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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Quite a new couple here. We have been to a few clubs and always find fun of some sort but it’s quite spur of the moment like go into couples room and girl touches girl then things happen. We go out side as Mrs has a vape and we always find that quite easy to mingle but in the bar area what is the etiquette? Is it find a couple of interest and ask if it’s ok to sit there? Any advise on how you’ve been approached or approach people of interest. Thanks in advance.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Quite a new couple here. We have been to a few clubs and always find fun of some sort but it’s quite spur of the moment like go into couples room and girl touches girl then things happen. We go out side as Mrs has a vape and we always find that quite easy to mingle but in the bar area what is the etiquette? Is it find a couple of interest and ask if it’s ok to sit there? Any advise on how you’ve been approached or approach people of interest. Thanks in advance. "

Hi guys..

The first thing to remember, is that swingers are people too, we are just the same as any other people you may meet (only sexier).

There is no official etiquette involved in chatting to people, just say hi to people, ask if you can join them for a while, complement them on their clothes/hair/tattoo/nipples/shoes etc.. and just chat and be friendly. The worst thing that can happen is that the don't want to chat with you and you move on.

Don't chat with people with any expectations, just have a laugh and the rest will come on its own.

Cal

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You can generally see if a couple may be interested if you're getting a few extended glances. Return eye contact with a smile, if you get a smile back it's looking good. Time to break the ice with a compliment.

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante


"You can generally see if a couple may be interested if you're getting a few extended glances. Return eye contact with a smile, if you get a smile back it's looking good. Time to break the ice with a compliment."

Exactly this. An added slight problem for us here in Spain, do they speak English!!

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Look happy and smile...people generally dont like being approached by grumpy looking people

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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy far far away


"Quite a new couple here. We have been to a few clubs and always find fun of some sort but it’s quite spur of the moment like go into couples room and girl touches girl then things happen. We go out side as Mrs has a vape and we always find that quite easy to mingle but in the bar area what is the etiquette? Is it find a couple of interest and ask if it’s ok to sit there? Any advise on how you’ve been approached or approach people of interest. Thanks in advance.

Hi guys..

The first thing to remember, is that swingers are people too, we are just the same as any other people you may meet (only sexier).

There is no official etiquette involved in chatting to people, just say hi to people, ask if you can join them for a while, complement them on their clothes/hair/tattoo/nipples/shoes etc.. and just chat and be friendly. The worst thing that can happen is that the don't want to chat with you and you move on.

Don't chat with people with any expectations, just have a laugh and the rest will come on its own.

Cal"

This is great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look happy and smile...people generally dont like being approached by grumpy looking people "

So few smiles in swinger clubs!! People look so serious..

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By *orkscouple2003Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury


"Quite a new couple here. We have been to a few clubs and always find fun of some sort but it’s quite spur of the moment like go into couples room and girl touches girl then things happen. We go out side as Mrs has a vape and we always find that quite easy to mingle but in the bar area what is the etiquette? Is it find a couple of interest and ask if it’s ok to sit there? Any advise on how you’ve been approached or approach people of interest. Thanks in advance. "

This is exactly us! We’d both love to have more confidence as it’s holding us back a lot if the time

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple
over a year ago

coventry

We are look ours tattoos breaks the ice. But we normally just say hi you soon know if there interested. Then the banter and flirting starts and it easy from there xx

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

How would you start charting to people in any bar / party / holiday etc? It’s exactly the same! Just start a normal conversation & go from there. If the chat flows & you get on, it’ll progress from there

Good luck! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some folks it’s the easiest thing in the world to start a conversation... but for others as we all know it’s not... But for sure the ones who find it so easy to start a conversation will find you eventually, just be ready for them... lol but learn to enjoy the social side, we just as much enjoy the social side as we do the sexual side... xx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Also if you get chatting and things are going well don't be afraid to make the first move. We are fairly new and in our experience most couples are just a nervous as you. There has been a few time when you are intrested in an other couple and the conversation and vibe suggests they are intrested in you but no one makes the first and things fizzle out. Maybe suggest something like lets take things to the hot hut or a private room or another room. Or say something like we're of to the hot tub or another room, your welcome to come join us. Then if they are intrested they'll come with you or pop alone in a min.

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