FabSwingers.com forum: First timers advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as well as joining here to look for a guy me and the hubby had also discussed going to a club to perhaps try our hand at it. We don’t know much about what goes on and are abit nervous to go without knowing what to expect so if anyone could answer our questions we have or provide some extra advice it would be appreciated!!

We love the thought of watching others having sex and indeed being watched while we have sex, is this something that happens?

What are the men like that go there? Is it typically older men or is there some young eye candy? I’m quite picky and have to be attracted to even consider doing anything so I’m abit nervous thinking there won’t be anyone good looking there

What should be worn by myself and the hubby?

What sort of night would be best as they seem to have different themes. It would be just me playing with another man

We was thinking it would probably be the vanilla alternative as it’s the only one we’ve actually passed and know of, is this a good place for a first time or should we look elsewhere?

If there’s any other advice you can think of that might help us as newbies feel free to let us know

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

I`ll try and answer roughly in the order you`ve asked questions in!

Firstly, what happens at a club and protocol. What happens is up to you and if you include someone else, them too! It`s fine to watch if they`re in a "public" area. It follows that you can put on a show for others to watch as well. In short, you have your rules/limits and when including others make them clear before hand.

Clothing. Look at the club`s website. They will guide you on what to wear. Clubs are roughly guided into spa/dress down and night club style. For the ladies at either style of club this can mean a sexy dress as daring as you wish going down to lingerie/towel/topless/naked at spa type clubs. For the men, smart trousers/shirt/shoes for night club style clubs, underwear/shorts/towel/naked at spa clubs.

As you are looking for another man to join you, you will be in demand! There will be a large range of ages at all clubs, both male and female. Just make sure you are not going on couples only nights!

VA gets lots of good reviews so a good choice for "newbies" Tell the club this is your first ever visit to a club and they will help you out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what was said above is spot on. the only thing we would add is have a look at what type of club best suits you. We looked at there sites and also the reviews on fab. We have learnt between us what we want in terms of a club and everyone wants something different.we absolutely love vanilla and although it's by no means the closest for us,it's the best atmosphere and mood for us x

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By *rent Bridge SwingersCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"So as well as joining here to look for a guy me and the hubby had also discussed going to a club to perhaps try our hand at it. We don’t know much about what goes on and are abit nervous to go without knowing what to expect so if anyone could answer our questions we have or provide some extra advice it would be appreciated!!

We love the thought of watching others having sex and indeed being watched while we have sex, is this something that happens?

What should be worn by myself and the hubby?

What sort of night would be best as they seem to have different themes. It would be just me playing with another man

We was thinking it would probably be the vanilla alternative as it’s the only one we’ve actually passed and know of, is this a good place for a first time or should we look elsewhere?

If there’s any other advice you can think of that might help us as newbies feel free to let us know

Every club is different so it’s worth lots at the website x Purple Mamba Club does Newbie Couples Workshops for the curious, in terms of single gents all are interviewed(not all are accepted for membership, ages range from students/21s year olds to the mature, and yes, attractiveness is subjective but it tends to have attractive people!) Couples watching others is the norm so don’t worry about that!

All clue have different dress codes so check out their websites.

It’s very much a case of looking at events/ reviews to see what suits,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xtasia in the West Midlands have an ffff night on 6th September. This is a guest list event and is free to enter and as your a couple you won't require club membership so it's s great way to experience a club before deciding to splash the cash and then finding out it's not for you.

There are rooms on site to stay over but they fill up quickly but there are four hotels within a mile of the club one being next door and lots of people will be staying there

All the details are on the forum under ffff. This night is for singles and couples and gets very busy so lots of sexy people will be there. Highly recommended for your first experience

Hope this helps.

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By *ibertyeliteCouple
over a year ago

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Welcome to come and try our club

We offer 1st time visits as guests so no membership required on 1st visit.

We have a lovely spa play room and lockable private rooms aswell xxx

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Good advice on here. We would add go to a Club assuming nothing will happen, maybe just play on your own if you are comfortable. We found trying a few different Clubs helped as it meant we were clearer on what we wanted and became more comfortable and relaxed! Clubs are not scary, they are exciting, can be highly erotic and are always fun. Enjoy

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