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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

So in another thread about singles’ perspectives on couples some women have said that the atmosphere can be awkward because couples can be a bit ‘funny’ around single women.

So, those of you single women who have been perhaps....not very warmly received by couples....why do you think you’ve received that attitude? Considering that you are the holy grail of straight-man/bi-woman couples on websites; and I am not being sarcastic. Why do you think this difference between talking the talk and walking the walk, so to speak?

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I’ve only been twice to a club so not overly experienced but I found the exact opposite.

I found that if I spoke to anyone, even briefly or if eye contact was made, they’d think I wanted to fuck them. I was a little bit hounded when I went. It wasn’t pleasant.

I think the only time I’d visit a club now would be as part of a group of other single girls.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I always have a great time when I go to a club as a single fem but the interest is from the single males and not much from couples though to be honest I don’t really try a lot with couples . Off to a club tomorrow so may try more with the couples there see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We love to play with singles girls at clubs or at home and seem to do ok,

Maybe we have been lucky with the girls but most we have been fortunate to play with have come back for more

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples "

Think this is why I’m wary of approaching them ....

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land


"I’ve only been twice to a club so not overly experienced but I found the exact opposite.

I found that if I spoke to anyone, even briefly or if eye contact was made, they’d think I wanted to fuck them. I was a little bit hounded when I went. It wasn’t pleasant.

I think the only time I’d visit a club now would be as part of a group of other single girls. "

Very reminiscent of my first few club experiences. It was much better going with a few gal pals.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples "

I've had this too, or they assume you want to play with them and just grab you. I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples

I've had this too, or they assume you want to play with them and just grab you. I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention. "

My dream is for another woman to join us as I know it's Ben's fantasy and would give me great pleasure. The problem is they are usually bi and want me as well so they lose interest. I've had experiences of women both single and in couples groping without asking which is annoying and they're the first to moan if a guy did it to them.

I've also spoken to female part of a couple who admits getting jealous seeing her partner with a woman and there for bi or mmf fun. This may be the problem.

Nell xxx

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By *riskyfillyCouple
over a year ago

sandbach

I’ve never experienced any malice, ill feeling or shady looks from couples.

In the past when I’ve gone to a club on my own I’ve not felt uncomfortable at all.

I may play with both m/f but will always ask all parties involved what’s okay and not. Xx

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By *riskyfillyCouple
over a year ago

sandbach


"I’ve never experienced any malice, ill feeling or shady looks from couples.

In the past when I’ve gone to a club on my own I’ve not felt uncomfortable at all.

I may play with both m/f but will always ask all parties involved what’s okay and not. Xx

Ps Also play ‘straight’ playing with the f isn’t the be all and end all . I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So in another thread about singles’ perspectives on couples some women have said that the atmosphere can be awkward because couples can be a bit ‘funny’ around single women.

So, those of you single women who have been perhaps....not very warmly received by couples....why do you think you’ve received that attitude? Considering that you are the holy grail of straight-man/bi-woman couples on websites; and I am not being sarcastic. Why do you think this difference between talking the talk and walking the walk, so to speak? "

I do chat to couples at clubs but almost never play unless the lady is very encouraging and usually with very experienced swingers. I’ve seen things go horribly wrong and unpleasant in the past when the woman wasn’t really on board with the idea but you can pick up clues of that quite easily.

You asked why there is a difference between talking the talk and walking the walk. Maybe it’s because people aren’t ready to move from the fantasy of a third person in the bed to the reality of it and the feelings that come with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only been to a club twice as a single female and was far to busy with the single guys I knew to worry about couples but have had the dirty looks from wives at a couples social I went to with an old fuck buddy. One even went into a strop because her husband spoke to me... No idea why, it was only every day conversation and as everyone was way over my age limit, I wasn't interested in them sexually anyway.

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By *riskyfillyCouple
over a year ago

sandbach


"So in another thread about singles’ perspectives on couples some women have said that the atmosphere can be awkward because couples can be a bit ‘funny’ around single women.

So, those of you single women who have been perhaps....not very warmly received by couples....why do you think you’ve received that attitude? Considering that you are the holy grail of straight-man/bi-woman couples on websites; and I am not being sarcastic. Why do you think this difference between talking the talk and walking the walk, so to speak?

I do chat to couples at clubs but almost never play unless the lady is very encouraging and usually with very experienced swingers. I’ve seen things go horribly wrong and unpleasant in the past when the woman wasn’t really on board with the idea but you can pick up clues of that quite easily.

You asked why there is a difference between talking the talk and walking the walk. Maybe it’s because people aren’t ready to move from the fantasy of a third person in the bed to the reality of it and the feelings that come with that."

Completely agree about picking up on the clues and that sometimes not all involved are on board with fantasy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples

Think this is why I’m wary of approaching them .... "

Me too, I just don’t approach and rely on chatting to singles or those I already know. I know a few lovely couples, who I really enjoy meeting, but the way I’ve been treated by many has put me off trying to get to know any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ladies really need to try the couples and single ladies party at townhouse.. these nights are for couples who want to find single ladies in a relaxed atmosphere

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I went with another single woman to xtasia on a couples night. I had always gone on mixed nights before. We had no intention on playing with couples just each other. Anyway I had never experienced anything like it before. We were proper scowled at by some woman in couples and one woman went off in a strop when her man wouldn't stop watching us. Hence the reason lots of single woman won't play with couples

I've had this too, or they assume you want to play with them and just grab you. I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention.

My dream is for another woman to join us as I know it's Ben's fantasy and would give me great pleasure. The problem is they are usually bi and want me as well so they lose interest. I've had experiences of women both single and in couples groping without asking which is annoying and they're the first to moan if a guy did it to them.

I've also spoken to female part of a couple who admits getting jealous seeing her partner with a woman and there for bi or mmf fun. This may be the problem. I looked at ur pics only 1 pic of ur husband, ur a couple! I wanted to see more and if ur looking for a straight girl u will need to let us see more of him.x

Nell xxx"

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Not long ago I had the lady of a couple looking daggers at me for going off to a playroom with a very attractive guy i'd arranged to meet there, and after he left the club i went on to play with a different guy, also very attractive, and i heard her say very loudly "looks like shes pulled again the slag" as i walked past her with him. Nobody went near them all night...didnt stop her hubby appreciating my tits on the sly though...sour faced cow

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Reading some of these comments I'm really shocked!! How couples treat single women, we aren't all like that I promise!!

We usually wait for people to approach us on the most part as not to seem pushy or rude.

I don't get at all jealous of anyone paying C attention. But tbf I get a huge amount of attention myself and a fair bit from ladies. I tend not to approach ladies first as obviously you don't know if they appreciate that not all ladies are bi like me.

We don't have clubs round here in Cornwall so only been to a couple. On the most part we find them clicky.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Mostly I've had a great time with couples and enjoyed their company.

There have been some occasions where one or the other has touched me without asking and on a few of those occasions I've had to say no thanks twice. This is a contrast to the single men I've met in clubs who've rarely touched without making it clear that's ok and very rarely more than once.

I've never felt resented that I can remember but I have felt that predatory thing - 'single woman, catch her quick!' All good generally though.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"You ladies really need to try the couples and single ladies party at townhouse.. these nights are for couples who want to find single ladies in a relaxed atmosphere "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a minefield. Some think you're beneath them, some think you're up yourself, who's straight/bi etc, jealousy or other relationship issues, making demands or assuming I will... occasionally either half of the couple assuming that they can grab me and do what they like because they're a couple and I'm only a single.

I've very rarely had it work and I do get put off by it all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Single guys are much more straightforward. Yes, some - obligatory not all men disclaimer - behave awfully. Some are wonderful. But it's easier to manage. Which is a shame, because I'm definitely bi.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"...I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention. "

Do women/couples run the same risk of expulsion/banning as men do for inappropriate behaviour?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"...I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention.

Do women/couples run the same risk of expulsion/banning as men do for inappropriate behaviour?"

Yes.

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me


"...I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention.

Do women/couples run the same risk of expulsion/banning as men do for inappropriate behaviour?

Yes. "

Yes totally women have to follow the rules the same as everybody else x

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I've been to mixed nights and couples (plus single ladies) nights at clubs. Me and my partner have always taken an interest it the dynamics going on.

We've found there tends to be more single ladies getting action on mixed nights. On couples nights not some many single ladies playing. Often if they are it's something pre arranged with a group of freinds they know. But never seen single ladies being actively shunned on a couples night, they always seem very welcome in a social sense.

The way I see it is there no great mystery why there more single ladies at mixed nights and why single ladies don't fall top of the food chain on couples nights:

I think most single ladies want to find people to connect and play with for their enjoyment. Maybe even be centre of attention. The trouble with couples are they are couples and the focus if often the sexual goals as a couple. They are the ones with the close bond and the single lady can feel a bit of an extra part or a human sex toy. As singles playing with singles is a more even ballence.

Also a lot of couples got to couples nights to play with other couples. I think people over estimate in their imagination the amount of couples who actually seek another single female to play with on her own. Lots of couple just want to play with other couples who they feel assured are likewise in a loving stable trusting relationship. For some couples wish to avoid someone who is unattached romantically or not in a loyal stable relationship, for obvious reasons.

So naturally there is generally more to offer single ladies on mixed nights. Clearly horses for courses and can speak for every single or couple. I know some single ladies feel safer and less harassed on a couples night.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"...I was full on groped by a woman in a jacuzzi on a couples night, I told her to remove her hand and she said 'well what are you here for then?'. As if my entire night consisted of waiting for her to give me her attention.

Do women/couples run the same risk of expulsion/banning as men do for inappropriate behaviour?

Yes.

Yes totally women have to follow the rules the same as everybody else x"

Hmmm, I can recall a woman (female half of a couple) taking liberties that would get single men into trouble, but the club management simply pooh-poohed any complaints made.

Oh well, at least that club management is no longer in charge of a club, and hopefully today's club managers do apply standards equally.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I’ve only been twice to a club so not overly experienced but I found the exact opposite.

I found that if I spoke to anyone, even briefly or if eye contact was made, they’d think I wanted to fuck them. I was a little bit hounded when I went. It wasn’t pleasant.

I think the only time I’d visit a club now would be as part of a group of other single girls. "

That's a real pity. In the clubs we attend single girls seem to be treated with great respect and looked after by couples and customers. Hope you find your group of single girls (or perhaps a friendly couple?) and find some fun.

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By *iraelWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I started going to Chams on my own after I’d been there enough as part of a couple to know I’d be ok on my own.

I don’t go on couples/single women nights because I’m not interested in playing with women, I’m there for the single guys or men from a couple who will play alone or be happy with me teaming up with a single male.

I’ve only actually had one bad experience with a woman from a couple after I’d complimented her shoes and she then took it as a challenge to try and get me to play with her.

I’ve never felt uncomfortable on my own there, I know I can always find someone to talk to. I think it would be very different at other places, the other clubs we’ve been to aren’t ones I’d then go to on my own.

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