written down for people to see. Unfortunately, for the people that need to see these guidelines they probably won't take the time or effort to read them, so how do we get round this?

If we have a bad experience do we tell anyone or just leave it?

I know as a woman I have to play my part and communicate more and be more assertive, especially when I feel the behaviour of the guys are not upto standard!

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By *arkDesiresParties OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"I like this. Clear outline to help guys.

But not to be that ‘equality guy’ but can we have like a brief (much more brief than the one above) one for ladies too.

Such as not every guy is okay with you just grabbing his crotch before you say hello to him. Or that guys can politely say no also, and that shouldn’t cause a fuss"

You're right, and all parties can be more attentive. I'm just focusing on this because it's an issue that I feel is quite common, and stops many couples returning to parties, or even getting involved because of fear of the unknown factor. I hope that if people have an idea of what to expect and what is expected it may ease concerns. Plus I'd very much like Dark Desires to have a reputation for having great parties, and great guy is a good place to start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to Radletts drak Desires party last year it was my first time when I was on site last year I was called lady b had a lovely time in the swimming pool with a young little man and loved the dance floor mixed in well in my black number love to again but don't drive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A welcome write up that indicates standards still have some meaning and

value.

Reading between the lines on here, there

is some pretty shocking and unwarranted

comments passed to ladies, i have to say

some ladies have their faults too, lets

not forget that. In general guys,

smarten your act up, its bound to pay

dividends.

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By *ay12345Man
over a year ago

London


"Or I could just sum it up in a few words

1) use basic common sense

2) don’t be an arse

Guide’s are frustrating in that those who need it are very unlikely to read it, let alone take it in! those who don’t wouldn’t need to read it the first place!

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you! And all you are doing is just preaching to the choir and grandstanding…..

Those who get it will… those who don’t aren’t worth the time or effort…

I disagree to some extent. I feel I have always been very respectful and well mannered, but visiting Cap D'agde last year and meeting the G00dfellaz really caused me to raise my game. I think having it out there can definitely help spark some ideas. For example used to just carry condoms, now I make sure I have lube, wet wipes , and moutwash etc... just a small change, but a step forward. "

I always have a toiletry bag that I leave in lockers, which contains most of those stuff like lube, condoms, mouthwash etc . But you’re right I never considered wet wipes, as I assume the club will have them. However often they don’t or they are finished. I’ll now be adding those pocket sized wet wipes to my bag thanks to this post

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By *eductiveEyesKillerThighsWoman
over a year ago

Nowhere & Everywhere

I've not been to a DD party...yet. But I agree, the best guys are the ones who are adept in communication, are well prepared, have compassion for others, and who pull you back on the bed when you're hanging off the side

Shout out especially to those guys who watch from the sidelines who are willing to support your weary legs whilst you're in the swing of things. Or waft a towel to cool you down when things are getting hot!

They are the guys that always stick in my mind, and will always make a Beeline for in future.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you! "

Almost word for word what I was going write. It really is basic common sense or it should be. Some guys still turn up to meets and organised events without washing, beggers belief.

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester


"

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you!

Almost word for word what I was going write. It really is basic common sense or it should be. Some guys still turn up to meets and organised events without washing, beggers belief. "

Oh my goodness, grim ! those men need more than a pep talk

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester


"I've not been to a DD party...yet. But I agree, the best guys are the ones who are adept in communication, are well prepared, have compassion for others, and who pull you back on the bed when you're hanging off the side

Shout out especially to those guys who watch from the sidelines who are willing to support your weary legs whilst you're in the swing of things. Or waft a towel to cool you down when things are getting hot!

They are the guys that always stick in my mind, and will always make a Beeline for in future."

Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From our own experience, we prefer play where there's been a social element beforehand so the guy(s) knows what we want and enjoy.

We've seen play where guys make little or no effort and think it's acceptable to wave their bits in the face of the lady when they're playing with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy the lifestyle and feel that play is a shared experience, not just for the enjoyment of one party or the other.

Yes, occasionally, play can be spontaneous, enjoying different people in a large play area. Mostly, though, it's more intimate

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"

If you need to be told how to put your best foot forward and be a functioning human being, then no amount of pep talks are going to help you!

Almost word for word what I was going write. It really is basic common sense or it should be. Some guys still turn up to meets and organised events without washing, beggers belief.

Oh my goodness, grim ! those men need more than a pep talk "

One meet the guy had travelled 100ish miles, booked into a nice hotel and let us know he'd arrived so along we went, he smelt of B.O. I (he) said to him,'sorry we've caught you on the hop and arrived rather quickly, we'll be back in 30 minutes to allow you have your shower' which he did, thoroughly. Can't believe we had to prompt him.

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By *otwifehotlifeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

For us we generally prefer that more intimate of play setting but have recently been very attracted to the big bed area at libs, the dynamic of it being very intriguing, while still very new, we have found that most are very respectful when observing or requesting to join

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