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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking for myself I would not want to go to a club by myself.

It's the fear of being seen as desperate.

Probably irrational as I am sure single guys are welcome.

Nothing wrong with you or your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Speaking for myself I would not want to go to a club by myself.

It's the fear of being seen as desperate.

Probably irrational as I am sure single guys are welcome.

Nothing wrong with you or your profile."

Obviously we contacted guys and explained we would go with them. If we say we are meeting someone we would find it rude not to stay with them

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

For younger guys that have never been to a club they honestly can be to honest I was very wary the first club that I went to but now I’m not.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money. "

Some clubs really can be

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?"

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere "

Are we really that bad?

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By *ichaelG76Man
over a year ago

Nr Andover

being as you're gorgeous.. sure some sane person will say yes!

x

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By *inky kissersCouple
over a year ago

South East

Am surprised that they are not jumping at the chance due to the number of forum posts from guys looking for someone to attend a club with.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be"

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Am surprised that they are not jumping at the chance due to the number of forum posts from guys looking for someone to attend a club with. "

True and the number of posts by young single guys that are struggling to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

"

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?"

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

The reason might be that some clubs employ the use of "flirty fishers". Attractive ladies who entice men on line, get a dialogue going, then say "but I only meet in Clubs" and will you meet me there? And once the poor guy is through the door having paid lots of money, the lady magically disappears!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

Are we really that bad? "

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with going to a club as a single guy is that they are dear to get in, it’s a lot of money to pay for recreational sex and what happens if you don’t all get on. You might say that well at least they have the chance of playing with someone else.

But in my experience clubs tend to have lots of single guys in there already

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place"

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error"

The laws of supply and demand my friend, if you like eating waggu beef but can’t bloody get it then a burger will have to do, life is no respecter of preferences

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

Are we really that bad? "

Of course your not that bad !! We don't actively look for single guys, but often get messages from single guys asking to meet. "Sure" we say, "we'll meet you at a club", suddenly they are not that keen to meet !! Also happens with couples now and then.

But we think the best place for a first meet is ALWAYS a club, easier to say to people that there is no attraction than it is to say that if your in a hotel room with them or in their house.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error

The laws of supply and demand my friend, if you like eating waggu beef but can’t bloody get it then a burger will have to do, life is no respecter of preferences "

true but sometimes you have to respect a persons preference and that makes the law of supply and demand null and void. Some people respect quality of quantity and on top of that you can't say to someone that they should meet someone who doesn't fit their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error

The laws of supply and demand my friend, if you like eating waggu beef but can’t bloody get it then a burger will have to do, life is no respecter of preferences

true but sometimes you have to respect a persons preference and that makes the law of supply and demand null and void. Some people respect quality of quantity and on top of that you can't say to someone that they should meet someone who doesn't fit their preferences "

I’m not telling anyone what they have to do, I actually don’t really care, they can meet who they like but that’s the problem isn’t it they want to meet a type of person but can’t because of availability.

Personally my preferences are for 6’ blonde super models but I have the same problem there just arnt any round here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect "

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error

The laws of supply and demand my friend, if you like eating waggu beef but can’t bloody get it then a burger will have to do, life is no respecter of preferences

true but sometimes you have to respect a persons preference and that makes the law of supply and demand null and void. Some people respect quality of quantity and on top of that you can't say to someone that they should meet someone who doesn't fit their preferences

I’m not telling anyone what they have to do, I actually don’t really care, they can meet who they like but that’s the problem isn’t it they want to meet a type of person but can’t because of availability.

Personally my preferences are for 6’ blonde super models but I have the same problem there just arnt any round here "

You've misunderstood. We don't have a problem meeting young guys, just it can be more expensive than meeting older guys. Happily we are lucky enough to be able to afford that.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"There's also the point that clubs are eye wateringly expensive for single guys and young guys don't tend to have much money.

Some clubs really can be

We like to meet young guys but the problem is venue. They don't tend to have much money and if they don't live with their parents they tend to either live with house mates or in a grotty bedsit. As we don't accommodate that leaves a hotel and they often have issue contributing to that.

We end up paying

Simple, meet older guys, they tend to have more money so clubs hotels arnt a problem also they are more likely to have their own place

Hold on it’s not that simple really they shouldn’t have to change their preferences it all goes by trial and error

The laws of supply and demand my friend, if you like eating waggu beef but can’t bloody get it then a burger will have to do, life is no respecter of preferences

true but sometimes you have to respect a persons preference and that makes the law of supply and demand null and void. Some people respect quality of quantity and on top of that you can't say to someone that they should meet someone who doesn't fit their preferences

I’m not telling anyone what they have to do, I actually don’t really care, they can meet who they like but that’s the problem isn’t it they want to meet a type of person but can’t because of availability.

Personally my preferences are for 6’ blonde super models but I have the same problem there just arnt any round here

You've misunderstood. We don't have a problem meeting young guys, just it can be more expensive than meeting older guys. Happily we are lucky enough to be able to afford that. "

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By *adicalhedonistMan
over a year ago

audlem

Well from my point of view, i found it was a combination of nerves (chatting up two people rather than the usual one is intimidating at first!), the entry fees, and basically a bit of a worry that they're pretty sleazy places due to the way single guys seem to be treated a bit differently reading websites etc. Once you actually get yourself through the door I found the whole experience very positive (& fun!) - guess that all acts as a pretty efficient filter for time wasters who aren't serious about meeting & just want a bit of a thrill leading you on, so I wouldn't take it personally!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them"

Our profile states we don't arrange to meet single men and thats what we stick to. However when we are in a club and we get chatting to a nice respectful man one never knows what might happen so we'd say go to a club and see what happens. It may not happen on your next visit but our experience tells us at some point it will happen. Always go to a club with no expectations and the two of you have a great night. You just might get to have the experience you are both looking for at some point. We'd never look on Fab and arrange to meet a guy in a club as we say we don't arrange to meet men. What will be will be when we are in a club and adds to the excitement of the night and we NEVER go home disappointed, even if we end up playing on our own we still have a great night meeting and chatting with people and people watching us being naughty

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

Are we really that bad? "

Not at all, but nobody can be everyone's cup of tea! The club membership/entry fees for single guys can be horrendous (look up a few examples and ask yourself whether you would pay similar to meet an unknown). Also, the club scene can be quite daunting for a newbie to enter, by themselves

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?"

I won't meet with women at clubs.

The higher price for men has always grated on me and I associate paying with desperateness - it's not totally realistic, but that's just how I feel sometimes. I don't want to pay more than other entities and also feel like a lower class citizen at the same time. To add to that, the amount of women in clubs is generally low. Maybe I get to choose from 10 women or so. All in all, it's not so great for men.

I'd prefer to meet a lady outside a club and buy her drinks or food with the money.

However, that being said, one of my friends is always trying to get me to go, and it's definitely a good experience. I just have to let go of any I'll feelings and I guess I have too much pride.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them

Our profile states we don't arrange to meet single men and thats what we stick to. However when we are in a club and we get chatting to a nice respectful man one never knows what might happen so we'd say go to a club and see what happens. It may not happen on your next visit but our experience tells us at some point it will happen. Always go to a club with no expectations and the two of you have a great night. You just might get to have the experience you are both looking for at some point. We'd never look on Fab and arrange to meet a guy in a club as we say we don't arrange to meet men. What will be will be when we are in a club and adds to the excitement of the night and we NEVER go home disappointed, even if we end up playing on our own we still have a great night meeting and chatting with people and people watching us being naughty "

We have been swinging for 14 years, so longer than most, and understand that you can still enjoy the night regardless. The reason we were looking was for a treat for me for my 40th, any other times we would have just gone to see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them

Our profile states we don't arrange to meet single men and thats what we stick to. However when we are in a club and we get chatting to a nice respectful man one never knows what might happen so we'd say go to a club and see what happens. It may not happen on your next visit but our experience tells us at some point it will happen. Always go to a club with no expectations and the two of you have a great night. You just might get to have the experience you are both looking for at some point. We'd never look on Fab and arrange to meet a guy in a club as we say we don't arrange to meet men. What will be will be when we are in a club and adds to the excitement of the night and we NEVER go home disappointed, even if we end up playing on our own we still have a great night meeting and chatting with people and people watching us being naughty

We have been swinging for 14 years, so longer than most, and understand that you can still enjoy the night regardless. The reason we were looking was for a treat for me for my 40th, any other times we would have just gone to see what happens "

I see! Ok, well that in mind, since you were asking for suggestions, this is what I suggest;

Chat on here with guys in a certain city, whichever you like. Choose one who you like and chat for a week or so, make sure he's decent. Have another on hand. Tell guy number 1, hey, do you fancy a drink at such and such a hotel. Etc.

Get a hotel for you both in that city, since it's your birthday, have a posh meal or something. After your meal, meet the guy for a drink. See what happens... If he's good, take him upstairs... If he's bad, say goodbye and message guy number 2.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"The problem with going to a club as a single guy is that they are dear to get in, it’s a lot of money to pay for recreational sex and what happens if you don’t all get on. You might say that well at least they have the chance of playing with someone else.

But in my experience clubs tend to have lots of single guys in there already "
. In London we have two members only clubs on a Friday night depending which one you go too it can cost £50 - £80 to get in.A nice Italian restaurant meal for two with desert and a bottle of wine cost £60 - £70.I have paid both of these and not been certain / guaranteed of having sex but I always have a good time as I go with no expectations or entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i were young and invited i would not turn you down,cant belive your having trouble with young guys.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?"
I've managed to convince many to try... and funny very few found it a bad or not for them experience. It's the fear of the unknown. I also wont promise to play on advance.. so some see it as me trying to make the club money x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"The problem with going to a club as a single guy is that they are dear to get in, it’s a lot of money to pay for recreational sex and what happens if you don’t all get on. You might say that well at least they have the chance of playing with someone else.

But in my experience clubs tend to have lots of single guys in there already . In London we have two members only clubs on a Friday night depending which one you go too it can cost £50 - £80 to get in.A nice Italian restaurant meal for two with desert and a bottle of wine cost £60 - £70.I have paid both of these and not been certain / guaranteed of having sex but I always have a good time as I go with no expectations or entitlement."

I understand where you're coming from with this Costas, but if you don't eat or drink in the restaurant, you don't pay a penny

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?"

Just pick the guys at the club already or just look for guys that say they go to clubs or look in the reviews for club for the post by single guys you may find one or two there you like but the young ones probably won't try clubs due to the cost and the risk of being let down.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere "

I have seen this couple at club nights and they are both very approachable and very pleasant to look at .

John

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

I have seen this couple at club nights and they are both very approachable and very pleasant to look at .

John"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Just pick the guys at the club already or just look for guys that say they go to clubs or look in the reviews for club for the post by single guys you may find one or two there you like but the young ones probably won't try clubs due to the cost and the risk of being let down. "

There were no guys under 45-50 that night and none were my type anyway. There were only about 6 guys there in total. We had 2 guys looking to cop a feel in the hot tub. Not attractive. We've been going to pleasures for 9 years so know that it can be better than that....but were trying to get something sorted in advance as it was my Birthday

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher!"

If I talk to someone I will ask for face pics early. If they then are invited then it wouldn't be sex with an escort it would be mfm with us, which I'd have hoped was worth the £40 entry fee

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah I get what you mean to be honest and yeah that does happen and I get that you would want to make it special shame you are far from me

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

I only ever meet at clubs now, some think they are dark and seedy , but they quite the opposite, I spent most of Friday night in Jaydees chatting with some amazing and friendly people.

Light, clean and o so welcoming .

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah I get what you mean to be honest and yeah that does happen and I get that you would want to make it special shame you are far from me"

Agreed...but I'd make you have a shave first

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Yeah I get what you mean to be honest and yeah that does happen and I get that you would want to make it special shame you are far from me

Agreed...but I'd make you have a shave first"

Oh I’m trimmed I don’t ever go fully shaven

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher!"
I wouldn't want a guy who was coming to a club expecting sex. Clubs are not just about the fun.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher! I wouldn't want a guy who was coming to a club expecting sex. Clubs are not just about the fun. "

I know! How dare they! Personally, I go for the pool table.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah I get what you mean to be honest and yeah that does happen and I get that you would want to make it special shame you are far from me

Agreed...but I'd make you have a shave first

Oh I’m trimmed I don’t ever go fully shaven "

I meant the chin!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Yeah I get what you mean to be honest and yeah that does happen and I get that you would want to make it special shame you are far from me

Agreed...but I'd make you have a shave first

Oh I’m trimmed I don’t ever go fully shaven

I meant the chin!"

Ah yeah would do that haha my beard is always trimmed down very short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only I was 20 years younger

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Op just saw your status I’m sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If only I was 20 years younger "
if only you were closer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op just saw your status I’m sorry to hear that "

Thank you x

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Op just saw your status I’m sorry to hear that

Thank you x"

No worries x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

Are we really that bad? "

I’d kick myself off I turned down the chance to meet you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's probably worth op if you post the specific clubs cost that he'd have to pay. Some clubs are much more reasonably priced for single men than most have typically been.

Whilst they may not be skint, the cost of membership and entry may still seem a huge price to pay and they may perceive that sex isn't guaranteed, despite getting all of their ID, address proof and paying what may be more than a hotel for the night.

Consider too that a lot of single men here do have partners. They may be suspicion of him spending a lot of money or being out late at night, if it's not a daytime club slot. Those men will know if they likely can't get away with it.

I've not seen the full thread and if you have posted what he'd be likely to have to pay.

This would give us a better feel for it.

They'll always weigh up the known quantities of shagging at a home vs cost of club, travel and their uncertainty about what a club actually entails.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"It's probably worth op if you post the specific clubs cost that he'd have to pay. Some clubs are much more reasonably priced for single men than most have typically been.

Whilst they may not be skint, the cost of membership and entry may still seem a huge price to pay and they may perceive that sex isn't guaranteed, despite getting all of their ID, address proof and paying what may be more than a hotel for the night.

Consider too that a lot of single men here do have partners. They may be suspicion of him spending a lot of money or being out late at night, if it's not a daytime club slot. Those men will know if they likely can't get away with it.

I've not seen the full thread and if you have posted what he'd be likely to have to pay.

This would give us a better feel for it.

They'll always weigh up the known quantities of shagging at a home vs cost of club, travel and their uncertainty about what a club actually entails. "

That can still be daunting on most young single guys though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher! I wouldn't want a guy who was coming to a club expecting sex. Clubs are not just about the fun. "

Hence my point about an escort.

The young guy is having to pay a lot for the entrance club fee and still very unlikely to have any sexual interaction.

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By *upernudeMan
over a year ago

plymouth

Another problem with clubs is single guys get treated like second rate citizens, not allowed in the good bits , and charged a fortune to get in ,these days I will only go in if I was with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always looking to explore clubs with couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand why single guys are put off clubs due to having to pay hiked prices.

When the entrance fee is not much different to paying for an escort.

And the chance of some action with an escort is a lot higher! I wouldn't want a guy who was coming to a club expecting sex. Clubs are not just about the fun.

Hence my point about an escort.

The young guy is having to pay a lot for the entrance club fee and still very unlikely to have any sexual interaction."

If they were coming to meet us they would have more chance.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"It's probably worth op if you post the specific clubs cost that he'd have to pay. Some clubs are much more reasonably priced for single men than most have typically been.

Whilst they may not be skint, the cost of membership and entry may still seem a huge price to pay and they may perceive that sex isn't guaranteed, despite getting all of their ID, address proof and paying what may be more than a hotel for the night.

Consider too that a lot of single men here do have partners. They may be suspicion of him spending a lot of money or being out late at night, if it's not a daytime club slot. Those men will know if they likely can't get away with it.

I've not seen the full thread and if you have posted what he'd be likely to have to pay.

This would give us a better feel for it.

They'll always weigh up the known quantities of shagging at a home vs cost of club, travel and their uncertainty about what a club actually entails.

That can still be daunting on most young single guys though"

That's really what I was covering and hence the request for more information if possible from the op.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

When single guys moan about costings it really annoys me as our local club did half price entry for single guys 2 fridays on a trot and guess what no new guys came

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It would have been a meet at Pleasures in Kent and therefore £40 for a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would have been a meet at Pleasures in Kent and therefore £40 for a single guy "

I’m sure most guys spend more then that on a night out. Booze,food and taxis

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town


"It would have been a meet at Pleasures in Kent and therefore £40 for a single guy

I’m sure most guys spend more then that on a night out. Booze,food and taxis "

My view aswell

Altho we attend TheHotWifeClub and that always has well over 20 guys under the age of 45

Also you could cougars and cubs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would have been a meet at Pleasures in Kent and therefore £40 for a single guy

I’m sure most guys spend more then that on a night out. Booze,food and taxis

My view aswell

Altho we attend TheHotWifeClub and that always has well over 20 guys under the age of 45

Also you could cougars and cubs x "

We've done Cougars and Cubs, but like I said we were looking for a guy for a particular weekend for my Birthday

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"When single guys moan about costings it really annoys me as our local club did half price entry for single guys 2 fridays on a trot and guess what no new guys came "

Did any guys turn up though?

What a pity I’m outside your upper age limit

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Well I would never look a gift horse in the mouth. At least they would nearly be guaranteed a bit of fun. They are the very ones that give out that they don't get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them

Our profile states we don't arrange to meet single men and thats what we stick to. However when we are in a club and we get chatting to a nice respectful man one never knows what might happen so we'd say go to a club and see what happens. It may not happen on your next visit but our experience tells us at some point it will happen. Always go to a club with no expectations and the two of you have a great night. You just might get to have the experience you are both looking for at some point. We'd never look on Fab and arrange to meet a guy in a club as we say we don't arrange to meet men. What will be will be when we are in a club and adds to the excitement of the night and we NEVER go home disappointed, even if we end up playing on our own we still have a great night meeting and chatting with people and people watching us being naughty

We have been swinging for 14 years, so longer than most, and understand that you can still enjoy the night regardless. The reason we were looking was for a treat for me for my 40th, any other times we would have just gone to see what happens "

Did you not manage to find any? There was loads of single fellas that night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

Maybe change the profile to say looking for young single guys occasionally because it says you're not looking for any

Apart from that your perfect

The last paragraph does state..when we want single guys..we'll find them

Our profile states we don't arrange to meet single men and thats what we stick to. However when we are in a club and we get chatting to a nice respectful man one never knows what might happen so we'd say go to a club and see what happens. It may not happen on your next visit but our experience tells us at some point it will happen. Always go to a club with no expectations and the two of you have a great night. You just might get to have the experience you are both looking for at some point. We'd never look on Fab and arrange to meet a guy in a club as we say we don't arrange to meet men. What will be will be when we are in a club and adds to the excitement of the night and we NEVER go home disappointed, even if we end up playing on our own we still have a great night meeting and chatting with people and people watching us being naughty

We have been swinging for 14 years, so longer than most, and understand that you can still enjoy the night regardless. The reason we were looking was for a treat for me for my 40th, any other times we would have just gone to see what happens

Did you not manage to find any? There was loads of single fellas that night "
not really on the 24th. They were all older.

We just had 2 guys getting a bit creepy in the pool...trying to touch without permission or provocation

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'd have been delighted to have been offered byvyou to meet up at a Club. I've enjoyed myself in the 3 I've been to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When is you’re birthday op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When is you’re birthday op "
it was last Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for me its a mixture of walking into a place like that on my own and and the unknown.

I have never been to one yet but plan too one day soon. I think id be much more likely if i went with someone to breal the social awkwardness first if that makes sense

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Mine was last Friday, and O gosh did I party !!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I would love to attend sometime

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

Clubs to me are like night clubs or discos back in the day . I didn't enjoy them and still don't . A lot of people don't want to go ' clubbing' There's a place for them sure for younger people . However, I don't enjoy or want meets a clubs or jacuzzi / sauna etc . I much prefer the more quiet encounters where you can have a chat over a coffee or glass of wine and get to know someone that way .

Everyone's got different ways of doing it if course which is great . It just may explain to OP why some guys don't meet at clubs .

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Clubs to me are like night clubs or discos back in the day . I didn't enjoy them and still don't . A lot of people don't want to go ' clubbing' There's a place for them sure for younger people . However, I don't enjoy or want meets a clubs or jacuzzi / sauna etc . I much prefer the more quiet encounters where you can have a chat over a coffee or glass of wine and get to know someone that way .

Everyone's got different ways of doing it if course which is great . It just may explain to OP why some guys don't meet at clubs .

"
. I understand what you are say with regards to why some guys don’t meet at clubs.But what happens if two people want to meet and neither can accommodate for whatever reason.Thats when clubs can be useful.To me you get to have a night out with like minded people and perhaps make a connection.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clubs to me are like night clubs or discos back in the day . I didn't enjoy them and still don't . A lot of people don't want to go ' clubbing' There's a place for them sure for younger people . However, I don't enjoy or want meets a clubs or jacuzzi / sauna etc . I much prefer the more quiet encounters where you can have a chat over a coffee or glass of wine and get to know someone that way .

Everyone's got different ways of doing it if course which is great . It just may explain to OP why some guys don't meet at clubs .

"

I understand some don't...I couldn't find any!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would imagine part of it depends what club your inviting them too. Not just in terms of format/atmosphere but also in terms of cost/terms of entry. Some clubs are hassle free, small entry price, no I.D. checks, no membership. Others are expensive, very strict terms for single guys and entry/membership may just not be possible. I (Mr) started off in the club scene a single male. For many men it's a daunting prospect if your not a club goer in the first place. And to a certain extent the club dynamic is different for a single guy and many guys don't like it. So many of the forums threads on here can tell you that. So I can to a certain extent understand to the reluctance to meet at a club if the gent is not a club goer in the first place. There may also be a fear that they may be exposed to a free market economy of single men in a club and thus traded for another guy in the club. They may see this a serious threat to the success of their meet v just meeting in a competition free zone.

Maybe you'd be better meeting guys who go to clubs alresdy or better still go to the club you want to meet at.

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over a year ago


"I would imagine part of it depends what club your inviting them too. Not just in terms of format/atmosphere but also in terms of cost/terms of entry. Some clubs are hassle free, small entry price, no I.D. checks, no membership. Others are expensive, very strict terms for single guys and entry/membership may just not be possible. I (Mr) started off in the club scene a single male. For many men it's a daunting prospect if your not a club goer in the first place. And to a certain extent the club dynamic is different for a single guy and many guys don't like it. So many of the forums threads on here can tell you that. So I can to a certain extent understand to the reluctance to meet at a club if the gent is not a club goer in the first place. There may also be a fear that they may be exposed to a free market economy of single men in a club and thus traded for another guy in the club. They may see this a serious threat to the success of their meet v just meeting in a competition free zone.

Maybe you'd be better meeting guys who go to clubs alresdy or better still go to the club you want to meet at."

We've been going to pleasures for about 9 years now and have gone and met guys on the night before. As I keep saying we were hoping to get something planned in advance for my Birthday. Obviously that didn't happen, so went to see if we could find a guy there and it wasn't a great turn out and they were all older

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I would imagine part of it depends what club your inviting them too. Not just in terms of format/atmosphere but also in terms of cost/terms of entry. Some clubs are hassle free, small entry price, no I.D. checks, no membership. Others are expensive, very strict terms for single guys and entry/membership may just not be possible. I (Mr) started off in the club scene a single male. For many men it's a daunting prospect if your not a club goer in the first place. And to a certain extent the club dynamic is different for a single guy and many guys don't like it. So many of the forums threads on here can tell you that. So I can to a certain extent understand to the reluctance to meet at a club if the gent is not a club goer in the first place. There may also be a fear that they may be exposed to a free market economy of single men in a club and thus traded for another guy in the club. They may see this a serious threat to the success of their meet v just meeting in a competition free zone.

Maybe you'd be better meeting guys who go to clubs alresdy or better still go to the club you want to meet at.

We've been going to pleasures for about 9 years now and have gone and met guys on the night before. As I keep saying we were hoping to get something planned in advance for my Birthday. Obviously that didn't happen, so went to see if we could find a guy there and it wasn't a great turn out and they were all older"

I'm curious. Why not meet guys in a budget hotel. It would be cheaper than a club and a lot less hassle for the guy. Maybe have a social first to check you fancy each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would imagine part of it depends what club your inviting them too. Not just in terms of format/atmosphere but also in terms of cost/terms of entry. Some clubs are hassle free, small entry price, no I.D. checks, no membership. Others are expensive, very strict terms for single guys and entry/membership may just not be possible. I (Mr) started off in the club scene a single male. For many men it's a daunting prospect if your not a club goer in the first place. And to a certain extent the club dynamic is different for a single guy and many guys don't like it. So many of the forums threads on here can tell you that. So I can to a certain extent understand to the reluctance to meet at a club if the gent is not a club goer in the first place. There may also be a fear that they may be exposed to a free market economy of single men in a club and thus traded for another guy in the club. They may see this a serious threat to the success of their meet v just meeting in a competition free zone.

Maybe you'd be better meeting guys who go to clubs alresdy or better still go to the club you want to meet at.

We've been going to pleasures for about 9 years now and have gone and met guys on the night before. As I keep saying we were hoping to get something planned in advance for my Birthday. Obviously that didn't happen, so went to see if we could find a guy there and it wasn't a great turn out and they were all older

I'm curious. Why not meet guys in a budget hotel. It would be cheaper than a club and a lot less hassle for the guy. Maybe have a social first to check you fancy each other. "

It's much nicer meeting in a club and can make a whole night out of it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I would imagine part of it depends what club your inviting them too. Not just in terms of format/atmosphere but also in terms of cost/terms of entry. Some clubs are hassle free, small entry price, no I.D. checks, no membership. Others are expensive, very strict terms for single guys and entry/membership may just not be possible. I (Mr) started off in the club scene a single male. For many men it's a daunting prospect if your not a club goer in the first place. And to a certain extent the club dynamic is different for a single guy and many guys don't like it. So many of the forums threads on here can tell you that. So I can to a certain extent understand to the reluctance to meet at a club if the gent is not a club goer in the first place. There may also be a fear that they may be exposed to a free market economy of single men in a club and thus traded for another guy in the club. They may see this a serious threat to the success of their meet v just meeting in a competition free zone.

Maybe you'd be better meeting guys who go to clubs alresdy or better still go to the club you want to meet at.

We've been going to pleasures for about 9 years now and have gone and met guys on the night before. As I keep saying we were hoping to get something planned in advance for my Birthday. Obviously that didn't happen, so went to see if we could find a guy there and it wasn't a great turn out and they were all older

I'm curious. Why not meet guys in a budget hotel. It would be cheaper than a club and a lot less hassle for the guy. Maybe have a social first to check you fancy each other.

It's much nicer meeting in a club and can make a whole night out of it."

Fair enough, but I think that's your problem. You are much less likely to get a young guy to come to a club for the following reasons :

1. They're expensive and young guys usually don't have much money.

2. You usually have to provide ID and young guys may be worried about anonymity?

3. There's often the hassle of applying on line which may put them off.

4. Opportunities to meet will be limited and it may be harder for attached guys to get away for late night events

5. Many young guys will find the idea of clubs intimidating

6. They may also fear the competition and that they will be dumped for someone better looking.

We're like you. We like to meet young guys and often find that guys at clubs tend to be older. Experience has shown us that the way to go is hotel meets and we have no problem meeting guys.

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By *MFunCoupleCouple (MM)
over a year ago

runcorn

We have thought about them just dont really know what they are about

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over a year ago


"Why is it whenever I contact younger single guys to join us at at club, they are wary of clubs. Clubs are not as intimidating as people think and are actually easier places to meet.

Any suggestions or is it just us that people aren't keen on?

It could be a lack of attraction to you, it could be the entry fees for single guys, or it could be these guys are having plenty of fun elsewhere

Are we really that bad? "

Would love to attend a club with you

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By *ormladMan
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Should have kept an eye out for the post . I would have happily joined you both at the club

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