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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

me and my partner are new to the scene. we have talked long and hard over the do's and donts and what we are both comfortable with and have agreed to have woman only join us as miss is bi and mr is straight so it works for both of us. we have been to a club twice and dont seem to see many single females and get stuck on how to approach woman who are part of a couple. any advice ??????

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"me and my partner are new to the scene. we have talked long and hard over the do's and donts and what we are both comfortable with and have agreed to have woman only join us as miss is bi and mr is straight so it works for both of us. we have been to a club twice and dont seem to see many single females and get stuck on how to approach woman who are part of a couple. any advice ??????"

Alot of couples want to swap, not just send the female off with a couple.

As far as single women go, what would make them want to choose you above all the other couples and single males on offer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"me and my partner are new to the scene. we have talked long and hard over the do's and donts and what we are both comfortable with and have agreed to have woman only join us as miss is bi and mr is straight so it works for both of us. we have been to a club twice and dont seem to see many single females and get stuck on how to approach woman who are part of a couple. any advice ??????

Alot of couples want to swap, not just send the female off with a couple.

As far as single women go, what would make them want to choose you above all the other couples and single males on offer? "

thanks for the advice

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I would suggest trying different nights at clubs & get to know people. Don’t approach people simply to ask them to play - get chatting to people, get to know what they are looking for. If you make it all about what YOU want, you won’t get anywhere.

Simple answer is you never know until you start chatting. Some couples play as singles, others only play together. But bear in mind that just about everyone is looking for the elusive unicorn female, so don’t just expect to walk into a club & find one straight away!

Be yourselves, socialise, talk to people ... and take it from there!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You and everyone else in here. Unfortunately single females are in the minority. Good luck x

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We would be happy for an approach from you both even if it was just Mrs you were interested in for a one off scenario so I’m sure others would

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By *hMyGawdCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

What would you be offering to the male half of a couple you approached?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Would the male half be playing with the single female as well or female half of the other couple, as in swapping? Or is this just a show for the male half? Would your female partner be swapping? Just a few scenarios here to consider, perhaps put your preffered one(s) on your profile when you next update so people know what you are looking for. Good luck. X

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

As a bi female couple where the women will play alone occasionally we arent against it. However, it seems that's all most couples want is for a female.

I mean sure we'd love threesome where we can both spoil the single lady. But it's so hard to come by!!

In clubs its tricky because the single lady may well be straight.

Also what I find anyone and I may sound harsh here. Couples expect the lady of another couple to play alone but they wont do the same!! To me it's selfish.

You need to define what play you want will both of you play? Will it be a watching thing for the Male. I for one don't like this I like to play with both I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would suggest trying different nights at clubs & get to know people. Don’t approach people simply to ask them to play - get chatting to people, get to know what they are looking for. If you make it all about what YOU want, you won’t get anywhere.

Simple answer is you never know until you start chatting. Some couples play as singles, others only play together. But bear in mind that just about everyone is looking for the elusive unicorn female, so don’t just expect to walk into a club & find one straight away!

Be yourselves, socialise, talk to people ... and take it from there!

Good luck! "

thank you we will keep this in mind x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You and everyone else in here. Unfortunately single females are in the minority. Good luck x"
thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would be happy for an approach from you both even if it was just Mrs you were interested in for a one off scenario so I’m sure others would"

thank you, we will be in contact x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We would be happy for an approach from you both even if it was just Mrs you were interested in for a one off scenario so I’m sure others would"

thank you, we will be in contact x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a bi female couple where the women will play alone occasionally we arent against it. However, it seems that's all most couples want is for a female.

I mean sure we'd love threesome where we can both spoil the single lady. But it's so hard to come by!!

In clubs its tricky because the single lady may well be straight.

Also what I find anyone and I may sound harsh here. Couples expect the lady of another couple to play alone but they wont do the same!! To me it's selfish.

You need to define what play you want will both of you play? Will it be a watching thing for the Male. I for one don't like this I like to play with both I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey I'm afraid.

"

yes i understand your point. as we stated we are new to the scene and are trying to find out what works for us and others. were are looking for a woman single or as from a couple to join us. we understand that if a woman is part of a couple there is the male to think about and are ok with him playing with his partner at the same time or being there while she joins us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a bi female couple where the women will play alone occasionally we arent against it. However, it seems that's all most couples want is for a female.

I mean sure we'd love threesome where we can both spoil the single lady. But it's so hard to come by!!

In clubs its tricky because the single lady may well be straight.

Also what I find anyone and I may sound harsh here. Couples expect the lady of another couple to play alone but they wont do the same!! To me it's selfish.

You need to define what play you want will both of you play? Will it be a watching thing for the Male. I for one don't like this I like to play with both I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey I'm afraid.

"

yes i understand your point. as we stated we are new to the scene and are trying to find out what works for us and others. were are looking for a woman single or as from a couple to join us. we understand that if a woman is part of a couple there is the male to think about and are ok with him playing with his partner at the same time or being there while she joins us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would the male half be playing with the single female as well or female half of the other couple, as in swapping? Or is this just a show for the male half? Would your female partner be swapping? Just a few scenarios here to consider, perhaps put your preffered one(s) on your profile when you next update so people know what you are looking for. Good luck. X"

we are looking for a female to join us both as in a threesome. if the female is part of a couple its not a issue if her partner is present or evan joins in with just his partner as she plays with us

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"As a bi female couple where the women will play alone occasionally we arent against it. However, it seems that's all most couples want is for a female.

I mean sure we'd love threesome where we can both spoil the single lady. But it's so hard to come by!!

In clubs its tricky because the single lady may well be straight.

Also what I find anyone and I may sound harsh here. Couples expect the lady of another couple to play alone but they wont do the same!! To me it's selfish.

You need to define what play you want will both of you play? Will it be a watching thing for the Male. I for one don't like this I like to play with both I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey I'm afraid.

yes i understand your point. as we stated we are new to the scene and are trying to find out what works for us and others. were are looking for a woman single or as from a couple to join us. we understand that if a woman is part of a couple there is the male to think about and are ok with him playing with his partner at the same time or being there while she joins us"

I'm not sure any male half of a couple would be happy to have to watch whilst the other male gets to play with both women!! Unless of course hes a cuck then it's possible he might. I wouldnt see that as fair at all.

Unfortunately most couples these days just seem to want to find a bi female which makes it very hard indeed. We're a full swap couple and we struggle to find meets.

Being new to the scene I understand and maybe you need to talk out the finer points of it. Just go with the flow and see what happens.

We were the odd couple who just decided to go to the biggest party we could find last NYE and jump in head first... literally we had an orgy haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a bi female couple where the women will play alone occasionally we arent against it. However, it seems that's all most couples want is for a female.

I mean sure we'd love threesome where we can both spoil the single lady. But it's so hard to come by!!

In clubs its tricky because the single lady may well be straight.

Also what I find anyone and I may sound harsh here. Couples expect the lady of another couple to play alone but they wont do the same!! To me it's selfish.

You need to define what play you want will both of you play? Will it be a watching thing for the Male. I for one don't like this I like to play with both I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey I'm afraid.

yes i understand your point. as we stated we are new to the scene and are trying to find out what works for us and others. were are looking for a woman single or as from a couple to join us. we understand that if a woman is part of a couple there is the male to think about and are ok with him playing with his partner at the same time or being there while she joins us

I'm not sure any male half of a couple would be happy to have to watch whilst the other male gets to play with both women!! Unless of course hes a cuck then it's possible he might. I wouldnt see that as fair at all.

Unfortunately most couples these days just seem to want to find a bi female which makes it very hard indeed. We're a full swap couple and we struggle to find meets.

Being new to the scene I understand and maybe you need to talk out the finer points of it. Just go with the flow and see what happens.

We were the odd couple who just decided to go to the biggest party we could find last NYE and jump in head first... literally we had an orgy haha

"

i did state that we are looking for a woman to join us being single or as part of a couple not soley looking for a woman who is part of a couple and i did also state that if the woman was part if a couple we wouldn't mind him getting involved aslong as he stick to just his partner so we wouldnt expect the male to just sit and watch unless he wanted to.

you also said most couples unfortunately want to find bi woman why is it unfortunate??

and as i said in the original post we have spoke alot about going to clubs and coming on this site and a woman to join us is what we want i dont see that as a bad/greedy/negative thing its just what we want and we are not forcing any one to join us its just what we are looking for

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