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Hearing mixed reviews on VA?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So we're away in June during our usual event time at another club so were looking at visit VA earlier that month instead. I'm hearing allot of mixed reviews. Some are saying it very cliquey and not that friendly to newcomers and some are saying it's great. I know allot of people will say just go and find out for yourself. When you factor in the fact you get one club night a month due to children and the distance it takes to get there plus the hotel needed for overnight stay you tend to want to know what you're going into if that makes sense. What are others here views on VA please?

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

Surely you are only likely to get mixed reviews which kind of defeats the object !!!

Btw its a good club in my experience as a single or a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely you are only likely to get mixed reviews which kind of defeats the object !!!

Btw its a good club in my experience as a single or a couple."

Not really defeating the object if the negatives in the mixed reviews are things that would be deal breakers for clubs for myself.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I haven't been for a while but used to go a lot a couple of years ago and never found it cliquey at all (despite the cliquey accusations being made even then).

Putting that aside of the various clubs I have been to it's probably my favourite, it's clean, classy, usually has a good vibe - the hot tub is to die for. I always found the staff to be very welcoming and friendly too.

The only drawback for some is the lack of private rooms, and the play areas being all open plan, but they do have hotel rooms upstairs which can be booked if you're staying, and can be used to take guests back to for privacy.

As with any club it can sometimes depend on who is there on any given night and you will never know that till you walk through the door but I personally would recommend it and say it is worth a visit

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By *attyBWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable/Luton

You also need to remember that this is one of the few clubs that has its own licenced bar so you will need to pay for all drinks, which if you drink a fair amount during the evening can become pricey.

Its is a fabulously classy club, with classy clientéle and is great for exhibitionists as the play areas are open plan. As said before the hot tub is great too!

They also have a female glory hole!

I have been there on my own as well as part of a couple and have not found it to be any more cliquey than any other club if you don't know anyone before going.

I am sure if you do go then you will have a great time!!

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By *REEDOMatVACouple
over a year ago

Suffolk/ Essex

Hi, Jess here- not speaking from a host perspective but as a visitor to many clubs.

When I walk in somewhere, I usually have a little scope out of what it's like, whos chatting etc, if I see someone or a couple etc that I'd like to talk to I go and say hello. In my almost 2 years going to the VA I have never experienced anything other than a warm welcome, friendly staff and lovely guests.

If you see a group of people chatting, just remember that they probably didn't all arrive together. That group generally started out as 1 or 2 people who were approached by some others and thats how it starts. Most people there are looking to or open to meeting new people.

When are you looking to go? I'm there a lot now, and if it's a night I'm there too I'd love to have a drink with you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second what everyone says above, nothing had anything but a fantastic friendly welcome at the VA.

I love it so much that I make the trip from the Highlands to visit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every club has a clique on a normal night, it’s a fact, it’s just like the local pub, it has its regulars and they tend to stay together and chat, those that claim there isn’t a clique at a club are generally part of it without realising!!!

How or if you want to ingratiate yourself with the clique comes down to making a effort and approaching people to chat, some nights the hosts will introduce you to other people and this helps it really depends what night you go.

As for VA, again it will depend on what night you attend.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Every club has a clique on a normal night, it’s a fact, it’s just like the local pub, it has its regulars and they tend to stay together and chat, those that claim there isn’t a clique at a club are generally part of it without realising!!!

How or if you want to ingratiate yourself with the clique comes down to making a effort and approaching people to chat, some nights the hosts will introduce you to other people and this helps it really depends what night you go.

As for VA, again it will depend on what night you attend."

This is so true. There are bound to be small groups of people that know each other. It goes with swinging territory. If you don’t make an effort to mix you will feel isolated. I’ve seen it with my own eyes many times.

As for VA. It’s the best club I’ve ever visited and I’ve been to a lot lol.

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By *enegadeMaster69Man
over a year ago

birmingham

hey come to xtasia instread its the place to be no clicks and lots of fun good music good people u will have a great nite fridays r good i will be there to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every club has a clique on a normal night, it’s a fact, it’s just like the local pub, it has its regulars and they tend to stay together and chat, those that claim there isn’t a clique at a club are generally part of it without realising!!!

How or if you want to ingratiate yourself with the clique comes down to making a effort and approaching people to chat, some nights the hosts will introduce you to other people and this helps it really depends what night you go.

As for VA, again it will depend on what night you attend."

This. All clubs have cliques and VA is no better or worse than any other club that I habe visited in that respect.

But no club is one massive clique and like any other club people tend to reciprocate friendliness with friendliness

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We always enjoy our daytime events at VA

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By *i winkersCouple
over a year ago

manchester

So I am going to talk from my own personal experience friday nights we have always had alot of fun there mostly bi nights yes but everyone super friendly.

Saturday was a different matter people seemed to avoid myself (hayley). Its the only time it has ever happened and we never returned on a saturday so could have been a one off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your input. I'm aware how the club scene works and niether of us are wallflowers lol. For every positive response this thread has given I've received two negative private messages about it. I'm sure it's a great club for allot as different strokes for different folkes and all that. If we're in the area then perhaps it's a club we can look into but I don't think it's one we're going to go out of our way for with a half day of driving each way. Again thank you everyone and no offense meant x

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By *rs Deviants Chic EventsWoman
over a year ago

london


"Thank you everyone for your input. I'm aware how the club scene works and niether of us are wallflowers lol. For every positive response this thread has given I've received two negative private messages about it. I'm sure it's a great club for allot as different strokes for different folkes and all that. If we're in the area then perhaps it's a club we can look into but I don't think it's one we're going to go out of our way for with a half day of driving each way. Again thank you everyone and no offense meant x "

Perhaps you don’t have the right mind set for clubs! Every one should judge their own opinions!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone for your input. I'm aware how the club scene works and niether of us are wallflowers lol. For every positive response this thread has given I've received two negative private messages about it. I'm sure it's a great club for allot as different strokes for different folkes and all that. If we're in the area then perhaps it's a club we can look into but I don't think it's one we're going to go out of our way for with a half day of driving each way. Again thank you everyone and no offense meant x

Perhaps you don’t have the right mind set for clubs! Every one should judge their own opinions! "

Well that felt a little shouty and rude. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion on anything they want and if they feel that something isn't for them. Say a club for example. Then it isn't a case of having the right mindset it's a case of knowing what you like. I was not looking to tarnish a club based on my own likes or dislikes so I sourced information around what I had heard about certain aspects and came to my own decision after what I had heard from others.

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By *ambsLad2Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I've been to a VA Bi Night and it was one of the best nights of my life. Everyone was happy to let me join in the fun. I can't wait to get the chance to go to another event.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Clubs are marmite and differ one week to the next due to different people in. You can't go once and base on that, unless you just love or hate the club itself.

We rotate a few favourite clubs picking from party events etc but a couple we just enjoy the club end of and go to chill and not plan. It's the lifestyle in general for us, catching up with club staff, friends and meeting new people.

We went CHIC VA last July, found club really nice but no private rooms, we like the choice. Not gone back also due to the travel as we've good choice all within 2hrs drive.

Best to try clubs and see what suits, some are dress down which we prefer yet others don't like this. Enjoy guys.

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By *oolandsexyCouple
over a year ago

kings lynn


"Thank you everyone for your input. I'm aware how the club scene works and niether of us are wallflowers lol. For every positive response this thread has given I've received two negative private messages about it. I'm sure it's a great club for allot as different strokes for different folkes and all that. If we're in the area then perhaps it's a club we can look into but I don't think it's one we're going to go out of our way for with a half day of driving each way. Again thank you everyone and no offense meant x

Perhaps you don’t have the right mind set for clubs! Every one should judge their own opinions!

Well that felt a little shouty and rude. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion on anything they want and if they feel that something isn't for them. Say a club for example. Then it isn't a case of having the right mindset it's a case of knowing what you like. I was not looking to tarnish a club based on my own likes or dislikes so I sourced information around what I had heard about certain aspects and came to my own decision after what I had heard from others. "

We are frequent visitors to VA, and it ticks lots of our boxes and yes fairly close to us. Each club is designed and run by their owners in their image of what a swinging club is, luckily we swingers appreciate the variety of life so that’s a good thing! Lol we have noticed that at the clubs we visit, including the VA, people are often arranging to meet several couples there to improve the success rate of playmates matching their choices! Lol This can seem like cliques but it’s just human nature due to all th3 associated costs of time travel and entry fees etc etc ! A small hint we would share is ask the hosts of all clubs to introduce you to some regulars, at the VA the staff often ask regulars to show new visitors around, a great way to break the ice! They may not be to your choice but they know ppl who know ppl lol

All in all have fun where ever you journey......if you do pop in ask for us we will chat to anyone as a stranger is only a friend you haven’t met yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with asking for advice and input about clubs, particularly certain ones, is that people who appear to be massively involved with the clubs get very territorial and almost aggressive in defence of their favourite club. Any criticism seems to be taken very personally as though by criticising aspects of a club, you are directly criticising them and their choices. It all descends into quite personal shoutiness...I don't quite understand how people get so exercised about it all...

What isn't surprising is that the people who have criticisms of VA are using private messages to communicate their thoughts rather than posting it publicly...

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

Of coarse the only reason people give you negative reviews in private is because they will still be attending.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've heard great things about the bi night. And I know a couple of people who attend. Honestly this wasn't put out to tarnish a club or judge people's choices. I was just looking for opinions the same as everybody else does in these forums. There are a few things that have been said that just make me feel it's not a good fit for us is all. I didn't want to feed people what I thought I'd dislike which I'd heard so I went with what has been commonly said about allot of clubs Including VA which is cliquey.

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