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By *est_Mids_Nice_Guy OP   Man
over a year ago

willenhall

Right boys and girls I need some advice.

I recently joined a club near me with my partner in crime. It was her idea to do so and unfortunately the day we joined we couldn’t actually use the facilities due to prior commitment.

Now both of us have partners who don’t know what we are up to and now she is worried that if we go to the club we may bump into someone we know and she is scared they will then tell.

Any advice/experience who be helpful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wig and a stick on moustache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right boys and girls I need some advice.

I recently joined a club near me with my partner in crime. It was her idea to do so and unfortunately the day we joined we couldn’t actually use the facilities due to prior commitment.

Now both of us have partners who don’t know what we are up to and now she is worried that if we go to the club we may bump into someone we know and she is scared they will then tell.

Any advice/experience who be helpful"
not much advice you can give if you bump into somebody you know in a club and you're also with somebody who isn't your partner then it's all pretty obvious what you're up to and what you've been up to lol wear a mask

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My advice... Don't cheat on your partners.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

if you both have partners who are not aware if what your doing then going to a local club is asking for trouble if someone sees you and is aware of the fact you both have a partner

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i was just going to say that too absinthe boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering what you are expecting people to advise

Exactly?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's very disrespectful to your loved one to be playing away.. But imagine if someone who knew you and your partner (your real partner) saw you. They would be in an incredibly awkward situation. Would you ask them to lie? Don't think for a second that this friend of yours thinks the shame of them being on the site is the same as the shame you should feel for cheating on your partner. Yours is way worse.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

You say she is worried, does that mean you're not? Don't go to the club, you won't enjoy it anyway if you're feeling paranoid and looking over your shoulder.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Cheating on partners is one thing, but doing it in public is shitty in my opinion. That’s just rubbing it in their faces if someone sees you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be the fear of being caught that’s motivated your play partner to suggest joining a club. She might be subconsciously in turmoil about what she is doing to her other half.

Then again she might be a kinky sod and get off on the danger.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

op did you really expect everyone to agree with what your both doing

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Swingers are about consensual sex.

We know the risks and choose to take them.

Putting your home partners at risk of an std without their knowledge and consent of the risk is pretty crap.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says "have my own place and can accommodate". Why not use that instead of the club ?

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

Just spend your whole time in the dark room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just spend your whole time in the dark room."
Does anyone ever hurt themselves in there, the one at abfabs you couldnt see a damn thing

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London


"My advice... Don't cheat on your partners. "

Just what I was going to say

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By *c1989Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

Dont go to a local one?

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By *ohn julie 500Couple
over a year ago

leeds

would be interesting if you both bumped into your real partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much to add - as a single guy I attend clubs and thus far have never met someone from the vanilla world-

However I’m absolutely sure it WILL happen but beyond a bit of awkwardness nothing will come of it.

Your situation can blow up in your face.

Not judging but you’re absolutely playing with fire.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

If you’re going to go to a club, you take the risk that someone you know will be there. We all do. The fact that it’s a particularly sensitive risk for both of you needs to be factored into your decision making process.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

If you think we`re going to say "go to a club further away" I can tell you that isn`t the answer either. I once saw someone from near me in a club 150 miles away!

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire


"Swingers are about consensual sex.

We know the risks and choose to take them.

Putting your home partners at risk of an std without their knowledge and consent of the risk is pretty crap.

"

Totally agree....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right boys and girls I need some advice.

I recently joined a club near me with my partner in crime. It was her idea to do so and unfortunately the day we joined we couldn’t actually use the facilities due to prior commitment.

Now both of us have partners who don’t know what we are up to and now she is worried that if we go to the club we may bump into someone we know and she is scared they will then tell.

Any advice/experience who be helpful"

It's the risk you take by going behind your partner's backs.

I'd suggest going to a club further away but again no guarantees that you don't bump into someone there, we do travel a fair bit to clubs.

I would state a few things about swingers and cheating but I don't want to get a ban from the forum's.

Let's just say 100% honesty policy is preferred amongst the swinging couples, myself included. I'd be mortified to find trim going behind my back but I'd gladly let him play if I know about it and it's in a club.

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By *est_Mids_Nice_Guy OP   Man
over a year ago

willenhall

Well I believe I asked for advice on a situation, not to be judged without understanding.

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