FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Club Discussion

Leeds Quest Newbie

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. Still looking for someone to go to Quest with for the first time.

I am a nice down to earth genuine straight guy.

I dont have the balls to walk in alone.

So... Any advice where to meet newbies like me?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?"

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You would go to a social on your own, then hopefully meet someone there you could arrange to go to a club with another time.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could you go to Quest with one of the women who have verified you ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could you go to Quest with one of the women who have verified you ?"

Possibly one. And we have spoken about it. But due to her circumstances... wont be for a while. Sorry to be vague.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi. Still looking for someone to go to Quest with for the first time.

I am a nice down to earth genuine straight guy.

I dont have the balls to walk in alone.

So... Any advice where to meet newbies like me? "

Why can't you walk in by yourself? Swingers' clubs aren't 'all that' mate, honestly! You're more likely to experience an anti-climax, than anything else lol! They're just social areas, like a pub, where people dress a bit more revealing, and there are areas where people enjoy all kinds of sexy play, either in the open, or in private rooms. Don't build it up to being more than it is, just go and have a look sometime

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me."

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club "

I know mr Nice. We have. Was hoping someone in my position would see my message and say... also new and also want to go. Lets go. Lol.

But... will let you know once i get the balls to go on a sunday.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, we’re also hoping to check out Quest on a Sunday soon and are quite apprehensive. If we happen to be going the same time we would be happy to meet up with you strictly on a social basis, but as a little moral support as I understand how daunting it is. I went to a social at a club on my own a few weeks ago (no childcare) and my nerves were all over

Happy for you to message if you want and I’ll ensure it doesn’t get deleted.

Mrs.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club "

Me then lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club

Me then lol"

Sweet is one of my fab friends. She'll look after you OP .I have some unfinished business with her to see to on Sunday so should be fun. I'll be attending with one of my single female friends

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club

Me then lol

Sweet is one of my fab friends. She'll look after you OP .I have some unfinished business with her to see to on Sunday so should be fun. I'll be attending with one of my single female friends "

Better step into my office then xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about going to an organised social before you try Quest ?

Yes... that would be good.

But who with? Thats the difficult part for me.

We have already discussed this OP .Come along one Sunday and I'll introduce you to a few of my fab friends that are regulars in Quest. You'll be fine on your own it's a friendly club

Me then lol

Sweet is one of my fab friends. She'll look after you OP .I have some unfinished business with her to see to on Sunday so should be fun. I'll be attending with one of my single female friends

Better step into my office then xx"

We’re all a very friendly bunch on a Sunday!! We’ll make sure you’re looked after xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. Still looking for someone to go to Quest with for the first time.

I am a nice down to earth genuine straight guy.

I dont have the balls to walk in alone.

So... Any advice where to meet newbies like me?

Why can't you walk in by yourself? Swingers' clubs aren't 'all that' mate, honestly! You're more likely to experience an anti-climax, than anything else lol! They're just social areas, like a pub, where people dress a bit more revealing, and there are areas where people enjoy all kinds of sexy play, either in the open, or in private rooms. Don't build it up to being more than it is, just go and have a look sometime "

It is just that.....like an ordinary bar, friendly, sociable and people are dressed sexy as hell It’s easier walking into Quest than an ordinary vanilla club in town I recon, at least folk talk to you. I have always felt comfortable enough to walk in on my own knowing that people in there (whether I know them or not) will talk to me. I know most of us regulars will always encourage newbies to mingle in and help make their first visit as relaxed as possible xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi. Still looking for someone to go to Quest with for the first time.

I am a nice down to earth genuine straight guy.

I dont have the balls to walk in alone.

So... Any advice where to meet newbies like me?

Why can't you walk in by yourself? Swingers' clubs aren't 'all that' mate, honestly! You're more likely to experience an anti-climax, than anything else lol! They're just social areas, like a pub, where people dress a bit more revealing, and there are areas where people enjoy all kinds of sexy play, either in the open, or in private rooms. Don't build it up to being more than it is, just go and have a look sometime

It is just that.....like an ordinary bar, friendly, sociable and people are dressed sexy as hell It’s easier walking into Quest than an ordinary vanilla club in town I recon, at least folk talk to you. I have always felt comfortable enough to walk in on my own knowing that people in there (whether I know them or not) will talk to me. I know most of us regulars will always encourage newbies to mingle in and help make their first visit as relaxed as possible xx"

Of course people would talk to you! Look at you!

I am concerned that men will be too much in compotition with each other and me not get the chance to talk to anyone. Meaning befriend guys and flirt with the ladies.

But thank you very much for your encouraging words everyone. X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I don't know why lots of guys play the 'I need someone to go with' card.

As a single female its off putting when guys say it & it definitely doesn't make me want to meet them.

I love seeing guys in the club who go alone.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know why lots of guys play the 'I need someone to go with' card.

As a single female its off putting when guys say it & it definitely doesn't make me want to meet them.

I love seeing guys in the club who go alone."

I have been told! Wow.

Haha. Ok.... let me gather my balls and will make a solo appearance. X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"I don't know why lots of guys play the 'I need someone to go with' card.

As a single female its off putting when guys say it & it definitely doesn't make me want to meet them.

I love seeing guys in the club who go alone.

I have been told! Wow.

Haha. Ok.... let me gather my balls and will make a solo appearance. X"

You haven't been told, I was just saying it from my view. Not many women will go to a club with a random so you may find it difficult.

You don't seem to have any trouble getting meets tho OP.

Take Mr Nice's offer & go along with him x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know why lots of guys play the 'I need someone to go with' card.

As a single female its off putting when guys say it & it definitely doesn't make me want to meet them.

I love seeing guys in the club who go alone.

I have been told! Wow.

Haha. Ok.... let me gather my balls and will make a solo appearance. X

You haven't been told, I was just saying it from my view. Not many women will go to a club with a random so you may find it difficult.

You don't seem to have any trouble getting meets tho OP.

Take Mr Nice's offer & go along with him x"

I was only messing. I like blunt.

And i never said women. I prefer going with a man for support. But... only mr Nice has been nice to me.

We will see. Thank you again for the advise.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi. Still looking for someone to go to Quest with for the first time.

I am a nice down to earth genuine straight guy.

I dont have the balls to walk in alone.

So... Any advice where to meet newbies like me?

Why can't you walk in by yourself? Swingers' clubs aren't 'all that' mate, honestly! You're more likely to experience an anti-climax, than anything else lol! They're just social areas, like a pub, where people dress a bit more revealing, and there are areas where people enjoy all kinds of sexy play, either in the open, or in private rooms. Don't build it up to being more than it is, just go and have a look sometime

It is just that.....like an ordinary bar, friendly, sociable and people are dressed sexy as hell It’s easier walking into Quest than an ordinary vanilla club in town I recon, at least folk talk to you. I have always felt comfortable enough to walk in on my own knowing that people in there (whether I know them or not) will talk to me. I know most of us regulars will always encourage newbies to mingle in and help make their first visit as relaxed as possible xx"

To be fair; a single female in a club is a desired element, and people WILL go out of their way to chat with you. A single guy in a club, is just 'another single guy in a club', and people rarely make any effort to speak to them. I've not been to Quest, but I do hope, if I ever go, that the regulars there are as friendly and inclusive towards me, and any other single guys, as you say. It's not been my experience in other clubs I've been to

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iercedlotsCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

going there on the 10th of April. Don't be scared. We haven't been there either but been to other clubs. Just chill and get in the jacuzzi.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know why lots of guys play the 'I need someone to go with' card.

As a single female its off putting when guys say it & it definitely doesn't make me want to meet them.

I love seeing guys in the club who go alone.

I have been told! Wow.

Haha. Ok.... let me gather my balls and will make a solo appearance. X

You haven't been told, I was just saying it from my view. Not many women will go to a club with a random so you may find it difficult.

You don't seem to have any trouble getting meets tho OP.

Take Mr Nice's offer & go along with him x"

See you Sunday then OP . I'll be with a few of my fab friends. I'll introduce you and the rest is up to you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago

Stonehaven

Quest is super welcoming. Honestly , you should give it a go.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Did you go OP?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you go OP?"

No.

I did go out for a few drinks with mates. Got tipsy, left them... and was heading that way but i went home.

I know i sound like a coward or shy. I really am not. I am super confident and some might say arrogant(but far from it).

Just dont want to be in a situation where everyone has inside jokes, stories that i cant relate to, being left out and just not clicking with anyone. Its not just about sex, play, exploring.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you go OP?

No.

I did go out for a few drinks with mates. Got tipsy, left them... and was heading that way but i went home.

I know i sound like a coward or shy. I really am not. I am super confident and some might say arrogant(but far from it).

Just dont want to be in a situation where everyone has inside jokes, stories that i cant relate to, being left out and just not clicking with anyone. Its not just about sex, play, exploring.

"

We would never make you feel left out and to be fair you probably made the right decision going home after a few drinks . It's very off putting when someone has had a few drinks

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also interested in attending quest 1 time. Im obviously nervous, not the best looking and I have so many questions.

Like how do you know who wants to play with you?

What do you wear?

How do you know who are straight/bi/gay etc..

It doesn't sound as simple as some of these replies make out

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm also interested in attending quest 1 time. Im obviously nervous, not the best looking and I have so many questions.

Like how do you know who wants to play with you?

What do you wear?

How do you know who are straight/bi/gay etc..

It doesn't sound as simple as some of these replies make out "

I guess it feels normal to us. We were newbies once and had to learn the correct etiquette and how to approach people. It's not as daunting as you might think. There's some really nice people that go to the club's that will help you of you want to listen to their advice.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

It's honestly no different to walking into a pub alone. The only difference is you have the option of shagging in one of the rooms.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *adam PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Come on, big boys pants on. Stop over thinking it. It's bbw night this Friday, that's always a good night. Get your name on the Guestlist and go. It's not clicky at all, we don't stand around leaving people out. We all love fresh meat, lol. My girlfriend and I are going Friday.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top