FabSwingers.com forum: Dress down rules

By *eastAndTheHarlot OP Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Just seen an event that requires you to dress down from the second you arrive even though its in a club with no dress down rules.

Got me thinking, how do you feel about being made to dress down?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's the easiest thing to do

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

Arrive and strip off, why not.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

If it’s a heavy play event, I don’t see why you wouldn’t. I’ve gone to RAW at Townhouse a couple of times already dressed down, with just a coat over the top.

Private hire & guest list events don’t always follow a clubs regular dress code

If you don’t want to dress down on arrival, avoid the clubs / events that require it! Simples!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

We genrally like dress down. Feels a lot more comfortable, free and breaks down barriers between people. Plus if you play its just so much easier than getting undressed then dressed.

As to how to feel about being made to, well were never made to do anything. We stick by the rules of the event/club. If we we're not happy about rules we wouldn't attend.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I prefer it tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer dress down and avoid clubs that aren't dress down

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I prefer it. Instead of me sitting there plucking up the courage to do it. Once I'm dressed down I'm fine x

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I like to get undressed when I want to. I like to arrive somewhere and chill for a while and then dress down when I feel ready. The idea of wandering about in skimpy undies or a towel that barely covers my bits doesn't appeal.

But it would be boring if we all liked the same

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"We genrally like dress down. Feels a lot more comfortable, free and breaks down barriers between people. Plus if you play its just so much easier than getting undressed then dressed.

As to how to feel about being made to, well were never made to do anything. We stick by the rules of the event/club. If we we're not happy about rules we wouldn't attend."

I don’t think there are clubs that expect you to remain dressed & you have to get undressed every time you play.

You generally have a choice between ‘dress down on arrival’ or ‘dress down when you’re ready’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what's meant by dress down? underwear?

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By *lwenWoman
over a year ago

De12 area

"what's meant by dress down? underwear?"

Either underwear or a towel or naked..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to dress down events it's no bother to us.

If people don't like the idea of dress down find other events

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I like to change 3 or 4 times in the evening. Daytime street clothes (casual) to something a bit more evening glam for chatting in the bar, to bikini for hot tub (yes most people do hot tub naked, but i need something to keep my boobs in), to fancy lingerie set for play, to something for going home in (often just silk PJs under my coat). But if it's a very raunchy event i don't have any problem going straight from daytime to play wear...

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By *ude boy 2017Man
over a year ago

Bolton

I always prefer dress down either towel or totally nude never had a issue with either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer dress down ...

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

I work all week in a uniform so weekends are my playdays and dress days so I like to get dressed to impress and then when I've had my little flirt and chatted to people go get dressed down into more sexy attire ....so no clubs that force me to dress down straight away would be last on my list to visit x

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I prefer to be able to mingle a bit first before dressing down, but I will dress down immediately if the event requires it. It wouldn’t put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much prefer this! What's not to like?! And so much easier to play...and hot tub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer dress down clubs and tend to avoid those that aren’t although I do make exceptions.

The one thing I don’t like is when you don’t have to dress down in bar but do in the play rooms but you have to walk through the bar to get to the play rooms - wish they would make it completely dress down.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I love to dress down. Always gets me in the mood

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By *il73Woman
over a year ago

Hyde

Love it!

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By *ude boy 2017Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Been to one club and dress down was totally nude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it, man why am I the only one to say it lol

I like to make an effort when I go to a club look nice, might as well come in a tracksuit and 97's if that's the case

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We prefer dressdown straight away or at least a set time, some clubs have a dressdown tune. Non dressdown carrying clothes around from playrooms is annoying and people in clothes wandering around play areas is kinda seedy in our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... absolutely this.... really hate fully dressed men walking round playrooms ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to be naked so its a yes from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dress down or naked.. love it

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

That would put me off tbh

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"We genrally like dress down. Feels a lot more comfortable, free and breaks down barriers between people. Plus if you play its just so much easier than getting undressed then dressed.

As to how to feel about being made to, well were never made to do anything. We stick by the rules of the event/club. If we we're not happy about rules we wouldn't attend.

I don’t think there are clubs that expect you to remain dressed & you have to get undressed every time you play.

You generally have a choice between ‘dress down on arrival’ or ‘dress down when you’re ready’

No, not enforced as such. But I've been a couple of clubs where I'm the only male who is dressed down returning from the play areas. Those sort of clubs seem far more the norm for women to dress down and men fully clothed in the social areas. Not that I or my partner care about me being the only one dressed down, I like to be comfortable and just do my thing. But I've seen in such clubs plenty of times a huge jumble of clothes on the floor of the group play area and then once things have finished the mad scramble to find the right clothes and get dressed again.

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By *ude boy 2017Man
over a year ago

Bolton

Been on days when no towels allowed every one nude

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

K here. I love being naked!! But I'm not sure even I would like to strip straight away it usually takes me a couple of hours. But underwear I could do.

Never been anywhere as of yet where we've had to dress down

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

It's towels or naked for us the whole time....much prefer it.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Just seen an event that requires you to dress down from the second you arrive even though its in a club with no dress down rules.

Got me thinking, how do you feel about being made to dress down?"

We regularly go to clubs in Germany and Holland where (with only very few exceptions) dress down from minute one is compulsory, and that is our preference.

We also visit clubs in Spain where there is little if any dress code at all, and Cap d'Agde where the dress code for men is "smart casual" which actually means street clothes.

One of our pet hates in Spain and France are guys who hover around the play areas wearing jeans and a shirt then think that popping their cock through their zip is all that is required to join in the fun. IT ISN'T!

Because of the nature of some of the clubs in Cap it is a bit more difficult, but in Spain anyone who tries it with us gets a very firm "Con ropa NO".

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We prefer dress down. I’m (the Mrs) more comfortable dressed down and feel my sexiest so when I see others fully clothed watching us have fun it’s a real turn off. We tend not to invite them to play no matter how well they are dressed unless we are fully dressed ourselves. That’s one off the reasons we’ve not been to The Attic for a long time.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Just seen an event that requires you to dress down from the second you arrive even though its in a club with no dress down rules.

Got me thinking, how do you feel about being made to dress down?"

Normally I'm not keen on anyone being made to do anything. Dressing down can be a big deal for the insecure. It should be acceptable to stay fully dressed in the bar chatting with friends if that's what you want.

But rules can also be a form of permission. It's not the individual choosing to dress down, it's the rules. You get to do something you want to do while maintaining the fiction (however transparent) that you're not the kind of person who does that sort of thing.

If this is the event I think it is, the theme is "good girls who want to be bad". You wouldn't attend if you didn't deep down want to. It's for people who need that little push into actually doing it.

I get the impression that "dress down" has different meanings in different clubs. In this one it does not mean naked (there's no nudity outside the play and wet areas, and even there it isn't required). So there's no pressure to go that far.

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By *avenvalCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We agree with _exymidscouple2017 we also find guys wondering about in play areas in Street clothes very off putting.

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By *avenvalCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Love dressing down. Especially if it’s a club I’ve never visited. Adds to the anticipation and excitement.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

One thing that will say is I visited La Chambre (quite a while ago I may be different now). Others were allowed upstairs into play area fully clothed. I don’t agree with this.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"One thing that will say is I visited La Chambre (quite a while ago I may be different now). Others were allowed upstairs into play area fully clothed. I don’t agree with this. "

Ooh no. Bad.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"One thing that will say is I visited La Chambre (quite a while ago I may be different now). Others were allowed upstairs into play area fully clothed. I don’t agree with this. "

I visited LC just last year, and the only people allowed upstairs dressed were those being given 'The Tour'

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Although it`s dress down, Chams does allow ladies to wear a sexy dress. I once saw a lady wearing a shiny silver dress. I think she made herself and partner all but un-approachable, partly because of her dress and partly because all I saw them doing all evening was sitting on stools either in the bar area or in the dance room. Quite honestly, although the dress was sexy, dare I say it wasn`t sexy enough?

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I do not dress down at all. I hate it too. It puts me on edge and I enjoy the dressing up.

Even if I end up fucking I tend to keep something on ... albeit skimpy. I’m

Just more comfortable and confident that way.

If there was a club night that insisted on it. I would avoid it.

V x

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Same here, we enjoy dressing up. It’s a big part of the fun for us

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s an odd one. I know most ladies enjoy dressing up to go out (clothes not lingerie) and maybe for them wearing their sexy dress in a club will make them feel as sexy as wearing lingerie. I guess the answer is don’t go to a dress down club.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We wouldn't mind it if it was naked or underwear only, as the sight of fat men with towels round their waists is rather off putting for us

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Think Chams as its just right, you can go with the fully naked, just a towel, some form of underwear, or a really hot sexy outfit, with good changing rooms, so ability to change outfits as night progresses, the only thing they don’t allow is “normal” street clothes, and that I’d say probably applies more to men, as it’s bit harder to define “normal” for a woman, as a tight pvc dress, would be ok, but you’d equally likely see that in a normal club these days!

So for us, Chams allows the female half to get the thrill of dressing up in a sexy and naughty outfit, that ranges from a naughty dress, latex hot pants, to open boob dresses, corsets. Right down to just then at some point in night having heels and stockings on and nothing else.

I totally agree with others have a more relaxed open dress sense, is far more relaxing and normalises everyone, bit like a nudist beach, the thought of taking all your clothes off might be daunting, but actually when you get to one, being clothed actually makes you stand out and once you naked you feel less conspicuous and takes away, status and all the other things clothes can do.

Libs is good also, as again it allows for the dress to impress at start, and then something even more “impressive” as night progresses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are naturist so getting naked is not an issue for us.

If you're not keen on getting naked from the start or only comfortable with certain people seeing you naked like play partners and not happy with others seeing you naked then best not go to dress down clubs partys ect

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I do not dress down at all. I hate it too. It puts me on edge and I enjoy the dressing up.

Even if I end up fucking I tend to keep something on ... albeit skimpy. I’m

Just more comfortable and confident that way.

If there was a club night that insisted on it. I would avoid it.

V x "

It seems that ‘dress down’ can mean different things to different people too. ‘Something skimpy’ IMO is dress down - eg basque or corsets, babydoll, etc

Townhouse has a ‘dress to impress’ dress code & guests dress down when they choose to - whether that’s on arrival or later on. Dressing down is compulsory if you are upstairs in the play areas after the time that any newbie tours would take place. It’s optional in the social areas - bar, lounge, patio etc.

Obviously some events have their own rules, and fet events are different again.

As the saying goes ‘you can please some of the people some of the time ...’

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Dress down clubs are not for me, I'd rather remove my clothes in my own time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only go to dress down clubs, a towel or sarong works great for me

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Prefer dress down.

If Mrs is going to be wearing saucy lingerie, then she expects guys to be similarly dressed down, not watching in t-shirt & jeans!

(not necessarily in saucy lingerie you understand!!)

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I do not dress down at all. I hate it too. It puts me on edge and I enjoy the dressing up.

Even if I end up fucking I tend to keep something on ... albeit skimpy. I’m

Just more comfortable and confident that way.

If there was a club night that insisted on it. I would avoid it.

V x

It seems that ‘dress down’ can mean different things to different people too. ‘Something skimpy’ IMO is dress down - eg basque or corsets, babydoll, etc

Obviously some events have their own rules, and fet events are different again.

As the saying goes ‘you can please some of the people some of the time ...’

Yes think this where people get confused, and label clubs as something they not.

unless it’s a specific night that says got to be nude, most dress down clubs are as you say dress to impress! My other half would wear the same outfits to go to Chams as she would go somewhere like XTASIA, the only difference between the two clubs, is really for males, in XTASIA wandering about in a towel or your shorts isn’t allowed. And it can get a bit tiresome, and make play less spontaneous when you have to keep fetching your clothes off, and trying to find them again when you want to go and get a drink, while your female half stands about waiting as her outfit was fine for playing and going to the bar!

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