FabSwingers.com forum: Clear intentions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was thinking maybe clubs could give patrons a way to identify to others whether they are willing to play with others or not. Like a green wristband to open play, yellow for not too sure and red for nah we just keeping to ourselves. Thoughts?

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It’s been done ... it’s quite complicated IMO

Why can’t you just chat to people & find out what they want?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a chatter box I can talk to anyone lol. I just red where some people felt Chams was a bit clicky on a Saturday, probably if people were them it would give admirers more of a inclination to go initiate a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a chatter box I can talk to anyone lol. I just red where some people felt Chams was a bit clicky on a Saturday, probably if people were them it would give admirers more of a inclination to go initiate a conversation "

I quite agree with the clique'y feel to some clubs, but it sort of makes sense. Most of these women are half naked and want to be around a circle of trust.

I also think it depends on the event in question at the club. At a greedy girls night I'd assume most women's intentions are clear. Walking up to them to ask though is tantamount to asking if she will sleep with you.

In that regard I'd like to think the women would want to keep their options open.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

They do this sometimes at a club we attend,but just cos someone has a band on to say they are open to play dose not mean they will want to play with everyone or anyone

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They do this sometimes at a club we attend,but just cos someone has a band on to say they are open to play dose not mean they will want to play with everyone or anyone "

Most definitely agree, but it sparks conversations

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I've been to a few nights that did something along those lines. I was concerned at first that the people with red 'just here to chat' wristbands might get left out, but that didn't seem to happen. It's a very social club, so perhaps that helped.

As people pointed out, 'here to play' doesn't necessarily mean 'here to play with you'. You still need to talk! But it can help the new and nervous to approach people, and it can make the non-players more comfortable with being approached, knowing that they won't be getting an endless stream of invitations all night.

I don't think I'd want normal club nights to work like that - they're fine as they are. But there's room for special nights occasionally.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"They do this sometimes at a club we attend,but just cos someone has a band on to say they are open to play dose not mean they will want to play with everyone or anyone

Most definitely agree, but it sparks conversations "

Or you could talk to them anyway? I never really know how I'm feeling until I get there and I might change my mind throughout the night so I wouldn't bother with wristbands even if they were on offer.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I honestly think it's just a lazy way for people to get laid.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We say this all the time!!!

There needs to be a dress code to save confusion. Personally we go to play but find that a small percentage actually play. We thought it was us but having spoken to others its definitely not lol.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Maybe on the left wrist have a number from one to ten which is your rating about how attractive you are.

And on your right wrist a number from one to ten indicating your minimum standard of someone to play with them.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

We say this all the time!!!

There needs to be a dress code to save confusion. Personally we go to play but find that a small percentage actually play. We thought it was us but having spoken to others its definitely not lol."

A dress code?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always thought this was a brilliant idea.

I don't play in clubs and am often reluctant to strike up conversation with people incase they think I'm interested in more than just chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly think it's just a lazy way for people to get laid."

Why people can’t just ask is beyond us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking maybe clubs could give patrons a way to identify to others whether they are willing to play with others or not. Like a green wristband to open play, yellow for not too sure and red for nah we just keeping to ourselves. Thoughts?"
and upon entry in permanent fluorescent marker have your names written on foreheads so even in darkroom you can find your partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

I've approached ladies who are have been very rude I've asked if they wanted to play, to the point I got repoted for "harassment" luckily I'm a regular and have a good relationship with the club so they know I'm not like that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Sort of depends though..

As a single guy I shouldn't be obliged to play with women I'm not attracted to the same way women aren't. Sometimes you just don't find anyone that meets your fancy or the vibe of the night throws you off

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I went to the club for quite a few years with no intention to play due to health issues, it's got fuck all to do with anyone else if I'm playing and if someone was to tell me I shouldn't be there if I wasn't playing, I'd very politely tell them to fuck off and mibd their own business.

To the couple who say you approach women and they are rude, this has happened more than once? Try looking at how you're approaching people. I had a couple tell me I shouldn't be there if I wasn't going to play with them, I told them to feck off and go hassle someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a voyeur. For years I very much enjoyed going to clubs to socialise and watch.

I don't think I have any less right to be there than those who go actively to seek sex.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm a voyeur. For years I very much enjoyed going to clubs to socialise and watch.

I don't think I have any less right to be there than those who go actively to seek sex."

I think this is what puts single women off going, the expectations that you will play, I especially find this from couples, single men don't seem to be as pushy.

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I went to the club for quite a few years with no intention to play due to health issues, it's got fuck all to do with anyone else if I'm playing and if someone was to tell me I shouldn't be there if I wasn't playing, I'd very politely tell them to fuck off and mibd their own business.

This.

I go to get my own freak on not give the single guys value for their entry fee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

There is such a thing as voyerism.

Some people only play as couples.

Gay or trans may not want to play with certain people.

Some have same sex fun.

Some people like pain/BDSM but don't have sex.

There are many reasons why someone might not play with you but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed in a club

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I could wear a green wristband to say I'm up for meeting, however becomes difficult if I don't want to play with you!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

If I go to a club I might play or I might not. But that decision is up to me and the idea that I shouldn't be there unless I am going to play is ridiculous.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

First timers would feel under a lot of pressure if they thought couples there feel there’s an obligation to play. That attitude would put me off going as a newbie. I’m more experienced now and have attended a club and a party where I didn’t play because no one tickled my fancy. I still had fun socialising and made a good friend that way.

If a single guy posted here or attended a club and said that women shouldn’t attend unless they intend to play, he would be shot down.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

If a single guy posted here or attended a club and said that women shouldn’t attend unless they intend to play, he would be shot down. "

Exactly! This is why I won't attend Saturdays, alot of entitled couples that think I have to play with them because I dared to venture out.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I get what ur saying. We go but only the lady plays. I may join in but I do not play with anyone but her. I like the wristband idea. Saves some embarrassnent but tbh sometimes even the wristband can't be fool-proof as if no mutual attraction there would be no play anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

There is such a thing as voyerism.

Some people only play as couples.

Gay or trans may not want to play with certain people.

Some have same sex fun.

Some people like pain/BDSM but don't have sex.

There are many reasons why someone might not play with you but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed in a club"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I go to a club I might play or I might not. But that decision is up to me and the idea that I shouldn't be there unless I am going to play is ridiculous.

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over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas..."

So glad it's not just us.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us."

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended? "

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated."

You did say further up that you think if someone isn't playing they shouldn't go.

What if there's nobody they are attracted to? They should fuck someone anyway to justify their attendance?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"I've always thought this was a brilliant idea.

I don't play in clubs and am often reluctant to strike up conversation with people incase they think I'm interested in more than just chat."

You don't play in clubs and you dint strike up conversations. Why do you go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching the open play areas is one of my favorite things to do in clubs. I imagine men would hate to have a woman there who turned down their advances at their horniest but I quite understand why they would want to be there too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated.

You did say further up that you think if someone isn't playing they shouldn't go.

What if there's nobody they are attracted to? They should fuck someone anyway to justify their attendance?"

Well I wouldn't go to Costa and not have a coffee.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Totally agree with this?? as long as people are coming along to have fun however they define it then that’s cool by me. As long as you don’t hurt or upset yourself or anyone else, knock yourself out. I have visited clubs just because I enjoy the atmosphere and naughtiness of the occasion without an intention to play. On those occasions Should I be highly turned on by someone or something I will often join in, if permitted, otherwise I am just happy to be there and watch xx

"I'm a voyeur. For years I very much enjoyed going to clubs to socialise and watch.

I don't think I have any less right to be there than those who go actively to seek sex."

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated.

You did say further up that you think if someone isn't playing they shouldn't go.

What if there's nobody they are attracted to? They should fuck someone anyway to justify their attendance?

Well I wouldn't go to Costa and not have a coffee. "

You might go for hot chocolate or a piece of cake, costa isn't only for people who like coffee.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Also this if I’m not attracted to you (or visa versa) I wouldn’t want to play, even if I’m at the club looking to play. Sex is 90% between the ears (or am I doing it wrong?) and if the buzzer doesn’t go off my buttons haven’t been pressed.

And attraction is a bugger, it’s not just how someone looks, it’s just something that happens and (like some other things) it’s hard to put your finger on.

"I could wear a green wristband to say I'm up for meeting, however becomes difficult if I don't want to play with you!"

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Or if there was nakedness, flirting and random ducking going on.

Not a coffee lover but Costa Getyerkitoff would certainly be my cup of tea

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated.

You did say further up that you think if someone isn't playing they shouldn't go.

What if there's nobody they are attracted to? They should fuck someone anyway to justify their attendance?

Well I wouldn't go to Costa and not have a coffee.

You might go for hot chocolate or a piece of cake, costa isn't only for people who like coffee. "

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

At the moment we enjoy the atmosphere of the club. We enjoy chatting, watching, the possibility of being watched, a sense of liberation that you can’t obtain from attending other establishments and the uncertain excitement that we may push our boundaries a little bit further. We still haven’t played with anyone else in the club and we might not but it doesn’t mean that we can’t enjoy the experience in our own way without feeling pressurised into going further than we want to.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

We're planning on going to our local club with our cross dressing friend so he has somewhere safe and welcoming to be comfortable.

Also the spa. I totally go for the sauna and hot tub, lol.

And I take a long time to get used to somewhere new and be comfortable, never mind comfortable to have sex there!

Saying you have to have sex if you go is definitely not an attitude I find considerate of others and their reasons for going. I wouldn't go if that was the attitude of the club.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"From limited experience pov, we've enjoyed finding out more about people through having to speak to them. The information you garner from them about their position and how they feel about you is a huge part of keeping your feet on the ground.

The only thing about club meets for us is the fact that there is a chance for us to get to know people. A result of this is we all felt it wasn't something that we wanted to rush into but have a connected evening with each other off site. We still both got into fucking another couple that we met later in the evening.

So yes there is the fuckery on the night but not through some form of coding, which we feel takes away the networking opportunity for more intimate occasions with people who we have connected with.

Still love the goodbye for now kiss before we leave and sort out a suitable time for us to have a less rushed evening.

But that's just us. "

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"We're planning on going to our local club with our cross dressing friend so he has somewhere safe and welcoming to be comfortable.

Also the spa. I totally go for the sauna and hot tub, lol.

And I take a long time to get used to somewhere new and be comfortable, never mind comfortable to have sex there!

Saying you have to have sex if you go is definitely not an attitude I find considerate of others and their reasons for going. I wouldn't go if that was the attitude of the club."

Luckily that's not the attitude in most clubs, just some people who think that the only way to swing is their way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly think it's just a lazy way for people to get laid."

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"We're planning on going to our local club with our cross dressing friend so he has somewhere safe and welcoming to be comfortable.

Also the spa. I totally go for the sauna and hot tub, lol.

And I take a long time to get used to somewhere new and be comfortable, never mind comfortable to have sex there!

Saying you have to have sex if you go is definitely not an attitude I find considerate of others and their reasons for going. I wouldn't go if that was the attitude of the club."

That is not the attitude of any club, just a very small minority of people that attend. Most people realise that swinging is about meeting others, having a good time, relaxing and socialising and then watching or being watched if that is what you want. Playing with others if there is mutual attraction.

It is not about going to have sex with someone just for the sake of it .

Don't let this " if you attend a club, you should have sex" attitude put you off.

In club's no means no and there should be absolutely no pressure.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"We're planning on going to our local club with our cross dressing friend so he has somewhere safe and welcoming to be comfortable.

Also the spa. I totally go for the sauna and hot tub, lol.

And I take a long time to get used to somewhere new and be comfortable, never mind comfortable to have sex there!

Saying you have to have sex if you go is definitely not an attitude I find considerate of others and their reasons for going. I wouldn't go if that was the attitude of the club.

It is not about going to have sex with someone just for the sake of it .

Don't let this " if you attend a club, you should have sex" attitude put you off.

In club's no means no and there should be absolutely no pressure. "

It's not surprising that some people are put off going when there are people saying you shouldn't go if you don't play.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m been to a club a few times and developed a fool proof way to see if people are playing..... no wristband needed.....

Just make eye contact and start talking to them ....

Works every time xxxxx

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO "

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?"

Agreed, people need to use their social skills and common sense.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?

Agreed, people need to use their social skills and common sense."

To be fair, I will literally talk to anyone and everyone, I know people can be shy but if you can't talk to people how on earth will you fuck them?

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

When we first started going to Clubs, we tended to hold back and wait for people to talk to us. When they did we assumed they just wanted a chat! In one Club, the owner suggested single guys would be put off as M is tall and broad shouldered and therefore intimidating - M couldn’t stop laughing!

Nobody knows why anyone else is there, just make eye contact, chat to people, don’t pressure them or monopolise them and see how it goes. Sometimes we have met great couples or singles, sometimes we’ve just fooled around on our own & sometimes we’ve headed home (or to a hotel) as we didn’t feel the vibe.

But every time we have had a great evening and mostly met lovely people

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?

Agreed, people need to use their social skills and common sense.

To be fair, I will literally talk to anyone and everyone, I know people can be shy but if you can't talk to people how on earth will you fuck them? "

Clearly we have very different styles of swinging.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?

Agreed, people need to use their social skills and common sense.

To be fair, I will literally talk to anyone and everyone, I know people can be shy but if you can't talk to people how on earth will you fuck them?

Clearly we have very different styles of swinging. "

Very clear. I like to actually talk to people and not rely on a band around their wrist.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Dislike the traffic light system unless it's for a fun theme night or something.

Talk to people. Make friends. Find out if / how they play.

Also massively disagree with the mindset of "don't go if you aren't playing."

Swinging is a lifestyle. It's social. It's fun.

Maybe someone doesn't want to play? Maybe they're a voyeur?

Maybe there's no one they're attracted to?

Maybe they felt like playing but changed their mind?

It doesn't matter. Go to the club, meet people, be social, play, or don't play, but have fun.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"At the end of the day people go for different reasons everyone is welcome.

But we think a code would be perfect! If only just to avoid confusion and possible embarrassment on both sides.

MrsXOXO

But just because you're wearing a green wrist band it doesn't mean you'll play with everyone so that could be awkward.

People just need to talk to other people, when did we need wristbands to be friendly?

Agreed, people need to use their social skills and common sense.

To be fair, I will literally talk to anyone and everyone, I know people can be shy but if you can't talk to people how on earth will you fuck them?

Clearly we have very different styles of swinging.

Very clear. I like to actually talk to people and not rely on a band around their wrist. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're planning on going to our local club with our cross dressing friend so he has somewhere safe and welcoming to be comfortable.

Also the spa. I totally go for the sauna and hot tub, lol.

And I take a long time to get used to somewhere new and be comfortable, never mind comfortable to have sex there!

Saying you have to have sex if you go is definitely not an attitude I find considerate of others and their reasons for going. I wouldn't go if that was the attitude of the club."

These places are meant to be fun, safe spaces. If you can only go if you're going to have sex (even with someone you don't fancy) you're basically a free prostitute imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at a club which had a "meet the ladies" segment at the beginning. Each guy single or coupled got to speak to each of the ladies for at least a minute.

That helped a lot because you got to ask what their plans for the evening were.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"I was at a club which had a "meet the ladies" segment at the beginning. Each guy single or coupled got to speak to each of the ladies for at least a minute.

That helped a lot because you got to ask what their plans for the evening were. "

Hopefully a one off for a theme night of some sort?

I don't like the sound of it. It feels wrong to me, and I can't quite word how.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I can't understand why so many people need help to go and talk to people they want to have sex with, I mean seriously, what happened to social skills?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't understand why so many people need help to go and talk to people they want to have sex with, I mean seriously, what happened to social skills? "

Nerves probably. I know personally I'm still newish to clubs so find it difficult to start a conversation, but I'm always polite and will say hello as I walk past.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I can't understand why so many people need help to go and talk to people they want to have sex with, I mean seriously, what happened to social skills?

Nerves probably. I know personally I'm still newish to clubs so find it difficult to start a conversation, but I'm always polite and will say hello as I walk past. "

That's more than alot of people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe on the left wrist have a number from one to ten which is your rating about how attractive you are.

And on your right wrist a number from one to ten indicating your minimum standard of someone to play with them. "

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Maybe on the left wrist have a number from one to ten which is your rating about how attractive you are.

And on your right wrist a number from one to ten indicating your minimum standard of someone to play with them. "

Facetiousness is neither productive nor attractive

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I was at a club which had a "meet the ladies" segment at the beginning. Each guy single or coupled got to speak to each of the ladies for at least a minute.

That helped a lot because you got to ask what their plans for the evening were. "

so it was a condition of attending that you had to be wheeled round to converse with everyone even people you weren't interested in? who timed the minute? did they ring a bell at the end of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was at a club which had a "meet the ladies" segment at the beginning. Each guy single or coupled got to speak to each of the ladies for at least a minute.

That helped a lot because you got to ask what their plans for the evening were.

so it was a condition of attending that you had to be wheeled round to converse with everyone even people you weren't interested in? who timed the minute? did they ring a bell at the end of it? "

It was a cougars and cubs event, so I guess the cougars wanted to meet the cub. The ladies seemed to be fine with it, they were the ones running the show.

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I was at a club which had a "meet the ladies" segment at the beginning. Each guy single or coupled got to speak to each of the ladies for at least a minute.

That helped a lot because you got to ask what their plans for the evening were.

so it was a condition of attending that you had to be wheeled round to converse with everyone even people you weren't interested in? who timed the minute? did they ring a bell at the end of it?

It was a cougars and cubs event, so I guess the cougars wanted to meet the cub. The ladies seemed to be fine with it, they were the ones running the show.

fair enough, not our dynamic so wouldn't end up in that situation. Thanks for the clarification,was thinking it would be a club or a night to cross off our list...

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

If a single guy posted here or attended a club and said that women shouldn’t attend unless they intend to play, he would be shot down. "

Exactly!

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We went to our regular club Wednesday and they had different colour towels for couples, single guys and single ladies which we thought was a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really a fan of the wrist band idea.

I did attend a club few years back and they had a band system for that night to trial it.

I was still asked several times if I was up for playing yet I had a red band on that evening.

It is a lot easier to just strike up a conversation and see what peoples intentions are.

Me and my partner mainly socialise in clubs and see what happens, if no one takes out fancy then that's just what happens.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Can you imagine the whiny posts on here:

She wouldn't play with me but she was wearing a green armband, fucking time waster.

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you imagine the whiny posts on here:

She wouldn't play with me but she was wearing a green armband, fucking time waster.

Lol"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Personally we don't you should go to a club if you don't intend on playing. We don't see the point.

We couldn't think of anything worse then watching people play and not join in.

Tend to agree with this, we go to clubs to play, can’t see the point of going if you are not and please if you are not playing stay away from the open play areas...

So glad it's not just us.

So when I had a medical condition that stopped me playing, I shouldn't have attended?

I never said that. But Personally no I wouldn't of gone, but clubs make me so horny I just wanna explode with excitement. So not being able to play would me sexually frustrated.

You did say further up that you think if someone isn't playing they shouldn't go.

What if there's nobody they are attracted to? They should fuck someone anyway to justify their attendance?

Well I wouldn't go to Costa and not have a coffee. "

I would I can't drink the stuff. I believe they do tea as well

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