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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

I have been toying with the idea of trying to become a member here, I really want to try and get into the scene and have some fun!

I was involved in a fatal car crash a few years ago and as a result I have severe anxiety and PTSD... I have lost all confidence however I want to start getting that confidence back!

My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit.

I moved to County Durham about 2 years ago and I still don’t know anyone (kind of sad) but my anxiety just stops me from taking that leap to socialise publicly, maybe socialising privately with people who stick to the golden rule “what happens at the club stays at the club” may help me gain that confidence.

Are there any couples, single males or females in here that can give me any advice? Happy to accept private messages if you wish to remain anonymous to everyone else, any help or tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hope to hear from you soon

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

call the club and speak to them..... they are very understanding people.....

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

That’s the plan at some point, just trying to find out more details before I do

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

when you you will get a tour then left with members the rests up to you, just like a pub crack on get to know people , don't just go in the chill area sitting on a phone a few weeks you will wonder why you didn't before.

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

They're great I had a fab night and I'm sure if u speak to them beforehand they will be able to advise you excellent club I'll be returning for sure xxx

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"They're great I had a fab night and I'm sure if u speak to them beforehand they will be able to advise you excellent club I'll be returning for sure xxx"

Hopefully I may see you there in the new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First off really sorry to hear about your anxiety related trauma. Mr has similar issues from a weekend where we miscarried and he lost his grandfather in the same weekend. We were terrified on our first visit but it all melted away after we got comfortable.

The dungeon has fairly low ceilings which can be a trigger for him but having so many lovely people to talk to distracted him from it and he did great and we had a lovely time, the hardest part for us is finding another free night to go lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again great advice given by all

We really have the lovliest members and the best staff ever!! (Of course I am bias and I would say that but being friendly is one of our most important bits! )xxxx

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"First off really sorry to hear about your anxiety related trauma. Mr has similar issues from a weekend where we miscarried and he lost his grandfather in the same weekend. We were terrified on our first visit but it all melted away after we got comfortable.

My Trigger is just being in social groups, I think came from having to deal with police, insurers, solicitors etc etc I just shut down and closed myself of and have created my own safe little bubble which I am trying so hard to burst.

Thankyou for reaching out and sharing your story

, makes me more determined to go and meet new people

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

You already have this very same post going and lots of people (including have give you lots of good advice) the last post was only 2 hrs ago

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"You already have this very same post going and lots of people (including have give you lots of good advice) the last post was only 2 hrs ago "

Sorry not following what u mean?

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

You have the same post up twice

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"You have the same post up twice "

Yea I think I put one in the wrong room, plus it’s always nice to have as much advice as possible about these things

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By *eBornGemini OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington

"You have the same post up twice "

Also the last post wasn’t 2 hours ago I replied to someone 2 hours ago... if you look they were posted a day or 2 ago at similar times, I’m very new to this lol please go easy on me

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